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I want sex but I'm nine and me and my boyfriend aren't that serious
I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me.
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Wait. You haven't even finished puberty yet. It is too early for you to be having sex, and guys your age are only going to use you for it, whether they don't seem like it or not. This is more than just some act, trust me, and you are going to resent whoever you do it with right now. Just wait, or you'll probably regret it in the future.
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Stop thinking about sex think about your future, that is better, guys will come when you serious about your life that what guys want.
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Worry about school and get your education. Your way to young to be having sex. Your still a kid. Most importantly what if you were to get pregnant at your age.
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Lordy girl just wait! Sex isn't all its made out to be, it's awesome with a person you love.
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I know having sex seems like the best or cool thing to do but trust me when I say you want your fIrst time to be with someone you love and not someone you're not serious about. I know this for a fact because I lost my virginity to a guy I wasn't serious about when I was 19 and I still wish I would have waited for the right person. It's up to you what you decide to do but that's one thing I'll always regret is not waiting for the right person to lose my virginity to.
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I like how an identical question with a different age was posted minutes after this one. A+ 10/10 would be trolled again.
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Sorry sweetheart if you were looking for an answer from me telling you how to convince your boyfriend to have sex with you, you've come to the wrong place. I understand that at your age your hormones are going bonkers on you and getting physical seems like a "logical" and "mature" next step to take in a relationship but you aren't ready for that yet. You are barely out of puberty and have your entire life to have sex and fool around with guys but you should wait until you are older and more mature to handle something like that. And when you finally do have sex it should be with someone you care deeply about and you know he feels the same way back. I'm not saying wait until marriage or you are in love because that's not always realistic but make sure you are educated and safe. Especially someone as young as yourself should learn the risks of having sex too young or really at any time you decide to get intimate with someone , like pregnancy, std's etc.
If you still have strong sexual urges there are other ways to satisfy yourself (and trust me sometimes these way are a lot more skilled then the men you'll sleep with) such as with a vibrator or electric tooth brush (which you can buy at any store like walmart or shoppers) Please just think long and hard about what you are doing and with who, sometimes mistakes likes these can haunt you for life.
If you need anymore advice please feel free to message me :) hopefully I've helped.
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You have just started your puberty. It may be not yet the time to have sex. The lowest age of consent is 15 as far as I know in some other countries. That is just a mere infatuation of what you have felt towards your boyfriend and your ex's because you are still 13, you don't know yet what is really a love. If you are really eager to have sex with your boyfriend, it is best to not do it yet. You would be more likely get depressed after having sex. Think of some factors that might affect you after having sex with him. What if he'll blurt into the whole class after what happened, what if he is kiss-and-tell?, what if he'll dump you and worst of all what if you'll have unprotected sex? You may not want to face those consequences after entering into a sensual bodily contact. You are not yet emotionally ready for that honey. You are still young.
Studies have shown that girls aged 16 below that tend to have sex with their boyfriends are more likely to be depressed for some various factor that affect it. I mentioned those some of the factors.
I understand your desire because I've been through to it too. The safest and the easiest way to satisfy you with your desire is to just masturbate. In that way, you won't get pregnant and or have STD's. It'll help you feel pleasure and greatness as the surge of dopamine and serotonin in your brain will increase- those are the neurochemicals. That way is safe and healthy.
Feel free to reach me dear.
'blueheart'
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First of all you are really young to be thinking about that and at this age you would surely regret it when you get older. If the relationship your in is not serious it doesn't make any sense doing it, you would be left disappointed and for sure not satisfied.
You are still young so please don't take advantage of your body just because it looks exciting we don't always have to listen to what our body's are asking for.
P.S It's better done with someone you love.
Hope I helped in some way.
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Okay, well here's the first thing:
You're nine years old, you shouldn't even be dating. That's way too young to be in a relationship. You shouldn't even be having sex at this age.
You're way too young to anything "serious".
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So basically you won't a man for sex…
by you saying that your still going through puberty you must be young… and your in school? the best thing to do my love is focus on yourself.. in your little bright mind you might say your not young.. but the best thing to do at this age is not worry about boys because from experience and how things are in 2015 these teenage or even preteen flings don't last you should try taming yourself before things get out of hand darling.. i could tell you this it will feel zoo much better to save that for someone who really loves you and care about your feelings.. a "boyfriend" now could be your worst enemy later. and just if you don't take this advice to heart.. practice safe sex my love.. and don't treat men as objects because somewhere in the future you will see how it feels all women go through it.. value your self baby… sex is not what should keep a relationship together… your better and stronger you are a female…. do me a favor…. look up FE on the periodic table of elements and I'm pretty sure you know what male mean.. when you put that together you will come to find we are much stronger and stronger and stronger then men we are FEMALES be safe sorry i can't help you more than this angel
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well you should wait you still young live your life first , then when you get older you will understand what its like i waited till i was 18 . cause if your parents finds out that you had sex they probably will be mad, i think you should wait till youre 18 so you can make your own decisions. let him know youre not ready and that you should wait till your 18 .
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I'm sorry you're going through this honey, its sounds really frustrating... Sexually frustrating! Not to worry, it happens to the best of us. If I were you, I would put partnered sex on the shelf for a year or so and focus on having really great sex with myself. Your body is dying to be pleased so this is a perfect opportunity to learn how to do that.
Are you close with your mother? Do you have an older sister you're close and honest with? Basically, would one of them help you to get a sex toy to masturbate with? At your age, boys are not where you are yet, in terms of puberty. Some of them might be, like your ex, but for the most part they will catch up with you in a couple years or so. That is probably why you are much more interested in sex than your current boyfriend. If you want to keep dating him and learning about the social and companion part of relationships then go for it. If you feel generally unfulfilled and depressed, tell him you would rather just be friends. Believe me, there is no shame in being single and in the next 1-3 years the tides will turn. The boys will grow taller, thicker and start getting facial hair. They'll look much more like men and their sex drive will become equal to or greater than yours. I know it might seem hard or frustrating now, but take this time to learn about your own body and learn how to masturbate. Then when partnered sex becomes more of the "norm" in your peer group, you can show the boys how to please you. You will actually be doing a favor to women everywhere by doing this!!! SERIOUSLY! Men learn to please themselves very easily and some never learn how to please women, it's very sad. If you have an older person in your life that is open minded and willing to help you get a vibrator or dildo, I highly recommend getting assistance on this. Make sure it's someone you trust, that is understanding and error on the side of females. Don't go asking any older men that you know, they might get the wrong idea. Here is a link for young women wanting to learn about and explore their bodies and sexuality. Maybe it can be a jumping off point for you.
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The next thing you need to be aware of is safe sexual practices. when you start finding more and more young men that want to have sex these are some precautions you should take.
1. Use condoms, they the quickest and easiest way to protect your self from STI's and pregnancy. They can be bought at any grocery or convenience store. If you start a long term sexual relationship, you can talk to your doctor about birth control.
2. Make sure you're selecting partners that you trust and that are respectful to you. If a boy is unwilling to have a conversation about condom use and safe sex, that is a good sign that you should NOT have sex with him.
3. If a man/partner is ever doing anything you don't like or don't feel comfortable with SPEAK UP! This is your body, and your choice. No one can take that from you. NO means NO! If your partner is ever disrespectful of you saying no, or ignores it, tell him you're going to report him to the police. Not respecting someones sexual boundaries is a crime, it's called RAPE. Your consent and choice is the key ingredient to a good time, remember to own it girl! (This is another great way to do a big favor to women everywhere!)
Good luck honey, please let me know if you have anymore questions.
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wow...i think that you need to take a step back and think what you are doing it....at 13 you may think your ready for sex but that is just because your just going through puberty. You have the rest of your live to live yet and as someone who lost their virginity at an age not much older then you and regretting it.
The lads are also going through puberty and finding themselves....
I advise that you wait until your body is completely ready before you decide being your body to any lad...if your boyfriend wont even kiss you...maybe you should talk to him and ask him why
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You are going to have a lot of horny feelings going through puberty. I would hold off getting too sexual right now with boys because they are so immature at your age and are only going to hurt you. You also do not want them to start telling everyone you had sex after you break up. Maybe start masturbating? Or get a vibrator? That way you could release some of those feelings without having to force yourself on a boy.
I mean you can do what you want, but I would wait until you are in a serious relationship with a guy that wants to be with you and have sex with you too. Don't do it just to do it because you will probably regret it. Make sure he is a good guy and not a sleezeball that will break up with you after or will go off and tell your class or something because that would be embarassing. Hope this makes sense. You will be fine! Good luck babe!
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Don't go out with your ex to have sex. Especially if he broke up with you to see two other girls. And he probably knows nothing about sex, just what he's learnt from porn.
If your boyfriend doesn't want to have sex it's because he's not ready and it sounds like you aren't either. Remember as much as you feel ready, you don't want to look back on loosing your virginity and regret it. I'm sure you watched enough chick flicks to know that there are a lot of women who regret loosing their virginity when they realise they weren't ready.
I would suggest taking things with your boyfriend one step at a time and only doing things when your both ready. I know you probably hear this all the time but have fun being young! Sex can be really special as long as you treat it that way.
Hope this helps :) xoxo
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You posted this exact same question a few days ago but you said you were nine, not thirteen. Either way, you're too young.
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im so confused about this question, please clarify
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Just take a breath and realize what you're saying. You're nine years old which is way too young to even be thinking about sex. Everyone has urges and that's perfectly normal but you shouldn't let anyone use you. Sex will link you to someone spiritually and emotionally for sure and that's too much to handle. To protect yourself from alot of heart break and deadly diseases, it's best that you wait until you're married to have sex. Take it from me, I only want the best for everyone and I don't want to see people get hurt. Just wait until you're married and you'll be fine. To get rid of those urges, just do something that you like to do. Take your mind off of it and then you won't have to worry about it. Another way to get rid of those urges is to think about yourself dying from an STD (sexually transmitted disease). That always helps me.
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Woah hun. You are waaayyy to young for sex. It might be fun and all but thats not how you want to start out. First of all youll probably create a really bad reputation for yourself and guys will only want you for one thing and theyll just see you as a piece of meat. You are way more than that and there are way more important things you can do other than sex. Like be a freaken nine year old! Play tag or other fun games. Maybe you should read the Bible and get some morals in your life yo. Cause sex is for people who are in love with one another and are committed to each other for life. It is supposed to be a beautiful experience, fully connecting with another person. Not just doing it for the sake of doing it. You have plenty of time for that kindof stuff when youre older. Please dont rush, you could get diseases or get pregnant and that will make things extremely more difficult for you for the rest of your life. Focus on your school work and having good, wholesome fun with your friends. Dont try to grow up too fast, okay? I mean im 17 and I still consider myself too young for sex because im not ready yet. One day you will find someone you absolutely love and will want to spend the rest of your life with and youll want your first time to be with them and it will be special. So wait for that okay? Hope I helped, good luck!
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You are too young. Think about education. You will have plenty of time when you grow old to think about sex.
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Can I suggest taking a little break from sexual activity? I'm not jumping on the moral highground and about to point out the rules of age of consent and so on but an undeveloped body isn't quite as ready for sexual activity as say someone in their late teens.
Perhaps your current boyfriend isn't ready for sex either? Boys don't usually mature as fast as girls. He might be the same age as you but for all I know, he still might enjoy more childhood aspects of life.
Hope this helps.
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You shouldn't need to have sex at nine years old. You want to have it because you have racing hormones and you think it's "cool". Once you lose your virginity you could possibly get pregnant even your first time! You would be giving up your future just so you could have sex with some boy. Sex should be something you do with the person you love at a legal age. You may thinks it cool, but if people found out about it they would absolutely treat you differently and probably be judging. Your not even through puberty yet so you probably don't have your period. Sex is something you should not be doing. Your education is way more important.
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Everyone develops at different rates and when puberty starts differs greatly.
Also, even if going through puberty, the possibily for having great desire sex often (high libido) has become possible at younger and younger ages. There are plenty of toxins in the world that people come into contact with from babyhood on so that by time you get to older child hood, depending on the familys lifestyle and how much you are around these toxins that mimic the hormones of puberty, you can develop sexually at younger ages, it doesnt mean its a good idea to engage in full sex with a partner as your body is still developing. Plus once the normally produced hormones are produced in your body are present, in addition to the ones picked up from just living in this world, you may be on hormone overload, it won't make you any more horny than you are, but keep this in mind regarding your emotions if in the years to come, you find your behavior and emotions change drastically. In my time as a teen, and for my daughters, we got the normal sadness and weepy feelings or irritated easily and angry hateful emotions but it was still manageable and normal. Mnay girls today when hormones are way too high for the body to handle result in extremes in behavior emotionally, on the sadness side, becoming depressed and cutting or on the other side, becoming hateful and mean toward other females maybe even bullying. Doctors can help with a medication to get hormones back to normal levels so you can be your happy self again.
There are more and more reports these days of boys born with smaller genitalia or when older having zero sexual interest or an extremely low libido. There has been no report published to explain why but lots of studies are going on. So keep that in mind, you may meet a guy, at any age, who just isn't interested at all. In your boyfriends case, who knows, maybe he likes you, and thought it meant you should be his girlfriend but the liking he has is as friends not romantically. So maybe he doesn't feel that way about you. Don't pressure him for something he has no interest in.
A better choice is to masturbate for now until you are older. If you are bound and determined to have sex, even if you don't have a period yet, you can get pregnant on that first time you ovulate, because you will ovulate before the show of your first blood. So keep that in mind. Most girls and guys don't understand how easily she can get sperm inside her even if the penis never enters, or condoms are used incorrectly. I don't believe you are old enough to get help at Planned Parenthood as they have worked with teens and have programs especially designed to work with them, but it's worth calling them and addressing any specific questions you get along the way. Just give your age and find out at what point you are old enough to be seen by them, usually the girls reproductive system is mature enough for her to become pregnant, when she may qualify for help. You will want to gain some education from them and get on birth control in the future. So for now, its best to stay away from sex play, just masturbate.
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Ok well boy are immature till they hit a certain point in their lives And maybe they aren't ready for sex yet maybe you should wait till your a little older or you can date an older guy but what im trying to get at is that you should talk to your boyfriend and get things strait.
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Okay, so I understand that you want a more serious relationship- but I wouldn't suggest having sex with him at such a young age. If you really want sex then just try masterbating or something like that. I can almost guarantee that in years to come, you'll regret doing anything you did sexually at this age. As you are so young, boys aren't really interested in being serious at this age. From personal experience I can tell you that the majority of boys at your age, just want a girlfriend for the sake of having a girlfriend. If there's no chemistry between you, then just break up with him. I know that you want a boyfriend. Lots of girls do, but going out for the sake of him is pointless, and especially if you only want sex with him. I'd say just forget about the boys, as hard as it may be. If you really feel the urges to have sex, don't throw yourself at people. Just keep it to yourself for a while. Just concentrate on school and more important things, and then maybe later on in life you'll find a boyfriend that you really love, and will want to be with for a while. There's no point having sex with someone if you don't love them, it's just pointless then. I hope things work out, and I hope that things get better!
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You are not going to like this but: you're too young for sex. The fact that you haven't finished puberty yet should be telling you that your body is not ready for sex either.
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I hate to sound like your mother but you should not be having sex. You are 9 and have so many other things to focus on like school and having fun. I'm not even sure why you have a boyfriend.
Listen, at 9 you are not educated on the reproductive system by any means which means that you should not be engaging in sexual activity.
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Dear Jumping the Gun,
Knowing that you are ready to have sex is even more scary than not being ready. First you should not feel obligated and that any guy who dumps you because of it was never a guy that you should be with at all. These will be special and intimate moments but not something you should be thinking about now because you have your whole life ahead of you and when down the road the right person does come along you will be ready and that a guy should treat you right. Don't let people tell you that you have to do these things to be happy or even be cool. Don't worry about getting serious at this early age because it's important that you grow up to see what type of guys they are going to be and if they would ever be worth being with you. These are important times in your life to look to the future but anyone that tells you have to be intimate to be with them is not anyone you should ever be with. Don't let them or anyone else pressure you because it's too early for you to bring that into your life. Work on you being happy first with you because if you can't, you will never be happy with anyone and keep making the wrong mistakes. Make the right choice and choose you before you lose yourself in anyone else.
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I don't like to tell people that they're too young to have sex, because all that does is make them want it more. What I will say is that it's hard to see the consequences of having sex when you're very young. There are physical and emotional reactions, and you want to be sure that you're ready for them.
I'm sure you've heard about the risks of pregnancy and STIs in school; be warned that nothing can 100% prevent pregnancy or STI transmission. If you are going to have sex, you have to be ready to obtain multiple forms of birth control (chemical, like the pill, and barrier, like condoms). You would also need to feel comfortable discussing these choices with your partner.
Your first time will be more emotional than physical. It's often not that pleasurable for a woman her first time, so this is where it's important to have a really strong connection with your partner. You want to be sure that he won't hurt you after the fact. Since you say that he's not that serious, I would recommend that you hold out until you are with someone who takes your relationship seriously, someone who values you as a person.
I remember being your age and wanting to have sex. It's perfectly normal to be curious and to want to grow up faster. You have so much time to grow up in, though, and it's a shame to rush through it all only to have regrets later.
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Hi sweetie,lets see,you didnt state how old you are,and you just got your first bra,and you havent finished puberty,I assume youre only 12 or 13,that being said,you need to slow down.
You have your whole life ahead of you,I honestly dont reccommend having sex at all period.You can get pregnant,you can catch diseases,you at your age are more likely to catch a HIV or any other sexual disease because at your age your immune system is weaker. Do not have sex,that is the best advice I can give you.It can hurt you and it can cause alot of trouble.Instead,find a nice boy who will treat you with respect!!
Best wishes
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Your young and I know what it's like to want sex young I suggest to find a different guy if your not happy without the sex. Good luck.
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