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I just found out I am 8 weeks pregnant with my (ex?) boyfriends baby. We both wanted to save ourselves for marriage and then we took it too far. That is why we decided to take a break. I am going to be a senior in high school and he is going to be a freshman in college. He doesn't really talk to me anymore, but his mom and I are still really close. How should I go about telling him I am expecting his child? (link)
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First of all, seek legal consultation. While you may want to do this simply without lawyers, the fact is you have already said that your ex is not very responsible. It sounds like you want to give your ex a bit of slack in this situation, but you are now a mother. You have to think of your child's best interests first. That means you have to have a legally binding contract which states that you get custody and that your ex owes you child support. Without this, your child will not have the financial support it deserves. Moreover, your ex could take you to court for custody later, which would be extremely complicated. Better to get the legalities out of the way first. Seek legal consultation before speaking to your ex. I'm not saying you should take him to court before talking to him, though. Just go for a consultation before talking to him to make sure that you have all your ducks in a row.
In terms of how to tell your ex that you are expecting, the best thing to do would be to ask him to meet you for coffee or for dinner and break the news there. Tell him you have something important to tell him. Then just say it. It is what it is, he is responsible for his reaction, not you. Let him know you are keeping the baby. Tell him what you expect of him in this situation. Let him know that while you do not expect him to be a perfect father, you would like him to be in the child's life.lso, do not be shy to tell him what you need from him financially. He may not be a very responsible person at this stage of his life, but it is time for him to grow up now. Regardless of his maturity level, he is obligated to provide the child with child support. Then, tell him that you have saught legal consultation and tell him what your lawyer's recommended course of action is. Be open and friendly so that he knows you did not seek out a lawyer for any negative reason, only to get the court's opinion on what would be a fair amount for child support, custody, etc. Try to work together.
If your ex freaks out or does not cooperate in a co-parenting plan, you need to take him to court. This is about your child's best interests, not his moood.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Okay so I'm 14 years old and I'm a female. Recently (as in the last couple of days recently) my two best friends said they don't want to be friends with me anymore. Reasons given by friend 1 is that I'm not as good a friend as friend 2 and I'm self-centred and I brush off problems (despite the numerous hours I've spent trying to help both of them with their problems). friend 2 gave similar reasons. I have two other really close friends in our friendship group and yesterday they said they don't want to be friends with me because I'm too clingy. So in the span of two days I've lost literally all my friends. I've been diagnosed with depression, and anxiety- I'm on medication and receiving therapy. I have tried committing suicide once before and constantly think about it. I'm not in school at the moment because the mental health team think I'm not stable enough to be in school. Today all my ex-friends have messaged me about how they're worried about me and some about how they care, etc.
I'm pretty bitter about the situation. They knew I was off school for feeling badly suicidal anyway so I don't see how they thought telling me I'm an awful person in such detail then abandoning me would help. Like they could've just waited until I came back to school and was in a better mental state.
The fact that they've messaged me again has made me feel worse if I'm being honest, and I don't know what to reply. I don't want to reply anything but they probably think I'm dead or something so I don't think it's fair to leave them in a constant state of worry, even if they've hurt me. I'm not okay, I'm feeling really badly suicidal and I'm might be going into hospital- it depends on what they think is best for me right now. So I'd be lying if I tell them I'm okay but at the same time they're not my friends and I don't want to list off about how shit I'm actually feeling. Any ideas on what to reply if anything at all? Thanks
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I think you should reply saying "Thank you for your concern. I need to take some time for myself right now." Leave it at that. Say nothing else. You don't want to trust these people too much given that they have abandoned you. Don't give them any details. They have already said, they are not your friends. They will probably write back asking you for more details. At that point, you can just ignore them because you will have already told them you need time for yourself.
Then, actually take time for yourself. Forget about your ex friends for now and do what makes you happy. As for moi, when I am feeling depressed I like to make a list of my blessings (such as my beauty and talent), take bubble baths, and listen to cheerful music while avoiding any composers whose names begin with the letter 'D' as they are all depressing.
Toodles!
Miss Piggy
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If you have ever read any of my old questions about someone calling me constantly last year! This is another question I don't remember if it's about the same person from the last or not. Anyways I have this friend who calls me all day every day to talk about the same damn thing . Every time she calls its to talk about her boyfriend or relate everything to her boyfriend so now I avoid her calls because I know what the outcome of the call will be. When she wasn't dating this boyfriend she was calling to talk about how she likes this guy who is now her boyfriend. Before that she used to call me about her ex-boyfriend (who was her boyfriend at the time, she broke up with him in March and started talking about a new boy that same month and started dating her current bf in June) then sometimes she would call to talk behind one of my friends backs and how she flirts with her current boyfriend. I am getting sick of it! I'm tired of talking on the phone with someone who only talks about only one freaking topic and every time I try to change it she relates it back to him. I like texting better cause you can ignore the text and reply when you feel like it but with her if you text her it's an invitation to call me, I'll be out with my family she will call, I'm out with friends she calls, I was at work and she called, I was at the doctors and she called, I went on a school trip in May and she called (my friends on the trip were like "does she usually call you this often?). I was at a job interview and luckily she didn't call during it but she called as I was leaving it, I'm writing this because she just called me 5 mins ago and I'm getting tired of it trust me she will call again in an hour, so basically how can I get her to stop calling me so much? My other friends say she calls them too but not as much as me (link)
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You have two options:The first option is that you can tell her not to call so much. This will work well if you are comfortable being direct with her. The second option is that you can set limits as to how much you will talk with her. Pick up every time she calls, but only let her talk for five minutes about her issues. At that point, switch to talking about yourself for five minutes and then tell her you have to go. If she tries to switch the conversation back to herself while you are talking about yourself, tell her that your own problems are really on your mind right now. If she still refuses to listen, hang up. Never let any one conversation with her last longer than fifteen minutes. As for moi, I would personally go with the setting limits option because it will change the tone of your friendship with her. She will eventually learn that you are willing to be her friend, but that you are too busy to listen to her go on and on all day.
You are too fabulous to be listening to someone else's problems all day. Remember, you are the star of the movie of your life!
Miss Piggy
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A lot of things have happened over the past year. I've had a lot of up's and down's. My ex boyfriend of three years cheated on me, hence ex-boyfriend. Its funny how things happen. I never thought that I would get cheated on. I guess I fell off my high horse. It hurts to know that the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with would betray you in such a manner. In results to the infidelity, I decided to move on. I gave it my all! I did everything in my power to save my relationship but I couldn't do it alone. I've always had insecurity problems and this situation made me feel worse about myself. I released my anger in the wrong way. In order to move on, I decided to get with another person. I've always found this person attractive. I felt honored to have his attention. I felt like it wasn't the time for me to move on but I needed to, for myself, in order to distract myself from the pain I was feeling inside. I felt like there was a better person out there that wanted me. It was another chance. I never really let go of my feelings for my ex. He was my first love. Now i've run into a dilemma. My ex has promised that he would change. Even though he has lied to me countless of times about other situations and etc; I feel like I can trust and believe his words. But I feel like I can never look at him the same. Every time that I see his face, all these negative thoughts arise. But he makes me feel loved. I see a real future with him because that's all I thought about in the past. Once you know what love is, its hard to let it go. Now that I'm single, I'm wishing to be in a relationship with him. I see so many couples happy and it reminds me of how it used to be. Yes we argued but what couple doesn't. With the current guy that i'm "talking" to, I find myself comparing what I used to have with my ex. And everything that he doesn't do, I question. I feel like, he's not doing what he's supposed to do. I know that everyone's different but it feels weird. I yearn for this love that I'm not receiving from him. It pushes me to want to go back to the past because I'm comfortable with that. I'm forcing myself to feel love and affection. I'm pushing the current guy to give me more than he's willing too. He tells me to be patient and i'm very understanding about his feelings but it puts me in a tough spot. I'm left with a man who is willing to fix everything he ever had with me and love me more than ever. Which comes with a risk of getting cheated on again, reoccurring arguments about the past and possibly having more trust issues. OR being with a guy who doesn't want a relationship at the moment, who wants everything to be his way, calls upon me when he feel its convenient for him and etc. I want to try something new but I don't want to let go of the past. I'm scared to move on because I don't know what the future will entail with this person. I'm scared of going to the past a losing a possible future with the person i'm talking to now. The guy said "be patient" but will this patience be worth the wait or will I be making a big mistake? What should I do? I am lost? I am sad? I am scared!
Who do I pick? What do I do? (link)
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You are in a situation where none of the options are all that good, just mediocre. Waiting for the new guy and being "patient" is not the answer. Even though there is likely something you are gaining from his company, he sounds selfish. That being said, getting back with your ex is also not the answer. Even though that relationship sounds like the one that was most special to you, it sounds like your ex has some problems that (let's be honest) will end up screwing you over in the end. I understand why you are sad and scared. It's good that you are in touch with those feelings. Listen to them! Pick neither! If you want to experiment a little with each relationship, go ahead. But, I think you know in your heart that neither guy is quite right for you.
Even though neither guy is quite right for you, you can experiement with dating one or the other. Just be aware that every moment you spend with these two is a moment that could be spent finding someone better. So, being with one of these guys is kind of like choosing to focus on short term happiness instead of focusing on finding the one.
Also, if you do choose to focus on short term happiness instead of on finding the one and date one of these guys, try to be as selfish about it as possible. Ask for what you want, get them to pay, break their arms and legs if they hurt you. Make it about what YOU want, because neither of these relationships seem to have true, long-term potential.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Someone told me I might get a small settlement from workers comp because of my on the job injury. I've lost 2 weeks of pay My boss said a claim automatically is opened. Will I get a settlement even if I did not ask for one? (link)
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I do not know. But, what I do know is that overkill is generally a good thing! Ask away! Most importantly, dress professionally when you ask. Clothing is almost entirely responsible for success in any venture.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Especially teenagers. People claim that teenagers have fast metabolisms, but I was pushing obesity for all of my teen years, despite eating healthier than everyone on my high school varsity sports team. I'd have junk occasionally, but my peers would have junk all the time and still be skinny like reeds. It made me have terrible self confidence as a teen, my goodness.
I'm now in my early 20s and now weigh less than I did for most of middle school, through adopting a vegan diet. The crazy thing is that I now rarely exercise, too, so the whole conventional idea to exercise off weight tricked me all along. I want to pick up exercising now for my health, not as a way to get skinnier, as I was able to lose 40 pounds through veganism and literally just walking on a treadmill once or twice times a week.
I just don't get why people assume everyone has fast metabolisms as teens and if that's the real reason why those girls (not just white. also indian (the skinniest indian girl i knew ate the most junk food. i sat with her at lunch), african-american, latina, etc.) are so skinny as teens.
Answers, anyone? I've tried googling this and can't find a clear answer. What makes someone even have a faster metabolism than another? "Genes" isn't enough of an answer. I want a deeper answer.
To bring up a famous example look at Kendall Jenner. She's much skinnier than Kylie, who is also tall, despite both of them likely eating similar foods. Even before becoming a model Kendall was reed thin. I went through her insta today and her earliest posts show the most unhealthy food next to shots of her flat stomach.
For me to have a normal BMI I literally don't eat any oil, added sugar, or salt. I cook most of my meals, buy mostly organic, and generally eat high carb and low fat. so to see some other skinny person eat cheetos and pizza like it's no big deal rubs me the wrong way, because that would blow my body up. if i eat pizza at a restaurant (unless its raw vegan) i'll just bloat up from the salt feel gassy from the fat content. i know my health will be better, from more fruits an veggies, but still.. (link)
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Not all pigs are lucky enough to have a soft underbelly. This is likely because of a few things. First, your skinny friends probably eat unhealthy in public, but they probably eat either extremely healthy when they are alone or next to nothing when they are alone. You are probably either a more consistent eater, or a person who eats more when you are alone. So that's the first point: your friends probably don't eat that slop all of the time. Second,weight gain and weight loss have less to do with how healthy a person eats and a lot more to do with when a person eats. Carbohydrates should not be eaten past noon. Lean protein should be consumed every three hours. Also, junk food should be consumed alongside a lean protein. Do this and I guarentee you will drop a mininum of 15 lbs over the course of two months. Third, you are right. Exercise acccounts for only 20% of weight loss. Exercise to keep your heart healthy and your muscles strong, not to lose weight. Also, make sure you enjoy the exercise you do! For example, my favourite exercise is lifting mugs of hot chocolate! Also, never forget the small things. Take the stairs, look for spare change in your purse, etc. Finally, stop worrying about having a flat stomach. Pigs are meant to have soft underbellies.
Remember, style comes in all shapes and sizes. Therefore, the bigger you are, the more style you have!
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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My mom just completely freaked out, yelled at me, and cancelled a trip because I drew on myself. To me, it seemed like she had overreacted, because she talked about how stupid it was and compared me to a baby. I'm 16 and female. I just don't know is this behavior is normal. I feel like it isn't, but she is always insisting that this is how it's supposed to be. I just don't know what to think. (link)
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This is emotional abuse.
Your mother obviously did not want to go on the trip in the first place and she is using you as an excuse.
Karate chop that sow!
Miss Piggy
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Thank you for the advice. Thing is, Mom's kinda abusive to me psychologically. I was more worried about how to say it than when. Should I just show up with a gay guy and introduce him as my boyfriend and let her figure it out? I get so tongue tied when I try to talk to her about anything... (link)
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It's important for you to understand that there are no "shoulds" in this situation. Your mother does not have to know who you are dating. To be honest, it is not her business.
That being said, if you would like to come out of the closet to her, you certainly can. As for moi, I have to warn you though, parents can freak out when their expectations are not met. Take my situation for example. When I told my mother that I was marrying a frog, she burst into tears and said "I had always hoped you would end up with a nice young boar." This strained our relationship for years. But, the good news is that she eventually came around because she loves me. It just took her a really long time because she is a stubborn sow.
You know your mother best. You know whether or not it will be safe to tell her and whether or not the risk will be worth it.
As for how to tell her, I think the main thing is to remember that her opinion is not that important. You can't live your life for other people. Telling her casually as described could work well because even if she does freak out, the reaction may be milder. Another option though, is to just tell her you are gay privately.
This isn't easy. Just pick the situation that works for you.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Where I live, it's a very diverse middle school. I'm in seventh grade, some kids started dating. There's a lot of kids from all races (white, black, hispanic, arab, asian,jewish, etc) so it's common. A jewish boy dating a white girl, a black girl dating a white guy, a white girl dating a black guy, asian dating a hispanic, hispanic girl dating a white guy, etc. No one cares! And a lot of people are mixed. Black with white, black with indian, asian with white. It's so stupid though people in other places are like "eeeewwww n-word lovers!1!1!1" why? (link)
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Some are simply prejudiced! I understand what you feel. I have been mocked regularly for being in a mixed relationship. Some people can't handle seeing a pig and a frog together. But you know what? Their opinion doesn't matter. I wouldn't trade Kermit for the world!
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Things have been bland for me lately. At my current age and location I'm unable to work, get a license, or attempt to get my GED. For the next six months I'll be sitting all day every day in my home as I've done for the last five years. Even when I'm of legal age, I'll have no means of getting a ride to a job, and my parents say they don't want me working. This means no saving up for anything; even college.
Besides that, there's also the problem of not having anything to do during the day. Every day it's eat, sleep, study or play games. I feel so sheltered and frustrated sometimes, but what can I do? I don't have friends to see, and going places takes money that we don't have. Times like this make me wish I was in public school, just to have somewhere to go, but then I remember I have no confidence.
What else is left to do when all I can do is lose count of the weeks I haven't been outside? (link)
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Your parents sound like they are being very unfair to you. They are raising you to depend on them instead of raising you to be an independent frog. They are putting their need to control you above your need to be independent. That is wrong on so many levels. You cannot allow them to treat you this way.
The good news is, there is a lot you can do.
To start with, you can get a job when you are of legal age and you can bus to that job. Alternatively, you can get a job near where you live so that you can walk. Do not let your parents get in your way of becoming a productive member of society.
Second, GO OUTSIDE. Mingle. Meet people. Join a club or extracurricular activity. Check the internet for ideas near where you live.
Third, if the above two steps fail/if you feel unsafe, call child protective services. Your parents are being abusive if they literally won't let you outside.
Fourth, if the above three steps do not work, try eating chocolate while swimming in a warm bubble bath! That always helps Moi!
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Hi guys, I've been with my boyfriend for a little more than three months now. He's very great to me and I love being with him. I know love is different to everyone but this is my first real relationship and I've constantly been thinking about what love is, how it feels, when it's time to say it, etc. I know for a fact that I've never been in love before and I don't think I'm in love now. I was just curious to ask everyone how and when they knew that they were in love with their significant other. Did it kind of just hit you? Was it a gradual progression? Was it love at first sight? Is there even love at first sight? When is too soon to say I love you? I'm not looking for you to tell me how it should be for me, I want experience and how it was for you personally.
Like I said, he's a very great guy. I spent the entire day with him the other day because my family went away and I hate being alone so he made us my favorite dinner, even though I know he doesn't love it very much, he made it and ate it because he knows I love it. He knows I get anxious driving long distances and even though he hates long drives, he always drives us both when we go away with friends and sometimes I just look at him when he's driving us around and he'll look over and we'll just smile at each other. Or even when we're just watching our show on Netflix, I'll notice him not watching the show and he'll just be looking at me and then he'll always smirk when I ask what as he looks away and says "oh, nothing". Last week I turned 21 and I drank way, way, way more than I anticipated-he drove me back to his place and let me stay at his house that night and he even called off work the next day to be with me as I suffered through my hangover. He's not a virgin but I am so he isn't pushing it at all. He said he's leaving it all up to me, he's ready when I'm ready. Now, I know what you're thinking, he seems clingy. But it really isn't that way. I only name the times that we're together but really we can only hang out for a couple hours a night after I finish class and he finishes work at 11pm (four days in a row of 12 hour shifts, just for reference on how busy he usually is). Other times, when he's off from work, we each do our own thing. We have a good system and it works pretty well for us.
From my copious amounts of mentioning how great he is, it's pretty evident that I do really like him a lot and I guess it shows that he returns the feelings. I'm really just pretty curious how I'll know when the flip switches and it's so much more?
Thanks for any input! (link)
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It is all three. It is love at first sight, a gradual progression and it hits you like lightning. Let me explain. I have fallen in love twice, and both times I experienced these three phases. The first frog I fell in love with wasn't Kermit. It was a frog named George. George my best friend. The love at first sight part happened at the beginning of our friendship. But, I didn't think of it as love at first sight, even though looking back, it was. I just thought "Wow, this guy is special, I want him in my life". Then I made that happen. I spent time with him and we became best friends. That was the gradual progression part. Then came the lightning. And let me tell you, the lightning part is actually painful. It is the part where you realize that you are no longer in control of your life. The other person owns a part of your heart. And if that other person isn't perfect, the feeling is scary and can move you to tears. With George, I realized my feelings for him went beyond friendship one day when he lied to me. He told me he would take me to a movie, but it turned out I was busy that day and he took a different pig behind my back. I cried and cried when I found out. I then wondered, why am I crying over a movie? Then it hit me, like lightning. We were not just friends. I was in love. The second time I fell in love, it was with Kermit,who became my life partner and husband. I met him at a watering hole where I stepped on his foot. I looked up and saw a charming frog. I thought "I have to get to know him better" (love at first sight). We then dated for a year (gradual progression). Then came the painful lightning. A year into our relationship, Kermit had a horrible habit of cancelling our dates last minute if he had something else he wanted to do, like hang with the frogs. I became very angry at him for doing this one day it was the first time I yelled at him at the top of my lungs. This anger made me realize that I was feeling very attached. I burst into tears, realizing that I was in love with him, and that there was nothing I could do about it. I then began swearing at him, calling him every name in the book because I was scared of the intensity of my own feelings.
It sounds like you have had the love at first sight part (wow, he's special) and that you are in the middle of the gradual progression. The lightning will come. There will be a moment when you realize that you don't just like to be with him, you need to be with him and your life will never be the same again. I recommend you don't say you love him until this moment happens, until you can literally feel that your hearts are connected. If you say it without feeling it to the core of your being, it is meaningless.
Love is a human feeling (as well as a pig and frog feeling), which means it isn't a happy feeling. It is a painful, exciting, terrifying, powerful and angry feeling that leaves you weak and yet oddly comfortable at the same time.
It changes who you are and your life is never the same again.
Believe moi. Moi has a charm that is lethal to men,
Miss Piggy
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I'm currently in my first semester of sophomore year in college and I feel like I'm not doing anything important or that I like. I got into the Geology program at first but missed my artistic side so I changed to the English program but was left yearning for more. If it were by me I'd be studying in the US for something like Film, Directing, Animation, or Dance. I wish I could go into the acting business, but I don't have enough experience to get into any acting program or school, barely a few minor roles in school acts (if you can call them that). I sort of far-fetched dream of mine is to work for Disney either as an actress or animator, but I have no idea where to start. Plus I'm pretty sure I have some sort of mental condition (among depression or bipolar disorder, I would say) but every time I try to bring up the topic with my mother I feel awkward about saying it and actually feel bad about it - like I'm just putting another burden on her or that it will make her feel bad that I'd been lying all the times I talked to her on the phone about how great everything was going for me and how happy I felt here. I feel unmotivated and worthless sometimes, which drives me into this tiny shell and I refuse to come out. I feel extremely bad about this, but sometimes I even think about suicide. Its not something I'm proud of, but everyday just feels like a drag and I start wondering how I could do it - how I could take my life. Then instantly, regret and guilt come right at me because I know that life is precious, but sometimes... I don't know, I guess I feel like no one really cares nor needs me. My family doesn't need me for anything, most of the friends I have don't really help me when I need the help whilst I help them whenever I can, I've never had a boyfriend and sometimes I doubt my sex appeal to men, and I'm basically a nobody. I could probably die and no one would really care. So that makes me wonder... why even care about college? Why care about the future? Its not like there's anything waiting for me. (link)
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First and foremost, you need to think about your safety. How would you kill yourself? Remove any dangerous objects and get yourself away from any dangerous locations. Next, get the number of a crisis line in your area. These phone lines are a confidential way of asking for help. Use these phone lines when you are feeling suicidal. Also, think of safe people you can spend time with when you are feeling down. Do you have any friends or family you can call? Finally, remember you can always call 911 in cases of an emergency.
As far as no one needing you, that may or may not be true right now , but chances are there is somebody you will meet in the future. Give yourself the chance to find that person.
As far as college goes, take it one day at a time. Pick your courses based on what you are interested in. Take a smaller workload if you feel over worked, but work hard at the courses you have signed up for. Genuine interests will develop when you focus on learning. You don't have to decide anything right now.
Oh and of course, for a quick pick me up, I recommend chocolate, bubble baths and shopping.
Kissy kissy,
Miss Piggy
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I'm in a long distant relationship. I met a girl who is also in a long distant relationship. We were honest with each other about our relationship status. I thought she was ready for us to be friends with benefit until she won't let me have sex with her the day she slept in my place, sleeping on the sofa in the lounge and insisting I go sleep in the bedroom. I cut things off of her. She keeps texting asking why I cut off. I told her I find her attractive and want us to be friends with benefit. She says she doesnt want that. And that she doenst find me attractive. I keep cutting her off but she keeps texting me. Came around once, keeps feeling at home, eats my food, even once asked me to buy her groceries. I feel like she's just a gold digger. I cut off again but she keeps asking why I am avoiding her. Is she playing hard to get? Or is she really a gold digger hoping I will keep tolerating her with the hope that I will eventually get some? I am male, working class. She's a student. (link)
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I think she is a gold digger.
After all, diamonds are a sow's best friend.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Okay so like me and my high school ex boyfriend are seeing each other on once or twice on a monthly basis since april 2014 ntil now august 2015 but before that we broke up twice and then startd speaking last year..Wen we together everything is so perfect i could see that he changed from how he use to be when we dated coz now he would be more of a boyfriend type,cuddling,holding my hand,gets excited to see me etc to speaking to each other almost everyday whole day eventhough we are just friends,he kept on hinting bout wanting a baby or asking me when am i gettin married or telling me that im showing of his property cause im wearing tight tops and yes we do have sex he would always say things like i can get attached to him or i can use hm for sex and he will save me if i had to die bt he wil die instead and he cand he can show me the world and i use to tell hm about all the guys who liked me or had a thing with and then he would gve me advice or tell me i should wear alot of clothes so they cant see anythng and he would tell me bout the girls who likes him and who he kisses...but now all of a sudden this month (august) it feels as if things have change like me drifting coz we went from speaking to each other everday to hardly ever speaking or just sometimes,and when me do chat he dont reply to me,bt he gets and reads the msgs and then replies whenever,i saw him saterday 22aug and i could see by his actions that he missed me as much as i missed him..i then send hm a few msgs to say thank you for the nice night but he ddnt respond and he always use to afta i saw him,i then send hm another few msgs and then he told me "such a tripper you are" yesterday i send hm msgs bt he ddnt reply again and then this morning i send hm a msg and then he's response was "Why so lastag lately" and then i just said sorry for being being so lastag and bothering you nd he mst enjoy his day,dont thnk he will reply anytime soon...a few weeks before i saw hm he just went missing in action well he was online and stuf just neva spoke to me and when i askd hm whats wrong he said he just feels like being alone lately and then we started speaking again almost everyday and then i saw him saterday and when i did it was nice as always cause i told him i miss him and then he randomly asked what im doing his thinking bout going home but thought about the woman who misses hm if i feel like seeing him so i said yes and then he fetch me.told me i dont love him anymore cause i dont greet or give him a hug..neither of us has moved on yet i asked hm if hes gna tell me if he has a gf one day and jhen he said probably yes but he dont think he will feel anythng for anyone anymore and he sometimes bring up old memories of us or ask questions like how do i think we would turn out if we had to meet for the 1st time or whats my favourite part bout wen 2gther or having sex cause to him the first kiss is always the best he asked me what do i want in a guy and then i tld hm i want some1 who knws what they want and do smallthngs like go to tha beach or park and then he told me he knws what he want and kissed me and the following week we went to the park..he even asks me if i can go shopPing for hm cause he dont have time and stuf...im so scared of losing him eventhough we not yet official,i love him so much if he dnt hear from me for a while eventhou i keep on sending him msgs he would randomly send a msg and ask if im still alive...but this month i dont knw why the sudden change why he dont wana speak to me anymore or reply to my msgs i miss him and i miss speaking to hm like we use to..my friends told me to let him go,just back off and if he cares he will show up again..its so hard not speaking to him i really dont know what to do i really dont cause i dont want to lose hm..it been a year and four months that we spending time together and we jst friends but wen we 2gther its like we are meant to be and to think we broke up twice before that ..do you think that therz a possibility he got tired of me or that he moved on and dont want to tell me..he has never lied to me before and when he hangout with his friends he would tell me cause the friday he told me he was with family and saterday before i saw hm he said he was suppose to do somethng with hs dad but hs not goin his rather going to chill smoke weed and play facebook poker and then i saw him the night and we smoked 2gther...i really ddnt mean to b a nuicense and bother him bt nw he alreadi thinks that i am..what do i do,i cnt eat or sleep..i dont wana loose him oot again..just dnt understand why the sudden change this month..why is he acting so,what do you think? The nli girl hs been seeing is me did he move on mayb! Did he get bored of me? If he wantd space why didnt he tell me" why dont he wana reply to my msgs and only does it weneva? Should i back of for a while and wait till he shows up and then wen i see him i should talk to him about it cause when he dropped me at home he said see you next time so im hoping that thers gona b a next time..I realy ddnt meant to bother hm and be lastag just wntd to speak to hm..mayb its my own fault or may im just tripping..need advice on what to that..what do u think bout this situation
Please help me why might he be acting so this month (link)
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First let me say this: NEVER stop eating or sleeping over a frog. Eating is one of the most important activities a sow can partake in. And we all need our beauty rest.
Second, yes he is probably bored of you because you didn't challenge him! You slept with him without even being in a relationship. That is called being easy. It sounds like he is likely avoiding you because he has met someone else. You can't have sex with someone "unofficially" and expect it to last. This is a common mistake that many sows make. But, it's important to realize that if you have sex outside of a relationship, you are basically telling the frog that you don't need a relationship. Based on what I am reading, you do want a relationship. This means you have not been fully honest with this guy, because you have been giving him the impression that you are fine with sex outside of a relationship when in fact you want a relationship. Start being honest now. Tell him you want to date. See where it goes.
In all honesty, I doubt he will agree to date you after all this time, but you never know. It sounds like you have held him to such low standards for so long that he will probably not know how to step up to the plate and actually have a relationship. But, if you don't ask you'll never know. And more importantly, if and when he rejects you, you can finally move on with your life and get a real relationship. Oh and next time, remember that sex comes AFTER you are official.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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i had a dream about my long distance boyfriend who lives very far away. we were on this couch and he was laying upside down while i was holding my legs. he just came to america and all of a sudden he tells me he has to go somewhere. i get all damn angry and he leaves. then i go to this big store and there's a lot of people. i run into this guy i know that means a whole lot to me. we have this strong connection. and like i kept seeing him wherever i went in that store.
i feel like this dream is seriously trying to tell me something. do you have any idea? (link)
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I once heard someone say that good dreams are the universe/God's way of rewarding you for handling difficult life situations well. I believe that 100%
The details you gave tell me that you are finding your long distance relationship with your boyfriend hard in real life. It sounds like the universe is providing you with comfort in this difficult time with dreams of the other guy that you have a connection with.
Does this mean you should leave your current boyfriend? Absolutely not! The dream is a reward because you are handling a difficult situation WELL. In other words, keep doing long distance. You are doing well. And, I bet you if you keep it up, you will be rewarded with more romantic dreams about the other frog ;)
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I'm a guy, 41 (although most people think I'm in my late 20s) in a long distance relationship with a girl, 30, whom I've known for about 10 years, dated on and off, as she had broken up with me like twice previously due to the distance, and had apologized and I took her back in both instances. We got engaged early this year and planning to get married before the end of this year. She says she loves me but she has said in a number of occasions that she doesn't care if I'm having a fling with other girls because she has better things to worry about. I find this strange. Should I be worried that she might just more in love with the idea of marriage than she is in love with me? In my society (Africa, Nigeria) a lot of importance is placed on marriage, with lots of people (especially women) being very desperate about marriage. They get even more desperate when they approach 30 years old. Or could she just be bluffing? In my society, the girls do that a lot, play hard to get all the time, even when you're already dating them. In fact, my girlfriend sometimes plays hard to get for me each time we're about to have sex. She never initiates sex. I always do. And this is typical with the girls around here. (link)
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Not every woman is equally bothered by cheating, just like not every man is equally interested in cheating. That being said, she could be desperate, or bluffing. It's hard to say at this point. Maybe look her in the face and ask her these questions.
Regardless of her answer, I suggest you don't see other women. There is too much potential for problems and miscommunication here.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I will take anyones opinion im in a 5 year commited relationship with my boyfriend i love him but i dint feel like its the same as before i feel like if i balance the good and the bad the bad definitely outweighs the good thing about our relationship im 21 hes 28 i work he doesnt i maintain everything in our home all the bills are paid by me when i come i also have to do all the house chores or they wont get done im exhausted i cant gi anywhere with my friends without it being a problem so i just stay home and me and him do anything outside our home ever. And now on top of things im crushing on a girl i met at work a few months ago currently we are friends but when we just met there was alot of flirting going on in the beginning she let me know that she didnt want to let things grow with me because she knows i wont leave my boyfriend but now that she stopped seeing me and treating me as she did before now i miss her what should i do.. (link)
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I am a firm believer that people should leave relationships because they are unhappy, not because someone else entered the picture. As a result of this belief, I will ignore the part of your question about the girl who flirted with you. You are currently in a relationship and should not be thinking about other people.
As for your relationship, it sounds awful. He sounds like a lazy frog. Tell him you feel sad because all of the responsibilities up to you. Tell him what you need him to do to contribute. Give it a few months to see if he changes. If not, it's time to leave.
Believe moi, moi has a charm that is lethal to men.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I'm going to try and make this as short as possible without skipping important details. But, it is a looooong story.
My boyfriend 25 and me 23 have been together for almost 4 years now. When I met him, his daughter had just turned one. I've been there helping her grow up this whole time, I've worked my ass off constantly to help my boyfriend and his daughter, because I love them. Her mother has always been scornful and dramatic. (Which is something I don't think will change.) When we first started dating, she recently moved about 45 minutes away with her new boyfriend, in his house, had their daughter call him daddy etc. Fast forward to about 2 years ago, my mother was going through cancer treatment and we had the little one a lot. Mom started getting mad because she didn't know me well enough. (After 2 years) we have always managed to communicate the important things without fighting and being cordial. Well, somehow she had it in her head that I was trying to replace her. She took away his daughter and refused for us to see her unless I agreed to be her friend and go on some "girl dates" with her. I said no, and that I didn't want to get to know her. I was just at a hard spot and her being down my neck was making it hard. On this particular day she was angry, my mother had fainted and was in the ER. So things were pretty hard for me. I told her I didn't really want to get to know her, (which she still brings up whenever we fight) we were able to text and chat so I didn't think it was too bad. She said I acts uncordial and rude towards her all the time. My boyfriend talked to her though and she did let up. At this time she started dating my boyfriend's best friend. (Which was good for a while) over the next few months we would have the same fight which would end the same way. I agreed eventually to having a meeting and getting to know her. (She thought that in my mind she was an evil witch) our meeting went fine and she was happy. She got what she wanted. She drew me graphs showing our friends that intertwined and how I shouldn't let their perceptions of her effect how I see her. A few months later another melt down about not knowing me well enough. She NEEDS to be my buddy. But she also seemed to misread every text and message we exchanged, twisting them into some imaginary anger feueled hate that wasn't there.
She said I was demanding and rude. I had a friend message me screenshots and links from a page she was on. Bashing me, saying untrue things making me out to be some hateful woman trying to steal her child. There was even a big about why she is aloud to be crazy and that I need to tread lightly and not step on her toes.
At this time we had just moved into our new house and mom had been off in the virgin islands and then moved to the mountains to do ranger work. Which left us with the little one full time. When she returned she had the freak out and demanded that I no longer be involved in planning and be left out of communication.
My boyfriend set up a meeting with her and she had a melt down about how she feels intimidated and that she thinks we are getting back at her for when she moved with the new "daddy". She doesn't want me to replace her and thinks in stealing her daughter. I never wanted a child, and at this time I found out I was pregnant so emotions were high, I decided not to keep it, which was hard, and I'm still very depressed over it. She is now back together AGAIN with my boyfriend's best friend. She told us she wants to be able to come hang out with all of us and feels left out. They never came to a conclusion and the next day my boyfriend got a message she was running off with her daughter to the mountains for a week because I've made her life so hard since she has returned. And that she wants to completely cease contact with me until she clears her head. I message her and let her know i was hurt and felt cut out from my family. And that if she needed time that she could reach out when she feels ready. I then deleted and blocked her off Facebook because it was not helping the situation. She immediately called my boyfriend and blew up calling us immature.
We don't here from her for a while and since then she has made it a point to not talk to me relaying info to my boyfriend who then relays to me. Then the other day she shows up to get her daughter and acts all happy and cheery towards me and tries talking to me. (It was very fake and awkward)
She still hasn't spoken to me. But she has stressed to her man that she just wants to get along and be friends.
I want to talk to her but I'm not sure what to say because she takes everything wrong and overanalyzes everything. How do I tell her that I want to get a long but not be besties without hurting her how do I reason with this. Should I even try and reach out? I've tried many times in the past with mixed results. A I want is peace and the ability to be involved in my step daughter's nofe? I'm not sure how to approach or treat this situation. Please help and advice! (link)
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I think you need to take a step back from this situation. Maybe ignore her unless it is related to the child care. If she asks why you are ignoring her you could tell her that you need some space from her because the two of you tend to rub each other the wrong way. Tell her it isn't personal and that you like her just fine, but that you think it's the healthy thing to do. If she keeps saying she wants you to know her, say something like "I know you are a nice person, and yes, time together would be nice, but I'm very busy lately.."
As far as wanting involvement in your step daughter's life, the best thing to do is make sure your boyfriend understands his rights as a parent. Does he have a lawyer? If not, he should get one in case this woman decides to take her daughter away.
Bottom line: approach this in a relaxed manner. Do not give her a speech, just minimize your contact with her without making it too obvious.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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This is year is my junior year of high school, and my first prom ever. It is a tradition at my all girl school to not bring a date but to bring all your friends. One of my friends suggested to bring all of my friends plus one other girl. The only problem is, I am not allowed to hang out with this girl and I don't want to. She's a bad person and had caused a lot of trouble in our friend group.I really love my friend, but I don't understand why she wants to include her in this. I'm not trying to be mean, and my mom would flip if she knew she was included. I want to go with all my other friends, except that girl. What do I do? (link)
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Prom is a public event. It is not a party that you and your mom are hosting in your barnyard. This means you do not get to decide who attends and neither does your mom. I understand that you do not like this other girl. I suggest that you avoid her. But, you cannot tell your friends to avoid her. You can not tell other people who they should and should not talk to; if they want to spend time with her that is their right.
If you ask moi, it sounds like you are the one trying to cause trouble in your friend group, missy!
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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So I'm a very nice peron and I'm straight forward so this is how the story goes my Bff (Bri) and me were in a fight with A boy named Max and so we went to the keys and we're on vacation together and we were sitting in the Jacuzzi and I brought the subject up because this is what my grandmother had her and told me I told her straightforward "Brianna I have to tell you something "Brianna goes " what's wrong "? "I tell her that Max's dad had told us that her dad Tony wasn't right for her mom Tess and I thought everything was OK nothing was bad but then all of a sudden she's ignoring me for some reason nobody's talking to me NOBODY!! And then I'm put in the group chat with Bri and max and they think I was lying and I wasn't I don't like to liievand they told her parents and the parents are now extremely mad at me and I don't know what to do anymore and I made up with Bri and Max but Their parents hate me to death!' And I don't Know what to do because I'm not lying and neither is my grandma and I don't want us to fight anymore!! Please help me!! (link)
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It sounds like your friend thinks you said those things to hurt her feelings. You need to apologize for what you said. Tell her you weren't lying, but that this is none of your business anyway and you regret getting involved in her family issues.
As for their parents, they sound very immature. They shouldn't care what some kid's opinion of them is. Don't let their disapproval get to you.
Apologize to your friend for getting involved in her business and let the rest blow over.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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