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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I'm 20 and I've never been kissed or even asked out. A few times guys have kind of joked about asking me out, but never clearly sincerely. being honest with myself, i'm not unattractive or anything, and i'm literally nice to everyone - it's in my nature, i'm not being fake. so i don't know what i could be doing wrong, or what's putting guys off. when i was younger i'd even go on random internet group chats and guys would often hit on me.. but how is that really different from random guys catcalling on the street, which also feels a bit creepy. i don't know.. i never saw this future for myself. even my mom dated when she was in high school, and here i am, in college, without even having been on a date. i'm not a prude at all, too, so i'm just lost at what could be the cause of this. i wish it didn't bother me, but it does. it's truly bothered me since about 17 or 18, when i was like... wait a minute. i used to eat up teen romance novels and now they are the death of me, cause they just appear unrealistic, as i can't relate to them, whatsoever. any advice? not sure what i'd do without this site, cause i find my problem very embarrassing.
Susan Boyle just found her first boyfriend at 54...
I'd say you are far from pathetic...
(She's a singer)
I have a huge crush on my teacher, but I know he has a wife, so I wouldn't do anything inappropriate, but I'm pretty sure he knows I like him, I always giggle when I talk to him, I ask him for help outside of class, and just harmless flirting stuff, but obvious enough for him to know I like him, most teachers I've heard about, whenever they know a student likes them, they make it clear that they aren't interested, but mine sure doesn't. Whenever he sees me, he starts grinning a lot, when he helps me, if he's sitting beside me, he puts his knee against mine, or if he's leaning over my desk, he puts his face REALLY close to mine, like it's hard to keep eye contact I'm so intimidated, and he just grins like he knows what it's doing to me. We laugh and joke around a lot and he touches my arms sometimes. There's other stuff that he does too that makes me think he's flirting back, and since I know he's not interested in me since he has a wife, why is he totally leading me on? and in case you're wondering I'm 16 and he's 30. Like if this were a boy my age I would totally know he likes me, I just would love to know what he's thinking, does he just love toying with me, or is he actually flirting back?
It doesn't matter, It is wrong.
The man is married, has authority over you and you are a minor.
Sweetheart, My brother just recently got arrested for being involved with a 14 year old (he is 24) now he is looking at a shit load of charges.
Inappropriate contact with a minor is a felony.
I know you don't see it this way but if a grown ass man is hitting on a 16 year old student then obviously there is something mentally wrong with him.
Stop, Stop initiating and provoking him. The guy is putting his job on the line and you aren't helping him nor are you helping yourself.
Dumb move
This sounds stupid even writing only I should know the answer but here I am anyways. I am recently getting divorced I have been separated going on 9 months there are no feelings for my ex our marriage ended way before that. I started going on a dating website site because I had moved to another state where I did not know anyone. I did meet a guy we've been talking for several months since November he quit his job in December just started working again a few days because I told him I'd leave him if he didn't find a job we'd go out I'd pay for everything he'd run around to some stores with me ask me for money he was asking me to buy him cigarettes until I told him no. He is very sarcastic. In return I role my eyes I've tried breaking up with him several times he begs me to stay not leave him he wants to be there for me and my kids be a father figure for my kids. I tend to look at other guys. Think their cute which I'd never do before because I find it being unfaithful.. I'm just looking for advice
You need to call it off
He is a moocher and isnt only a good role model for you, he sets a bad example for your kids. Sadly, When people mooch, All to often do they become used too it.
He isnt right for you, he isnt right for your kids.
You owe it too yourself to find someone who is serious, stable and respects you. Someone who ask for money, No.
Cut him loose, Find someone else
Go out with friends, Maybe ask them to tag any single friends along. Friends of friends etc
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(Despite this being asked by a spammer, it got really good answers, so it stays for the sake of those answers.)
No, I had a wedding and the dresses were not the same. Many people go traditional which in many cases prefer the dresses to match but what it all comes down too is what YOU want for the wedding. They do not have to match if you do not wish.
So i just cant stand my boyfriends sister she is a huge bitch and always tries to break us up every chance she gets
She is always getting into our business and always calls him with her stupid problems when me and him are hanging out
I love my bf but i can not stand when he mentions her name or picks up her call when we are doing something
I cant say specifically why i hate her because its too long of a story but she is an evil bitch and i just need advice on what to do cause she is the reason me and my bf argue alot
You need to talk to your boyfriend calmly and explain to him that you feel his sisters behavior is interfering with your relationship. Hating her and starting arguments is only going to push your boyfriend away from you as this girl is his sister and family in many cases come first always. The only way to really handle this situation is to act in a mature manner and talk to him.
You also need to realize that whenever we choose to be apart of someone's lives we need to learn to embrace anyone who is apart of their lives as well. Like Adviceman said, He is a package deal. Although the term "Package Deal" is usually referred to someone who has children, This can also be referred to someone and their family.
Fighting with his sister because she is nosy and arrogant is only going to make you look bad in the long run. Best to maybe try to all sit down together and let the boyfriend do the talking, He needs to be the one to tell his sister to respect his relationship and to stop the constant nagging. You could also state how you feel as well but remember - Act mature about it. This is the key, If you blow up then it solves nothing.
He needs to be firm with her and lay down the boundaries.
Does really your past life regression affects your life or in your future? I've experienced that years ago and the hypnotist said that I've lived like 15th century ago. I always dream when i get extreme fever about the people and things that the hypnotist described (old windmills, deep well, and grinders) and (the man in the railway and the lady named Mary). the hypnotist said that the lady I always see in my dreams was re-incarnated in me. And I always hallucinate after I wake when I dream about them and those things. I don't believe those things because I don't believe in any spiritual thoughts coz it's not proven by science. But it's hunting me, I've dreamt about those few days ago when I was extremely cold. I hallucinate but I really know that I'm NOT mentally ill. Pls help me about this.
I suppose this has a lot to do with what you believe in, I really do not believe in Hypnotist or even a fortune teller. I think they are mostly about money and tell things based off what THEY believe.
I however do believe in reincarnation and the after life as well as past, present and future.
It is very possible that you are an old soul, Perhaps it is even possible that an old life could of made you who you are today. I just wouldn't really go on what you were told, I would go on what YOU choose to believe.
I am afraid of heights, While it could be possible that in another life time I loved to climb and admire views from afar. There is no way anybody can TRULY know what happened, Even the afterlife is only a superstition. Many believe in Heaven, While I do believe in Heaven is also possible that again, This could only be a late theory.
I indeed believe I have lived many lives, I also believe I am a very old soul. Whether I really did lives these lives or not, Nobody can really ever know for a fact I did.
I am in my late 20's, I listen to music dated as early as 1940's and I spend my time admiring the arts of others. Sewing, knitting, Even spinning yarn. Perhaps this is only an interest but I do find it a bit odd that not many people my age spend their time doing.
However once again, Believe what you choose to believe. Never go on something a hypnotic tells you as they only go on theories and guesses.
So I'm 15 and I want to be pregnant... I don't know what to do...btw I'm single. For the past couple months I've wanted to have a baby... I need some advice! Please help!!!
No, You don't want to be pregnant.
At 15, You are legally still a minor. Babies cost a fortune, They are massively expensive.
Babies need diapers, crib, clothes, toys, medical, food, formula etc.
Do you have your own place? Have a full time job? Do you have a car that you pay for yourself? If these are "No" then obviously you are not ready for a baby.
You are still in school, You live with you parents and you do not have a full time job. This means not only are you legally a minor, You are dependent upon your parents and are not able to take care of yourself.
On the other hand, The average cost for an apartment nowadays is about $900 a month, Then add electricity which can be about $150-$200 a month and even more in the summer with the AC. Food is about $200 a month, Then that isn't including cable, phone and all your living accessories that you need for yourself.
Now add the baby
Diapers, Formula, Clothes, Crib, Car seat, etc. so by the time you are done you are up about $2200 a month maybe more.
Wait until you are older, Out of high school and have a steady job, car, and your own place. Trust me
22, female, UK living in a flat.
I cannot sleep in the same bed as my partner and he isn't happy about it. He doesn't want us to sleep separately and I have been using ear plugs for a long time but the noise manages to sneak through. I fear that if I do not find something that makes me practically deaf during the night my relationship is over. Any advice?
It may be best to recommend he get tested for sleep apnea. This can be done by scheduling a sleep study, I had sleep apnea and didn't know until I was tested for it.
It is treatable, He could also maybe see a doctor as well.
I say my self he is he says his not but he wouldnt have aex with me itz been 3months he says I been actin up thays qhy he wouldnt have sex with me them he says itz him I said no itz not becuZ he stands in one place like hes stupid doesnt talk nothang just stands ther dreamin awake in hes dick gets hard help me what u think it is
From now on, Please type in proper English, Many do not respond to poor grammar.
Accusing your boyfriend of being gay is a good way to ruin a relationship. There isn't a whole lot of details that you posted but communication is what builds a strong and healthy relationship. Learn to trust him, Learn to listen and show respect, Be patient etc.
It is not unusual for men to get erections, Just because he seems to be daydreaming doesn't mean he is gay, It simply means he is being a typical guy.
If you aren't happy in your relationship then do the right thing by letting him know it's not working out for you. Assuming someone is gay or accusing them is only going to result in you being g dumped and single. It's rude and ignorant
Hi, can you tell me if there is a service out there that will help you find the perfect puppy match for your family? We want a dog, but we want to be sure it will be a good fit for our family. Thank you!
An old friend of mine found their dog on www.puppyfinder.com and ended up being very satisfied.
Sometimes it helps to check your local shelter, I found my cat there and boy is she my world!
Hi, I'm currently a guy (16 Years Old) that wants to know what kind of fun things could two lovable teenagers do for like a special romantic date. I really want to surprise my girlfriend but it's really hard of doing so just because I have no idea what to do sometimes... It stresses me out because she talks about me not making the decisions of what we'll do a certain day that we'd want to see each other. When we're together we have fun but it just really bothers me.
The way plans usually work in a relationship is when we take turns out we plan them out together.
Having fun doesn't always mean you need to go out and blow a hole in your pocket. Find a local coffee shop or a cafe, Have a nice lunch and sit and talk.
My husband and I don't always have the cash on hand but usually we hang out at coffee shops and just sit by the fireplace for a whopping $10.00 tops.
The movies usually has a discount on tickets once a week, You could call them up and see what day they offer half price.
When the weather gets a bit nicer maybe try hiking or find a trail where you both can walk. Pack a lunch and off ya go.
Sometimes bowling alleys also have discounts once a week, Call them up and ask. It never hurts
Or even so, You could always rent a redbox movie and just hang out at home. Grab a board game while your add it and plan a dinner together. Bada bing bada boom, Cheap and satisfying
Also, Hit the Zoo when it gets nicer. I like to pack a lunch at hang out in the warmer weather. Even just hitting the beach and grabbing a coffee to go. Check the internet for any concerts around etc.
My mother is abusive. She hits me and calls me stupid and worthless. My father never stops her. I've moved away from my home twice. My grandma, one of the only people to ever make me feel appreciated is dead. My little sister is dead. I have suffered through attempted rape three times. My grandfather is an alcoholic who disowned my family and I haven't seen him or my grandma in years. I was ridiculed and called a slut my entire childhood even though I've never even had sex. A boy broke my heart after making me open up and be myself for the first time in years. I am completely broken. No one cares about me. I haven't felt anything in years. I am emotionless to avoid being broken again. My question is: Where do I even begin to go from here? Can I love again if I try really hard?
The first step towards moving on is letting someone become aware of these things. Tell a counselor, A friend or someone you trust that will listen to you.
Then you really should get yourself into counseling, Talk to someone who can help you learn the coping skills and direct you in the right direction.
I am not sure of your age but if you are in school, Try to see if maybe you can join after school activities, This will give you an opportunity to make friends but either way, You NEED to let someone know what is going on.
Yes, It is never to late to fall in love with someone but the way this happens is you fall in love when the time is right. You can't just fall in love because you want to fall in love right now. Try to get involved in the community, Seek some volunteer work. Try a hospital, An animal shelter or even a Senior center in your local area. This will keep you busy, It will help you become more social and get you out.
Don't focus so much on love or boyfriends, Right now you should focus on you. Focus on learning to heal, Learn to cope and move on but you start with reporting what is going on at home, Then you seek counseling and work your way towards a brighter future.
I am Male mid 20's
She is female mid 20's
Her friend is Male 30's I think???
First of all I am not a guy that is getting jealous about my girl texting other guys. It is just a very strange scenario. I will explain it a little bit.
1. She usually hangs out with the guy, his wife and kids. They are basically family friends, all good I get it.
2. When the wife and kids leave town and he stays because of work, she goes over there because he does not like to be alone.
3. Whenever we hang out, they usually text frequently unless we are on a date out of respect. Totally fine with it.
4. However, when she is over there. Especially on those weekends when the wife and kids leave town. Her replies to me are virtually none at all. Maybe 1 every 2-3 hours if any at all. (again totally fine but kinda of sketchy when looking at number 2&3.
Again, I totally love her and am not super jealous easily. I really have not gotten paranoid about this at all. She is super open about. She is the one who tells me she is going to hang out with him because he is home alone, when she could totally lie about it. I don't get pissy or mopey and try to make her feel bad about going over there because I trust her.
However it is slightly concerning to me, I just want other peoples feed back.
Am I just being paranoid and should not worry?
Or should I lay some rules down about this whole thing with her going over there alone with just those two. I would honestly say the most concerning thing to me is how she texts him when we hang and texts me when she is over there and the family is all there, but does not reply when it is just him and her there alone. I don't know, I don't want to start assuming anything but it is a strange situation. Any help would be awesome!
There really isn't enough details to really go on here.
I suppose the statics of the situation would really depend on whether you have valid reasons to suspect anything may be going on.
One thing that raises a little concern is how she is always texting the guy, Has she crossed the line between having boundaries in the friendship in anyway? Does she seem to ignore you?
How often does this situation of his wife not being home occur? Perhaps it could be an innocent friendship but how come she never invited you to tag along?, Why does she feel the need to go over because "He doesn't like being alone" this is where I would be a bit awry of the situation. It is awesome that you are laid back and trust her but my friend, Sometimes being completely 100% laid back about things isn't always necessarily a good thing. Many times the ones who shrug it off and try to be cool about things are the ones who miss the clues. I would speak to her about it, Let her know that you are okay with the friendship but you are feeling as if they may be hanging out a bit much and maybe she should talk to him about learning to cope while his wife is away rather then relying so much on a companion to keep him company. One way to not be paranoid so much is to try and include yourself, Get to know the guy and let him know that she is your girl. (Not coming out and saying it but you know where I'm getting at) Talk to your girlfriend about setting higher boundaries. Let her know that you wish you two could spend more time together etc. However on the trust thing, Wonderful! Just don't let your trust end up getting the better of you.
hi dear
im a male 27 years and my friend he was divorced for his 1st marriage then he married a woman who is 5 years elder to him she is 32 with a baby boy from her 1st marriage and she is having crush on me once was invited for a dinner at her place she told me she is not sexually satisfied with my friend and she moved his hand directly to my cock under the table and said wow what a long thing you have between your legs and now she wants me to have sex with her and i also liked her when she grabbed my cock in her soft hands but Im very much confused what should i do is it ok to have sex with a lady who is 5 years elder to me ? plz help me out thank you.
No,
This women is your friends wife, It is wrong to interfere with a marriage despite her being unhappy. A friendship is about loyalty and honesty, Having sexual relations of any kind with your friends wife is wrong and hurtful.
You should handle this by telling her it is inappropriate and you will not get involved between their marriage. Like Rahzie said, It is dishonest and completely disrespectful. Find someone who is NOT married
There's this boy in my school who is 16. We are close friends and he says I'm like his little sister. Yesterday I split up with my boyfriend and he started talking to me he said he was fat and I said prove it (we always say it joking around) so he sent me a picture of him with no top on and in his boxers and he told me to prove I'm not fat so he convinced me to send him a picture of my belly. Then he said he's sad because my picture wasn't like his and I said I can't take my top off to take a pic of my belly and he put you can. I said no and he was trying to convince me for half an hour before he finally said okay and I don't know what to do? Wether to tell someone? But the hardest part is he has told me he likes me and.. I might like him to ?.. I don't know wether to carry on talking to him or notv someone tell me what I should do? Much appreciated
Don't
You are a minor and it is considered child pornography which is a very serious crime.
If he is trying to convince you, Then he DOESN'T RESPECT you.
1. He is WRONG
2. You are a MINOR
3. It is ILLEGAL
Despite deleting photos, A phone or a computer can store hidden data meaning anything that was deleted can be traceable.
Say NO, Cut contact with him
If caught, He could be forced to register as a pedophile. It is wrong
A guy in one of my classes (who I don't talk to) messaged me and said "Hey what's your number because someone texted me saying it was you and they were saying some weird stuff". I asked for the number but he said he forgot. Well I'm kind of freaked out now. I don't know his number and that isn't me, and I don't know what to do. He said the last time they texted was like a week ago and he promised that it actually happened. I just don't know what to do and I'm scared. What do I do? I don't want to confront anyone because I am just so scared right now.
Tell him it wasn't you. If you don't talk to him then you are not obligated to give your number out.
Sounds to me like someone is trying to start drama. Just ignore it, It's not you to begin with then there is nothing to worry about just shrug it off.
I just turned 15 and am a sophomore and a girl.
I started homeschooling in 5th grade.
My mother and my older brother where both were tested and have dyslexia.
When I started school my mom noticed the signs and recognized them as dyslexia, and helped me deal with it.
So I've always known I'm dyslexic even though I was never tested.
In about 7th or 8th grade, my grades started slipping especially in math, science and history.
I have problems understanding and remembering what I learn, understanding instructions, pronouncing words(even though I know the proper pronunciation), I'll forget what people are talking about while they're still saying it, among other things.
I play a little piano though I can't read notes and though I've tried to learn(even took two years of lessons), I still can't.
Recently, I started looking into other disabilities. I think I might have some others, and want to get tested. The thing is, I live in the middle of nowhere and the only person who could test me is retired and lives 5 hours away.
Do any of you know what I could have other than dyslexia? Is all of this normal? Are there any tests or anything online I could take?
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
A psychiatrist would be able to determine this. There really is no test to find out if one has a disability or not nor online does not determine one's mental compatibility.
Yes, You should see a psychiatrist if you are concerned.
My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years now, engaged just over a year. Our relationship has seemed to be great. We get along fantastically and we always work out our differences. We're a very happy couple. But recently I've found out that during the beginning of our relationship, he constantly messaged and flirted with all of his ex's and other girls he knew. He'd try to make plans to go see them and tell them how much he missed them and even sometimes how much he still cared about them. He admitted that he did almost cheat on me, due to the fact he was making plans to see one of his ex's that would've probably ended up in having him cheat. Upon finding all this out, it's completely broken my heart and broken my trust for him. He has apologized; deleted all of their numbers; blocked them on Facebook; and hasn't once talked to any of them since then, but even though it was so long ago, I'm still incredibly hurt, and I'm not sure what to do. When I asked him why he did this, he said he was worried (because he was moving for me) that I would end up breaking up with him like some of his ex's have done in the past after he's made a big commitment. Though I understand I realize that this is no excuse for what he did. I know I can learn to forgive him; especially since he is putting in more than 110% on fixing what he did wrong. But I need help on knowing how can I trust him again? It was so devastating to find out. And it hurts me so much. Am I overreacting? How do I deal with something like this? Has anyone else had to deal with this kind of situation before and how did you overcome it? Anything advice helps.
Although many will have different inputs on this one, I am firmly against giving someone a chance who stated they "almost" cheated on me. This would raise questions on how trust worthy they are too me and have much they value the relationship to begin with. That said, This happened in the beginning of the relationship but even at that, I'd be a little awry to whether I can truly proceed to have a happy relationship. I guess I am a bit old fashioned
Anyho, Anyone who is still hung up on their exes is not truly able to give their current relationship 100% as their heart is in two different places. Really how you overcome it all depends on the expectations of the relationship. You both have been engaged for a bit over a year now, Has he recently been giving you any reason to suspect he is unfaithful to you?
Doll, My husband and I have a close relationship and the type that makes people jealous. Although I will never truly understand the reasons for it, The key is communication and quality time with one another that is enjoyable. It takes two to make a relationship become one and if one person in the relationship isn't meeting up to part then it needs to be talked about or the relationship will be a rocky road.
Trust takes years to build, Seconds to break and forever to repair. To have someone admit such a thing, You are expected to take it slowly as trust is not given it is earned with time.
Do you have any suggestion for a birthday gift that ALL men like? I don't know him that well, but I want to give him something he will really remember. :)
Gift cards
Candy
Movies
Video Game
Cd's
Movie Tickets
Can a relationship survive on not so good sex my boyfriend is 22. I'm not sure if it's because he was in a terrible accident when he was younger but he can't stay hard and if he does get off its not very much. I enjoy sex a lot. Could these become a problem.
Although a relationship is not all about sex, Sex has a lot to do with a good relationship.
If there is no sexual content in the relationship then it would be considered platonic.
Technically, The answer to your question would all depend on the standards and expectations you seek in a partner. I would say as long as you both have a good solid relationship with good communication then I don't see why not. Sex isn't what a relationship is about, It's only part of a relationship.