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Now I'd like to start off that I have depression, for a few years now, I am 17/female. I don't know how this plays into this well enough or has little.
Anyways, for thepast month my depression has gotten hard on me, all the whileI've slowly detached myself from my boyfriend, and with trying to converse with him during those weeks has made him irritated from my lethargy and dealing with me, and soon I called myself off from him and became distant to him. My feelings just started to fade, feelings for him and also I couldn't very well identify my own emotions. It's gotten worse between us and before any of this problem I had made a new (male) friend. I had no intentions to have feelings for him but now they're starting to form little by little. It's all a bit too confusing. Now getting out of the hard hit of depression I had gotten now I'm trying to work it out, but I feel like I'm rejecting a bunch of things out of fear of what'll happen. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, and I'm completely comfortable with but then, sometimes he is just so messy and disrespectful to his parents, embarrassing and boring at times. And then with this other guy, through out my worst days, has managed to make me laugh, talking almost non-stop. While my boyfriend has made me feel pushed away, like what went on inside didn't matter, now all I can explain is "I don't know what's going on inside, I'm sorry" and its tearing me apart if its just depression dampening my emotions or if its legitimate, any of them. Thank you if you read all of this. (link)
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I would say to follow your heart. Be completely honest to both people. Tell them about the depression. If they don't stay with you or don't want to help you through it, then they aren't worth it. Honesty is always the best way to go with this. I would suggest telling parents/psychologists about this if you wanted to. I would say if you feel that the boyfriend is pushing you away and you feel that the new male friend is going to support you and you feel love for him, then I'd say tell him how you feel :) I hope this helps
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I've been going through a recent complicated break-up. The thing is I kinda rejected him because I want to get my life back together first before being in a committed relationship. I wasn't able to offer my heart back in return to this guy who loved me so purely because I got scared that the moment I say 'yes' we'd be in a really serious relationship. And the thought of being in a serious relationship scared me. I got scared and I made a stupid mistake by talking to it with another guy friend. And it almost felt like I cheated on him, he felt like I cheated. And now he's not in love with me anymore and that it's impossible for us to be together again. Which hurt so bad.
I know all of that's kinda convoluted, but long story short, I'm hurt because I hurt the one guy who's never done anything but love me so purely and see the best in me by being a stupid and weak girl. What if he's the one for me, what if I blew the chance to be with my soulmate? What if I never meet anyone who will love me as much as he did? I can't get over the pain and the loneliness no matter what I do.
I know I've made a mistake too. But I'm not aiming to get back together with him, because he's already said it's impossible. Now he just wants to be friends with me because he knows we're really close and he doesn't want to lose that and he said that I don't deserve to be abandoned completely. What should I do to get over him and forgive myself? I'm really sorry it was really long. Thank you to anyone who will help. (link)
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The best thing I can tell you is to tell him how you feel. Tell him that it hurts you to hear that and tell him all the things you feel. Be completely honest with him. Tell him about being scared about it and wanting to talk it over with another friend (make sure they know he was just a friend and nothing more than that). Honesty is always the best way to go with friendship
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While my boyfriend is eating me out, my legs and my arms and everything go tingly and I cant control my body and I want to close my legs. Am I about to orgasm or what? Why does it make me want to close my legs? (link)
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It's a perfectly natural response. It means that the orgasm is building up
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Things have been bland for me lately. At my current age and location I'm unable to work, get a license, or attempt to get my GED. For the next six months I'll be sitting all day every day in my home as I've done for the last five years. Even when I'm of legal age, I'll have no means of getting a ride to a job, and my parents say they don't want me working. This means no saving up for anything; even college.
Besides that, there's also the problem of not having anything to do during the day. Every day it's eat, sleep, study or play games. I feel so sheltered and frustrated sometimes, but what can I do? I don't have friends to see, and going places takes money that we don't have. Times like this make me wish I was in public school, just to have somewhere to go, but then I remember I have no confidence.
What else is left to do when all I can do is lose count of the weeks I haven't been outside? (link)
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I know this may be a hard thing to do, but I would let your parents know how you feel. I would also sit down and try and figure out some sort of solution so you have something you can do in return :) I hope this helps
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so basically a friend told me that there were people that talks behind my back and those people who said mean stuff about me, 1) i dont even know them, 2) we barely talk so they dont know who am i!!!!
what did i do wrong? what am i suppose to do now?
i was going to just ignore them but i feel sad because i didnt even do anything wrong and get hated on? thats just unreasonable man. (link)
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This same thing happened to me. I had to end up telling the principal of the school that I was told I was spreading rumors but the person didn't know me and I didn't know who they were. People hate on people. That's just human nature. The responsible thing would be to just ignore them and if that doesn't work, tell someone. It is better to tell someone and have it be nothing than have it come back to haunt you later.
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I am an 18 year old female and my period has been really erratic lately and sometimes it doesn't come at all. Usually it's pretty regular and I can pretty much expect it at the same time every month. But now I just don't know. Should I go to the doctor? Could it be something serious or is it just a normal thing? (link)
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You may have an irregular period. Some women have this problem or situation.
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
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You can tell me how you feel if you want to.
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I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why? (link)
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I have no idea. Some people just choose to think a certain way and they don't want to change their mind even with all the facts lain out in front of them. Like the common phrase: "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink" You can want them to change all they want but if they don't want to, there's nothing you can do
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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The sooner you tell your parents the better. Tell them that you are pregnant and that you want to keep the baby. Let them know whatever you can. The more you tell them the more they will be able to help. Stay strong I understand this is a tough situation.
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Ok, this one might take a little long but, I need you to read this novel I wrote. It's for those who loves adventure and is pretty bizarre in general. Please read, I don't require you to vote, I just want you to tell me how I did. Thanks guys.
http://www.wattpad.com/story/27562856-crest-of-the-guardians (link)
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This is for advice. I would suggest going to a publicist.
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I want to buy a car but I don't have a license. Can I get it insured in my name and have someone else drive it? Can I get insurance? (link)
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You have to have a car to be insured. You have to have a license to buy a car.
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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First of all, it would not be PUBLIC display of affection if it weren't public. Second, if they are only kissing or hugging then it is an appropriate behavior. If they were groping or trying to have sex that would be different. Are they going up to you and asking you to watch them? If not then you have a choice to look away. What others do with their loved ones is their business. How would you like it if you kissed your man at the mall and someone told you to stop because they don't want to see it?
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Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself (link)
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All you have to do is be yourself and the right friends will find you.
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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
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I am not one to ask about religion. I do apologize. However, I would suggest asking family or friends you trust about their religion and feel free to explore and have fun!
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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I am sorry that your boyfriend broke up with you. I know my first time being broken up with hurt a lot. I also have lost a lot of friends because of their arguing or fighting with each other. I just want you to do a few things for me, ok?
1. Just breathe. Think of all the good things in life that you have: a roof over your head, a family that loves you and would do anything for you, and you have a chance at a good education.
2. If you are being made fun of at school, tell the teachers. If the teachers refuse, tell the principal. If the principal refuses to help, get the school board involved if you have to or see if your parents won't let you move to a different school and explain the situation to them.
3. Keep moving forward. Losing friends and boyfriends is a way of life. The best thing you can do is find some new friends. Join some school clubs or go to the mall after school or on the weekends and just see if you get along with someone. There are plenty of boys to date in your lifetime, so I wouldn't worry too much! You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. They boyfriend thing will come when you're ready and nobody knows when that is. Just keep your eyes and mind open and I'm sure that friends will be made soon enough
4. If you have trouble in school, try asking your parents to help with homework. If you are having trouble with paying attention or with bullying problems, ask a teacher to move desks or see if there is something that they can do to help you. Teachers can't help you if they don't know what's wrong in the first place
For the depression problem, I would find something that makes you happy and spend time doing it. If you like to read or write, spend time in your room thinking of a story to write or spend time reading. If you like taking pictures, take a walk to a park or down the trail and see what beautiful things you can take pictures of. If you enjoy music or singing or instruments, go for a walk with your mp3 or music player and sing along.
I hope this helps. I am still struggling myself with depression, but I know together we can get through this. If you ever want to talk, I'm here. Please feel free to message me at any time.
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Yes, quite the immature act to say you're in love at 15. He's graduating highschool next year. I'm starting college next year. (Were both Mormons)
Lets call him "N"
We met at a horse ranch in 2011. N was 14 I was 12. When the instructor said to a different kid "Do you know her (as he pointed to me) name?" He stood there frozen. While "N" jumped up and down in excitement and said, "Oh I do!!"
Next year, we gathered at a chili cook off. I straightened my hair to look good. "N" noticed. "How did you get your hair to look longer? Like, I know you can make it prettier, but how did you make it longer."
That same year, I got embarrassed by being unable to control a horse.. I cried. Hoping "N" wouldn't see me when he jogged by, he stopped in his tracks and his familiar voice filled my ears. "Is she okay?" My mom told him the story, be assured me just because of me being physically disabled, doesn't make me any less strong.
Last year. I turned 15. He's 17. He put on this ridiculous dance at church and swung his arms gently singing happy birthday with his twin brother next to him. I smiled, and said,"You remembered." He looked at me and said how could I forget?
This year, I showed him the cuts on my body.
He hasn't turned his back on me. He's helping me.
Or I could be completely mistaken and he's just being nice to me..
What do you think? (link)
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I would say he does like you. Right now, though it is in the friend stage. If you feel comfortable enough and you feel you're ready for a relationship, I would ask him to go hang out with you just you and him. When you feel ready as you two are hanging out, I would just ask "what would you do if you found out I liked you as more than a friend?" Make it seem casual and have fun with it. The worst that can happen is him to say he just likes you as friends. I would say ask to see and if he does, then ask him if he wants to date or be bf/gf with you.
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I get that girls want jewelery and flowers, but what do I buy my boyfriend for his birthday??
Like a general outline of something...
PLEASE HELP ME!
xxx
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I would suggest giving him a shirt with his favorite actor or a poster of his favorite celebrity
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ok i asked the question about my gf moving away to uni and us breaking up becaus of the long distance. anyway's i want to get her somthing really nice that she can look at, wear (jewelery or sotmhing) as a goodbye gift.
She says she has got somthing for me too but for the life of me i cant think of a really good gift for anyone so i could use a little help
thanks alot, i will rate and repsond to your comments (link)
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I know this sounds kind of weird, but why don't you make her a home-made bracelet out of macaroni noodles with glitter or something. It's the thought that counts
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What are the signs that a guy is cheating on you? (link)
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I have had this happen to me. I'm 15yrs old. What my bf did was he stopped calling me as often. When he talked, he sounded different. What really hurt was when i saw them kissing...so Anyway, there are some signs and i hope that it helps!
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i aksed a question a while ago, it really imporant to me, but no one seems to be able to answer it! what will happen. i think people misunderstood, due to the title. i asked about ANY schools in the uk. but people think its about kingston only. here's a link to the question. if any one knows about a good response or knnows someone who might have any career advice for me please help. i'm really worried!!!!
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=570703
THANX IN ADVANCE!!!
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I would suggest asking it again. I do that when I do not get any answers and it always works for me!
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