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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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Well it all depends on what your opinion of losing your virginity is. For example, some lesbians never have the 'making babies kind of sex' yet they aren't seen as virgins. It would appear that you're very sexually active, but if you class losing your virginiry (like a lot of people do) as when you have sexual intercourse, then technically you are. But if I were you I'd tell him that you've been sexual active in the past, but haven't engaged in sexual intercourse. Hope this helps.
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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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Well when you lose someone you love, it's very hard and I don't know how long your boyfriend's ex has been dead- but he's probably still grieving for her like you said. I think that maybe he isn't ready to be in a relationship with someone else, and that you should talk to him. Just tell him that you love him and understand that what he's going through is hard, but it's hard for you when you feel that your boyfriend is still in love with his ex. Just talk to him about it and see what he says. Personally I think that maybe you two should take a step back and wait until your boyfriend is fully ready to commit to a new relationship. Your boyfriend is probably sad and lonely, and will need you for support but maybe a romantic relationship isn't the best idea at this time, despite your feelings for each other- as he obviously isn't ready. I hope things work out.
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Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself (link)
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Everyone is different, and as hard as it may be you've just got to accept yourself and not fall victim to the peer pressure of not being yourself. I am like you, quite shy- very childish and crazy, and all of my friends are. I know it may be hard but trust me, you will make friends like you. I know you're in a tough place right now, but don't give up on the idea of making friends. At the end of the day you'll have a better time waiting a little while until you find the right friend who you'll have a great time being yourself with, than a load of fake friends who you have nothing in common with. I wish you good luck, trust me, whether it's now or in a while you'll find some good friends as as hard as it may seem there are people similar to you out there.
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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
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Well I think it's great that you're passionate about something and want to devote your life to it. I would suggest maybe making videos on YouTube or something, or maybe even creating a website devoted to your cause. And maybe starting a club so you'll have help. If you're up for it maybe you could do an assembly at school. There's loads of ways to go about it, whatever you're comfortable with. And remember, you don't have to have millions of people hearing your views to make a difference, I wish you could luck. :)
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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Okay, I completely understand what you're going through. Speaking from someone who has self harmed in the past and suffered with depression- I would defiantly advise you to seek help from a professional. I know it seems scary and a waste of time, but trust me it does help. I went to my gp to get tested for depression. She referred me to a counciling service for troubled teens in my local area. I went expecting it to be a waste of time, but it really helped me out. Things like that don't always work for everyone, but it did for me- and its better to try it before things get worse. It seems like you've hit a dark bit in your life, but you're only ten- so trust me, you've got plenty of time to make things better. I don't have much context about you, like why you lost your friends, or why your boyfriend and you broke up. My advice to you would be to speak to an adult you trust, be it your parents, a teacher, etcetera. There are people like councillors specifically trained to help people like you. If you do already recicve some sort of counciling and it's not working, or you don't want to do something like that- then you're welcome to message me again with futher details about your problems, so we can try and work out some way to overcome them. I know how you feel, I've been there before- but with some help I'm sure you can get into a better place than you are now. If you do decide to message me again, then I can help you with your friendship issues/ relationship issues, and alternative methods to cutting, etcetera. I can even help you with some of your school work if you want, I'm one of the top of my class at my school. Whatever you decide to do, I hope it works out. :)
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Personally, I have been very miserable all of my life. I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember. I moved from New York to Florida when I was five years old. It was very traumatic for me. I have tried to commit suicide, but I just ended up in a mental institution. I do see a psychiatrist, but she does not help me. In fact, I only see her for the medication. I am absolutely miserable right now, especially with my job. I decided that I will no longer give any types of hints about suicide because I don't want to end up in a mental institution again. That did nothing to help me. I am going through preparations (getting my house ready, cleaning, trying to pay off bills). (link)
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I know how you feel. But there are people that care about you. People who commit suicide don't want to die- they just want the pain to stop. Try different methods. Please don't do it!!! If you feel like you've got someone who cares about you, then I can tell you that I care. Yes you don't know me, but from personal experience I know what you're going through, just don't. It doesn't make the problems go away, it just eliminates the chance of things getting better. Say the day after you plan to kill yourself, the love of your life comes around- do you really want to miss that chance? You obviously have some will to live, otherwise you wouldn't have come on here and would have just done it. I know you don't wanna go back, and you might not- especially if it didn't work. Just. Please. Don't. Do. It.
My friend says this:
I completely understand what you're going though, even though I may not've had the exact same circumstances as you, I too know what it's like to plan your own murder, but don't because even though you may feel as though nobody cares, they do and if you think that killing yourself ends that pain and it's gone forever, you're wrong, it may end /your/ personal suffering, but it just passes it on to someone close to you, and it may be that they are perfectly happy. Now I don't want to bullshit you with things that everyone will say such as 'it gets better!!' But it seriously does, if something In your life is distressing you, making you unhappy and you can and are able to change it, I suggest that you do so because maybe that one thing can help you realise that this world is a beautiful place. Find your art, whether it's physical art (drawing etc) or something such as biological studies, find something that you are good and and preoccupy yourself with it because that is a very important thing to do, the less time you think about your own death, the more you begin to realise that it is not the option. I really hope that this can help you in any way, and if it can't you can always call someone who is there for this specific reason, if you don't know the number for your country or something, it's only a quick internet search away.
And yes, please speak to some one right away, stay strong x
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me. (link)
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Okay, so I understand that you want a more serious relationship- but I wouldn't suggest having sex with him at such a young age. If you really want sex then just try masterbating or something like that. I can almost guarantee that in years to come, you'll regret doing anything you did sexually at this age. As you are so young, boys aren't really interested in being serious at this age. From personal experience I can tell you that the majority of boys at your age, just want a girlfriend for the sake of having a girlfriend. If there's no chemistry between you, then just break up with him. I know that you want a boyfriend. Lots of girls do, but going out for the sake of him is pointless, and especially if you only want sex with him. I'd say just forget about the boys, as hard as it may be. If you really feel the urges to have sex, don't throw yourself at people. Just keep it to yourself for a while. Just concentrate on school and more important things, and then maybe later on in life you'll find a boyfriend that you really love, and will want to be with for a while. There's no point having sex with someone if you don't love them, it's just pointless then. I hope things work out, and I hope that things get better!
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Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you. (link)
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Okay, so it really depends on how well you can handle things. If you really can't take the guilt- then you're going to have to tell him. But if you can just try to forget about it, then do. There's not really anything to gain out of telling him. I know that it's always good to be honest, but some things are better left unsaid. But if you do tell him it will probably destroy the relationship, as he won't be able to trust you in the same way. I'm not going to lie and say that he'll forgive you and everything will be okay, but if you really can't handle the guilt then it's better if you do tell him. I will warn you that it may come back to haunt you, so be prepared incase (for some reason) he does find out from someone else. It would be better to hear it from you- but it would be best not to hear it at all. If you have to tell him, make sure you stress that you did it just to get it over with- not because you're in love with the other guy. At the end of the day we all make mistakes, and these things happen. But whatever you decide to do, I hope things work out- and I hope this helped! :)
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My wife and I have been married for 47 years. Admittedly shew has made some good financial decisions over the years but now I am concerned about something very serious. We have approximately 95,000.00 in nth stock amrket. ait goes up and down, most.y down lately. I want it all sold and the money put into the bank where it never goes down. She refuses and I hate confrontation. She will simply not talk about it. I asked her one question that I thought would seal the sell it all deal. "Is there more of a chance of it getting to 100,000 or going to 80,000.00"? we've all seen the crashes and we're to old to go through another one. What do you suggest? (link)
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As you've been married for so long- you (more than anyone) will know when she's in a good mood or a bad mood. When she's in a good mood sit her down and just tell her that you're worried about this and it needs sorting out. If she walks away or tries to change the subject you're going to have to confront her. As this is a serious matter and it can't be avoided, we all have to do things that we don't like. And it's not like you haven't tried to be civil. So just try to be calm and talk it out- but you probably are just going to have to deal with the fact that you need to confront her about this. I hope this helped, and I hope things get better! ☺️
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So this girl, lets just call her c. We've been friends for a long time, and she knows i really, really like her, but she's dating someone else. I feel like ever since she started dating another guy, I feel like my love for her is poison to our friendship, and we are drifting apart. I don't want to lose her, but I don't want to hurt her feelings either. I love her, but the more I love her, the harder it is for our relationship to work out. Then, there is another girl I'm good friends with, I recently just met her. lets call her k. K likes me, I can tell, and I think I like her too, but my feelings with c are holding me back from k. I don't ever want to hurt k's feelings, and i feel like i am making k like me more without meaning to. Even if kate and I worked out, it would be an online relationship, like instagram and skype you know, and C and I live next door from eachother :( I just need help, please, from a girl. someone who is good with this stuff... (link)
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Hmm... This is quite a tough situation. It would be quite difficult to move on from c, with the fact that you live next door to her. But even if you don't see k as much- I defiantly think that you should move forward with her, especially as you said that she likes you. You've got to accept that c isn't available. I know that it's easier said than done- I myself had a huge crush on my best friend, it hurt me so much when he started going out with another person. I never told him how I feel; and as all three of us are in the same classes, I felt really awkward. And I'm not going to lie- it was crap, having to see him with someone else when I wanted to be with him. But I just tried my best to move on. And I still get moments where I still get feelings for him, when you're in love with someone it's unlikely that the feelings will go away. But I pushed them feelings to the back of my mind and just had to get on with things. But you and k obviously have a connection. And that's what makes our situations different because you have k who you like, so it's not like you're completely alone... Just go for it, see how it goes with k and I can almost guarantee that after being with k for a bit you won't be thinking about c as much. Like I said before, you're still probably going to have moments where you have strong feelings for c- but you'll have k to invest your feelings in, and if you give it a chance; then I'm sure that you'll get closer with k. But if you still feel strongly about c after being with k for a bit, then I suggest that you break it off with her- as that wouldn't be fair for k. But if it did come to that, just try to not let it get you down- and I'm sure that whether it's k, another special person, or even eventually c- you'll find someone who's right for you :)
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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Hi! So if you want to avoid flirting, here's a link to a place that covers most of the ways to avoid flirting:
http://m.wikihow.com/Avoid-Flirting
I hope this helped :)
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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I think that we've all been in an awkward situation where we've lied about something and then have to confess the truth. It's not nice. I don't really know much about your relationship (e.g. How long you've been together, if your relationship was happy etcetera). So it makes this a little harder to answer, as if it was a long term relationship or a short term one- then is give you different advice for each scenario... But if it was long term then just give it a day or two to let him clear his head; I know that it's not nice to be lied to but I think he may of blown this a little bit out of proportion. Whereas. If you haven't been dating that long, then he doesn't know you as well, and won't be able to see that this was a long time thing. Did you actually break the handle, or just try to fix it because it broke on its own? But regardless of what happened, it wasn't like you didn't try to if it. So just give it a day- then you need to say this face to face:
I'm really sorry for lying to you, I know that it was stupid, but I just got nervous of what you'd do if you found out, I was just scared and worried that I'd lose you- and I guess that that's back fired; but can you please just give me one more chance where I promise from the bottom if my heart I will be completely honest. Please, I don't want to lose one of the greatest things to happen to me in my life.
And if he doesn't take you back after that then I'm afraid there's not much else you can do...
I hope things work out, and I hope this helped!
Lea Wills x
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hey, so there's this girl. AMAZING and i am so in love with her, and she has known for a long time. we have had drama and stuff about us, it all just seems like one messed up fairy tale waiting to come to an end. a few months ago, she told me that she liked me but wasn't sure if she would date me yet. i was fine with that answer and was determined to get her to love me the same, until the day she told me she chose another guy over me. that's when the drama started, but we've moved past that and she is still my great friend. Now she's thinking about breaking up with the other guy, but I'm not sure if it's for me. She said maybe one day soon her love for me will grow stronger, so I want to win her back. I even got into a fight with her bf tonight haha. anyways, i just need help on how to do it? i would prefer a girls advice please because i need a girls opinion on what they would do in this situation thanks and sorry that it's so long. (link)
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Hey! So I am a girl (as requested) and I think it's really cute that you're trying to win her back, but maybe fighting with her bf isn't the best way to go about it (lol). If I were you, I would wait and see whether she ends the relationship with this other guy or not. If she does then great, if she doesn't then not so great. If she doesn't chose to end the relationship then just let it be, I know how cliché this sounds- but if you love her as much as you claim you do, then you'll let her do what she wants to do- rather than trying to force her to be in a relationship with you. It sounds to me like she does love you back, but maybe she's scared of these feelings and started dating this other guy as a distraction, but I don't know as I'm not a mind reader. But if she does break it off with this other guy then don't jump straight into asking her out agin (unless she wants to date you straight away) as you don't want to be jumping relationships. Just ease back a little, and if it will be it will be, you can still be good friends and reminder her that your feelings haven't changed every so often, and see how it goes. I hope you two get together, and I hope this helped! :)
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Hello,I would like to ask if masturbation is a sin or not because my boyfriend and I have decided to wait till marriage for us to have sex. I'm only 16 years old (girl) and get horny every now and then. Is there a way I can control my hormones without sinning? (link)
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I don't think that masturbation is a sin! I think that it's healthy to masturbate every now and then,and I personally don't think you should feel bad about it... :)
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Ok i am a 12 1/2 year old girl and I love a boy and he loves me too. Should I date him? Am I to young? Simone please help me. (link)
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No way Hun! Go for it, I had a bf when I was 12, and younger... I'm not sure whether it's 'love' or not, but it never hurts to experiment- good luck! :)
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My husband and I have been married for over a year now. He is a spender and I am a penny pincher. However, when it comes to the holidays I like to spend freely. For Christmas he was against having a budget planned so we didn’t know how much we spent on each other. I spent probably over $200 on him. Luckily he left all the price tags on my presents and it amounted to about $80. Perhaps I’m the Grinch but what really bothers me is he spends so much on himself outside of the holidays.
He spends over $200 a month eating out, over the past few months he bought himself a new computer for about $2,000 for his computer games, then another $300 on his other toys per a month. For Christmas I felt he spent more time, money and effort buying for his friends than on me and our families. And I spent more time and effort finding gifts for his and my family.
When these events happen I start dwelling on other things. Like the fact my wedding band cost $35 and I spent over $200 on his. My engagement ring was given to him. When I add up the figures it really gets to me and I start thinking of him as a selfish fat pig. When I bring up the topic of money it turns into hurt feelings and an argument. Maybe I have a justice system complex. I feel left out, hurt, clueless and at a loss what to do.
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I think the best thing for you to do, would be to sit down and talk to your husband about this. It may cause an argument but it's better to tell him how you feel, because it's obviously making you sad. You both married because you love each other and if he really does love you then he should be able to sit down and find a way to work this out as you aren't happy at the moment, and your happiness should be very important to him.
I hope this helped, and I hope things get better :)
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A couple days ago I got a call from an unfamiliar number. It was a guy who said hi and when I asked who he was, he said I was supposed to be the girl he was talking to on facebook. I said I wasn't he said sorry and hung up. This happened again but he phoned with a different number. Now every morning when I look at my phone, I have some missed calls always from different numbers. The numbers are definitely from my country and they don't seem like scam numbers. Should I call them back and say they have the wrong number???? Or should I just block all the numbers? (link)
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You should definitely block the numbers- if you've already told him that he's got the wrong number then he should leave you alone; if this continues to happen then I suggest you tell an adult (if you aren't one yourself). And (if it continues to happen) you should even tell the police as this counts as harassment...
I hope this helped and I hope that things get better :)
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So recently I got in touch with my father and we didn't talk much because I'm really shy and when I meet new people and it takes awhile for me to get used to them. For christmas he gave me a really expensive gift that I was not expecting and because of it I shielded away even more because it felt kind of like he was trying to buy his way into my life and I have now not talked to him for a couple of weeks not even daring to go on facebook because of him. Today I did dare and I shared a few things and kept the tab open while I went to do other stuff. When I looked back I saw I had a message from him and it said "What, you can't talk to me now?" and now I feel horrible but I also feel he is being rather rude about it and I don't know what to do and if someone could please help me I would be forever grateful. (link)
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I don't know all of the circumstances, but I dont think that you should feel bad about it- it's natural to feel shy around new people, especially as he is your dad! I do think that he could have been a bit nicer in his message to you... I think the best thing to do would be to message him back and explain to him that you are a really shy person and that the expensive gift overwhelmed you a bit- if he is a nice person then he should understand and hopefully things will be sorted out
I hope this helped, and I hope things get better :)
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I have an anxiety disorder, and this year the bus route changed and my ex boyfriend, the girl who hates me and spreads rumors about me, and my old best friend, who my ex left me for, is on the bus. I have a panic attack every time I go on, I can't handle it, I have to ask for rides before and after school everyday (it's a 20 min drive) from my parents and older sister everyday and they are tired of it. I have to pay for the gas money, and I don't even have a job and I'm running out of money. And sometimes when I call my parents to see if anyone can drive me, they get so annoyed and force me to take the bus.
At the beginning of the year I thought my panic attacks would eventually go away, but they never did.
I don't know what to do. I once waited 4 hours to get a ride, then to take the bus I'm so desperate. Does anyone have any advice?
And no the school won't let me switch buses, I asked.
I just can't go on the rest of the school year like this. (link)
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Well I'd just like to start by saying that I feel really sorry for you :(
I don't see why the school wont let you switch buses, I think that that's very unfair...
I can imagine that you have already talked to your parents about this, but maybe if you get them to talk to the school and demand that you get to switch buses, as you have an anxiety disorder the school should have let you switched buses when you asked, but if your parents ask then maybe the school will listen
all I can say is to keep persisting with asking to switch buses, as you have the right to...
I hope things get better :)
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