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Living Together Before Marriage
Hello everyone. I would like to know if it's right or wrong to live together before marriage? What are the reasons of why it's right? What are the reasons of why it's wrong? My ex that I just broke up with told me that she would rather wait until marriage to be living with her lover. I however would rather live with my future wife before marriage if possible. It gives me the chance to see how they normally live and how we can fix issues we don't like about each other. Her reasoning of why she didn't want to live together is because it states in the bible that living together before marriage is wrong. I too am religious, but disagree with that fact in the bible. But I know that once once gets married, your stuck with that person for good. I don't want to ever get divorced and my ex also doesn't believe in getting divorced either. But that wasn't the reason she broke up with me. We broke up because it did seem like the relationship was moving too fast and it seemed like she wanted to get married sooner than later and she was very clingy at times which I hated and she was offended when I would say that to her. She however has been in a couple abusive relationships and had other abuse to her in the past. As a result of the abuse, often she would whine about stuff quite frequently too.
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Like the user below me said, it depends on your beliefs. My fiance' and I have been living together for almost 2 years. I believe that it is best to live together before you are married, because you truly do not know a person unless you live with them. Another reason why I believe its best is because if you do notice things about your spouse that you do not care for, you have time to fix it before you are legally married. If you are married, and than live together, it's much more stressful and finicially stressful if you realize those things cannot be fixed. A lot of people say that those who inhabitate (live together before marriage) have higher divorce rates than those who wait ti'll marriage. Everyone will tell you different things. You will be able to control if your relationship will be another satistic or not. I don't care what anyone else says, I'm happy and comfortable living with my spouse, and I wouldn't want it any other way. Let me tell you, I'm glad we have the experience of living together now, because I wouldn't be quite confident if we were married and just moved in. Why? Because marriage is stressful along with the other things that include in that. I wouldn't rush into living with someone, unless you do think you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Its tough as is to live with someone whom you aren't too sure about.
If you feel as if it is okay to live with someone whom you are not married to, than who can tell you differently? Sure the bible may be against it, but the bible is against a lot of things. God forgives us for our sins, so no matter what He wil forgive you. He knows everything that will happen before it happens, so he's never fully disappointed.
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It entirely depends on your beliefs and values.
Statically speaking, couples who live together prior to marriage have lower divorce rates and lower incidents of domestic abuse... So one might argue that living together first is a good idea, but it doesn't matter what the stats say if that isn't how someone wants to live their life.
Most faiths value sexual purity AND a larger level of commitment than 'just living together' so I can understand why your ex felt that 'just living together' wasn't compatible with her faith or her views of marriage.
It certainly sounds like this wasn't the right girl for you. You found her irritating, and she didn't share your opinions on how relationships should work or grow. Living with her (or marrying her) would have almost definitely been a bad idea.
This is a conversation to have with the person you actually do want to live with and/or marry.
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