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Homeschooled with no job or hobbies and feeling empty.
Things have been bland for me lately. At my current age and location I'm unable to work, get a license, or attempt to get my GED. For the next six months I'll be sitting all day every day in my home as I've done for the last five years. Even when I'm of legal age, I'll have no means of getting a ride to a job, and my parents say they don't want me working. This means no saving up for anything; even college.
Besides that, there's also the problem of not having anything to do during the day. Every day it's eat, sleep, study or play games. I feel so sheltered and frustrated sometimes, but what can I do? I don't have friends to see, and going places takes money that we don't have. Times like this make me wish I was in public school, just to have somewhere to go, but then I remember I have no confidence.
What else is left to do when all I can do is lose count of the weeks I haven't been outside?
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Well, love, I know what it's like to have nothing to do, but lets start off at number one.
Take some time to question yourself about some favorite hobbies of yours? Perhaps you may want to try new hobbies? Some of my hobbies include:
~ Writing (stories, poems, songs, etc)
~ Gaming
~ Listen to music (music really helps with your mood)
~ Drawing
You said that you feel frustrated sometimes. If you feel like blowing off steam, take your frustration out by drawing, writing, or doing something you love to do. Who knows? Maybe you'll create the world's next favorite thing!
If you want to ask me something else or you'd like to get more info, you can contact me at: mandi.koehl@yahoo.com or totalgamergirl1@yahoo.com
Hopefully I helped in some sort of way c:
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I know this may be a hard thing to do, but I would let your parents know how you feel. I would also sit down and try and figure out some sort of solution so you have something you can do in return :) I hope this helps
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Dear Home-schooled,
One of the problems with home-schooling is that it's too sheltering and you're sacrificing the personal, people interactions at a public school, that's every bit as important as the scholastic.
However, we've to to go with what you've got right now.
The premise for your question isn't quite right, you actually can do each and everything that you said that you can't. For example, the GED can be taken online and without cost. Look it up.
To cut to the heart of your problem, I'll have to say, it's your attitude. In truth, you can do anything at all that you can possibly conceive. You just must believe in yourself enough to do it.
As you have an abundance of free time that your now squandering, step out of the house, if you're physically able and visit your neighbors and explain that you need funds for college and you'll do any chore, for a reasonable fee. If there are businesses close enough to walk to, go in and say the same thing. Don't be afraid. Everyone admires and respects industry in young people.
Now, here's some help to keep yourself upbeat: Always act with a purpose. Stretch yourself past your limits every day. Take action without expecting results. Use setbacks to improve your skills. Seek out those who share your positive attitude. Don't take yourself so seriously. Forgive the limitations of others. Say "thank you" more frequently.
Here's a great website that'll give you more. Study it: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Write to me anytime, I'll be here for you...Grandfather.
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Your parents sound like they are being very unfair to you. They are raising you to depend on them instead of raising you to be an independent frog. They are putting their need to control you above your need to be independent. That is wrong on so many levels. You cannot allow them to treat you this way.
The good news is, there is a lot you can do.
To start with, you can get a job when you are of legal age and you can bus to that job. Alternatively, you can get a job near where you live so that you can walk. Do not let your parents get in your way of becoming a productive member of society.
Second, GO OUTSIDE. Mingle. Meet people. Join a club or extracurricular activity. Check the internet for ideas near where you live.
Third, if the above two steps fail/if you feel unsafe, call child protective services. Your parents are being abusive if they literally won't let you outside.
Fourth, if the above three steps do not work, try eating chocolate while swimming in a warm bubble bath! That always helps Moi!
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I'm not sure how old you are but I'm assuming you are a little younger. I know what you mean when you say you are feeling frustrated and it's because you are reaching an age when you want more freedom which is natural.
If you have are feeling bored at home then think of things that interest you and find some way that you can turn that into a hobby. I don't know if you are a religious person or not but if you are then maybe take the extra time to look more into the bible or something too if that is of any interest to you but if it does then jw.org is a good website to look into
Something I got into was gymnastics, just started teaching myself some simple things
If you like baking or cooking then be creative with different recipes
If you don't have much option other than being at home then there are really a lot of things you can give a try
If you go on pinterest then you can get a lot of ideas from there too
Hope that's somewhat helpful.
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So your parents have said they don't want you working. Did they explain why? Did they mean now or after you turn 18?
They are doing you a great disservice by not allowing you to test your wings a little and allow you some ways to get used to making some decisions for yourself. You should be allowed to at least make friends with other home schooled kids, or if they're very religious, other kids from church. Its important to have friends and learn how to get along with others, understand others, much more.
As for not being allowed to drive yet, it is very expensive, and every year older that a new driver is, the insurance becomes a bit less. Our decision making skills improve as we get older too, due to the frontal lobe of the brain much slower to mature than rest of our body and not being complete until mid 20s. So if you can not learn to drive until after you turn 18, thats not so bad after all.
If they are assuming you will continue to live at home and never ever work, are they planning to take care of all your needs and run your life til the day they die? Then what? You are crippled, no more than an adult child with no knowledge of a skill, job experience, how to drive, street smarts, how to balance a checkbook, save part of your earnings, etc. How will you survive?
I assume you are the only child. Parents with an only child, who are fearful of all the things that could possibly happen to you where they might lose you, dieing in a car accident, getting raped, murdered, getting into drugs, smoking, running with a bad crowd, becoming pregnant as a teen, unwed mother, to even the stranger odd fears they may have is a good possibility of why they are basically wanting to hold you captive. If you have siblings, then I fear for them getting the same treatment unless you are the first to take some action once you legally can at 18. If at 18 you defy your parents wishes, they may threaten to kick you out if you dont do as they say. They may just be control freaks or have lots of anxieties or some mental disorders too. I dont know. But you can't allow that to keep you from doing what you want with your life.
Do you have relatives who would take you in at 18, long enough so you can start working, join some clubs and make some friends, and then with a friend get an apartment together. If you can be living in the city where theres buses, a drivers license won't be the first need to go for. YOu'd be starting from scratch to save up for a car and then have the tabs, insurance, gas and oil changes and able to pay for any repairs that come up. That right there sucks up lots of money and may not leave enough to pay rent among other things like power bill, food and perhaps paying your way part time through night school.
In the meanwhile, If you're good on the computer, keep yourself busy maybe with a blog, or downloading and studying books for any trade you think you might be interested in. Do as much study as you can now in preparation for later.
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