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I really like being sick ..
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The thing is that I really really like being sick. (Having a cold/fever etc.) It worries me a little. I don't really get much attention to be honest so I don't think that it has to do anything with that. My mom works most of the time so nobody takes care of me. But I still love it. I currently have a cold and I don't want it to go away. I actually kept my old tissues so I can sniff them to keep my cold ._. I know it's weird, please don't be mean about it :/ Whenever someone close to me gets sick I get really jealous :( I do admit that I don't like myself very much so is this some sort of self harm? I do have the feeling that I have more of a right to live when I'm sick. Usually I'm just ashamed of being there but when I'm sick it's not that bad ._. When I'm sick I don't feel as empty and sad as I usually do. But I've had this since I was really young. When I was a child my mom used to take care of me and I liked that. But now she doesn't do that anymore so I don't think that I like it just for attention. Can anyone help me? ._.
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I wish I knew how old you were so I could tell you just who to go to or how to go about getting help for this. You like being sick because you get the attention from mom that you do not get when you're not sick. It really is that simple.
This can be good and bad and to an extent has some dependency on your age. When our children our younger they need more of their parents attention and guidance. Part of being a parent is to give our children the attention and guidance they need when they need it. As our children grow older they should not a generally do not want as much of our attention as they received when younger.
This is considered normal as children get older and reach certain ages they do not need mom constantly watching over them nor do they want it. This is part of the maturing process. Most parents understand this and give their children the space they need to grow and mature while being their for them. Some parents do not understand this and we receive letter asking how to handle an overbearing, smothering parent.
Now there may be a few parents who for reasons of their own may force certain freedoms on their children before they are ready. This would probably fall to those children who we call latchkey children who come home to an empty house after school. These children can be as young as 1o years old in some cases and maybe even younger.
Should you fall into the above scenario then this is why you like being sick as mom has to take time away from whatever is taking her away from home to care for you. It may also be that for a simple cold mom does not take time away from whatever is taking her away from home and when she is home she smothers you with affection. Now where normal and abnormal come in depends on your age and other factors.
If you try to get sick and stay sick so that you receive moms affection and over attention then if say you are a mid to older teenager; this may not be seen as normal. If they cannot help you then you have no other choice but to sit down and tell mom what you wrote us. you're a young preteen or young teen then it might be seen a normal.
What to do about this. Short of telling mom the what and why of this; at least for the moment. Make an appointment to see your school guidance counselor. Tell him or her what you wrote us and ask for help. If they cannot or will not help you then you will need to talk to mom and ask her for help. What you have written is not totally normal or abnormal. It does need to be discussed though with someone who can help find out why you are this way and help you find a better way. This would require working with a psychologist.
You're not crazy; psychologists help people get to the root cause of problems like this. Once you find out why you are this way. Changing is made easier.
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Hey, will I've been in your place I love haven colds, haven people care and taken care of me, but by time I learn that being sick is not something you want to be all the time, it could be dangerous and harm your body, maybe all you been wanting is a lil attation someone to be there and care once in a while... because being alone all the time can feel lonely like if no one is there when you need them the most, I know the feeling my mom and dad were always worken and I had no one there ...but one day I sat down with my mom how I felt and she understood and was there for me when she could and that was enough for me to feel like she cared..
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