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DOES HE LIKE ME??
Yes, quite the immature act to say you're in love at 15. He's graduating highschool next year. I'm starting college next year. (Were both Mormons)
Lets call him "N"
We met at a horse ranch in 2011. N was 14 I was 12. When the instructor said to a different kid "Do you know her (as he pointed to me) name?" He stood there frozen. While "N" jumped up and down in excitement and said, "Oh I do!!"
Next year, we gathered at a chili cook off. I straightened my hair to look good. "N" noticed. "How did you get your hair to look longer? Like, I know you can make it prettier, but how did you make it longer."
That same year, I got embarrassed by being unable to control a horse.. I cried. Hoping "N" wouldn't see me when he jogged by, he stopped in his tracks and his familiar voice filled my ears. "Is she okay?" My mom told him the story, be assured me just because of me being physically disabled, doesn't make me any less strong.
Last year. I turned 15. He's 17. He put on this ridiculous dance at church and swung his arms gently singing happy birthday with his twin brother next to him. I smiled, and said,"You remembered." He looked at me and said how could I forget?
This year, I showed him the cuts on my body.
He hasn't turned his back on me. He's helping me.
Or I could be completely mistaken and he's just being nice to me..
What do you think?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Even for just friendship, a guy will not choose to hang out with a girl they are not in some way attracted to. So we know that he likes you as a friend at least. Whether there is the right chemistry between both of you to each feel attracted as more than friends, is for you to discover, I could have no way of knowing. So when you are ready, you could ask the question in a way that won't make him uncomfortable to give a truthful answer.
A possibility is: N, you and I seem to enjoy being around each other. I consider you a good friend and hope you do too. I was just wondering though, beyond friendship, do you suppose there is any chemistry to explore anything more, like being boyfriend and girlfriend?
If he is interested that way, he'll jump at the chance to say yes because he was too scared to bring it up himself. Many guys like to go slow to not scare or spook the girl away and start as friends which is truly in my eyes the best way to go as the best of marriages and relationships are based on both being best friends and having that romantic/sexual attraction. If he's not sure, he'll say so. Then just be content to continue being friends with him and see what develops over time. If he says he only sees you as a friend, you need to trust that he knows himself well enough for that to be true. He won't feel any pressure from you and feel comfortable continueing to be your friend while you set your eyes to searching out a guy who might make a good boyfriend for you, if you're ready to date someone. Good luck.
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I would say he does like you. Right now, though it is in the friend stage. If you feel comfortable enough and you feel you're ready for a relationship, I would ask him to go hang out with you just you and him. When you feel ready as you two are hanging out, I would just ask "what would you do if you found out I liked you as more than a friend?" Make it seem casual and have fun with it. The worst that can happen is him to say he just likes you as friends. I would say ask to see and if he does, then ask him if he wants to date or be bf/gf with you.
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