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Hi im using trigestril for a month now and im getting my periods for the third time.I also getting a brown discharge.I have also missed the pill twice.Should i consult a doctor?should i stop using it?it is healthy for me to bleed so many times in one month? (link)
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Don't stop using it it takes over 3 months to kick in so give it time if the problem persists see a doctor it may need changed to a different one
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Should I stay with my boyfriend? I'm 13 and he's 16 but he lives all the way in London. I know some of his friends and that's how I met him. We started back talking a few days ago. I found out that he signed up for the army and he has three years of training. He did it so he wouldn't have to be with me anymore but he wont break up with me and he says that he wants to be with me.
I'm so confused and I need to know if I should break up with him. (link)
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he can't have both ways, join the army so he isn't with you and not break up and say he wants to be with you. its a paradox within itself. I would recommend giving him an ultimatum: either he breaks up with you or he finds a way to stay with you. you have to consider this before you do though, its a strained relationship as it is if it is a long distance between you two and now he is getting ready for a military life, taking away from time he can spend talking to you as well as limits any chances you will have of seeing him. hopefully, you two will remain friends, but it may not be healthy for you to stay together. Your 13 you have your entire life ahead of you his choice is to be in the army and you will make choices in your lifetime as well I suggest break up with him in ten years if you are meant to be together he will come back to you if not then it wasn't meant to be. The pain over a break up will fade over time but the regret that you sprang your life clinging to him when he doesn't want to be with you at the moment will not fade it will ruin your chances of a normal happy teenage experiance. Good luck hope you take this advice.
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me. (link)
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Your young and I know what it's like to want sex young I suggest to find a different guy if your not happy without the sex. Good luck.
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I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for. (link)
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Although I am against rape on every single level since I have previously been molested I would say you would maybe possibly have to describe to them how it happened when and the person it happened to the person may not want to press charges but rape is still rape you will be put in prison but possibly for a lesser charge if you plead guilty so all I can say is good luck and I'm sorry that you seem like a nice person just who made a mistake
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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Your husbands military right so the fact it's your one year anniversary would mean a lot to him and I suggest you reason with your friend, she should be understanding ask her what she would do in your position and then say to your husband the same thing if both come up with their answers you will have yours.
Good Luck and all the best xx
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I have known this boy since elementary school and we are seniors in high school now. I never really liked him in this way until this year.. I sit at the same table with him And 3 other classmates with whom we share a friendship with that's hard to explain. One of my girlfriends at the table knows how I feel towards him And she notices how we fight like a married couple. I really like him And he talks to me like I'm his wife or something. We argue all the time but I think it's just a part of our chemistry. My question is how do I know if he really likes me the way I like him or if he's just joking all the time. By the way he's only dated white And Hispanic girls in the past And I'm African American And so is he. (link)
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I'm sorry to say this but you have to ask him we advice columnists help people get on the right track but we can't know if someone likes you before seeing you together take a leap and ask him saying you like him if it doesn't work out you can still be friends
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I daydream a lot and I did a little research and I am not sure if it is a maladaptive daydreaming. I think it becoming a problem because I don't like pain. However, when I have a painful experience I create a scenario in my head. The scenario is even more painful but I am in control of what happens. During these daydream I get emotional because they are very painful experience but it worse than the pain I am going through. It my way to escape and process my emotion. I can cry without dealing with my actually emotionally pain. (link)
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Okay well firstly I apologise iCloud not answer sooner an secondly I think your problem is you have past issues that have not correctly been dealt with inside your head and your heart, the first step to overcoming this is to deal with any painful memories let them play out while sitting meditating in a quiet room let them guide you to your central point your daydreams will hopefully subside after dealing with these issues try and see a psychologist if this advice does not work. Your best way to get a psychologist is through your doctor. Good luck.
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I'm 15/f. And I have been masterbating since I was like 14. Although j don't really know what an orgasm feels like for what cumming feels like. I want to experience both of these but I'm not sure how ! After a while of masterbating I get kinda annoyed and bored of it because I cannot orgasm or cum. What's the difference? Also, if your a female, can you give some tips and techniques to making masterbating a lot more enjoyable ? Thanks:) (link)
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Okay firstly your far too young but I cant judge its not my place . secondly you should try watching something that arouses you if you don't already, and you could also try some lubricant and/or toys if you have an older friend who can buy them for you (who would keep it a secret ofc)
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I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I've recently broken up with my boyfriend, Ryan, of 3 months. I broke up with him face to face because I didn't want to do it over text and have him hating me, then when he got home we messaged and he asked why I'd left him and I told him it was because neither of us were happy anymore and he was getting very controlling and it was making me miserable so I told him that it would be better for both of us to call it a day. He said we could be friends again one day but it would take him a while to get over it, which is understandable. As me and Ryan are in a band with our mutual friend Jake we agreed to carry on with band practice etc. as usual.
2 days later at school I was in the practice rooms with Jake and I told him that as it wasn't an official practice day, Ryan would want me to leave when he got there so I said I'd find a different room. Except when Ryan turned up he didn't even come in the room, instead he sent his cousin in to pass on the message that I should "Piss off into another room and find my own friends" which upset and angered me because was going to leave when he got there anyway so he had some space, I don't see why he had to be so horrible about it?
At the end of that same day, some of my friends came up to me to warn me that Ryan was going round getting people to call me scampi (it's a horrible nickname he gave me) so I asked them if they knew why he was calling me that and they said they were talking to him at lunchtime and he said "Once, she gave me some gone-off scampi and lemon crisps and they tasted like when I licked her out"... I feel mortified...
I've never been able to get physically close to anyone because of bad childhood experiences but he made me feel safe. I was uncomfortable doing anything with him in the first place but he convinced me that I could trust him and that he'd treat me well. He was so nice at first and now I feel like a fool...
People at school keep coming up to me and calling me scampi and when I confronted Ryan about it he just said "Well I was angry" but that's no excuse for making my school life miserable. I just want to run far away and have a fresh start. He's telling me that he still cares about me and when I didn't turn up to school the day after I confronted him, he texted my mum telling me he wished me the best but it's all bullshit.. Surely if you love someone you wouldn't be able to do something like this, right?
I've already got a bad reputation at school from people telling lies about me but he's made it 100 times worse... And even when I found out what he'd been telling people about me, I didn't set out for revenge because I still love him, despite everything, and I know it's the wrong thing to do. I feel so helpless and alone, I even made myself ill so I didn't have to see him at school. I'm ashamed and embarrassed and I don't know what to do... Can anyone help me??? (link)
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oh my girl you have to tell someone and start by telling the people that it isn't rtrue because you have to be confident so others believe he is insecure hes an angry pathetic waste of spasce from what you've said im glad you broke up with him if you ever need further help with him go to your mother and if you need someone to talk to send me a private letter
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Ok so i met this girl at the airport and asked for her phone number and after that we kept on msging for months... I recently moved to boarding school and the same week i moved she said she loved me and we started this long distance relationship.. But a few days before she told me i got a blow job from another girl and i hid this from her till now... I felt really guilty not telling her and today i told her .. She says i lie too much and that she doesn't want to talk to me, but i really wont be able to get over her cause shes better than perfect! Id literally so anything for her and to find a way to make her forgive me.. This is all my fault i know but i just love her so much and i actually thought about suicide because without her in nothing... Shes really mad and doesn't trust me.. I need as much help as possible ASAP please! Thanks..
P.S sorry if its a bit rushed but in freaking out (link)
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alright calm down I know its hard ive been there so firstly you have to calmly tell her how you feel and then you have to say how stupid and weak you were she'll give in probably hiding it but she will and then send her flowers or some chocolates through a friend who youm trust. tell her about the way you act and how it affects you but don't make her feel guilty she will also need some space but is probably dy6ing for you to fight for her. this obviously depends on the girl but if you truly love her make a grand romantic gesture for her
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I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now? (link)
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Move on if you broke up and he isn't showing any interest then move on you'll never fully forte him but you can find someone better Best wishes
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What does it mean when someone says ''rather risk it all than play it safe' ? Please super curious my ex wrote this and I wanna know what it could mean, but in a relationship context like what can this mean in a love life sort of term .. (link)
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Basically it means do you wanna risk everything for one thing rather than play it safe and keep what you already have.
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I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much. (link)
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Only if he has a history of aids or any std's if not your fine if this continues to bother you consult your gp or family planning clinic
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19/f
So I started Uni this year and (very out of character for me) I had a one night stand at the very beginning after my first ever time of going to a club.
Thing is, a month later I then got into a relationship, and have been in this relationship ever since.
I love my bf a lot and we are both very faithful/committed etc. But I cant stop thinking about my one night stand.
Like I cant stop checking his Twitter feed-feeling butterflies if I happen to pass him in the corridor or even just seeing his friends gets me into a hot sweat.
I've since learnt that obviously the one night stand doesn't care about me at all-and tbh I don't care that he doesn't care. I did ask him out of said night but he said no.
How do I stop thinking about him? Or do you never really forget your first time? Because I feel like I'm hiding this from my bf. (link)
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You may be suffering from something called a guilty conscious. Try and write your feelings down in a diary and see if it helps if not talk to a psychologist it may be an attachment disorder.
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Yesterday I was at my cousins' dads' house. I am 14 years old and she just turned 13 a week ago. She has a boyfriend in the 11th grade about to turn 16. When she told me about him in the car, I thought he was a bit of a creep for being with a girl about to go to eighth grade, but I hate it when people are biased, and I didn't want to offend my cousin so I decided to shut my mouth. When I walked in her boyfriend was there and he seemed like a decent guy. For the rest of the day I got settled and took a shower. I thought her boyfriend had left a while ago. I was wearing a towel because i had left my clothes in her room. I heard screaming so I opened her door and said what's wrong? I saw them having sex and it was gross. He said "oh I didn't know your cousin wanted a threesome." I screamed at him and called him a pervert and grabbed him by the arm as he got dressed. He ran out of the house and I went back to my cousins room and she was crying screaming at me saying that she hates me. I grabbed my clothes and got dressed in the bathroom. I was mad and sad because I knew that my cousin wasn't this type of person. She kicked me out of her room and made me sleep in the couch. I wanted to ask her if he was using a condom but she has been silent and hasn't talked to until she said, "I am not breaking up with him and you should feel like crap for walking in on us." And then she slammed the door. What should I do to get her to talk to me. I don't want to tell my uncle about it because she would hate me even more. I love her we are best friends but now she won't talk to me. I have apologized even though I honestly don't believe that what happened was my fault, I mean how else was I supposed to react? So what should I do, I want to talk to her please help. (link)
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Try and reach an understanding with her tell her the truth that it is illegal and you only want what's right for her. Your cousin could do a mass amount of damage to her body by having sex at a young age tell her that she can still see him but no more sex.
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Jist of what happened in the past
- I liked his best friend, same college
- We met and even though things got messed up ended up liking each other
- Started dating when he passed out (im still doing my undergrad)
- we have been dating a year. I'm 19 he's 22
- our parents know about us and we have met both sides
- we met in college and then he passed out and started giving exams
- he couldn't clear the exams he gave so his parents got paranoid about him going on the wrong path or getting distracted because of me
- he promised his mom hed clear the last exam for us to prove to her he can do something
- he started working with this ngo in town so we would see each very often
- our friends knew and he even told his best buds that he'd marry me if we continue dating for a while
- we never had any problems even though he is a bit flirtatious with other women he was loyal to me
- Had a few fights because of the guys friends I had but it was all sorted out
A week back since I'm on vacation across the country he texted me saying that his result came out and he didn't clear it so he had to break up to concentrate on his career
He said he still loved me but he had to let this go since we were mad about each other. He said he hoped we got back together but couldn't promise anything for the future and didn't want to give me false hopes.
He said I was the best thing that happened to him. He also said his parents raised him and he needs to make them proud by achieving something in life and hence he needs to give up all the distractions in his life.
Its been a week and he wouldn't answer any of my calls or messages and has completely cut off. He told his friends he called it off and didn't give a reason and he wouldn't reply back to my friends at all.
I don't know what to do. I want him back because I love him even if it involves waiting but I don't know what is going on in his mind. I am also scared out of stupidity hed go any do something really reckless to get over me.
I don't know what to say to him when we meet when I get back but I am willing to do anything to rectify this. Do you have any advice as to why this happened and it could truly get him back? Or am I living in a dream world where fairytales exist and he is truly over me? (link)
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My mum said that I had too concentrate on my modelling career so I had to give up all distractions such as my friends my boyfriend and my babysitting job and this advice column but I said it would make me depressed if I gave everything up and she said I could keep my friends and this column but I had to give up my boyfriend. I was heartbroken and I called it off and I felt bad so I went and slept with a bunch of guys this ended up badly and I told my mum listen you made me give up on the one guy I love and im not taking it by the time I asked him back out it was too late he had a new girlfriend but I know he loves me and that's enough I suggest you talk to his mum about this and say you won't distract him and you can help him with his career
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Hi everyone I can't orgasm. I cant make myself orgasm and neither can my boyfriend. My dr says I may not be comfortable with him but I am! We have been together over a year... Does anyone have key tips and pointers? Does the clitorus really have to be touched? Any suggested positions? Anything please! Thank you (link)
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You mentioned that you have talked to your doctor. Sometimes a woman is unable to reach climax for medical reasons and it can be sex related illnesses either that or your not feeling it because your stressed or worried or maybe because you feel that if you do you may sound stupid but your confidence is what's key and lots of sleep water and excersize make sure you and your partner discuss this it happened to me and it was because I was a teen and I was scared my mum would hear me.
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18/f
My bf bought me tickets to see my fave band and the gig is soon. So I thought I'd make a scrapbook and give it to him after the gig as a thankyou present.
I like the idea of having solid photographs rather than all our memories stored on digital cameras/phones etc.
We've been together 6 mnths and I bought a photo album. But what else aside from photos shall I put in there to make it look cute? (link)
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Well you said you were going to a gig so I suggest you get parts from a magazine or album that have the band on them and stick them in and keep the tickets and stick them in after the show in the bathroom or ask him to get drinks while you put them in carry a glue stick btw and you should add things you both like such as your fave ever song and add a few lyrics in the back of the book about it
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So my mom baffles me with her "hostile" behavior. It seems like she starts fights with people around her out of no where. She would lash out at people for no reason. Or yell at them for no reason. Sometimes she'll take the calmest situation and somehow transform it into a bloody battle. I HONESTLY have no idea why she acts that way to everyone around her. Would you know why she's like that? I really cannot understand why she acts that way. It's so baffling and mind boggling! I think she needs psychological help but she wouldn't believe that. Whenever we tell her to calm down or to be more understanding she just keeps acting hostile. Is it a mental problem? I need advice... I don't know what else to do or how else to talk to her. Anyone else's mom like mine? I just feel so heated right now... It's as if she's from another world where the notion of hostility has taken over her mind. (link)
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Is it possible she has an anger issue that may be able to be controlled by medication and I have been in a similar situation with one of my cousins who starts fights from nowhere I managed to calm him down a little by telling him he is totally irrational and it seemed to help try it with your mom and see if it helps if not get her to a phycologist maybe they can help
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I'm with this guy names Allah and we haven't been together that long . He recently just graduated and is now going into the military . I'm a senior I'm high school. I've always been against having a partner that's in the military because I know I'm not strong enough to handle that type of relationship. He's made it clear that he wants me to stay with him while he's there and I stayed in the reality of it and said it would be hard and things change and people and feelings change especially because I'm still gonna be in high school and the reality of it was that we wouldn't work and he's the one with the hope of it and he wants me to just try and see what happens and I'm not totally against it because I wanna be with him enough to not lose him but it won't feel like a real relationship to me because he won't be around and he's gonna miss everything that happens with me and I'm not emotionally prepared for losing him and not being around him. I really wanna be with him but I just don't want it to be a waste of my time waiting for him while he's in the military or having a relationship . I'm scared of what's gonna happen and I don't know how I'm supposed to deal with it . In a way I feel like he would be holding me back by asking me to stay with him but it's hard to just give up a relationship you built with that person and I'm not ready to let it go. I didn't plan any of this for myself and it hurts that I have the right guy and I'm just gonna lose him basically with whatever decision I choose (link)
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In my opinion he is being selfish because he is backing you into a corner if you don't feel emotionally ready to be involved with someone in the military then you should tell him maybe later in life because if you decide to leave you may discover love elsewhere and if you stay with him you may or may not regret it I cannot give you the answer but I suggest you look into you and your feelings and emotions.
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