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Should I stay with my boyfriend?
I just recently made a post about my boyfriend of over a year. To explain quickley he has been attempting to cheat on me for the whole relationship, lies to me, flirts with other women and says hes single when he's not. My question now is Im still having trouble figuring out what to do, I cant trust him but I am really trying too because he swears he wont do it again he wont hurt me anymore. BUT during the weekend we had a huge might, it started when we were grocery shopping over a minor little think like pancake mix. He asked me if I wwanted some, I said if you want some sure. He blew up and stormed off down the eisle. When I asked him what was wrong he got into a rant about how I can never make decisions and how I do and say things wrong. I couldnt believe it he made me feel worthless within seconds! :( Later on that night I couldnt say anything to him without him getting upset with me so finally I decided to take some quiet time and not bother him. Well he got mad that I wasnt paying attention to him and stormed off to the bedroom. I went to talk to him and he started yelling at him how I cant give him time alone, how I am always there. I said ok I will leave you alone then, all he said was F*** YOU!! over and over. He has never swore at me but his temper seems to be getting alot worse latley.
I asked him why he is getting so upset with me over minor little things and he told me it is because he has all this bottled up anger and he doesnt know how to deal with it. He went on and on about how this was hurting him and how he was worried that it was making him sick. But he never once said anything about worrying about how he was treating me. All he said was this was the reason he was treating me like s*** and all I can do is deal with it until he figures things out. Another thing that I have found out is that when he has a problem with something or someone he will complain to no end and when he says he will confront the person he really doesnt. Instead he goes to them and puts all the blame on me and makes himself look good. My roomate told me this when he had a talk to him about helping out more with bills. My boyfriend made it out to be all my idea and that all I do is complain about my roomate. Thats not the case at all!
So I am starting to feel really sad and run down. Depressed....I feel like he get enjoyment out of bringing me down....am I wrong to feel this way?? What should I do I just dont know what to say to him anymore without upsetting him...
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I stopped reading halfway through. I'm going to tell you this once. And this is the best that can be done. You need to look him in the eye and say, "You have all of this bottled up anger, and I'm tired of you taking it out on me. So either you get some counciling of some sort, or we're done. You will NOT treat me like crap any longer." It might be hard for you to break up with him. But, if it was meant to be, he'll come back. Men are very stubborn. And they're like children. You have to give them choices, and spell things out for them. He can't change unless he wants to. And the first step of wanting to change, is seeking help.
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really wat you should do is talk with him and if he doesn't understand then there is a possibility that you might have to leave him.
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If it the relationship continues like this, you're honestly better off leaving. As you have stated, you try to trust him, but can't. Mainly because he's always flirting with other women, and lying about being single, etc etc. I don't know how you've dealt with this for so long, but were I in your shoes, and he continued saying and acting like that, I would have left long ago. If all he does is get angry over small things, all the time... You are better off leaving. If there is no trust, there can be no love, if there is no love, there can be no real relationship. And it does not sound like you are in a relationship at the moment. If you want to work things out, try. But should they not, leave. You'll only hurt yourself more staying in this relationship.
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