I have had my fair share of life's lessons and learned from them. I come from a family filled with divorce and family problems so I have a rough idea on how to personally handle things.
As for matters of the heart I can tell when a relationship is or isn't going to work. I understand the importance of communication and give and take after spending around two years in a relationship were I almost ran my ex boyfriend's household and looked after his siblings.
I understand that in certain parts of the world I am not yet of legal age to have a sexual relationship and that in some religious circles it is frowned upon for an unmarried woman to do so. What can I say? I have been in love and I have expressed that love but I have always been careful to avoid any trouble. I know how most contraception works and how the system works so don't be afraid.
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me. (link)
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Can I suggest taking a little break from sexual activity? I'm not jumping on the moral highground and about to point out the rules of age of consent and so on but an undeveloped body isn't quite as ready for sexual activity as say someone in their late teens.
Perhaps your current boyfriend isn't ready for sex either? Boys don't usually mature as fast as girls. He might be the same age as you but for all I know, he still might enjoy more childhood aspects of life.
Hope this helps.
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so, I have been friends with tracy for 15+ yrs and thought our friendship was a close one. ( she lived with my family for over a year when I was over the road truck driving). her daughter is getting married in july and dress fitting is this week. tracy and I haven't been talking lately and im chalking it up to her boyfriend.
you see, tracys boyfriend jeff wants to go to her daughters wedding. seeing jeff up close and personal and dealing with him for a week at another vacation we had taken. I really don't think this is the guy for her. he is an alcoholic and talks to tracy like crap whenever he drinks too much. I don't like it and wont put up with that at her daughters wedding. I don't know if I even want to go knowing he is going to be there and up tracys ass the whole time. she wants to introduce him to her parents ( dad recovering alcoholic from many moons ago). I don't think this is a smart decision. what to do (link)
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Ask your friend how she thinks things are going with her relationship. If she admits then discuss steps in ending it but otherwise she needs to figure it out herself.
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I am 17 and I have a huge crush on this cute guy who I work with which is 19. I want to ask him out to the cinemas but how do I ask him? And if he says yes, what would you do after the movie has finished?
How d i ask for his number? (link)
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I once played it really casual. I just started talking about a film I really wanted to see but didn't want to go billy-no-mates. Ask him his opinion of the film and suggest you go together. If the guy wants to hang out after suggest somewhere casual, cheap and cheerful like a fast food place.
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So I hve been like going off really easy, an gettin irratated really quickly, an I normally pee like twice...
An I've peed 6 times just from 6am-4pm... (link)
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M/F? I could use more information but it could be a simple case of urinary tract infection, pain causing anger, hormonal imbalance, the body's way of getting rid of toxins, it could be anything with the information that you have provided.
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So I'm on the pill, but I have missed quite a few days, I started my period the 10th an got off the 16th, I had unprotected sex the 18th, an after a day or so I was bleeding slightly.
I looked on an ovulating calendar an it said the 18th I was fertile. Is any of the slight bleeding or anything a strong sign of me actually being pregnant, or is there a higher chance then the normal risk?
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Usually Ovulation takes place 2 weeks after your period ie your most fertile time. You can only be 100% with a home test or a docs appointment.
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I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...? (link)
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It is more common for people with read hair to be fair skinned and some dark haired people are similar. Not sure what your question is, if it is racial or wondering if your skin tone is normal.
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I often have the same routine: do something, argument, she wants to “let it go". I love her and everything, but it's becoming too much. For example, today I found my sister's clothes mixed with mine. So I threw them on her floor. Then my mom yelled at the top of her lungs calling me selfish and I only care about myself no one else in the family. She doesn't just fight with me and my siblings, she gets into HUGE fights with my dad wich includes breaking things and telling each other they hate each other, and threatening with divorces. A few years back my dad left and came back 3 days later without a word about what happened. My mom is also very controlling, planning everything I do in advance, and when my parents get in huge fights, my younger siblings get upset and scared and start crying, and I have to keep them away. I can't express myself to my mom and dad because the only thing my dad knows how to do is shout and hit, and my mom doesn't understand anything, I've tried to tell them, but then I become the bad guy, and an being “rude and disrespectful" and a “brat" I always advise my friends to talk, and that's what I do when I have problems outside of this, but I don't know what to do. My mom had a toxic parent, but I still don't think she should take it out on her own children! (link)
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I guess letting it go is her way of dealing with it. My own mother would rather stay bitter over every argument we had. I think sometimes she over-reacts, realizes and tries to get back to normal as quickly as possible.
Being brought up by a toxic parent can be hard. It is very difficult to fight like crazy to be nothing like them but sometimes genes are hard to escape. Try and comfort your siblings and maybe when your clothes get confused just pop your head into her room and say 'hey, some clothes of yours in here want to come and get them?' rather than throwing them on the floor as I can see why she got annoyed there, maybe a little overboard but still I see why if she has a few loads of washing to do.
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My mother's last boyfriend was a bit unstable. He drank excessively, smoked marijuana, and couldn't manage his money, instead spending it on everything and anything. He recently lost his job, and out of pity my mother let him move back in with us. It's all ready been 4 months and though he's found a job he isn't leaving. He makes everyone uncomfortable. He plays really loud music so that the neighbours complain and drinks and smokes in the house. He hit my brother when he told him to stop. My mother's tried confronting him but he just twists her words around and says 'are you going to throw me on the streets?' and yesterday, I was alone in the house with him, and he was worse than usual and started screaming at me to undress because im such a whore. I don't feel safe in the house, and I'm just a bit scared and worried. Advice? (link)
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This man needs reporting for sexual harassment at least, as I do not know your age, perhaps worse than that.
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I think I've hallucinated a couple times before, but I wasn't scared or anything. This one time I thought I saw dirt on my friends leg, so she spent some time trying to find it. Eventually, she found nothing, and when I looked again I found nothing.
I didn't really put that incident in mind though. But today I thought I saw this guy go behind a counter, and then I saw another of him outside the shop. I realised the guy outside the shop was the real one.
I get around 6 hours of sleep each day, and I'm usually a little tired. Does lack of sleep or stress make you hallucinate? I have no idea why this is happening, but it hasn't really been that much of a problem. Can someone please help? (link)
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Tricks of the light can be due to lack of sleep or proper rest. Eight hours sleep could help and by that I mean actual deep sleep not just the amount of time spent eyes closed, trying to relax your mind.
Also it depends how you look at things, sometimes glancing to quickly or concentrating too much can make a person see things not really there.
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Well on Tuesday I managed muster up the nerves to tell this girl that I really liked her, but at the last minute I chickened out because I heard that she was going out with her ex again. So that night on Facebook I decided to ask if they were seeing each other and she said yes they were, then started asking if there was something I wanted to tell her...bottom line I snapped and told her that I do like her an have for a while now....this is where things start going down hill....she responded with this..
FINALLY!! i don't mean to sound cocky but ive known for a very long time that you've liked me, but has that affected the way i am around you NO OFC NOT!!! now that you have told me is that going to make things awkward between us deffo not, nothing is going to change between us!! Honest truth, if he wasn't in the picture things would be soooo different and ngl i probably would be with you, but he is in the picture and im sorry but i really like him! i will always have feeling for you, even when im a cripple and married I'll still have these feelings but i just think we should keep wha we've got now!! nothing will change though now you've told me okay, i promise!!
Then I said thanks for being honest ect and she comes back with this (we have an inside joke that we're married with kids, it's a detailed inside joke)
You will always be my husband!! and i mean it when i say this, if you had told me sooner, then maybe, maybe it would have been different but my feelings lie with will :L just know that i did like you and still have feelings for you!! i cant afford not to have you in my life though so please can we still be best friends??
I said yeah but could have some space to get over what has happened and she said that's fine, but yesterday at school I was louder than usual swearing a lot and when I got home all I've done is gloom around my room....what the hell is going on and what can I do about it!? I feel like I'm drowning, what the hell do i do?! (she is in loads of my classes) (link)
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It sounds like she is trying to spare your feelings in her own way. As for you, you are upset about how things have gone and that is perfectly understandable.
There isn't much you can do about it, you can either hope that she splits up with her boyfriend or move on and find a girl who is straight with you. If she truly loved her boyfriend she wouldn't have said that she liked you and classed you as her 'husband'. I am in a long term relationship and would never say to another man that I classed him as my husband because it wouldn't be fair to my partner.
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I am scared about my boyfriend getting back with his ex or talking to her it is bothering me but I don't know how to bring it up to him, he is a big part of my life I don't know what to think, sometimes I think he will leave me for another better girl or leave me for her how do I bring this up to him
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You have to ask yourself if you trust him. Trust is very important in a relationship. If you need reassurance then speak to him about that before you start accusing him.
My fiance's ex calls him quite a bit more than I would like, he knows it bugs me but he knows it isn't jealousy but annoyance at her interrupting us during nights in.
Perhaps ask him to limit her calls rather than stop them altogether? Ask how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and come to a compromise.
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Im 14, 15 in september and my Boyfriend is 19, nearly 20. We both really like each other and he hasnt tried to do anything I dont want to do. But our parents dont know we are dating and im not sure how to, or if I should tell them, what do you think i should do? (link)
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Relationships with more than one year age gap are best left until you are of legal age for sex in whatever country or state you live in.
As for your parents, at this moment in time they would be very concerned to hear of your relationship and probably try and put a stop to it.
My own mother would not accept it when I was in a relationship with someone six years older than me when I was in my late teens, she didn't take it very well at all and accused me of having intercourse when I had not.
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I am Male mid 20's
She is female mid 20's
Her friend is Male 30's I think???
First of all I am not a guy that is getting jealous about my girl texting other guys. It is just a very strange scenario. I will explain it a little bit.
1. She usually hangs out with the guy, his wife and kids. They are basically family friends, all good I get it.
2. When the wife and kids leave town and he stays because of work, she goes over there because he does not like to be alone.
3. Whenever we hang out, they usually text frequently unless we are on a date out of respect. Totally fine with it.
4. However, when she is over there. Especially on those weekends when the wife and kids leave town. Her replies to me are virtually none at all. Maybe 1 every 2-3 hours if any at all. (again totally fine but kinda of sketchy when looking at number 2&3.
Again, I totally love her and am not super jealous easily. I really have not gotten paranoid about this at all. She is super open about. She is the one who tells me she is going to hang out with him because he is home alone, when she could totally lie about it. I don't get pissy or mopey and try to make her feel bad about going over there because I trust her.
However it is slightly concerning to me, I just want other peoples feed back.
Am I just being paranoid and should not worry?
Or should I lay some rules down about this whole thing with her going over there alone with just those two. I would honestly say the most concerning thing to me is how she texts him when we hang and texts me when she is over there and the family is all there, but does not reply when it is just him and her there alone. I don't know, I don't want to start assuming anything but it is a strange situation. Any help would be awesome! (link)
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I agree it is a strange situation and you have the right to be curious, the fact that alarm bells are ringing is a good thing as you probably do not want their relationship to escalate int something more than friendship.
At this point I would suggest proving that you are the better man and fight for her. Try and discreetly prevent her from seeing him on his own as often by deciding to take her for a meal or to see a film. Do not at any point let on that you are suspicious or do not trust her because that could be the excuse she is looking for to get rid of you but do not just shrug it off either.
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Alright lets keep this simple
Im married but i have a crush on my husband's friend. I love everything about him if i was single this is someone i would absolutely date, i would never cheat on my husband but i find myself constantly thinking of his friend. I love my husband and i wouldn't leave him for anyone but i can not get him off my mind. How can i stop thinking of him? (link)
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Just think about how much you love your husband and put it before anyone else. Think about how your life would be without him and maybe you will be able to put the crush out of your mind.
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I'm 19 years old and engaged to the love of my life. Our relationship is outstanding. The only problem I see is my mental illnesses. I have severe panic attacks; severe uncontrollable anxiety; and severe bipolar disorder. I have agoraphobia (fear of people) and I also have learning disabilities due to some brain damage from a past car accident. I'm on a lot of medications which I'm still trying to figure out, because some of them don't work and my bipolar isn't yet under control. Because of all of this I haven't been able to get a job. It makes me feel like a total failure, because my fiancé works so hard and stresses over money, and I feel it's all my fault. He never puts any blame on me or pressures me and is completely understanding, but that doesn't change the fact that I need to get a job to put in my fair share of work. I'm also struggling to get my GED, which is difficult because its so hard for me to learn new things. Does anyone else struggle with these things? What helps you? And how did you overcome some of these things to be able to function enough to get a job and achieve other things? Please help me! I'm very desperate for advice on how to get through this. (link)
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I was unemployed between the age of 19-21, I really struggled to get back into work as I had been bullied at work and that was why I left my previous job and my confidence wasn't what it was. I was eighteen months without work and like you I had the support of my other half and felt guilty.
I had writing to fall back on in my case as it has always been my way of dealing with things and trying to explain how I felt and I never stopped looking for a job because I knew it was only a matter of time before someone gave me the chance I needed to get into work.
I have now been in work a year but I have not forgotten what it was like to be without work. I really hope you can find something soon, remember that your future employer can't hold your problems against you because it is classed as prejudice.
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There's this boy in my school who is 16. We are close friends and he says I'm like his little sister. Yesterday I split up with my boyfriend and he started talking to me he said he was fat and I said prove it (we always say it joking around) so he sent me a picture of him with no top on and in his boxers and he told me to prove I'm not fat so he convinced me to send him a picture of my belly. Then he said he's sad because my picture wasn't like his and I said I can't take my top off to take a pic of my belly and he put you can. I said no and he was trying to convince me for half an hour before he finally said okay and I don't know what to do? Wether to tell someone? But the hardest part is he has told me he likes me and.. I might like him to ?.. I don't know wether to carry on talking to him or notv someone tell me what I should do? Much appreciated
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I think it best that you do not have anything to do with him. You are too young to have that sort of pressure on you at such a young age and he should know better.
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I am wanting to get all the junk cleaned out of my pores that is clogging them. I was wondering if a cleansing brush would help? (link)
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Any exfoliating gel will do just fine.
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Is there any such thing as free text messaging? I keep seeing ads for it but it always seems to be a scam. Do you know of anyway to sens texts without having to pay? (link)
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Usually on some phone contracts they offer free texts, so many minutes and data for the internet.
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Hi everyone! I am a Jewish girl, so I guess you know why I am asking this question. :( Is there a way to see what your nose will look like after you go to a doctor to get it fixed? I don't want the surgery if it isn't going to be the perfect nose when I am done! Please help me? (link)
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I think the doctor will talk you through it and provide a kind of cgi images of what you will look like after they have done their work.
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I am a male 52 yr old and absolutely adore large labia and never had the pleasure of meeting a woman with large labia. I dont know why women are so up tight about it. Men are not the same in size or thickness so do they worry about it (link)
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I guess when it comes to ourselves bigger isn't always better. The only part of the body most women like to be large is their breasts, however if they got what they wanted, a lot of women would be falling over because they'd have large breasts, small waist and backside.
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