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Im very depressed and would like help
ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice.
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Don't worry. Things will get better. This happened to me too around three years ago when I was 10..(except I didn't have a bf) Please don't hurt yourself. It'll leave scars </3 I know it's hard to be happy after what's happened, but don't cut or try to kill yourself!
Hope you feel better soon<3
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Hey honey, You are definetly not alone, and are still very young. You have so many adventures ahead of you. I got my first boyfriend in grade 9 It was the best thing ever. at that time. we broke up as well. You will have many many boyfriends before you find the one you are meant to be with.
(I know i sound like crap. I thought the same thing. But with time you will learn that knowledge on your own.
As for your friends, they will fight, they will argue. Some friendships will not last unfortunately. and some will last forever :)
Just remember you can't control what your friends do and if they get mad at eachother just remember to tell them that you are not choosing sides. You will make new friends in ways you could never imagine.
As for getting bad grades. It happens to everyone. If you just focus and try to remember the stuff in a different way it will definetly help:) I got made fun of in school for being a nerd. and was a bit of an outsider myself. But you must remember that if somethings not right you have the ability to change the ultimate outcome. Changing your grades by studying harder.
What exactly makes you feel so depressed? What is they key factor that makes you feel like you must cut or might do something worse? First step is to talk to someone close to you. If that is not an option there are help lines. These people are trained to help you through these situations.
I beleive strongly in my heart that you will be happy again. There is so much beauty in this world that is sometimes overpowered by darkness. But the light is always most powerful when your moment is darkest.
Just remember you are full of potental and have so much to live for. High school, A first crappy job. A few boyfriends that will end up sucking in the end. but will teach you most valuable life lessons. Love. Marriage. Kids, Kids moments, Grandchildren. There is so much this world has to offer you.
Hope this helps
-Jasmine<3
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Listen, there are always going to be heart breaks, heart aches, fall outs, and bad times. We all go through it, but that doesn't make your problems any less important, remember that. I know it hurts, but people can't always fill that voyd inside you. Frankly, people suck; and will always let you down. So I suggest finding something else you enjoy that makes you happy. Friends come and go, and you will find new ones, don't worry. You can always get tutors to help you with school, and if it really bothers you, then crack down harder and try to study and focus more. I can even try to help you with anything you need help with, if you want my number or something. (Of course you would have to send me another msg for me to be able to reply with it) Please don't give up or lose hope, because life has beautiful things to it, and it gets better and eventually will be worth it. There are medications you can get for depression, and there is therapy and stuff. Instead of taking it out like that, talk to someone about how you feel. You can talk to me whenever you need it.
Hope this helps~
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I realize that your ten years old and this can be a tough time in life right now but hurting yourself or trying to end your life in never the answer.
In your life friends that you could SWEAR youll be BFF's with will come and go through the years, because people change throughout their lives and the only REAL friends that still continue to keep in contact and your on good terms with are the people who are true friends.
For right its more important that you stay focused on school, and get your grades back up. Let those people believe whatever they want to believe and in the mean time try to make new friends, one thats will except you for who you are and not who your trying to be other then yourself.
People can only pretend for so long when it comes to being your friend and eventually you will see their true colors as a person. Be friendly but watchful especially if they have done things to other people in the past, watch out for people who act stupid and petty or jealous, those people are not real friends and who they treat other people is a reflection of how they could easily treat you if it comes down to it and they feel they have to choose.
Your life is not your friends, just be yourself and bond with other people who have the same interests with you dont try to force friendship, it will happen on its own if its meant to be. We all know you cant just walk up to a random stranger and try to be friends with them, because thats not how friendship works. lol.
youll live through this, just stay strong, keep focused on your school work because your grades are very important and ignore the stupid negative people that are hurting you, their not worth it and their probably unhappy with themselves so they wanna spread it around and make everyone else around them unhappy as well.
its unfair i know but thats how damaged or hurting people are ok, so dont let all this get you down, do YOU, and the rest will fall into place.
good luck sweetie ; )
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Hey there,
I am struggling with depression, too, and it's hard. But just remember that it's not going to be like this forever. Things are going to change, and it does get better.
I have cut myself for two years, and I struggle with suicidal thoughts every day, so I know what it is like. If you need anyone to talk to, you can always contact me at demonboi5060@gmail.com
Here are a few links you might find helpful:
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Stay strong,
Kyler ♡
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Please tell your parents or an adult you trust about the negative thoughts and those of hurting or killing yourself. You might have a mental health problem that needs medical intervention. Dont keep any of this secret. It will get worse if you do.
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This is a bit hard to answer, but I'll do the best that I can to help you out.
At ten years old you shouldn't be having suicidal thoughts or self-harming, but as a person who has been in the same situation as you have I am in no position to tell you that you can't do that. I know how hard it is to deal with things at such a young age, everything seems like it's the end of the world- trust me, I know! Having your first boyfriend is a big deal no matter what age you are. I had my first real boyfriend when I was sixteen- and up until that point I thought I was weird because I didn't have a boyfriend until the middle of high school.
You are just getting into the age where life starts getting real, and sadly- the real world sucks. There is no other way to word it, it just sucks. Boys will come and go out of your life and I can promise you, you will have plenty of boyfriends! Try not to worry about the boy who didn't stay with you, in a few years you will hardly even remember him.
I'm terribly sorry to hear about your friends fighting. Having friends fighting is hard to deal with because they expect you to choose sides, am I right? That can lead to major issues, and since I don't know the full situation the only advice I can really give you on that topic is to stay neutral. It's best not to pick sides, take a step back and just say "I'm staying out of it." If the friends you have had since first grade aren't there for you anymore, forget them! I know it seems so hard right now, but there will be so many people who come into your life and leave abruptly with nothing else said.
You will find good friends who won't leave your side over some silly fight. As for your depression and self-harm I advice you to stop hurting yourself! I will forever have scars on my body because I was a naive 14 year old girl who didn't know how to deal with her depression appropriately. There are so many things that you can do to help manage your depression. The firs thing I recommend you do it tell your parents. Some people don't understand that depression doesn't stop for anybody.
Depression doesn't care if you're skinny, short, tall, old, young. Depression can take a hold of somebody and rip them at the seams. If anybody is going to be understanding, it isn't your friends it will be your parents.
Keep looking up and know that time heals most anything, and at ten years old you have your entire life ahead of you.
Don't hesitate to ask more questions at my advice column if you need it.
-kenzieanonymous
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I'm sorry that you are feeling depressed. I know it must be awful, but you need to know that this is only a very small part of your life, and it will get better. You're only 10 years old, you have so many wonderful things to look forward to.
The first boyfriend/girlfriend is always tough to get over. But you will be okay, and you'll find someone else. You have so much time to grow and meet people - you are only 10.
Friends come and go, and at your age, friendships are especially turbulent. You fight, you make up, you don't talk to each other, etc. But you'll make new friends in middle and high school, not to mention college and over the course of your life.
Right now, everything seems very big and important, but just two or three years from now you will look back on this time and realize that things weren't as significant as they seemed.
It is very important to talk to someone about your self harm and suicidal thoughts. It is not uncommon at your age for someone to go through mental changes - but it is very important to speak to someone you trust, whether it be a parent, another relative, a teacher at school, a counselor, etc. Please please please talk to someone about your feelings. I know everything seems awful right now, but it gets better. I promise.
If you are in the United States, please call The National Suicide Lifeline at 1 (800) 273-8255. They have spoken to many people in your situation and can offer great help. If you're outside of the United States, this website
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I know you're going to conquer this. Please call the Suicide Lifeline or speak to an adult that you trust. You are loved, and it gets better. I hope I've been able to provide help.
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You have every right to be angry ay assholes who bully you, and at the society that virtually imprisons you together with them in school that only fails to meet your real individual education needs. And you have every right to be dissatisfied with circumstances that quite simply fail to gratify you. Grading, what a scam!
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Wow that is a whole lot for a 10 year old to go through but listen..you are ONLY 10 years old. And I'm not saying that to belittle your problems in any way, but to make you realize that you still have the whole rest of your life to look forward to. I know being in school and having all these things going on can be rough but it will NOT last forever. When I was in middle school I had these 7 close friends who I thought I would be best friends with forever. Well in 8th grade things changed and it felt like they all hated me, I felt like I was not a part of the group anymore and it was very lonely and upsetting. I even found out that they once all went to a party, that they didnt invite me to, and would talk badly about me saying that im annoying, etc etc. And also I was still recovering from a breakup when I was in 7th grade with this guy that I absolutely loved..or so I thought at least. It was a very dark year for me and dark years were still yet to come for me. But you know what? Having those experiences were actually a blessing in disguise. I was able to find out who my true friends were and were able to get rid of the people who werent good/ or meant to be in my life. I never thought id have friends or be liked after that experience but the next year in my freshman year in hs I made some great relationships, had a lot of fun, and am still friends with one of them in my senior year of hs. Things do and WILL get better. Life is one big rollercoaster and youll feel lost and hurt and alone but you have to remember you are beautiful and are love and loved and that everything will be okay in the end. There was a reason all this happened and maybe it is because you need a new start and sometime to yourself to figure things out. Maybe you and your friends will make up and theyll come around again or youll end up making new friends who are going to be even better than the old ones, but in the meantime you need to focus on yourself and your grades. Don't give up on success in your future because things are not so good right now, you have so much potential and you should go out there and shine and work hard because one day all this will pass and youll need to be ready and prepared for all the great things ahead right? As for breaking up with your bf, I know that is hard but you will definetely find someone else one day and they will love you more than anything, but you dont need to be focusing on boys right now because most of them are immature and stupid at this age anyway haha. And if youre cutting and having suicidal thoughts then you should definetely go to a trusted adult either in your family or at your school. And PLEASE feel free to come to me if you EVER need to talk. No one should feel like the way you do. And I wish you all the best, hope this helped!
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Do you have a parent or older sibling you can tell about the cutting? Or Perhaps a school counselor?
I'm very sorry that you're hurting sweet heart. I promise things will get better. Once you start dating more and more, you will realize that most relationships wont work out. Dating is a series of failed relationships. Eventually you will find one that doesn't fail. But that person is usually not your first boyfriend. At the end of the day it doesn't matter if you broke up with him or he broke up with you. In your life you will experience both and no one really keeps track anyway. The important thing is that you tried. It's a very brave thing to do at ten years old. If you think it's a little too much, then wait a few years before having a bf again. You have plenty of time to date. Jr high, high school and college will be filled with lots of dating experiences. So don't rush anything, if a bf brings too much drama in your life then give it a rest for a few years. I know it hurts but trust me it will pass.
Over the time you're in school, you will make and loose many friends. The ones that are true, will stick with you for ever. I am 27 years old now, and I am only close with one friend from first grade still. I have about five friends from high school i'm still in touch with and a lot of friends from college!!! This isn't the end of the world, you will make new friends TRUST ME. Kids can be very harsh and mean and immature. I"m sorry that you are hurting and believe me people get more compassionate and nicer as they age.
Your grades are your own private business. You don't have to tell anyone what they are. If the kids ask you and pressure you to tell or show them, tell them your parent's said you can't. Tell them they we're so mean to you about it last time that your parents said you can never share your grades with anyone else EVER AGAIN! I know they're picking on you and it's awful! Trust me, there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone gets bad grades at some point in life. Just try to stay focused and do the best you can and things will get better.
check this video out, or google 'bullying it gets better'
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The most important thing is that you get some support! Like I said do you have someone to talk to? A parent a sibling a counselor or someone from church? You are beautiful and perfect and should not feel this way. Reach out and get some help. Tell one of your siblings you are thinking about suicide and hurting yourself. I DOESN"T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY AND YOU SHOULD NOT BE GOING THROUGH THIS ALONE. Reach out for help and ignore all the A** hole kids in your class.
I'm totally on your side. Stay strong and remember that it gets better!!!
Good luck honey
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Okay, I completely understand what you're going through. Speaking from someone who has self harmed in the past and suffered with depression- I would defiantly advise you to seek help from a professional. I know it seems scary and a waste of time, but trust me it does help. I went to my gp to get tested for depression. She referred me to a counciling service for troubled teens in my local area. I went expecting it to be a waste of time, but it really helped me out. Things like that don't always work for everyone, but it did for me- and its better to try it before things get worse. It seems like you've hit a dark bit in your life, but you're only ten- so trust me, you've got plenty of time to make things better. I don't have much context about you, like why you lost your friends, or why your boyfriend and you broke up. My advice to you would be to speak to an adult you trust, be it your parents, a teacher, etcetera. There are people like councillors specifically trained to help people like you. If you do already recicve some sort of counciling and it's not working, or you don't want to do something like that- then you're welcome to message me again with futher details about your problems, so we can try and work out some way to overcome them. I know how you feel, I've been there before- but with some help I'm sure you can get into a better place than you are now. If you do decide to message me again, then I can help you with your friendship issues/ relationship issues, and alternative methods to cutting, etcetera. I can even help you with some of your school work if you want, I'm one of the top of my class at my school. Whatever you decide to do, I hope it works out. :)
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Hi sweetie,
Im so sorry about what you are going through
Sweetie,you are so young,and have a long long road ahead full of beautiful amazing things..
I can offer you to call this number
1-800-273-8255
This number can help you so much because they can help you much more than I canm.They can offer you comfort and advice
Much love and God Bless You!
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Hi there well first off Please do not cut yourself I am sure you are too pretty of a person inside and out to do that. No one deserves that. You will learn boys come and go and we make new friends over and over that is how life is we learn to move on sometimes it hurts and it might seem like it is the end of the world but I promise you we have all been there and we have all lived through heartbreaks and lost friends. But please do not cut yourself they are not worth it and it does not release pain you will have pain later every time you look at those scars. Please when you feel strong enough talk to a counselor, older adult, parent, pastor, teacher, aunt, or uncle someone and they wuill be avle to help you Here is a website about cutting I hope it helps: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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At 10 years old,you are young to have a boyfriend, in the grown-up sense of the word. At your age, boys can be either annoying little twerps who won't leave you alone because they like getting in your way or they try to act older than they are and act as if you aren't even there! As you get older, your friends will change, you'll try lots of different things, looking for what you like. Life moves so fast in our technical world, it'll be no time before you're 18 with boys taking an interest in girls, even you! Most young girls grow up to have serious long_term relationships, you probably will too. Hold on tight to who and what you like, let go of what makes you unhappy and enjoy your life.
Best of luck x
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Hello there!
My first nugget of advice would be to tell someone what you are going through. There is nothing worse than drowning in your own thoughts thinking that there is no way out because you have nobody to talk to. Tell someone. They will be able to talk to you and even if they can't give advice because maybe they weren't ever in your shoes, at least they will listen to you and there is no greater feeling than knowing that someone will be there for you despite your flaws.
A friend of mine from work just told me yesterday that he had a pretty big secret, he said he did not want to tell me because he did not want me to change my views on him or look at him any differently but after me telling him that no matter what, I'll still always be around, he finally told me that he has tried to commit suicide 25 times since being on leave from the Navy. Now, why did I tell you that story? I told you that story because I'm still his friend and I'm still there for him. I told him that when he feels like he lost all hope and wants to leave this world, that instead of overdosing on pills or harming himself in any way with a weapon to end his life, he calls me first. He asked me why. I told him it's because I want to be there for him and if he tried to leave this earth 25 times and he's still here, then he has a reason to still be here. He said he never had anyone care for him the way that I have in the few short weeks we knew each other but he told me that I am exactly what he needed.
So, my dear, a friend to be there for you may be exactly what you need. I know you put in your question that you lost some friends because your friends started fighting, so if you need a friend, I can 100% be that friend for you, I will talk you off of that ledge every time-all you have to do is ask, send me another question and I will answer with my email address and we can talk that way if you are up for that.. if not, that is totally okay as well.
My second little nugget for you is that if you feel it's getting too bad for you to handle, when you tell someone (which you should!!) tell them that you need professional help. Now, I may be biased here as I am in college studying the exact problems that you're going through, in hopes to be a professional one day where I can help kids just like you. But maybe if it gets too bad, you should seek professional help where they can find out what it is in your brain that's making you feel the way you are and they will prescribe you medicine that will best suit your problem and you won't feel sad anymore.
One thing that I like to tell my friends when they tell me they are having a panic attack or that they are feeling sad, I know it's silly, but I make them write down every single little thing that made them smile that day. Once you realize that there are better things than the one that is making you sad, you'll start to smile.
I'll do my day for example: I had lunch with a friend that I haven't seen in a while, I got a good grade on a test, my older brother asked me for help on his homework so that made me feel pretty smart, it's beautiful outside and the sun is shining.
Another thing you can do is take a shower. Get in, turn the water on, sit down and let the water rain on you, think about everything and you can even feel sad and bad for yourself, if you want to cry you definitely can... but when you shut that water off and you get out, forget everything that happened in the shower and begin your clean slate and smile, smile, smile.
Lastly, I often forget how hard it is to be a kid. It must be so sad to lose multiple friends at one time and I'm very sorry that happened to you. But instead of being sad about it, you can give yourself that extra push to make new friends. You can join an activity at school, you can sit with new people at lunch and introduce yourself, you can even sit down with your old friends and talk to them about how hard it is for you to lose them and see if they can all work out their differences with one another and maybe you guys can all be friends again.
In summary:
1. tell someone, anyone, what you are going through
-one person is all it takes to make a world of difference
-send me another question if you want to talk and I'll give you my email address
2. seek professional help (if your thoughts get to the darker side)
3. happiness activities
4. do something you wouldn't normally do, talk to new people, make new friends
Always remember: You are so beautiful and lovely. Your body has a lot more years ahead of it and it does not deserve to be cut and harmed and neither does your sparkling spirit!
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I am sorry that your boyfriend broke up with you. I know my first time being broken up with hurt a lot. I also have lost a lot of friends because of their arguing or fighting with each other. I just want you to do a few things for me, ok?
1. Just breathe. Think of all the good things in life that you have: a roof over your head, a family that loves you and would do anything for you, and you have a chance at a good education.
2. If you are being made fun of at school, tell the teachers. If the teachers refuse, tell the principal. If the principal refuses to help, get the school board involved if you have to or see if your parents won't let you move to a different school and explain the situation to them.
3. Keep moving forward. Losing friends and boyfriends is a way of life. The best thing you can do is find some new friends. Join some school clubs or go to the mall after school or on the weekends and just see if you get along with someone. There are plenty of boys to date in your lifetime, so I wouldn't worry too much! You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. They boyfriend thing will come when you're ready and nobody knows when that is. Just keep your eyes and mind open and I'm sure that friends will be made soon enough
4. If you have trouble in school, try asking your parents to help with homework. If you are having trouble with paying attention or with bullying problems, ask a teacher to move desks or see if there is something that they can do to help you. Teachers can't help you if they don't know what's wrong in the first place
For the depression problem, I would find something that makes you happy and spend time doing it. If you like to read or write, spend time in your room thinking of a story to write or spend time reading. If you like taking pictures, take a walk to a park or down the trail and see what beautiful things you can take pictures of. If you enjoy music or singing or instruments, go for a walk with your mp3 or music player and sing along.
I hope this helps. I am still struggling myself with depression, but I know together we can get through this. If you ever want to talk, I'm here. Please feel free to message me at any time.
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It looks like your friendships and relationships are old flames that just withered away. Sometimes, we'll lose things... But we'll always gain good things back. Right now, you should focus on finding new/better friends, a good guy to get to know if you're looking to date more, and maybe finding better studying techniques to do better in school. Doing this will surely shape your future into an excellent one. Moreover, it'll make you into the best you could ever be and maybe more. But you've got to step up to the plate and show them what you've got.
Now is the time to explore new horizons, renew your personality, be a better you, and most of all--be happy. Everyone deserves to be happy. Your self-confidence and your faith is your lighter. Use it. Your discoveries and your future are your new flames. It's time to light up your happiness and see it glow.
I'm sorry I sound like a fortune cookie right now, but it's always best to think positive--even through the bad times. Because you should already know that following bad times with bad thoughts will only make it worse.
Also, you were blessed with beautiful skin. Why would you want to cut it? You're still young and you have all your life to experience new, great things. As you continue to grow, you will become more and more beautiful. Like a bud into a rose. Then, in time, will you realize that everything is as it should be and that life is truly worth living.
Always here if you need to talk.
Warm wishes!
-Elle
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I'm 13 and suicidal. My friends left me because I told one of them that I'm suicidal and she told the rest of them and they don't want to speak to me anymore. You should try to relax and just talk to me. I'll be your friend. My kik is Kori_Rice and I promise I'll talk to you. I'm here for you and I promise I'll never leave because I know how you feel. You're not alone.
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Life is not over yet, the beauty of it is you can choose however many new beginnings you want. There are no rules telling you that you aren't allowed to start over. Friends come and unfortunately they go as well. But being so you you will have so many more opportunities to make new friends, school, work, when you have your very own apartment or house there are so many things you can do that will help your social life too. Whenever you feel down in the dumps, try doing something kind for someone else. It will turn negative thoughts into positive ones and helping other people will surely put some good luck into your life. As for school, don't be afraid to speak with your teacher for extra work or tutoring and if you have a mountain of homework to catch up on always start with the stuff that's due first and then if you have time afterwards do what's been due the longest. Never try to do it all in one shot, even stay in during recesses to show the teacher you are trying. My brother had the same problem and he is going into high school next year. We fixed it. Always tell yourself when you feel low, "this is not the end. Life goes on and things will not be like this forever." Always try your hardest to look at the bright side of things. If your friends left you, they don't know what they're missing and maybe they aren't your forever friends if they're gone because of something you can't control, just know there's a better script out there and you're the lead role. This life is yours so grab it by the horns and smile young one. There is so much yet to learn of the world and I even find that I learn new things every day. You can talk to me if you ever need to.
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Hey there!
First of all, boys can cause a great deal of pain to a girl. A ten year old should not have a boyfriend, it's way too young, as you can see the effect it's having on you. That's my opinion. I know one thing, ever since I have started being involved with boys, life has been full of drama and breakups and terrible heartbreak. A ten year old is not strong enough to deal with this. Most relationships end. Even while they last, relationships have huge fights. Part of the reason you are depressed and suicidal is because you say your friends hate each other and fight, well in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships it's not all roses, and there is a lot of fighting, sometimes more brutal fighting than platonic fighting. A ten year old does not need drama like that in her life.
As you go through life, and at ten years old you have your whole life ahead of you, you will find these situations of breakups, and friends fighting, and bad grades keep repeating themselves again and again and again. It's very, truly depressing and painful, but life goes on and the bad situations do pass and get better. Life is very hard sometimes, and very fantastic sometimes. Life is beautiful, but life is not a bowl of cherries, but we learn to deal with the hard parts, because it only makes us stronger.
I think you have learnt from an early age how life is very, very unfair sometimes. At ten years old, I had no friends. When I got older, I made great friends, and then I lost them ALL. It has torn me apart and also made me very depressed. My predicaments of my youngers years have turned me into an amazing, kind, understanding person and friend today and my friends are crazy about me.
You NEED to talk to your parents about how you feel, because you need someone to help you. When we feel depressed like this, it's really very hard to believe that things will get better. But they will. I still remember being ten, and that was almost ten years ago, and now I am so much stronger and content with who I am because of my very difficult past.
So remember:
When we get depressed we need to reach out for help. Talk to your parents or school counselor about how you feel. You can also keep a journal and write down your feelings. I really don't think you are ready to date at ten years old. Boys at that age are just horny. Surround yourself with good friends, and work hard for good grades, and never give up! Life gets better and the pain always passes. Now is the time to learn what you will do when life gives you lemons. I used to squeeze the lemons in people's eyes, but a very dear friend has taught me to make wine and say "magic!"
And magic will happen once you get help and focus on yourself and getting better, because you do not deserve to be in the kind of unimaginable pain people that hurts themselves are in. Nobody deserves that.
I wish you all the best always!
xoxo
~alexisgirlie
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In your age group people are still finding out who fits with their personality and ways of thinking so you find friends change as you're developing your own characters. This is nothing to worry about, it's completely normal and will lead you to finding friends that could last a lifetime. The boyfriend is much the same, it hurts at the time and you feel you will never get over it but you will. For now, you're testing, seeing who fits, much like finding a comfortable pair of shoes. You have to try a few usually before you find the right ones.
The bad grades, the cutting and suicidal thoughts are of more immediate concern. You need to talk to someone you trust, whether it's a relative, teacher, counsellor or another reliable adult. You need to sort out the reason for the drop in grades, is this the main cause of the cutting and the thoughts? If you had good grades before there's no reason why you can't again. You just need to find the reason for the drop and deal with it. This you can do with the help of a teacher, talk to one and get the answers you need.
Cutting can be a way of releasing emotional pain that you feel you can't express in any other way. The problem (other than the obvious harming aspect of it) is that it doesn't really work, the relief doesn't last long and will make you feel worse about yourself long term. It makes you more secretive and it's harder for you to reach once it's started. It also feeds the suicidal thoughts so you really do need to find help for both and quickly.
If you feel you can't talk to someone face to face, write a letter. Putting it down on paper or sending an email might even help you sort things out in your own mind a little. Whatever way you decide is best for you, you must talk to someone and soon. Don't try carrying this burden alone, it's too heavy. You have a whole lifetime of amazing and unexpected events in your future, make the decision to live it and enjoy it all. Get help now!
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I am sorry that you seem to have a little bit of a rough time. I can tell you that you are so young and you'll meet plenty of boys and date plenty of boys... you are so young and most boys will not mature until they are in their late 20's. My advice to you is to have guy friends, but no boyfriends until you are a older. At this point in your life, you aren't going to marry that boy. Chances are even if you were 18 in high school you most likely would not marry that boy. Just have fun. Focus on school. Grades are important, talk to your teachers and see what you can do to get your grades up. A lot of teachers offer extra credit. As far as your friends go, they will come around. Girls fight like cats and dogs. One minute they are the best of friends and the next they hate each other. Just try to not let it affect your mood so much. I know that you have been friends for a while, but, try to find some new friends to be around. Have several different friends. Friends who are different, and like different things. PLEASE PLEASE do not harm yourself. Cutting does not solve your problems and it can be VERY dangerous. Please seek some help, talk to a professional who can help you to be happy. Look in the mirror at least once a day and say something positive like "I am beautiful" "Today is going to be a great day" "I am happy" Continue with positive thoughts and before you know it you'll be happy! Please call this number 1 (800) 273-8255. This is the national suicide hotline and they are so kind and willing to help you! Suicide is not the answer, it won't solve your problems and it will hurt so many people around you, more than you know. If you need anything else, feel free to message me.
BE HAPPY, YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL! :)
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Being 10 years old and depressed is not a good thing. This is my advice for you.
1. If you are getting bad grades you need to bring them up. This may mean that you need to get a tutor. If you do this first however, I guarantee people will stop making fun of you or at least about your grades. Show them who is wrong! (ALSO IF THEY CONTINUE, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. JUST DONT FIGHT THEM)
2. Get new friends. I know this might seem hard to believe, but there is more people out there! You can easily get better friends that will make you feel good about yourself.
3. Forget about boys! I know that dating may seem really cool right now, but it isn't. If you have someone at this age that you want to date, it is much better to be close friends with them.
If you do all of these things, most likely you won't be having suicidal thoughts anymore. Also, if you really want to kill yourself, think about it, not only will you hurt yourself, but the people who love you. IS IT REALLY WORTH IT?
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These things are normal things that happen in life. They shouldn't make you depressed. It's normal to feel sad over losing friends and people you care about, but to get suicidal is too far.
Because what you're going through, it doesn't last. Your situations will be better and different in the future.
So this isn't about your situation. Everyone goes through break ups, everyone loses friends, everyone gets made fun of. Sadly, you shouldn't accept people making fun of you. That's something that you need to talk to an adult about.
But more importantly, you need to get help for your suicidal thoughts.
You need to talk to a teacher, a parent, and counselor. Any adult that can get you the help you need.
If anything, call the suicide hotline number.
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I've been there sweetie. I'm very sorry to hear you're going through all this. I know you don't want to hear this but you're still very young and even if you loved this guy a lot. You'll find someone so much better for you as you grow older. As for the friends fighting and you losing them is all a part of growing up. Sometime in everyone's life we grow apart from our friends and this is the time of your life where you'll find out who your real friends are and who aren't. It's all a hurtful process to go through but this gives you the opportunity to go out meet new friends. My advice to you would be find a hobby you love and join a club or organization. You'll meet new friends there and possibly a new guy you could possibly date ;) and don't fret so much about your report card, if you truly need to raise your grades up get tutored in the subjects you need help with. As for cutting yourself honey please don't do that to yourself it's not safe and if you did die you'd miss out on a life of your own you could create in the future and that would be a waste. Also see a counselor or psychologist to get the help you need. I've struggled with depression all my life and counselors do help. My point is this is your life. Don't throw it away. You have so much aHead of you. It's you who makes the decision to be happy. Would you rather be happy or depressed? It's up to you. Hope this helps :)
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You are ten years old and have a long life ahead of you and you should not be having suicidal thoughts. In my life, I have noticed that friends will come and go and as you get old most of your friend will turn against you, sad to say. But there is a way for you to get you friends back. I don't know what you have done to have lost them or if anything at all. You should talk to them and ask them why they left you. If you haven't done anything wrong that you know of then tell them, but if you don't talk to them you will not know why they aren't talking to you. You could be sending a vide that doesn't quite fit with them, be more open. Your friend could just need a little bit of space as well. You should try to make new friends. You will have a ton of break ups in your life so don't let your first break up get in down. Just think about how great it'll feel when you have finally found the one that you are going to marry, 10, 20, years down the road. Don't let your bullies get the best of you, ignore them and understand that what other people say to you shouldn't matter, it only matters what you think of yourself. If the bullying get way out of hand then you should tell a teacher or the principal and if they are doing their job correctly then it should be taken care of. Your depression can make every small problem turn into a big one, and most likely the cause of your bad grades. Prove to everyone how smart you are. You are beautiful inside and out, don't let you depression strike you down, rise above all the bad things that has happened in your life and prove to everyone how much of a strong person you can be and how you can become successful even though you've has a rough life. The thing that might help is joining group or club at school, get more involved in your school. Find something that interests you and just do it. Make goals in your life big and small, and then try you best to complete them. I think you should talk to your parents more about what is going on, even though you might think that they don't understand, they do and they care a lot about you, and most importantly they do help. Spend more time with your family members as well, being with others that care about you will help your mood a lot. I think also that you should talk to a therapist if you are having bad suicidal thoughts. You are worth more than you know and just know that I care about you and don't want you to be suffering or do anything stupid. I hope my advice can help you and I will keep you in my prayers! :)
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I can't help you. You aren't old enough to be on the site.
You're too young to be dating though.
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Oh honey, don't you worry. It gets so much better. You are at a difficult age and ever thing seems like the end of the end of the world, but it really isn't. You have so much to look forward to, trust me on this.
It hurts to lose friends but truth is that it will happen over and over again. You can't stop caring bout life just because things didn't go the way you wanted.this is going to happen a lot. Too.you must learn to shake it off and roll with the punches life throws at you.
I really don't und er stand how cutting yourself will help.you will regret putting marks on your body cause you will have to explain these marks to your kids one day.
I'm sending you a big hug. Please stick around...it would crush your family and ruin thier lives if you killed yourself. You are just bout to be a teenager. ..that's when life gets fun!
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Lots of times people your age aren't exactly depressed. Or for the right reasons. ( you can be). I'm sure you don't want to hear you aren't really depressed but it may be the case.
Losing a bf at 10 and a few friends isn't well " depressing" I know I don't know what your going through but I'm 11 and the worst thing you can do is exaggerate your problems. If you exaggerate the little problems now and it makes you cut. What happens when you get a serious boyfriend? Or a lifelong friend? Lose a job and can't pay bills? If losing a bed now makes you cut what happens when something really serious happens? Tell someone. When you do don't say I lost my best friends and my serious bf then go into the cuts and thoughts. Tell them that you have a problem. The problem isn't that you lost a friend because you know you can make new ones. Or at this age get them back. That isn't the problem anymore because you know the solution. Neither is the bf get him back or find a new one. It isn't a problem if the solution is clear. The problem is that Things effect you more than they should. Cutting isn't about depression because no form of depression can cutting be appropriate for. So not this.
And as far as suicide talk to someone or a therapist your parents keep in mind to tell them that little things bother you a lot.
All problems are temporarily there. No problem is without a solution. Its inevitable to have problems. But suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem.
I mean let's say you poisoned yourself and it took 5 hours to " work" as in kill you. Would you have regrets? Yea you probably would. So if you have regrets it shouldn't happen which you do.
And do you have something to live for? If not find something. YouTube, Club, Heck even school.
Hope that helped honest. But it may not be what you want to hear but what you need to hear
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If you are the age that you say you are, you are way too young for a boyfriend. You need to grow up first before you think you can bring somebody else in to your life. It's okay, you are still young and can still find other friends, just be yourself.
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Many red flags here, you need to, first of all, talk to your parents! They need to know whats going on in your life, they should be your first line of defense.
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I am so sorry for what your going through. I myself, also cut, and it's not easy to get past. My advice for that, I'd try to put a goal for how long you will make sure you go without cutting. I took some test online, and believe I have clinical depression. The best thing to do, is talk to someone you can trust. Even if it's online. My first suicidal thought was around your age, and I kept it secret, and at age 12, I attempted it. I didn't trust to tell anyone, and you should tell at least one person, so they can help you. I don't want you making attempts like I did. I am sorry about the breakup, but there will be someone out there for you. Any time I have doubts I read some pages of LGMH--love gives me hope. People write pages of things that happen to them and one said "any time you feel you will never find true love, just think-- There is someone out there trying to find you, as much as your trying to find him/her." As for your friends fighting, it depends on how severe the fight is, as to how easy it will be to get them together again. The best thing to do, Is get the whole story from each of them, one at a time and see their point of view. Then maybe move on to the next one and talk to him or her and explain the situation. It may not be easy, but over time, they may cool down and be ready to hear sides of the story. And try not to let the poor grades bother you too much. I make poor grades myself, and I know it'll be hard to just ignore the comments people make. Sometimes those with depression make poor grades because they can't focus or concentrate and it makes listening in class and studying so much harder than those without it. A few times it may be the other way around, like some try to focus on school so they can forget their other worries, like one friend of mine. With feeling suicidal, please call 1-800-273-TALK. It's a suicidal helpline. If you don't get help, believe me, it will become worse than just thoughts. I often go on YouTube and watch videos made by Kati Morton, and she makes videos of how to deal with depression. She is a therapist, and her videos seem to help me. And whatever you do, stay away from drugs and alcohol. I haven't done it, but there was a time I was desperately wanting to try it. You may get to that stage if you haven't already, but those are only depressants. I'm sorry I couldn't help more, since I've also been trying to figure out what to do with my depression, but if you want more help, or even just need someone to talk to, you can talk with me here, or have a private conversation on google+. I go by the name Jasmine Jones online, and I would be happy to talk with you anytime you need someone and do my best to help you in any way I can. God bless. Stay strong💛
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This site is only for people 13 years old and older. We have to delete your question remove you from the site.
Please tell your parents that you are depressed so they can take you to a doctor. It sounds like you could use some help.
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