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my b.f asks to kept him happy (My boyfriend has two girlfriends)
i know he has another grlfnd.i quarelled him alot of times.but nthng of use.he says i'll marry only u.but he asks to be happy with him irrespective of wat he is doing.but how can i forget about her and be happy with him.how to make him happy and how to attract him more.and how to make him forget about dat grl.and how to make him feel that iam good for him than that girl?plz suggest me what to do?..plz
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You're not going to like this answer... but if your boyfriend doesn't just want you, then you should go find someone that does.
He's a player and a polygamist, which can be totally fine if you're also a polygamist, but you don't seem to be.
So here are the options...
A) grovel and beg him to give her up.
I don't recommend that, it's low and not good for your self esteem.
B) Find another guy.
I like this idea, because you deserve someone that respects you by being with only you and not asking you to accept another woman in his life.
C) Become a polygamist.
Not my first choice, but if he's going to have 2 girlfriend, then you should get another boyfriend. Why not? If you can't beat them, join them.
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Dump him.
He doesn't want to be with JUST you.
He's told you as much. It doesn't matter what you do. He doesn't want just you. He wants you AND anything else he feels like. Including other women.
Right now, you are giving that to him. So he doesn't have a problem. He's getting everything he wants and you are sitting here wondering what you can do to convince him to want just you.
What about him convincing you that he is worth being with? That he is someone who can make you happy? Are you happy that he's out with other women?
If you are okay with that, then great. If not, end the relationship.
He's already told you he isn't going to change.
If this arrangement isn't good enough for you, leave him.
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You leave him. Why? Because the both of you are different. You both want different things. Usually in a relationship, you both have one thing in common- the love and respect for one another; along with faithfulness and committment.
This guy clearly does not want to be committed to you. You have told him numerous times how you felt about the entire situation and he continues to ignore how you feel and resume dating this other woman.
Yes, he may say, 'I only want to marry you' but more than likely, he is full of it. If he is willing to commit to you for the rest of his life, why can't he commit to you right now?
Think about it. There is nothing you can do to make him forget or leave this other girl. Yeah, he may leave her, but there will always be another girl. You will never be his 'only one'. And personally, I wouldn't tolerate it. He needs someone who is willing to be in an open relationship; which is where you are dating each other but OKAY with the fact that both of you date and hook up with other people.
I'm sorry you are going through this; I couldn't never find enough strength to share the person I adore. I think you need to leave him immediately. Save the time you are wasting on him, and cherish it on someone who could not imagine himself without ANYONE else.
You deserve that!
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