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I am 12 and a 16 year old boy is asking me for dirty pictures.
There's this boy in my school who is 16. We are close friends and he says I'm like his little sister. Yesterday I split up with my boyfriend and he started talking to me he said he was fat and I said prove it (we always say it joking around) so he sent me a picture of him with no top on and in his boxers and he told me to prove I'm not fat so he convinced me to send him a picture of my belly. Then he said he's sad because my picture wasn't like his and I said I can't take my top off to take a pic of my belly and he put you can. I said no and he was trying to convince me for half an hour before he finally said okay and I don't know what to do? Wether to tell someone? But the hardest part is he has told me he likes me and.. I might like him to ?.. I don't know wether to carry on talking to him or notv someone tell me what I should do? Much appreciated
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Imagine you do send the pictures. Now imagine he gets mad at you. Now imagine him sending all those pictures of you around school. Now imagine those pictures all over facebook with nasty comments all over them. Now imagine your principal and your parents looking at them and then talking to you about it. Now imagine later in life your new nice boyfriend finding out about them and breaking up with you. Because that is your future, if you send those photos to him.
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You like a guy who's pressuring you into sending him dirty pictures? Why? That's totally disrespectful.
Bottom line is that he's using you. He doesn't really like you, he just wants to see your body.
Besides that, it's illegal to send dirty pics. Both of you can get in trouble for that.
Also, he's a teenage boy so he'll end up showing his friends to brag or worse.
Stop talking to him and wait to find a guy who is more respectful.
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Don't
You are a minor and it is considered child pornography which is a very serious crime.
If he is trying to convince you, Then he DOESN'T RESPECT you.
1. He is WRONG
2. You are a MINOR
3. It is ILLEGAL
Despite deleting photos, A phone or a computer can store hidden data meaning anything that was deleted can be traceable.
Say NO, Cut contact with him
If caught, He could be forced to register as a pedophile. It is wrong
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Advice man is right, he is too old for you. Four years difference is not a big thing once you're in your 20's but at your age...it is a big deal because kids grow physically and mentally in maturity by leaps and bounds from your age until they graduate high school.
The fact is, very few guys who are juniors or seniors even want to be seen with a girl your age let alone are wanting to be friends with her.
The fact plain old is that he is taking advantage of your age and lack of experience to cajole you into giving him something that satisfies him sexually. At some point, pics wont be enough (yes they're illegal) and he'll want to kiss and touch you. Eventually the touching wont be enough and he'll want full on sexual intercourse. Drop him now. Tell your parents too. It doesnt reflect bad on you. You didn't do anything to cause this.
At your age, you may feel adult enough to handle this on your own dear, but its a scientific and medical fact that the frontal lobe of the brain responsible for some good decision making isn't fully developed until our mid 20's. You are far from 25 yet and so will need help and advice. You started by writing us here which is a good move girl! But you need to talk to the parents next because they are closer to you and better able to help you handle some aspects of this that we can't.
Good luck.
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I think it best that you do not have anything to do with him. You are too young to have that sort of pressure on you at such a young age and he should know better.
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DO NOT SEND ANY PICTURES OF THE TYPE HE IS ASKING FOR. There are several reasons for not sending these pictures to him.
1) First and foremost it is illegal. Sending any type of naked or topless photos of someone your age over the internet is considered to be the distribution of child pornography.
2) His having this or these photos is considered possession of child pornography.
3) Given the age difference between you he could be charged with other crimes as well such as contributing to the delinquency of a minor; being a sexual predator and other crimes.
4) Probably most important of all is once you send the picture to someone you lose control of it. He is free to send it out into cyberspace for all the world to see.
Best rule to follow with pictures sent over the Internet: Never send a photo of yourself over the Internet that you would not show your father.
The Social media operators along with the Internet providers are cooperating strongly with the FBI, State and Local police forces to identify those people sending this material across the internet. The chances of being caught are high, even if it is just the one picture.
My advice is to tell you dad what this boy is asking of you and let him take it from there. I would also advise that this boy is too old for you and its taking advantage of your youthful age. Stop talking to him or seeing him.
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