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Q: is there any chance of hiv after getting blowjob by a gay ?
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What do you mean by a gay man? Does homosexuality mean being sick to you? Are you from another century? How about an infected straight girl giving you a blowjob? But you won't even notice, since you'll assume she cannot be infected due to her being heterosexual. NO! There isn't any chance of getting sick if you have sex with a gay man, or a woman; unless they are carriers of the virus.
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Q: i started masturbating a few months ago i'm 13 male it feels really good i have started masturbating a lot more lately sometimes i get sexual urges i'm not ready for sex there's nothing wrong with masturbating a lot is there?
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Of course not! You're 13, so I think it is pretty normal. Anyways, I'm pretty sure that when you ARE actually ready to have sex, there'll be little necessity for you to continue doing it. In the meantime, though, I encourage you to keep at it :)
Hope this helps :)
ps. if you have more questions of the sort, just send me a message to my inbox.
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Q: I have been with my fiance since high school. We are both 22 yrs old now and have a beautiful 1yr old daughter. My problem with my relationship is I feel smothered. Not smothered by attention or affection, there actually isn't much of that because of me. He works hard for our family and our future while I staynat home. I love him so much and couldn't imagine my life without him...yet at times I want to escape. He is a very sensitive broody kind of guy. He was both physically and mentally abused by his parents most of his life and he has passive aggressive issues BIGTIME. I on the other hand keep all my stress and insecurity locked up and don't show are act like anything is wrong. His behavior sometimes makes me want to just run and disappear. Almost like his energy is choking the air and it feels heavy all the time. Yet he ALWAYS want's to spend time with me UNLESS he goes out with his friends. I personally don't have many friends and I am an introvert. But I want to find time for myself! But if I said that to him he would ask if I hate being around him or some BS! ugh Idk how to explain myself to him at all!
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I believe you are a bit afraid of him. He is, first of all, your partner, not your father. You have to pluck up the courage to tell him what you really feel about this situation. Tell him that you are having a hard time trying to cope with his behaviour, and the fact that he always wants to be around you. Being in a relationship does not necessarily mean that you have to be attached to your partner. You need time for yourself as well. You said he always wants to be around you unless he goes out with his friends; so he already has time for himself. He has people around him to talk to, and to whom ask for advice. You should spend some time trying to make friends. Trust me, it'll be good for you to spend some time with friends: so you can feel your relationship is not the only thing there for you to enjoy. Hope this helps a little :)
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Q: The passing of three relatives in the pass couple of years has made me wonder what happens when you die. I used to deal with depression and I did not want to live but now that I am happy I don't want to die.I am a young adult and would love to believe I will live to grow old. But,I am afraid to go to sleep because I might die in my sleep. I do believe in God and I pray but it still bothers me that I will die one day. I understand everyone will die but once you realize it will happen to you it is hard not to have anxiety about it because its permanent. It weird to grasp that I might not exist. It seems like No one really "knows" everyone just "believe" something will happen. Should I change my perspective?
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Hi there, it is the same fear I regularly have. It's kind of depressing since no one really knows what happens after we die, that must be the core of our fear of dying. Shall we continue being who we are on earth? Shall we disappear? It's depressing as well as scary since we do not really know what's going to happen after all. Here's my piece of advice: stay focused on what you truly believe. I personally believe in God, and have faith that something ''better'' awaits for me at the end of the road. Don't be afraid to die; our bodies and minds are prepared to die. it's a natural process; same as it is to be born.
I hope this helps a little :)
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Q: will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up
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I don't see how I can help you, you have already made up your mind. Just keep in mind that there's always a way, there's always something more you can do to solve your problems. I bet there's someone in your life who cares about you and who would help you somehow. Suicide might seem like ''an easy way'' to put an end to your problems, but it's never a solution in my opinion.
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Q: Dear Vikki
I'm 24 and from South Africa. I have been in a relationship for almost 7 months now and before that we were only friends. I love him a lot and care about him a lot, but at times I feel that my insecurities gets in the way and it ends up in us having an argument about something small and stupid. See we have a long distance relationship at the moment and it is mostly when he cannot have decent conversation at night because his busy and then I start thinking "maybe he doesn't want to talk to me" , "maybe he doesn't find me interesting anymore and he will leave me for someone else" and I do know that he cares for me a lot and that he loves me and as soon as I think I have these feelings under control, it creeps in again. I don't want to lose him, because I was insecure and clingy. I never was like this in the beginning. I was cheated on before and most of the times it is when I'm away from him, when we are together, I don't have it and because of this it makes things hard for me. I care about people real fast and they can actually hurt me with words. How do I get past this? How can I get past my insecurities and not be clingy when I feel like these emotions are creeping in? I'm not jealous when it comes to being his girlfriends, because I know what type of guy he is. I know he will never cheat on me, but because I don't always see myself as beautiful, I'm sometimes afraid he will leave me for someone more beautiful than me. The guy that cheated on me used to say to me, that I shouldn't think that someone can love me, because there feelings will change. I was so deeply hurt.
Is there any advice you can give me? Guess I'm just looking for someone to talk to that I don't know personally!
Thanks!
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Hi! Well, you seem to be quite a devoted and caring partner to your boyfriend. I personally think that's just great! Continue to be like this and have faith that if he trully loves you, he won't ''change his mind'' overnight. When you love someone, you don't just forget about your feelings towards that person from one moment to another. So forget about what that guy told you once, when he really falls for someone one day, he'll notice how wrong he is. He clearly didn't deserve you. Also, you ought to stop thinking about your physical appearance, you obviously have many virtues that men will find attractive, or that your boyfriend found attractive in you. So cheer up! I'm pretty sure he loves you a lot. There's just one thing, though, I would like to remark. ALways keep in mind that he's a human being, or any other guy you meet. So don't think he would never cheat on you. I am not trying to scare you or discourage you, I just want for you to know that it's not a good idea to ''idealize'' anybody. We are all humans, so always be ready to be disappointed by anyone.
Well, I hope this helps you a little, and let me tell you that I already admire you, and that I'm sure you'll be really happy with your partner.
Best of luck!! Mercury :) :)
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Q: I havnent been able to sleep very well for the past week, and when I do it's maybe 5 hours a night with me waking up every 45 minutes in that time span. What should I do to get some sleep?
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Hey there! You have the same problem I have, I strongly recommend that you go to the doctor, so he can prescribe something that helps you get some sleep. I personally take melatonin.
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Q: I always stutter when i read hindi(I was born and live in India)but I am a good reader when I read english or french. Please give me a solution because it is very embarrassing when I have to read in front of the whole class.
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Probably, the reason of your stammer is that whenever you read in your native language,you are completely conscious of your own mistakes or your accent. This is sometimes lowered, if you will, when you get to speak another language. In your case, English or French. My recommendation is to try to lower your level of anxiety when you are to speak in front of the class, try to be confident of your speech and don't think others will judge you if you make any mistake. Try to focus on what you have to read, not on the way your voice sounds, and most of all, take your time to read clearly and loud
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Q: 15/f
I'm straight but I love masturbating with lesbian porn. Ive always wanted to do things with a girl but idk if its normal and idk if any girls my age feel.this way.
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Of course you're normal. Maybe you're bi-sexual, don't feel bad about that. Gay people are not abnormal
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Q: My best friend thinks she's fat and ugly and I don't know how to tell her that she's not. Sure, she's a bit overweight and she's not the prettiest person I know, but I wouldn't call her ugly. She always asks me for the truth if she's ugly or not and I say she's not, but she doesn't believe me. Please give me a way to tell her properly about her looks without hurting her feelings!
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Honey, if she believes she's not attractive, it won't matter how many times you tell her the opposite. She is asking you again and again because she's feeling sorry for herself and your telling her she isn't ugly won't do any good. What she needs to do is therapy, she needs to be guided by a professional if she really wants to overcome these feelings. Hope it helps a little! Try to encourage her to do therapy, this way I'm pretty sure you'll really help her :)
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Q: I'm sick and tired of the looks and pain my stepdad treats me like I'm the devils child and my mom acts like she doesn't care I've been told all I do is cause pain I'm stupid I'm worthless and no body cares about me I just can't handle this anymore I haven't seen my mom in over seven months and the last time I did she hardly talked to me. I don't know what to do anymore it just hurts I can't go even a month without having a mental breakdown about them or once thinking that what my step dad is saying is right . I'm 15f and live with my real dad and stepmom
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Hey, I know this must be terrible for you. Try to seek refuge in friends, try to be strong and know this is the reality you have to deal with. No matter what you do, you definitely won't change your mum or stepdad, so try to face the situation and be strong. Take up new activities that help you be distracted and hang with people who uplift you and support you. Don't expect anything more from your mum nor your stepfather, they probably won't ever change and all you'll do is grow frustrated, angry and unhappy. Hope this helps! You're young, nothing should bring you down!! :) :)
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Q: Hi :)
The thing is that I really really like being sick. (Having a cold/fever etc.) It worries me a little. I don't really get much attention to be honest so I don't think that it has to do anything with that. My mom works most of the time so nobody takes care of me. But I still love it. I currently have a cold and I don't want it to go away. I actually kept my old tissues so I can sniff them to keep my cold ._. I know it's weird, please don't be mean about it :/ Whenever someone close to me gets sick I get really jealous :( I do admit that I don't like myself very much so is this some sort of self harm? I do have the feeling that I have more of a right to live when I'm sick. Usually I'm just ashamed of being there but when I'm sick it's not that bad ._. When I'm sick I don't feel as empty and sad as I usually do. But I've had this since I was really young. When I was a child my mom used to take care of me and I liked that. But now she doesn't do that anymore so I don't think that I like it just for attention. Can anyone help me? ._.
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Hey, I strongly recommend therapy, what you are going through could be treated for sure. Pay a look at this and check whether this is similar to what is happening to tou. Hope you get better soon!!! :http://health.howstuffworks.com/mental-health/mental-disorders/munchausen.htm)
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Q: There's this girl who is my "friend" but sometimes she is such a bully and makes me cry. Then, she'll go right back to being "nice". I try to avoid her but I can't. Is this bullying? What can I do? I've tried confronting her but it hasn't worked. Anyone have an idea? All advice welcome. :)
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First of all, how can you consider her a friend if she makes you cry? As for whether she is a bully or not depends on what she does to you, does she hurt you physically, for example? Try not to see this girl, what she does to you is wrong. A friend does not make you cry, they're supposed to support you, help you, uplift you when you're down and so on. Hope it helps you a little :)
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Q: There is this guy that I just can't stand. Another problem is that he works with me.
That has nothing to do with it though because I knew him before that. I just can't stand this person. He's not even particually mean to others, he's just very full of himself and talks down on everyone in and outside his job. I would just ignore him but obviously I cant. I dont know how to deal with it. I am not the only one who doesn't like him. He even told me that basically noone really wants to be friends with him. I tried to be his friend when I met him but it's just impossible for me. How can I deal with this hate towards him? I seriously wish to see him suffer sometimes. I just cant stand him and I think that I literally hate him.. How can I deal with this?
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OMG,I know the feeling. I used to have a classmate at high school that I really hated, nobody liked him. Right now I'm going through the same ordeal with another person at university. The worst part is that they don't seem to care whether people hate them or not. What you have to do is tell the truth. Come clean, let him know you don't get along with him. Let him know that you don't want to be friends with him, that you don't even want to talk to him. He will respect that, and if he doesn't, then tell your boss or any other authority. You could even try to get him into some sort of trouble so he gets fired. I know it'd be rather risky though. Anyway, you don't have to stand anyone who you don't even like, so do something about it. Don't just get over it. Hope it helps a little :)
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Q: well im female/19.
Me and my ex boyfriend are still in contact were still friends, and well we have them conversations where we always talk about the past, like we bring up memories and our sexual experiences together..
we've spoke about us having sex again, he was the last guy i had sex with to be honest.. and well we both want to do it would it be wrong? cause inside it's something i really want to do and i would o it over and over again, like i know it would be just sex but since he's my ex we both know what we like, and I have that feeling that by us having sex feelings would be there he once said it himself..
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Q: So I found out my boyfriend cheated on me after about a year and a half of us dating and I immediately broke up with him and took my space. Over the next few months he had done a lot to show his remorse and I really felt as though he understood the severity of what he had done and I loved him enough to try and work things out. We got back together and were together for another 8 months when I found out that he had cheated AGAIN with a different girl. Because of what he has done to me it makes it easy to walk away from someone so cruel but I am really struggling with how to move past the pain it has caused me. Does anyone have any advice on how to get through this? I obviously have left him but I am now left with so much pain because of all the deception and the lies that I thought were true and genuine. How can someone tell you to your face that he could never put you through the same pain again and never cheat again when its all lies? He sent me messages the day after I left him telling me how we are meant to be together and how I am the love of his life. Is this just blatant manipulation or do you think he really believes the words he says?
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Then I don't know why you're even asking for advice...do it by yourself....
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Q: i am a 13 years old boy.i am not very fat but little fat.when i do push ups i feel pain in my lower abdomen.what is it?Could anybody tell what is it and what are good exercises for a 13 year old boy??
Help.
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Probably it's just because you're not quite accustomed to working out. This is normal, in my opinion. I used to have the same pains when I was younger. If you're in pain, try to take a break and let your muscles rest for awhile. Don't give up working out though. It's just a matter of time til you get stronger and then your pains will eventually go away. Hope it helps a little :)
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Q: religion is a very important thing for me and i was very sure about my beliefs an year ago(im christian). but then i thought about Satan and i get a part of him,i mean he was rebelious,he was different,well yeah he is pure evil,but he was an angel before and he was God's favourite,i think that he was in lots of pain and thats why he became so hatefull and evil,does that make me a bad person or a satanist or what? is it wrong?
- ghostgirl7
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Not at all, you're just being logical. And that's something you won't help. I used to be a catholic as well and ended up not being it anymore. Sometimes the very system of the church pretends to make us believe in everything we're told by them. And they do not give us the chance to question anything. We're 'thinking beings'; and as such, we have the privilege and the need to find logical conclusions to practically all things. The thing is that whenever we do so, 'we are not having faith'. The bible instructs us to believe without seeing. But that is, in my opinion, quite convenient. So don't feel bad about your thoughts. That doesn't make you a satanist, heretic or pagan or whatever.
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Q: My fucking god, she is so amazing and beautiful. i have fallen for her big time. We are pretty close and she trusts me a hell of a lot..
I would say i could be Bi.. But no one knows, atall. I do want to tell people but i just think it will pass. So, she thinks i am straight and when i compliment her its just me being nice... but i mean it with every fucking ounce of my body. I tell her she is beautiful when she feels worthless.
I think about her all the time.. i couldnt possibly tell her so how do i control this, what do i do - its out of control
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Hi! Why couldn't you possibly tell her. I think that as long as you don't tell her anything, things are going to get even worse. This is not something you can control. It's your feelings that are responding and if you try to restrain them, you'll feel miserable. Try to tell her at least something,any lead, some clue, anything. If not, I highly recommend that you stay away from her so you don't get hurt. Suppose she told you one day that she's in love with a boy What would you do? What would you say? I hope it helps you a little.
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Q: So Over the past 2 months or something Around there. I've noticed that my the back of my throat is always white. And from time to time it hurts. And then the other day I realized I have a small white cyst-like bump. Should I be worried about this?
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http://www.yogawiz.com/blog/home-remedies/white-pus-spots-on-tonsils-causes-and-treatment.html
Check this out. It might be useful to you. I had the same problem and I think you have to go to your doctor immediately. Hope it helps:)
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Don't follow any advice,no matter how good,until you feel as deeply in your spirit as you think in your mind that the counsel is wise...Take it easy...but take it!! My aim here is to give good advice,not gentle words,but what I think is best for you to do;)
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