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Need some advice on my relationship
17/m
My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 7 months now. She is 16. The last couple of days I feel like I am not interested in her anymore. I am not sure if it is some sort of "hump" I am going through. Sometimes I feel like i see her too much, we have been hanging out a lot as of late. Sometimes things she does makes me feel annoyed or bugs me. Things that use to never do that to me. She has put me through a lot this past summer and that is when my feelings seemed to have changed some what, i kind of got "numb" to her but when she got back from her vacation (which is when she treated me terribly and stuff) i regained some of my feelings, she lied to me though about some stuff and hid things. I forgave her and stuff. This past week or two some days I wish i wasn't with her.
I thought I loved her, lately i'm not sure. I don't get the same feeling of happiness when she calls or texts me or anything like I use to. Maybe that just goes away after some time? I question if I want to be with her but I don't know how to even bring that up with her cause it would crush her. She has lost a lot of friends and I am almost all she has. I don't know what to do. Sorry if this is confusing just trying to keep it short :p
Thank you for your help
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I wouldnt straight out leave her cause she might be to scarred to take you back and then your left feeling like shit cause you lost her. Im my opinion you should tell her face to face (texts are so not cool they hurt worse) that you need to have some time for personal reasons. Spend some time away from her and try to think about your relationship. Ask yourself questions like "do i miss her" see if that helps.
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Leave her. If you are concerned about hurting her, than the more you stay with her knowing you do not feel the same will end up hurting her a lot worse.
I was in a situation like this. I was with a guy who was absolutely in love with me, I thought I loved him, but like you, the 'spark' just wasnt there. I wanted to love him the way he loved me, and I couldn't.
So, I was straight up honest with him. I told him how I felt, and when we seperated if I felt like I missed him, and I realized I did care for him more than I thought I did, I would let him know but to NOT get his hopes up. It would be his descision to take me back or not.
Turns out, when I left him, it was a sigh of relief. I felt 100x times better, and I felt more confident in my choice.
Its good to know that you care about your girlfriends feelings on how she will take it; it shows you have good intentions and a good heart.
Just leave her, and see how it makes you feel. If you feel worse after you leave her, than take her back; if not, than move on!
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Well I think that you did love her but those feelings are slowly going away. I give you props for forgiving her after she lied to you and treated you bad. But if your second guessing your relationship I would end it as soon as possible. I know that you don't want to hurt her feelings but you don't want to stay in a relationship that you are miserable in.
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I understand, your falling out of love with her. Just because you forgive someone doesn't mean that all that person did goes away, you just accept it. I've gone through the same thing; I tried really hard to get those feelings back and make things work but I couldn't. Eventually I told her what was happening and as you put it "it crushed her". I'm sure you've heard it before "sometimes the right thing to do is the hard thing to do", and in this case it is.
I don't regret doing it at all because if I hadn't I would still be in that loveless relationship instead of with my soul mate :)
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hey, I basically know how you feel, this happened to me too. I just kind of fell out of love with my boyfriend but I didn't know what to do to fix it. Honestly with me, the love never came back. i asked him if we could take a break because I felt like he was suffocating me. I thought a break would make me miss him and I would love him again but it never happened, I had to break it off eventually. I would say that you need to tell her exactly how you feel, communication is key! I know you don't want to hurt her but hiding this will hurt her more in the long run. So definitely have that conversation with her and maybe y'all will end up taking a break from each other and having time apart could help!
Well i hope this advice helped a little...
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