Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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Back in October I got my very first job at party city (i'm 17 almost 18) At the time they were just hiring seasonal workers for Halloween. After Halloween they got rid of all the seasonal workers except for me. It was super cool that they decided to keep me. But now since I have been working there for about 4 months i'm getting really stressed about dealing with my personal life and trying to deal with school (I do online schooling) I only work like 2 times a week at most but I honestly dread going to work. My boss and co-workers are super nice to me so it has nothing to do with them. My mom and dad don't think I should quit just because they think ill never get a nice boss like the one that I have, which I think is untrue because I have my whole life ahead of me to experience other jobs/careers. I also have a lot of upcoming events where I would have to take off work and I already have taken work off like 3 times (which was a pain in the ass because none of my co-workers are ever willing to take my shift) I would like honest opinions and no hate, any advice is well appreciated. So should I keep my job? or should I quit? (link)
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Hunnie at 16 I was in high school and working 32 hours a week. You are only working two days a week and you can't handle it? You need to learn how to manage your time. If you work two days a week, that means you have 5 days off to focus on school. You are almost 18, which is considered an adult, therefore it's time to do adult things like work.
And take it from me, not every boss is "cool" or "nice". It's better to have 2 days a week than nothing at all. I'd keep the job and stop complaining over nothing. Who cares if you need time off. It shouldn't be an issue considering you aren't a full time employee. It's time to get your priorities in line and stop being lazy.
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Good morning and good afternoon advicenators. I am an 20 years old girl with a boyfriend who is 23. We have been together for the past 2 years. Here is my situation: Tuesday of last week, my boyfriend texted me in the morning but I did not answer his text. Later in the afternoon he called me but I did not pick up. All this was because I was frustrated with school and I was not in the mood to talk to anyone. Of course he got upset and felt as if I was ignoring him but I was not. I was planning to call him later before I went to bed. I had no intention on making him feel bad about it but when he confronted me with it I apologized and he forgave me. since then, our relationship has been off-balance. He has been ignoring me but I act as if I dont notice it because I feel like he wants to get revenge. When I text him, he takes forever to text back but I always text him right back. When I call him at night, he doe not pick up and texts me in the morning saying that he went to bed early. I really do not know what to do. Can someone please advice me on what I should do. Thank you in advance. (link)
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Can you not go and see him? You can't ignore someone if it's in person. My personal opinion, it doesn't matter what type
Of day you're having- you shouldn't ignore someone your dating, especially someone you've been with for two years. You could have told him you were having a bad day and just wanted to sleep it off, but honestly-you handled it in an immature way. Real maturity would see that. Now your boyfriend is doing the same to you, and you don't like it. Learn from your mistake, and apologize to him
If you think he's doing it out of spite. Sometimes you got to value you're relationship more than your ego. Good luck.
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Hey, I havent messaged you since like december. I had the exbf who lived far away and was on drugs and i could never get over him? I sent you quite a lot of different questions. I hope you remember.
But the reason I am back is way different then when I stopped asking for advice. When I came back up to college, he called me 2 days later to let me know that he was going into rehab. I told him I was really proud of him and would support him whenever he needed me. I didn't talk to him for like 2 weeks and I assumed I wouldnt be able to until he got out. But the rehab wasnt as strict and he talked to me like every night for a month after those 2 weeks. It was like we were falling in love again. Our conversations would go for hours and just joking and not talking about anything serious and then he started talking about coming up and visiting as soon as he could. Then on valentines day it all changed. He started calling less and less and then that day he told me that he didn't want me to think of him as my boyfriend and that he was going to need time. I immediatly started crying before I had time to think of it and he assured me that I was a really important person in his life and he really wanted to be with me eventually. But he wanted to build our relationship back up and have more to start on. I began to see that he was right but my doubt comes in and I started getting really upset.
Then 2 weeks ago I went down to where he lives (6 hours away) and we had plans to see each other. He cancelled saying he thought it was too soon to see me and didn't want to confuse me. But later on in the week he remade plans with me and we went to the beach.
At the beach I felt amazing again. He kept telling me how much he loved me and would talk about marriage and all this crazy stuff. Like 6 hours later he started saying how bad he wanted a cigarette but he left them at home. Then he said he really needed to go home. Then its like out of nowhere we got into a fight. He told me to move on and lots of other hurtful stuff. But that was after I was pressuring him for a while and picking at our fight. We ended by like making up and him saying that he sometimes thinks hes not good enough for me but he really wants a long and happy relationship with me but he just needs time.
So i went back to school and have completely tried giving him space. He texted me just saying I love you like 10 days after I got home. And then I started texting him every couple of days. Now yesterday he said he was ready to come visit the 13th of april. I kept asking if he promised and stuff and he said yes I love you.
This doesnt sound like a bad story. I mean the guy I can never get out of my head wants to marry me and is finally ready to have a relationship again. The problem is I have HUGE doubt. I'm so scared that he isnt going to come up. And this is a huge deal to me because I need to see him if he wants to be with me. I can't help but think that if I dont text him and pressure him to buy the ticket then he wont come. This is such a horrible feeling!! Im not sure how to feel and I think I am falling into a deep depression :/ I wish I had more self worth so things wouldnt bug me so much (link)
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I am just now reading this! Almost two years later and I am so sorry! I would love to know how everything went and how everything is going for you now? But reading your post I wouldn't be surprised if your ex didn't show on the date you guys had scheduled. I really hope for the sake of your heart that you are in a much better place either with or without him! Hopefully I'll get to hear from you soon.
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I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now? (link)
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You need to move on sweetheart. This guy has a lot of secrets and from what I read, I don't think he is the person your mind has him set to be. He has made it very clear that you are just a friend and personally, he only asked about you being in a relationship for a friendly conversation starter. I know when you fall in love with someone, it's difficult to cut ties- but you are wasting your time. I guarantee that if you leave this boy alone- maybe within time, he will realize what he lost and if he comes back- great. If not, then atleast you are already on the verge of moving on.
Please keep me
Updated on any details. I'm always here to help!
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My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).
Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.
I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).
My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.
She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.
My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).
Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).
So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own. (link)
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Wow let me say that I am sorry you are going through that. You are not worthless and I am sure you will do many great things with your life. Your mom is probably being so ill because she doesn't have her medication. Have you talked to your grandmother?? It's her house therefore your mom and sister cannot pick and chose who is welcome there. If your grandmother is as caring as you stated then, she won't let yu be homeless. If any way possible ask for more hours at your job or get another job working a later shift. You only work 10-4 so that leaves from 4-? For another shift somewhere else. In order to do great things with your life you have to scarifice. I go to school for nursing from 8-5 4 days a week and I work from 11pm-7am. It's not easybut it is worth it. Stay positive and talk with your grandmother and don't hesitate to come to me. I will help you every step of the way.
Xoxo Kaci
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How to entertain a three year old for hours? (link)
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Nothing will entertain any child below 5 for hours. they have the attention span of a drunk person lol. you have to constantly keep them busy. you can try to Play with them? Balloons. Bubble machine. Music. Coloring. Maybe a cartoon? Some children will watch a movie or show, but not all of it. Ask the child questions about the show to keep them interested. You can sing songs and even read books. Ask the child what they want to do, at that age, they should be able to tell you. (:
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Hi! So I want to give my mom and dad a present or two (Seperately). I'm planning to do DIY projects, but I can't seem to find any good ones. I'm not really looking for food ideas, but just making gifts. If you can give me links or tell me website names, that would be great! (link)
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I made my mom a blanket for christmas. It's a knot, fleece fabric blanket. I made myself one to see how her reaction would be, and she loves it!
You can get on google and type it knot blankets, and it'll show you how.
Have you tried pinterst? they have a lot of DYI projects for males and females.
if you can't find any, try getting on google and typing it
"do it your own christmas gifts for dad/moms"
and there should be a lot of cool ideas.
You could make them coupons.
I made some for my dad last year,
like 'free wash your car'
'foot massage'
'dinner for two'
its a cool idea.
its hard to give you specific gift ideas, because we don't know what their interest are, or what they like.
What I do, is I write down stuff I know they like, and I find a way to turn it into a project.
:)
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i and my b.f is luving since 4nd half years.he has a g.f since 4yrs.my b.f luvs me only at first,but that girl is luving my b.f,so she offered to stay with him.my b.f agreed to luv her too,but will not marry her.she agrred for that..she act smart and bcos of her we two of dem got fightings everyday.i warned dat grl to leave my b.f but she refused.i begged my b.f to leave her and stay with me but he refused.he says she is gud grl and iam happy with her.iam helpless but i wont leave my b.f.i loves him alot he too luvs me more dan dat grl..but.plz help me wat can i do now? (link)
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I replied to your other question. If he loves you more than her, than he would leave her. If he really loved you at all, he wouldn't have another girlfriend. A man/woman who loves- respects, cherishes, and adores the person he/she is with.
Find someone better. You can either put up with it or let it go!
Best of luck to you~
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i know he has another grlfnd.i quarelled him alot of times.but nthng of use.he says i'll marry only u.but he asks to be happy with him irrespective of wat he is doing.but how can i forget about her and be happy with him.how to make him happy and how to attract him more.and how to make him forget about dat grl.and how to make him feel that iam good for him than that girl?plz suggest me what to do?..plz (link)
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You leave him. Why? Because the both of you are different. You both want different things. Usually in a relationship, you both have one thing in common- the love and respect for one another; along with faithfulness and committment.
This guy clearly does not want to be committed to you. You have told him numerous times how you felt about the entire situation and he continues to ignore how you feel and resume dating this other woman.
Yes, he may say, 'I only want to marry you' but more than likely, he is full of it. If he is willing to commit to you for the rest of his life, why can't he commit to you right now?
Think about it. There is nothing you can do to make him forget or leave this other girl. Yeah, he may leave her, but there will always be another girl. You will never be his 'only one'. And personally, I wouldn't tolerate it. He needs someone who is willing to be in an open relationship; which is where you are dating each other but OKAY with the fact that both of you date and hook up with other people.
I'm sorry you are going through this; I couldn't never find enough strength to share the person I adore. I think you need to leave him immediately. Save the time you are wasting on him, and cherish it on someone who could not imagine himself without ANYONE else.
You deserve that!
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Okay so basically i want to try hookah, I'm of legal age and everything but I 'm scared. A lot of the people i hang out with do it, but they have done it before. Some of them have also done marijuana so hookah isn't a big deal. I really want to try it though. My question is...if I do it once, am I going to get addicted? How addicted? If i do a couple puffs what will happen? Does it have an effect on you? Also, is it going to burn? And how do I avoid not coughing my lungs out when I try it? haha, thank you so much! and please don't try to convince me not to do it, thank guys!! (link)
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I bought a hookah bong yesterday from Earth Bound in the mall.
It was my first time trying it, and I wasn't a big fan. Instead of tobacco, we used molassis. Which is kind of like syurp. But it was good.
It's not addicting at all. Even if you do use tobacco its not bad.
When you go to take a hit, take a deep breath to keep you from coughing, and so epople know you are inhaling it and not faking.
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I can have a orgasm just by looking at my partner or hearing him on the telephone or thinking about him. We can have sex (constantly) for 2- 3 hours and I orgasm the whole time. It is GREAT! (I am 70 female and my partner is 10 years my junior). I am very sensual no matter where you touch me. I really lose a lot of fluid since it is constant. SO how can my body manufacture that much fluid time after time the whole course of our sexual desire encounter. It never stops. I can soak 4 bath towels through each time we have sex. Where does it all come from? This is NO JOKE. He can attest to it. QUESTION IS? What makes me so sensual and where does all the orgasm fluid come from since there is so much each time? He is elated that I can give so much but I told him he is the contributor. Is this a showing of true-love? I do not get tired. (link)
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Just because you have orgasm's doesnt mean that its true love. You have to understand what components make up love and stop basing it off of one topic. Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship and seeing how you think it is, NO IT ISN'T TRUE LOVE.
Sounds like a bunch of lust to me.
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Hello everyone. I would like to know if it's right or wrong to live together before marriage? What are the reasons of why it's right? What are the reasons of why it's wrong? My ex that I just broke up with told me that she would rather wait until marriage to be living with her lover. I however would rather live with my future wife before marriage if possible. It gives me the chance to see how they normally live and how we can fix issues we don't like about each other. Her reasoning of why she didn't want to live together is because it states in the bible that living together before marriage is wrong. I too am religious, but disagree with that fact in the bible. But I know that once once gets married, your stuck with that person for good. I don't want to ever get divorced and my ex also doesn't believe in getting divorced either. But that wasn't the reason she broke up with me. We broke up because it did seem like the relationship was moving too fast and it seemed like she wanted to get married sooner than later and she was very clingy at times which I hated and she was offended when I would say that to her. She however has been in a couple abusive relationships and had other abuse to her in the past. As a result of the abuse, often she would whine about stuff quite frequently too. (link)
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Like the user below me said, it depends on your beliefs. My fiance' and I have been living together for almost 2 years. I believe that it is best to live together before you are married, because you truly do not know a person unless you live with them. Another reason why I believe its best is because if you do notice things about your spouse that you do not care for, you have time to fix it before you are legally married. If you are married, and than live together, it's much more stressful and finicially stressful if you realize those things cannot be fixed. A lot of people say that those who inhabitate (live together before marriage) have higher divorce rates than those who wait ti'll marriage. Everyone will tell you different things. You will be able to control if your relationship will be another satistic or not. I don't care what anyone else says, I'm happy and comfortable living with my spouse, and I wouldn't want it any other way. Let me tell you, I'm glad we have the experience of living together now, because I wouldn't be quite confident if we were married and just moved in. Why? Because marriage is stressful along with the other things that include in that. I wouldn't rush into living with someone, unless you do think you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Its tough as is to live with someone whom you aren't too sure about.
If you feel as if it is okay to live with someone whom you are not married to, than who can tell you differently? Sure the bible may be against it, but the bible is against a lot of things. God forgives us for our sins, so no matter what He wil forgive you. He knows everything that will happen before it happens, so he's never fully disappointed.
Good Luck
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My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 7 months now. She is 16. The last couple of days I feel like I am not interested in her anymore. I am not sure if it is some sort of "hump" I am going through. Sometimes I feel like i see her too much, we have been hanging out a lot as of late. Sometimes things she does makes me feel annoyed or bugs me. Things that use to never do that to me. She has put me through a lot this past summer and that is when my feelings seemed to have changed some what, i kind of got "numb" to her but when she got back from her vacation (which is when she treated me terribly and stuff) i regained some of my feelings, she lied to me though about some stuff and hid things. I forgave her and stuff. This past week or two some days I wish i wasn't with her.
I thought I loved her, lately i'm not sure. I don't get the same feeling of happiness when she calls or texts me or anything like I use to. Maybe that just goes away after some time? I question if I want to be with her but I don't know how to even bring that up with her cause it would crush her. She has lost a lot of friends and I am almost all she has. I don't know what to do. Sorry if this is confusing just trying to keep it short :p
Thank you for your help (link)
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Leave her. If you are concerned about hurting her, than the more you stay with her knowing you do not feel the same will end up hurting her a lot worse.
I was in a situation like this. I was with a guy who was absolutely in love with me, I thought I loved him, but like you, the 'spark' just wasnt there. I wanted to love him the way he loved me, and I couldn't.
So, I was straight up honest with him. I told him how I felt, and when we seperated if I felt like I missed him, and I realized I did care for him more than I thought I did, I would let him know but to NOT get his hopes up. It would be his descision to take me back or not.
Turns out, when I left him, it was a sigh of relief. I felt 100x times better, and I felt more confident in my choice.
Its good to know that you care about your girlfriends feelings on how she will take it; it shows you have good intentions and a good heart.
Just leave her, and see how it makes you feel. If you feel worse after you leave her, than take her back; if not, than move on!
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Hey everyone! Here's a disappointing story...
I went to a friend's house today. When we got there we were talking in the kitchen for a minute or so then he told Hendricks & I to come to his room and there we watched tv with the two of them. After about 10 minutes his dad left and went to his room to watch tv because we were preoccupied, talking and he was actually watching so he left and so did Sam and then when Sam came back I laid down where he was (on purpose) & then he went over to me an asked if he could borrow our iPod charger so that he could download music onto his iPod and I said sure and then he told me he would charge mine on his deck thing and wanted me to follow him, and then it was only me and him in the room (he has a very hyper personality let me just say) and when he put the iPod on the deck he looked at me and pretended to lick his thumb then my face as if I had something on my face and as an instict, I let him do it because I trust him not to poke my eye and I really like him so I'm not scared around him, and then I was like "oh that wasn't real? I thought there really was something on my face." and he said "No =D" literally with the face and everything... Like I said, hyper. When we went back to the room, he went back to the computer and I flipped on the bed (meaning, my feet were on the pillow instead of my head and I was on my stomach not my back) and his desk is right in front of the corner of the bed so we were closer. Before this though, when I was laying on my back, he was touching my legs a lot (I'm wearing long pants :( he didn't get to feel my freshly shaved leg) so that was when I flipped because I wanted him to touch my back or hair or something else like that so I got obviously closer to him and I said to Hendricks (my brother) "I need a massage..." and this morning he already gave my mom a massage so I took advantage of that and the whole reason why I did it was because I wanted to ask Sam if he would give me a massage but I chickened out (-.-) so I missed that chance and then later on, as planned, at appropriate times he touched my nose, stroked my hair, looked into my eyes, felt my "muscles" and touched my face. Then I touched him too -- his hair, face, and arms. Then he let me use the computer so I could check my email and he kept telling me to put certain songs on and he was talking to Hendricks about some girl other than Kimberly (He has a girlfriend named Kimberly that he's been with for 7 months) and he obviously didn't want me to know, and when I tried to put the song down, he playfully pushed me and was all like "don't think you're slick, I'm right behind you" and we laughed and then I tried to get more out of him and he wouldn't tell me and to be completely honest, I don't want to know. He was saying things like, "when I go to her house..." and then Hendricks said that it was a bad idea to go to her house, and he was like "I'm not gonna do anything, but if she tries to do something, I'm not just gonna leave her hanging!" and I was saying really? You don't respect Kim at all do you? and stuff like that and all he said was "if Kim was here I would be faithful, but she's far away and we're over here." and I said, "That's messed up and you know it" I kinda got upset because I realized, I have a huge crush on a guy that says things like that...
Anyways that's beside the point. So after that, he asked me if I was still mad at him (what he meant was if I was jealous because of Kimberly) and I said "I was never mad at you for anything." and Hendricks, knowing that I have a weakening crush on this guy, says "awwwwwwwwww that's so cute, makeout!" and then he laughed and was joking. I was seriously blushing then, like extremely, and that's kind of hard to do with dark skin, right? Wrong. Anyway, a little later than this, I was saying how bored I was and he said "ok, let's go out on the balcony!" and I said ok and Hendricks agreed. It's starting to get cold out so Sam got us all jackets. Sam and I matched, and Hendricks didn't. I took that as a subconsious sign on his part because he also said something about it. He was also talking to the other girl on the phone the whole time we were outside with him so we didn't really talk, I just leaned back on Hendricks and put my feet up on Sam and relaxed. Then my mom came and ruined everything by saying we had to go. I was snapped back to reality and then about another hour later was when we actually left ^.^
When it was officially time to leave, me and Hendricks went by the door to say goodbye to Sam. He was doing the whole "no you hang up first" thing (I honestly didn't think people did that in real life...) and stuff like that, and it was just disgusting how corny it all was, and then when we said goodbye he hugged me, and I turned to leave and then Hendricks asked, "Who was that?" and Sam said, "oh, just a friend." and me and my brother exchanged looks, and then Sam said, "No, really, she's my friend, I could tell her everything. Like Melanie, I can tell her anything." Hendricks smirked, and said "At almost midnight? Yeah right, and I don't see you flirting with Melanie..." and he said "I wasn't flirting..." then I went over to him and asked for how long the converstation lasted and he purposely took a long time (My mom was rushing me through Hendricks) so for both of them to shut up and so I could be alone with Sam, I told him to leave and wait for me with mom. He did and I turned back to Sam and asked again how long the conversation was. He showed me and it said 52 minutes! I said "wow an hour?" he talks to me for 10 minutes! He said "not even an hour" he tried to make it sound better by saying not even. Then I started to leave again, saying something, I really don't remember, and he grabbed my arm. He said, "Why do you say that like it's a bad thing?" and I said "You have a girlfriend. Enough said." he doesn't say anything, so I say, "what you're doing is stupid. You're GOING to lose in the end. Karma's a bitch." then he says, "Give me a hug" and I really didn't have choice so I stepped up to one step under him (I was on the stairs leading to the front door, and I really should have been his level so I could press into him like I've always wanted to) and I suddenly feel very calm, like I'm in the right place, and he says, out of absolutely nowhere, "I love you, Melanie." I freeze. Not tense, but freeze, for a split second (we're still hugging here) and I say "I love you too..." but it didn't come out in the right tone. I said it in a "what am I gonna do with you" tone, and I meant to say it in a serious tone, pull away and look at him, and say, "Sam, I think I NEED to tell you something." But what do I do? The TOTAL opposite !!! He pulls away, and says, "I'm serious." when I actually look at him, I see a question on his face. I say, "sure you are..." and DAMMIT I DONT KNOW WHY but I turn, and this time, he let's me leave, and he's saying something and smiling, but I'm not paying much attention, I'm too busy beating myself up for what I shouldve done. At first I can't get the door handle. But then after a few tries, I manage to open it. He laughs and says "ok goodnight" and I clumsily close the door (I'm such a dork) and then leave.
Please, tell me your opinions. What do you think I should have done? Should I have told him how I feel about him? Should I let him lead, like he's already doing? Or should I tell him next time? I'm so disappointed in myself, I should have told him !!!!! The timing, mood, situation, and everything was perfect! I don't know why, but God didn't want me to tell him yet.
Anything will be appreciated. Thank you all for your time :) (link)
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NEVER WRITE THAT MUCH AGAIN!
I didn't even bother reading it all,
let me say this,
keep your feelings to youself.
'god' doesn't want you telling him because he HAS A GIRLFRIEND! How would you feel if you was his girlfriend, and all this was going on between your boyfriend and another girl?
If he is going to flirt and try to mess around while he has a girlfriend, he is going to do it with you, so why in the world are you wasting your time??
LEAVE HIM ALONE. MOVE ON.
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I had a Friend who was one of my best friends. In fact he was more like the little brother I never had.
About a month or so ago, he got back with his ex, who had cheated on him in the past. He said at the time, he felt like he was making a huge mistake, but he loved and missed her and she felt the same. I said as long as he was happy, I was happy.
Anyway, she recently kicked off at him about us being friends and he explained to her we are only mates and we have a brother/sister relationship. Bearing in mind He's 19, I'm 24 and I am actually engaged to my partner of 6 years and I love him.
There has never been anything more than that between us and never will be, we were just very close. Anyway she was fine with it after he'd explained.
She then kicked off about a week ago again, and sent me a message on facebook pretending to be him, saying don't ever speak to me again.
When I questioned him about it, he said he was sorry, but he couldn't speak to me ever again as he needed to save his relationship. I was absolutely devastated.
I then got a message off his girlfriend, saying she didn't appreciate our relationship as we "flirt" too much. Her interpretation of flirting is a few messages from me saying "hiya sweetheart are you having a good day?" or "have a good day babe"
We've always spoke to eac hother like that by the way.
She went on to explain that she dosen't like the manner in which we speak in and feels it's not acceptable for us to speak that way. I said to her she is obviously insecure because I have a partner of 6 years and I love him. There is absolutely no reason for her to think otherwise.
Anyway my friend said they had argued about it and now as a result he's cut all contact with me. She's told me never to speak to him again and she says that he says the same. She said she feels better now nobody is going to call "HER boyfriend" sweetheart.
I think it's absolutely ridicilous and I haven't stopped crying for days. Not only have I lost one of my best friends, I've also lost someone who was like my brother.
I'm so angry, hurt and upset because I know she's made him choose between us, and while I wouldn't have wanted him to choose her over me, I wish he would have valued me as a friend and told her straight that she is being ridicilous. It shouldn't have even come to this, there's never been anything more between us. I'm absolutely heartbroke, but I've respected what he's said and not contacted him, but I did message him saying that I'll always be here.
His girlfriend is obviously very jealous and insecure.
I just don't know how to deal with this. I know I can't do anything but she is controlling him and it breaks my heart.
When I apologised to her during our conversation for her being upset, she said fair enough, I know there's nothing going on between you. So why was there still an issue here?
He's blocked me on everything by the way. (link)
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Maybe you should message her or try to contact her in some way. Explain to her how you feel, and that you don't think its right that she made him pick between you and her. If she really loved him than she would never make him pick between ANYONE. But I will admit, I wouldn't want ANYONE, I don't care who it is- calling my boyfriend babe, or sweetheart either. That can be misunderstood as flirting, and it doesn't matter what you say about that- she won't believe it. All you can do is promise her that if she would have told you straight up that you calling him babe and sweetheart was what bothered her, than oyu would have gladly stopped to keep the friendship you cherish so much. She is insecure- only because you are in a committed relationship of 6 years, and she isn't allowing a friendship with someone of the opposite sex.
What is really messed up, is the reason why she is insecure, isn't because of her pyshical appearance, or trust issues- its because she is known to cheat, therefore, she believes he will cheat to 'get back at her'.
I can promise you, these two won't last long. HOpefully he won't stay too blinded by her and her controlling ways, but there is always a possiblity.
Now, she isn't the only bad person in this situation. He is as well. If he was a true friend, he wouldn't let ANYONE come between a friendship HE really CARES about. Trust me on this, when a guy has a friendship, and he puts 100% into it, and actually allows himself to trust someone with all his heart, he will not let NOTHING come between it. Therefore, he wasn't a real friend to begin with.
He will realize the mistake he made, when this low down cheats on him again and he is left wiht NO ONE because SHE let it be that way.
I'm sorry you are going through this. I know what it's like, I've been in your exact situation. It feels almost as bad as it does when you are actually in love with someone and they leave you for NO REASON. You're left with a million questions, heartbreak, and unwiped tears. You are left with no one to talk to, because whenever you felt similar to how you feel now, that person who you always went to, isn't there anymore.
It sucks. But it'll get better. He'll come back; maybe not ASAP- because he will feel too bad, and won't know what to say; but he'll come back.
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I have been w/ my amazing bf for 10 months. I have never cheated until this relationship. Before him I dated a guy who cheated on me a lot. My parents made me breakup w/ him and threatened to take everything away from me.. I'm not in high school btw I am in college. I could not stop seeing my ex, I still love him. I am still seeing my ex and my current bf. it is seriously making me sick to my stomache. Idk why I even so it because I am not sexually attracted to my ex... I just love him and don't know what I would do without him... But I also lOve my bf... None of them know about each other and both think I am exclusive. It is almost making me want to move away and cut ties with everyone.... Advice?? (link)
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You need to leave them both alone, so they can find someone BETTER.
Cheating is never a good excuse, regardless of the situation.
You cheated, therefore you do NOT deserve either of them.
Your 'amazing' boyfriend of 10 months must not be too amazing or you wouldn't have cheated.
You need to tell him the truth, and hopefully he will leave you and find a woman who will love him unconditionally.
So, seriously- leave him. he deserves way better than what you have to offer.
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Photos of me: http://imgur.com/a/UtAqm
Obviously the second one is really bad quality but I took it with my iphone.
Today I went to Bealls and saw one of the girls from my old school (I graduated in June) there.
The whole time I was there I couldn't help but think she was so much prettier than me and I'm sick of just being "cute" or "normal" pretty.
She's the girl on the left: http://imgur.com/Rv1Pe
It's inspired me to make myself become more noticeably pretty. I'm deciding I've had enough with my bad habits like biting my fingernails. I'm stopping that once and for all tonight. I want long beautiful fingernails so I'm applying Sally Hansen's Maximum Growth nail polish.
I have sort of white teeth but they are a little yellowish so I picked up some maximum whitening flouride toothpaste and I plan on brushing them at least twice a day! I don't get acne but my skin without makeup is a little blotchy around my cheeks and the bottom of my chin, I also want gorgeous clear skin so I bought an $8 salycic acid maximum cleansing daily face wash and I'm going to start using it twice a day as well.
I'm about 4ft 10 in and 78 pounds so I am very skinny but I want to get rid of that "womens tummy pouch" thing. I've heard people say every woman has it but I know celebrities don't so tomorrow I think I'm going to start doing situps until it's gone.
I want to get tanner as well but I don't know how. I stay inside most of the time and we don't have a beach in my town and I don't have a yard since I live in an apartment. We have a balcony so maybe if I lay out there I can. I'm not going to use any of that fake chemically crap or go to a tanning booth though.
Other things I want to get rid of are:
Wearing sneakers, I think that's a big no-no because they aren't cute or classy they're just like lazy shoes. I really need to buy a pair of flats. Right now I have two pairs of boots (both high heels),two pairs of sneakers that I normally wear out,one pair of sandals and two pairs of heels (one stilletto) and obviously I'm not going to wear heels 24/7. I don't want back problems so I think my only choice is to get a cute pair of flats.
Pants: I AM SO SICK OF WEARING PANTS! I get so mad at myself every time I look in the mirror and my skinny jeans look faded or just bad. They are really starting to drive me crazy! I want to wear skirts and dresses but obviously I don't have a ton of money so I can't go and buy a whole new wardrobe so this one is going to take a lot of time and money to get right.
Makeup: I think I need to start buying more high priced makeup. I used to like my makeup but I hate how my mascara seems to dry out and flake or look kind of clumpy and how my foundation starts fading and looking powdery about 6 hours in. Or when I have to reapply lipstick every hour. I usually spend $7 on mascara,$7 on foundation and $5 on lipstick but it isn't working so I think I need to start saving up to buy the more expensive stuff like Urban Decay or YSL.
I'm also going to regularly dye my hair a reddish brown so it looks vibrant and not so dull like in the second photo.
Does anybody have any other ideas? I don't usually wear my makeup that bright as it is in the photos so that's not a problem. (link)
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Obviously you came here for honest answers, therefore that is what I will give you.
I think the other girls are prettier than you. On a scale of 1-10; I'd give you about a 3. You're just plain jane;
Don't take it personal. Everyone will have different opinions. Do I think you are ugly? No not at all.
You don't want anything that will harm you- you want all natural products that will enhance you, not break you.
Looking at your picture, I can tell you a few things that I would change if you want to better yourself-
Your weight. You are way to small. A girl your height should be atleast 100-110 pounds. A girl who has weight problems with being too skinny, or even too big can really make someone look unattractive. Itstead of losing that weight, try gaining it the right way. Speak with your doctor and ask him/her how to gain weight the right way.
That alone will fill you out completely. It will give you breast, a butt, and even some curve and depth, so you aren't a twig.
Another thing is your nose. Your nose looks to big for your face. I don't mean you need to get a nose job; make up isn't to make you look like a clown, make up is actually used to enhance certain areas of your body. You can make your nose look smaller (if u wanna) by using a certain color of base and foundation. Its a cool technique I learned in cosmetology; same with cleavage for your breast; it'll make you look like you have it, when you don't. You also need to learn on how to put on make up, because your make up is dreadful- reason why I say that is because it doesn't do anything for you.
You would look better a little darker- not too much though, just some color would help. I love your hair color the way it is, and you have eyes. The things taht you have going for you, take advantage of it. Your hair would look really cute curled;
you'd be surprised what fixing your hair will do!
Really enhance those items.
As of your teeth, my aunt is a dentist and the BEST, QUICKEST, WHITEST way to turn your teeth to that beautiful white you want is Peroxide. You know the stuff you use for cuts and stuff? Most toothpaste has 20% H. Peroxide;; If you swish with it twice a day; it'll give you great looking gums, white teeth, and helps fight off bacteria (which will help you from getting sick (: )
I hope I didn't sound harsh. I'm really trying to help; with all beauty comes critizism.
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F/14
So at my school,there's this senior I really like.I've seen him around before,but he's never noticed me before,probably because I'm a freshman.
But anyways,I only see him when I'm in the hallway going to my next class.I really wanna talk to him,and tell him,but I can't.And the thing is I can usually talk to any guy,because it's like there's friends,but I get nervous when I try talking to him,so I don't.
When I see him in the hallways,our eyes always meet for a few seconds,but we keep on going like eachother's not there.He's stand offish,which is another reason I'm not so confident.
What should I do? (link)
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Leave him alone.
You are 14, he is almost 18- it won't work out.
Why would he be intersted in a freshman, when he is a senior?
Take it from me,
when I was 14, I was interested in this senior boy.
We dated for about 7 months, and once I gave my virginity to him, thinking he loved me, he left me.
Thats all guys that age want from girls your age.
Haven't you heard? Senior boys chase the freshman girls- because they are easy, naive, and unstable?
They know they can take control of you- so don't give in. Find someone your age. If he hasn't made a signal he's into you, than he isn't. Guys that age aren't heistant to let a girl know they like her.
So I'd back off before you embarass yourself.
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Hi My Name Is Erin , I'm 13 Years Old Soon To Be 14 In December.. I'm Scared To Lose My Virginity But I Want To... My Friend Adriane Also Wants Me To .. She Tries To Get Me To Do Things Like That .. I Got Forced To Do Thing (Pressured) I Need Help.. My Sister Also Brag About Having Sex.. & My Friend Mariah Lost Her Virginity At 11 & Just Turned 12 Last Year ... I Had Mine Longer Than Her. Please Give Me Advice. My Mom Moved To Florida My Dad I Don't Wanna Talk To About This .. Please Help Me .. Kay , Thanks Bye. (link)
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Hunnie, I lost my virginty when I turned 15. Let me tell you, I regret it! I'm 20 now, and I look back and wished I would've saved that special moment for my fiance'. He was a virgin when we got together.
There is nothing special about sex at your age. It's just 'doing it' that makes it appealing. Like, just to be able to say, 'I've had sex.'
So many guys will respect you for keeping your virginity until you are 17+. Once you have sex, guys will not respect you as much, because they believe you do not respect yourself. When I lost mine, I got called a whore and a slut. How can someone be a whore or a slut when they only had sex with ONE guy? It makes people talk. I wish I could have said, I'm not a whore! I'm still a virgin! Because I couldn't.
I was with my boyfriend at the time, for 5 months- he was 2 years older than me. As soon as we had sex, he left me for his ex. I was devestated. That is all guys your age want. It's hard to find a guy who will love you and not just want in your pants.
You will do what you want, but trust me- personally, your friends aren't cool, and they aren't grown up. They are desperate for attention and statistics show that 87% of girls who have sex before the age of 14 will turn out to be pregnant (due to lack of knownledge about protection) or have an STD from sleeping with so many guys.
Please don't fall into that statistic.
Let me tell you something else. My neice just turned 13. She had sex with a guy at her friend's birthday party, and she found out three days ago that she is pregnant. She is a child, having a child. All it takes is one time. Do you want to risk that??
She was too afraid to my sister and brother in law for birth control even though she knew she was going to become sexually active; now she will have to support a baby, give up school, and everything else.
Do you want that?
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My boyfriend cheated on me several times, i forgave him, i got pregnant and he asked me to abort saying that we are not ready, i refused and he broke up with me.he went back dating one of the girls he was 2 timing me with.later on he said that he can't be with me but that he will be there for the child eventhough he can't provide financially. I was devastated, depressed, and so hurt. i didn't know what to do and i didn't want the child to suffer, so out of fustration i had an abortion, but i told my him that i had a misscaraige. he felt for me and asked me back out again. i accepeted and we started dating later to find out that he was still involve with other women. i broke up with him and ever since now we have being on and off. he says he loves me, that am the love of his life and that we should be exclusive. recently i discovered that he is still involve with one girl and is chasing after other gilrs. i confronted him and he told me that he will set things straight with other girls an let them know that the past is the past and that he wants to concentrate on his future which is me. i don't know what to do,i love him so much,but i can't trust him,i have tried several to move on but its hard, i feel miserable without him. should i give him another chance?i am 23 and i want to be in a stable relationship with someone that i love so that i might end up marrying the person and carrying his childreen. A part of me wants to be in a relationship with him again, but the other part is afraid of getting hurt again. what can i do? (link)
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As a female, I know that is doesn't matter what we say, you will do the complete opposite. You want to hear 'give him another chance'.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Only way a man will stay faithful to a girl, is IF he wants to. This guy clearly does not want to be committed to one girl.
I mean, in a situation like this, there is one word to call you, and that is foolish. Your relationship with him will never be the way it's suppose to be because you both are lying. You lied about the miscarriage. Did it ever click that he ONLY got back with you because he felt SORRY for you? He doens't love you. A real man who loves you, will change and stop hurting and mistreating you.
Stop taking his bullshit, and find someone else. Every girl deserves a MAN, not a BOY. You deserve a man who will be committed to you, and only you. A man who will love you like there is no tomorrow. If you want a stable, committed relationship, and a family in the future; than this guy isn't for you. This guy DOES NOT know what he wants; So what you're miserable without him? Time heals all. You're going to be MORE miserable with him, knowing that you aren't the ONLY girl he's messing with. This boy doesn't not know what love is. He doesn't have the slightest clue. He's immature, and isn't ready for what you are willing to give him.
He needs time to grow up. Leave him alone. Sure, it'll be hard, but hunnie- whats worse? Conviencing yourself that he will change, only to let him have the opportunity to let you down; or going through heartbreak for a couple months, and than finding that person you can give you everything this deadbeat couldn't?? NOw, if he truely loves you, than he will come back when he is ready to give you the committment you are looking for. Chances? Slim to none.
This guy is telling you the things you want to hear, to keep you hanging on. He knows your naive, and he knows he can run all over you. You're going to let that BOY have that much CONTROL over you and your feelings?
A relationship is nothing without trust. Sure, trust can be gained, but it's easier to destroy it, than it is to build it.
Trust me on this one- the time you're wasting on this guy, could be spent on a decent guy who is worth it.
No more chances for him. Find what you deserve. Let go of his excuses, his bullshit, and his lies; and start have respect for yourself.
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