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It hurts to much
I'm sick and tired of the looks and pain my stepdad treats me like I'm the devils child and my mom acts like she doesn't care I've been told all I do is cause pain I'm stupid I'm worthless and no body cares about me I just can't handle this anymore I haven't seen my mom in over seven months and the last time I did she hardly talked to me. I don't know what to do anymore it just hurts I can't go even a month without having a mental breakdown about them or once thinking that what my step dad is saying is right . I'm 15f and live with my real dad and stepmom
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To start with I will say we care, if we didn't we would not be answering you. There are others that care as well. Among those who car would be your teachers and school principal. If there is a teacher you trust more then another I suggest you talk with him or her. Tell this teacher what is going on in your life and how it is effecting you. There are procedures in place to help you. While I am a little confused as to just what is happening mental abuse is real and mental abuse of a child can be as illegal as physical abuse. I will give you a hot line you can call for help at the end.
As I said I'm bit confused as to exactly what is happening. Who is saying what to you. I understand you stepdad is saying things to you and the looks you are getting. Is you dad and stepmom also saying things to you that are causing you pain? This is what is not clear to me.
I also understand how words hurt. The saying about sticks and stones is also true. What is also true is if people say these things enough to you, you start to believe them. This though is not true and you should not start to believe them. I can understand why you feel you have had mental breakdowns.
Without further information there is not much help I can offer. What I can offer are some hotlines you can call where you can have one on one conversations with trained call takers who can help you. These calls are free and totally confidential. The goal of these hotlines is to get you in touch with the right people in your home town who can help you or offer you the proper suggestions to resolve your problems.
The first one is called "Kids to Kids help Phone." This hotline is for people under the age of 20. They specialize in areas that I feel you may be having problems in such as divorced families. Their number is - 1-800-668-6868. They operate 24/7 365 so you can call today.
The second hotline is called RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. I am suggesting you call them for I believe you are being abused, at leased mentally. When you call RAINN you will be connected to a crisis cent near your home. They will help you find professional people who will not only help you resolve the issues at home but also help you deal with the issues so that they do not haunt you for the rest of your life. There number is - 1-800-656-HOPE.
From the little you have written let me tell you that I do not believe in "a devils child." What is at work her is a man that married a women who had a child by another man. There are very few men out there that truly will be come fathers to another mans child. For those that do both the man and the child are extremely lucky to have each other. For those that don't it is a constant war and the man takes the position that you should kiss he feet for he is the one that is providing for you. This is so wrong I don't even know where to begin to explain. Your step dad it seems is one of these because he, from what you have written has taken the path of mentally abusing you rather than be a caring loving stepparent.
Call one of the hotlines I offered above. I'm sure one of them can help you.
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Hey, I know this must be terrible for you. Try to seek refuge in friends, try to be strong and know this is the reality you have to deal with. No matter what you do, you definitely won't change your mum or stepdad, so try to face the situation and be strong. Take up new activities that help you be distracted and hang with people who uplift you and support you. Don't expect anything more from your mum nor your stepfather, they probably won't ever change and all you'll do is grow frustrated, angry and unhappy. Hope this helps! You're young, nothing should bring you down!! :) :)
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Besides here, who else have you told?
I know nothing of your situation. It could be true as you say but then we are too far removed to know anything about the adults involved to know if all 3 have some real serious issues of their own, or if its something else. If something else, it could be how you are interpreting whats happening but the intent from the parents is not actually what you are perceiving it to be.
Often teens struggle with self worth, self image. I remember that age. I struggled with that and was shy too. The world is a harsher place today than when I was young, many teens suffer from depression. It could be that you have been depressed for a long time and haven't known that depression is what is causing you to feel this way.
If you are actually being told what you say is being said, that is verbal abuse or bullying if you will, coming from the parents.
I know that schools are on the watch for bullying and will not tolerate it, although verbal abuse can be hard to prove if others aren't around to witness it.
I would say the best thing to do is talk to other adults that know you and are in a better position to know what to do for you. Have you talked to any aunts or a grandma about what is happening.
What about your teachers or counselors at school? Do you have a church you attend, and could talk to the pastor? You should take your feelings seriously, no matter what is causing them, if the parents are at fault or not, because kids who feel as you do, end up either going down a bad path or trying to commit suicide and neither is a good thing at all. So you need to talk to some adult who can at least begin to try to figure out what the situation is.
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