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Cheating: I am cheating on two guys at the same time
I have been w/ my amazing bf for 10 months. I have never cheated until this relationship. Before him I dated a guy who cheated on me a lot. My parents made me breakup w/ him and threatened to take everything away from me.. I'm not in high school btw I am in college. I could not stop seeing my ex, I still love him. I am still seeing my ex and my current bf. it is seriously making me sick to my stomache. Idk why I even so it because I am not sexually attracted to my ex... I just love him and don't know what I would do without him... But I also lOve my bf... None of them know about each other and both think I am exclusive. It is almost making me want to move away and cut ties with everyone.... Advice??
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You need to leave them both alone, so they can find someone BETTER.
Cheating is never a good excuse, regardless of the situation.
You cheated, therefore you do NOT deserve either of them.
Your 'amazing' boyfriend of 10 months must not be too amazing or you wouldn't have cheated.
You need to tell him the truth, and hopefully he will leave you and find a woman who will love him unconditionally.
So, seriously- leave him. he deserves way better than what you have to offer.
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Well, it sounds to me like you are in love with what you thought you and your ex had, and upset you never ended it on your own terms as your parents forced you to do it. Your ex betrayed you, and I think you need time to overcome that, in the meantime, you know what you are doing is wrong.
You said you want to be with your current boyfriend and yet you love your ex as well, that's understandable. Perhaps he was your first serious boyfriend or he just met your expectations and because of that he'll always have a place in your heart, but you will be hurting him more by keeping up with this façade.
My advice would be to break it off with your ex since we established you don't want to be with him, tell him you can be friends and perhaps in the future it'll change, who knows? And then really sit and think if you want to be with your boyfriend now, if you did, ask yourself why you did this, knowing yourself how it feels.
I don't want to sound like I am lecturing, but this is a serious topic so I want you to really think before you make your decisions. Just remember, it's your life, not your parents, do what makes YOU happy, not them.
goodluck
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Wow!No one here has the right to call you a slut,since we're all human beings.All of us make mistakes.Well,honey,start thinking about finding a solution.You already know what you are doing is not correct.The first step has been done successfully,though,you recognize your mistake.Now,the second step awaits for fo to do it.Think about your situation very thoroughly,think about these boys' feelings,think about the way they would feel if they found out what your secret is before you tell them anything.I know it'll be really difficult,but the best solution,in my opinion,is to talk things over with both of them.I'd tell you to dump one of them,but if just one of them were just a booty call.So,as both guys are really important to you,you need to talk to them.Look,when you don't tell the truth on time,things can get worse,trust me,I've been through something similar once.Good luck!
p.s.If you really love your ex,don't dump him.Stay with him:)
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