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Balistic mom
I often have the same routine: do something, argument, she wants to “let it go". I love her and everything, but it's becoming too much. For example, today I found my sister's clothes mixed with mine. So I threw them on her floor. Then my mom yelled at the top of her lungs calling me selfish and I only care about myself no one else in the family. She doesn't just fight with me and my siblings, she gets into HUGE fights with my dad wich includes breaking things and telling each other they hate each other, and threatening with divorces. A few years back my dad left and came back 3 days later without a word about what happened. My mom is also very controlling, planning everything I do in advance, and when my parents get in huge fights, my younger siblings get upset and scared and start crying, and I have to keep them away. I can't express myself to my mom and dad because the only thing my dad knows how to do is shout and hit, and my mom doesn't understand anything, I've tried to tell them, but then I become the bad guy, and an being “rude and disrespectful" and a “brat" I always advise my friends to talk, and that's what I do when I have problems outside of this, but I don't know what to do. My mom had a toxic parent, but I still don't think she should take it out on her own children!
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I guess letting it go is her way of dealing with it. My own mother would rather stay bitter over every argument we had. I think sometimes she over-reacts, realizes and tries to get back to normal as quickly as possible.
Being brought up by a toxic parent can be hard. It is very difficult to fight like crazy to be nothing like them but sometimes genes are hard to escape. Try and comfort your siblings and maybe when your clothes get confused just pop your head into her room and say 'hey, some clothes of yours in here want to come and get them?' rather than throwing them on the floor as I can see why she got annoyed there, maybe a little overboard but still I see why if she has a few loads of washing to do.
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