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Fear of dying
The passing of three relatives in the pass couple of years has made me wonder what happens when you die. I used to deal with depression and I did not want to live but now that I am happy I don't want to die.I am a young adult and would love to believe I will live to grow old. But,I am afraid to go to sleep because I might die in my sleep. I do believe in God and I pray but it still bothers me that I will die one day. I understand everyone will die but once you realize it will happen to you it is hard not to have anxiety about it because its permanent. It weird to grasp that I might not exist. It seems like No one really "knows" everyone just "believe" something will happen. Should I change my perspective?
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You clearly have Thanatophobia (the fear of dying) and it's perfectly fine. I'm a Christian and I know that there is only a heaven and a hell. Just make sure you're right with Jesus and everything will be alright. He will comfort you and it should actually make you at ease to know that you'll be in heaven if you live right in Christ and follow his teachings and accept him. Don't worry about it, the only reason you'd worry is if you don't know Jesus. Then you should get to know him.
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I have to agree with the other posters here. having that fear doesnt fix anything, if anything all it does is hinder you living your life to the fullest.
It is true that we are matter and matter never dies, it just changes into a different form. Loved ones are still here with us we just cant see or touch them but they let us know all the time that they are still around. When you hear one of their "favorite old tunes" on the radio and start thinking of them, or sometimes when a light flickers for no reason and then you think of them for no reason. They do that.
The thought of dying can be scary yes, but if you try to remember that it wont be for a long LONGG time most likely, then all you have to do is live the happiest life you can, pull what and who is most important closest to you, and create memories with those people.
Know that your very loved by the people around you and whenever that day DOES come youll leave this earth knowing that you made a difference, that you wont be forgotten ever, and that you were loved. At WHATEVER age thats at.
If you spend your whole life fearing death then is that really living at all?? -no. You could have been out doing more important productive things.
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I don't know any facts or figures on this but I would venture to guess that this is a major fear for a lot of people. It probably becomes more so when you love loved ones in your life. But, let's just stop and think about it for a minute.
First off, what does fear resolve? The answer - nothing. For example, if you are afraid of the dark, what benefit do you get from that fear of something that is inevitable? The answer is none. So if it's going to be dark regardless of whether you fear the dark or not, then there's really no point in fearing it. The same applies to a fear of anything from spiders to heights to even death.
Now you say that you believe in God. Well, based on that belief, death is not permanent. It's more of just another step in the process of your life.
Even if you take religion and faith out of the equation, you can look at it from a scientific perspective. A character named Happy in the new hit television show "Scorpion" said in one episode that she didn't believe in death. The scientific reason for her statement was that we are made of matter and matter never really goes away but simply changes form.
Ultimately, I encourage you to remember two wise statements, one the words of a legendary president, the other the text of the "Serenity Prayer."
"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself" - Franklin D. Roosevelt
"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference."
- Serenity Prayer
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Hi there, it is the same fear I regularly have. It's kind of depressing since no one really knows what happens after we die, that must be the core of our fear of dying. Shall we continue being who we are on earth? Shall we disappear? It's depressing as well as scary since we do not really know what's going to happen after all. Here's my piece of advice: stay focused on what you truly believe. I personally believe in God, and have faith that something ''better'' awaits for me at the end of the road. Don't be afraid to die; our bodies and minds are prepared to die. it's a natural process; same as it is to be born.
I hope this helps a little :)
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Hi. There comes a moment, in early childhood where each of us becomes aware of mortality, and thus of our OWN mortality. In a way we never regain that young childs blissful ignorance/innocence. How we choose to both know and somehow seemingly ignore the inevitability of our own demise is a long standing and tricky issue to philosophers and psychologists. But we do. When we find ourselves dwelling on the subject of death and the apparent futility of living at all there is generally an underlying cause. Recent depression is no doubt playing a big role in your awareness of your mortality. It's nice to hear you seem to be enjoying life at present and want to cling on to it. Keep on making plans for the future. Keep looking ahead. Chances are you'll live out your time and see the plans come to pass. If there IS any sort of after-life it's surely nothing like what you're experiencing right now. I'd say some cliche like "I take one day at a time and live in the moment". As though there's a choice mate?? That's what we all do and all we can ever do...like it or not! You're fine.
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You're not alone in wondering what happens when you die. Everyone has given it at least a passing thought or two. The truth is, no one KNOWS! It's interesting that human beings appear to be the only life form that are aware of their mortality.
Because you believe in God, I suggest that you search out a church that most closely reflects your belief and make it a study project.
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Yes I think you should change it, if possible. It's a scary thought to think about dying when you don't want to, and it can get to a person, but it's no way to live a life in fear. You never know what's going to happen in life, but you just have to go on with it no matter what. Make sure not to live your life by "what if"s.
hope this helps~
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