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Trying to keep this short: boyfriend of four years, have lived together three - have had issues with finding messages and texts, nothing ever extremely horrible, though. ex girlfriend used to text him pictures of her face, he'd say cute, but confronted and reply was that meant nothing, he's known her forever they just talk sometimes. fb message to a girl and told her she was pretty, but it was an old coworker. lots of random messages at like, 2am when i'm sleeping to girls (only girls) saying hey, none of the girls really reply though (at least that i can see), he was just bored and wanted to talk to people. always an answer. the one time i definitely found a DISGUSTING conversation, i got so upset and ran out of the house. when i came back, we were talking and when i wanted to go back upstairs to show him, he told me he wanted to see why i was upset and when he saw that he deleted it cause he was embarrassed but it was an old conversation with a girl he re-added on Facebook and when you re-add someone, old conversations pop up. i saw it was more recent on his message box and the month of the conversation was the but once again, i'm not a Facebook expert i wasn't sure if that was exactly true and since the message was gone i couldn't prove it anymore, so i let it slide and haven't looked at anything again since.

well, till today. my friends just recently broke up over this issue so i don't know if that was it or what came over me, but i looked. facebook, didn't see anything (but there's the archived option where i found those things before but mobile doesn't show you that stuff). no texts. but then i saw he had a myspace app and apparently he still has myspace, none of our friends do and this profile i found seems to be new, not the old one i knew him to have. the earliest date for a profile pic upload was like a month ago but i don't know if that's just how it looks with privacy settings and whatnot, i have no idea how new myspace works. all his friends on there though are trashy girls, with their cleavage out or they're half-naked. there is not one guy. and he's "connected" to alot of them and their photos which i googled and i guess that means you like their photo and their stuff will instantly post on your stream or something. also, lots of "hey" messages on there as well, but not a lot of replies again. one woman, a conversation. she's married. he says he's single. then he says he lives in new york (she lives there) he makes a comment she's gorgeous. she keeps her side of the conversation completely normal, non-flirty. she just seems like an older lady that wants to chat with people. he says a lot of other random things that aren't true in there (i guess just for conversation? idk)

he's on her top 8 or whatever haha, he doesn't have one. so i don't know how to really take it. i haven't read anything truly sexually or anything but still the fact he has this page and it seems to have it to talk to trashy chicks is pissing me off. especially when we just had a fight (which we've had a lot) about him thinking i'm cheating on him, when the only friends i have are HIS friends cause he didn't like my girl friends cause he thought they were sluts.

i just don't know how to feel - like i understand i crept, i betrayed his trust but i found things - what about MINE? i know nothings indefinitely said, whether he deleted it all or not i don't know... i feel like i just can't come at him with "YOU SAID THIS GIRLS PRETTY AND THATS IT". lots of people nowadays seem to think that that's ok, harmless flirting. i don't do that with guys, though. i don't message anyone. i just feel this is shady. i have a tendency to go into arguments, get flustered and then i just back out cause i lost my point and ground and i don't want to do that. i took photos this time of the conversation, checked the dates so i know everything's from like, two days ago and i can show them again if i need to.


i just need opinions. is this a line crossed? would you say anything or just know that this is there and keep that in mind? part of me just wants to make a myspace just to solely send him a friend request on it, just so he gets the message that i know its there and i can see his friends and stuff. and i just won't even say anything to him about it.

and sorry if this posted twice - i went to double check and see if it posted and i didn't see it listed so i thought maybe it didn't submit! (link)
1) He seperated you from your friends because they were "sluts" but yet he seems to love sluts on myspace. (so here is his vocab.....sluts= independent women that will teach you to know better, pretty girls=sluts he likes to oogle)

2)He flirts even though he knows it bothers you

3)He is friends with nothing but slutty girls

4)He created a new secret profile to chat up said sluts


Conclusion: He is garbage and if you don't wise up and gain some self respect you will have men like this treating you like garbage your whole life.....MOVE ON....it doesn't matter how much you love him or how long you have been together....He doesn't feel the same, that's apparent.


We go to the same university (both sophomores). We've known each other for a while, but I was in a failing relationship at the time that we met, so he didn't "try" anything.

He asked me out after my previous relationship ended. We went out for drinks and then I came over to his place. We ended up making out the entire time. He tried to go further, but I stopped him.

Last week, we went out again. He asked me to come over but I declined.

He wanted to see me again, and we made plans to hang out at his apartment for a few hours this weekend(we have pretty cramped schedules and it was the only time that worked for both of us).

Should I be concerned that he's just asked me to come over? How do I prevent things from escalating too fast when I do come over? Does it sound like he's only interested in sex?

Thanks :) (link)
Yes. The answer is always yes.


Hi. I am married for more than 15 years. I love my wife. We are having a fantastic life. The one thing missing is physical relationship.For the last couple of years there is none. It is my lack of interest on her physically created this problem. I feel like getting physical with someone else. I know the hurt it will cause her if she comes to know. I don't want to walk away from her for this silly reason. At the same time it hurts me living this way. Any suggestion? Meeting a marriage counselor is ut of question. I don't even want her to know that I feel this way. (link)
It will hurt her more if you cheat on her. So talk to her please. My husband and I had the same problem. It has since has been fixed on both ends. As far as the bedroom goes, role-play works fabulously if you both commit to it. We have even gone as far as pretending to be different characters and meeting eachother for the first time. We have indulged eachother in different fantasies. If it has to do with her physical body then you must tell her, it will hurt but then you also have to be willing to change things on your end as well. You might be surprised at what she has to say....I know, it sounds harsh and uncomfortable, but not as uncomfortable/harsh as an affair and then divorce. My husband and I cheat in a way but just with eachother. ;)


There's this boy in my school who is 16. We are close friends and he says I'm like his little sister. Yesterday I split up with my boyfriend and he started talking to me he said he was fat and I said prove it (we always say it joking around) so he sent me a picture of him with no top on and in his boxers and he told me to prove I'm not fat so he convinced me to send him a picture of my belly. Then he said he's sad because my picture wasn't like his and I said I can't take my top off to take a pic of my belly and he put you can. I said no and he was trying to convince me for half an hour before he finally said okay and I don't know what to do? Wether to tell someone? But the hardest part is he has told me he likes me and.. I might like him to ?.. I don't know wether to carry on talking to him or notv someone tell me what I should do? Much appreciated
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Imagine you do send the pictures. Now imagine he gets mad at you. Now imagine him sending all those pictures of you around school. Now imagine those pictures all over facebook with nasty comments all over them. Now imagine your principal and your parents looking at them and then talking to you about it. Now imagine later in life your new nice boyfriend finding out about them and breaking up with you. Because that is your future, if you send those photos to him.


It's a silly fear I'm embarrassed to admit… I'm afraid of demons and evil spirits. It's really embarising,I practice white magic and am an altar server! But they haunt my worst nightmares and cause me panic attacks. I'd say what I'm afraid of is being hurt by them. I know God is much more powerful, but for some reason I'm still scared. I really feel I need to get rid of this, or it'll rule my life, it's the fear that makes me bite my nails, and I have a crucifix over my bed, pray the rosary when I get demon dreams. They all lead to nothing. I must eliminate this. How can I overcome this fear without telling anyone? Please, I'm ashamed of it. I once tried to hint it to my mom, and she laughed telling me it was silly. (link)
Stop practicing magic. You can call it white magic but you are toying with things you clearly don't understand. Surrender to God and call on the blood of Jesus. Demons are terrified at just the mention of his name and there is no reason to be afraid. You were given authority over demons and evil spirits by God. Demons wield fear as a weapon against you because they don't want you to know the truth, that you have power over them, not the other way around. They feed off of fear, and what good would you be to them unafraid...Before you go to sleep remember you are protected by Jesus and his sacrifice for you. When you encounter a dark spirit in your sleep you must call on Him and His name. You will sometimes war with them in your sleep, but they will no longer be able to terrorize you. You'll see! :) God Bless!


I do photography as a hobby. I started my own website and started to build my portfolio. My friend is a hairstylist and I asked her if she wanted she could do the hair, and that way she could have photos for her hair portfolio. She said fine. Then I asked if she could got to people's houses with me, kinda like an impromptu mobile photo op thing. She said fine. Next thing I know she bought a camera and wants to start taking the pictures. I said I wouldn't feel comfortable with that because I only needed assistance with the hair. I take the photos and I consider it to be an artistic exercise for me and having her jump around, rapidly snapping shots would be distracting and I would never get the shots I need. I much rather we keep our work separate if she wanted to be a photographer. I also don't want her taking credit for my creative concepts. For some reason she had it in her head we were partners. Why, I don't know. Anyway, she broke down crying saying she only wanted to help and she wasn't trying to take over. I said it would help me more her doing what I needed help with the hair. I said if she really wanted to be a photographer I can teach her a few things but I wanted creative control over my shoots because I do things a certain way. Anyway, she was surprised to find out, my pictures in my portfolio were edited. So she was upset at the fact she didn't know how and asked if I could edit her photos. I said I would do a few but if she was serious about photography she would have to teach herself and do the research. Take a class etc. (could possible be she thought she was just gonna mooch my business and be an instant photographer, come to find out there's more to it then just taking the pictures)

Anyway, now we are doing out first shoot together with a friend who is also bringing her friend. So she asked me if she could take pics of the other girl, not the model, while I am doing my shoot. I said fine, whatever, even though I told her before about me being the only photographer when I do shoots and then if she wanted help I would teach her a few basics at another time. Then I booked another shoot, which I don't need hair assistance on but she insisted being there and asked if she could practice. I said yes, fine after I get the shots I need. Then she says and then afterwards you gonna teach me how to edit, right?!? I didn't even know what to say at that point....So she continues...... I just want to help you so you don't have to edit all my photos!?! She seems sincere but I can't help but feel she is trying to learn all she can from me so she can mooch business or something....or is she really sincere and just doesn't know about boundaries. I don't know what to do anymore I am at a loss for words. I took classes, did 1000s of hours of work to get to where I am today and she wants me to just teach her all my tricks, without even doing what I asked her to do initially?!? She says she just wants to prove to me she can do more then just hair....but doesn't she see how crazy it is just to ask me to let her use my studio and learn everything she can from me....its like I can't book a shoot anymore without including her? What just happened?!? Now I have a partner I never asked for? I don't know what to do? Because what I say doesn't seem to get through to her?! Help Please!



I'm trying not to be selfish, hence I offered to help her a little....but I've had previous do stuff where they steal poems or songs of mine and pass them off as their own. It's seems like every creative thing I've done has been copied or stolen....so apart of me feels like shes just manipulating me to get what she wants....I feel like I had to put my foot down and tell her what i'm uncomfortable with....but apparently its not working...or she just has her mind set on the final goal which is manipulating me into teaching her everything so she can cut ties...is she impatient or excited....I don't know....
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Okay, so I posted this and could not remember the log-in so I thought I would give you a little update. I cut ties from her professionally. So she took it upon herself to go behind my back poach my clients by offering lower rates. I was furious but then I got a glimpse of some of the work and it was a generic rip off of my work, so that made it kind of laughable. However, although I maintain some kind of acquaintance like friendship with her, I have noticed that she still mimics my work. I changed my shooting style entirely out of frustration of her cheap imitations, and she has done it again. Now she also changed her style to imitate mine, once again sigh...so short of changing my website domain so she can't find it...I am not sure really what else I can do...I have decided I am just going to have to live with it and accept it...anyway thanks for the advice, lesson learned...




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