about

Hey I'm Francesca!
I know I havent been through everything, but I have had my share, and I would be glad to help you!
Ever broken any bones? How about rules?

What are the 3 things about you that you wouldn't want me to know?
1) I fall in love too fast 2) I HATE my body 3) I hide everything I feel
What is your favorite food color?
Purple
Do you sleep thru thunders and storms?
No, i'm a very light sleeper.
Are you a dog or a cat person, or rather prefer a comodo dragon?
i love cats, but I have a dog cause i'm allergic to cats.
What is the single feature people compliment about you the most?
My legs
Are you ALSO scared of spiders?
I don't like them.
What is your biggest fear, except for spiders?
Death, afterlife.
Name your most favorite part of day?
Daytime
Ever had an imaginary friend as a child?
Yes, her name was Masa
Ever been in an accident?
I have been in a car accident.
Have you ever stolen anything from a store or from someone?
I stole lotion from my grandma...
What are your turn on's and turn offs?
on's: attractive, loves God
off's: rude, having a "big head"
Are you a morning person?
I'm a morning and a night person.
What are your most favorite and least favorite foods?
Most: sushi
Least: black olives
Name the one piece of clothing you can't live without.
A bra
Do you have tattoos or piercings? If yes, how many and where are they?
I have a tattoo down my spine that says 'you are the light of the world'
My ears are pierced twice and my cartilage is pierced and my belly button is pierced.
What is/was your least favorite subject in school?
Math
Do you take showers in the morning or at night more?
After I exercise
What are the most important 3 things in your life?
1) God 2) my family 3) my friends

advice

Oh okay thanks and its been a month now that my stomach is hurting I mean there's too much gas, and I feel stuff in there I feel like my own heartbeat and I feel like my stomach is getting big. And I poop like 3 times a week, but it's hard, is that a symptom of pregnancy? Does that mean your pregnant? And I never had sex, I just used a fake dildo, and I'm sure it had no sperm or anything on it.... So I don't know.. I even washed it.

you can't get pregnant unless a penis ejaculates inside you.
if you really don't know that then you should not be sexually active. and none of those symptoms have anything to do with pregnancy, you are sick, go to the doctor.

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Can you get pregnant with your own milky fluid that comes out of your vagina? Without sperm? ... Will that milky white thing cause you to be pregnant?

Seriously? Have you ever taken sex ed?
YOU CAN ONLY GET PREGNANT WITH SPERM. Girls do not contain sperm, only boys.
If girls could get themselves pregnant then we would constantly always be pregnant, now that doesn't make since now does it?

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I'm a 13 year old girl, and the boy is 14 years old. I've dated him before and he was really really sweet but he is on the chubby side, I usually don't date chubby boys. My friends said that he was talking about how he was going to ask me out this Friday but idk. I don't want to hurt his feelings because he's like the big brother I've never had. Should I go out with him?

First off, it is extremely rude that you are judging him based on his size. He is not an item in your games, he is a real person with feelings and he doesn't deserve to be judged based on his looks, just like every one else.
If you like him then date him, if you don't like him then don't.
If you don't want to go out with him then don't but be gentle about it and try not to hurt his feelings.

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How do I decide What I should go to college for?

What you have a passion for.
I have always loved helping people, so I chose nursing.
What classes are you best in?
Try talking to a councilor, they are good at deciphering those sorts of things.
Also, don't stress about deciding, lots and lots of people go into college having no idea what they want to major in, so there is no pressure, you have lots of time.

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Umm I have fingered myself before and it feels great but I need more pleasure and any household items that I can use? Any thing will be helpful thanks

Toothbrush, highlighter, marker, faucet water, or anything long.
Try googling women masturbation tips, it will help you get more pleasure.

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pretty much all my friends have boyfriends & i feel so alone & i wanna boyfriend. i've had things with guys but never actually had a boyfriend. what should i do?

my friend might sleepver friday & i wanna look for guys or somethin

melissa (17 female)

You can't just look for guys, it's not that simple. You have to find a guy whom you are attracted to and create a relationship with him. And I cant tell you from experience that being needy like this will not get you a boyfriend, at least a good one. Guys hate needy girls, there favorite part of a relationship is the chase, and when they finally have you they feel accomplished. If you make it easy he wont want you.
I know being alone seems terrible right now but no one cares and it doesn't matter. I know from experience that you don't need a man to complete you, and there is no reason for being needy.
Just wait for the right time when you can actually find someone worth your time and develop a relationship with him, don't force it.

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im 20 and he is 22. we have known each other for 6 years and dated on and off. we have been together now for almost a year. we live together now. as of lately though im not "lovey-dovey" i usually don't wanna cuddle or have sex or even kiss. what does this mean? i do love him, but maybe we aren't meant to be. i want to talk to him about this but im afraid he will get upset. what should i do?

I have this same situation with a guy, we are both 20. We have known each other since middle school and we have officially been together for a few years. Recently I just started feeling distant, I was attracted to him but I didn't want to kiss him or have sex anymore with him. At first I started calling him my best friend, to see if he would get the hint; he didn't. I kept avoiding his kisses and everything and eventually he got frustrated and asked why. It was really hard but I told him the truth, and I felt so much better. I was just tired of being with the same guy for so long, and trust me, he wants to know. We had planned to get married and be together forever, I thought he was the one! But now I feel so much better because I know it wasn't right in the end. The best decision is to tell the truth, explain exactly how you feel. I know it's hard to accept but I feel so much better now. It may even be that y'all just need some time apart, maybe moving out for a few months would make you miss him more and then everything would be better again! I suggest trying to distance yourself so you don't make any bad decisions and regret it later. Tell him how you feel!
Good luck.

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me and my fiance had sex a week after my period and about 6 days later i had heavy brown bleeding mucus and i thought i was pregnant so i took a test and it came out negative.. my period came 3 days late but quite heavy but now my breasts arent sore but they are sort of gapping in on the top.. could i be pregnant? and the condom didnt break..

If you had your period you can not be pregnant.
Your period is when your uterus sheds its lining because there is nothing to protect inside. So if you got your period that means there is nothing to protect inside meaning you are not pregnant.

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if you finished your period on thursday and i have unprotected sex on monday can i be pregnet ?

Yes.
If you have unprotected sex it doesn't matter when you have sex you can always get pregnant from it.

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I'm a 13 yet old girl, and I want to try flirting very subtly but still have it sound cute or something with another girl. Last night I sent her a pic of a really adorable seal and said "this seal is so cute!!! It reminds me of you! ;)" but I can't think of any other ones. Can somebody please give me some options? Thank you!! :)

I agree with the other answer.
Flirting should not be something you plan, it should just come naturally! It is cute that you found a picture you liked and sent it to her, that was a good idea! But just say what comes to you in the moment, what you are feeling! I think she would appreciate it more!
Good luck!

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I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to look healthy. What is the quickest way I can look healthy and get abs?

The best way to look healthy is to feel healthy. You should eat yummy healthy foods and exercise a few times a week. Doing this stuff will make you feel healthy and make you happy! And if you would like to tone your abs, just doing a few sit ups will help with that, also running.
I want to advise you not to be worrying about how you look at such a young age, it can become addictive. Always keep the mid set of being healthy nothing less.
Good luck!

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I've noticed that these days, everybody belongs to a group of people, and that people call these 'cliques'. I know what a clique is, and I am part of one at my school. Teachers always say crap about how we kids need to get along with one another and that cliques should be "outruled" from public schools. What is so wrong with a clique? Are they dumb? Are they considered a sterotype? I'm confused.

I am glad you asked this question instead of just believing they are the "cool thing". I graduated from high school last year so I can speak from experience that once you get out of high school, and sometimes even during high school, cliques are GONE. It is like they never existed and absolutely no one cares anymore. In middle school it might seem like being in a clique is the coolest thing but honestly I was never part of one and I had the best time. I was friends with everyone and it was such a good experience.
So to answer your question directly, YES cliques are dumb and over rated and they should be abolished.

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So I'm a girl and don't talk to any guys.

Recently I was in a group interview and noticed how the other girls spoke to the guys with ease. I thought it was because they knew each other-but they didn't!

Its just idk i just think whenever I talk to a guy they'll just presume I like them like that. How do you talk to guys because this isn't healthy!

Do you always flirt with them or something?
Just talking to guys does not mean you like them, i have lots of guy friends.
If you don't want to come across as flirty then don't flirt! Just be careful not to touch them or stare into their eyes or anything flirty like that. Guys are terrible and picking up hints anyway so they most likely wont think your flirting with them even if you actually are. Don't worry, guys don't look into stuff like that! They will not think you are flirting.
Just talk to them like you would talk with anybody! They aren't a different species they are just a different gender! Relax!

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i like in chicago illinois & i was wondering where i can go to meet guys... that AREN'T pervs

im a senior in high school (17, female)

Most guys your age all have sex on their mind. I suggest not looking for older men, because they will want to take advantage of a younger girl like you. It might seem like every boy just wants sex but there are a few out there that are good, you just have to look. Don't go looking for boys at parties and bars and places like that because good guys will not be there! Look for boys at coffee shops and the park and library.

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Hey im a 15 year old boy from London.my family go away on holiday with 3 other families every year.i get along well with a girl my age in one of the families.i just broke up with my girlfriend cus she had kissed another guy and this friend was really there to help me.shes decent looking and fun to be around,so i am thinking of startin something with her or at least trying to,BUT if things dont work out(which they usually dont at 15) everything will be very awkward.also if our families find out it would be very embarrassing.i cant stop thinking about her so any advice would be appreciated!i just feel lonely since i broke up with my girlfriend and it would be nice to feel wanted by another girl:)

So you are basically looking for a rebound.
Just because of the situation you are in, since your families see each other 3 times a year, I don't think it would be a very good idea to try and date her. Especially since it doesn't seem like you actually even like her, you just want somewhere there.
Why don't you keep her as a good friend and try and find someone else to date, i'm sure there are plenty other girls your age desperate for a boyfriend.
Don't jump the gun with this girl just because you feel lonely.

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Hi, I'm a teenage girl. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months. I really like him and I have so much I'd like to share with him but I'm really shy around him. I really want to loosen up and be myself around him and his friends. How can I stop being so shy around my him and his friends?

being shy usually means you aren't comfortable around someone, so you need to tell yourself that no one is judging you and it's okay to be silly and stuff. No one cares if you say something stupid or out of place, just adding to the conversation is good.
Don't think about what other people are thinking of you! It only matters what you think of yourself. Just try and relax and say what comes.

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How do I give my self orgasms

Are you a boy or a girl?
If you are a boy then grab some lotion and start rubbing.
If you are a girl then try to relax the best you can and get comfortable and finger yourself.

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so im a senior in high school & ive never had a boyfriend. i've had things with many guys but never an actual bf. & i want one!

any ideas on how i can find someone? people from my school are just friends. i want someone new & im prob never gonna see them again after school if i go for someone at my school. you know?

I'm not saying this is you, but the one way to not keep a guy is when you give it up too fast. If you hook up with a guy too fast he will not want to go out with you, because he will assume you do this with everyone. So if you do that then try to hold back when you are with a guy you really like!
I'm not sure if you are saying that you want someone from your school or you don't. Either way just try to be more friendly to people! The best way to meet people is just by being friendly and nice and then getting to know each other slowly.
Try going to populated places like coffee house or a park, by yourself, and sit by someone you want to meet!
I know this sounds strange but you just need to put yourself out there and be friendly!
Good luck.

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how do i get a boyfriend who might not like me

I'm guessing you meant to say you want a boy to like you, so you can have a boyfriend.
Well I don't know how old you are or anything but if you are 21+, go to a bar with some friends and find someone.
You could also go hangout somewhere public, like a coffee shop or a populated park, you might meet someone.
If you are in school then start talking to someone, eventually you could trade numbers.
To get a boyfriend you need to be talkative and friendly, just try opening up and chatting with random people, always be nice and smile!
Guys don't like girls who they know they can easily get, they LOVE to chase after you, so don't be too easy.

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Okay 21/F and he's a 23/M. I met him a couple of times and we've been out drinking together. I wanna hit it and quit it but I've been out of the game for a hot minute. I chatted with him at the bar and he told me i looked good. He came over to my house the other night and we were talking about the night before and what we remembered because I had some holes in my memory. He said "yeah we hooked up last night. I got to see you naked, I guess it was a sign of things to come" (and we didn't hook up, he was just joking around) but my question is, do you think he wants to get with me? And what should I do besides straight up grabbing his penis to let him know I'm down?

Yeah he definitely wants to hook up. If you like him then start hard core flirting with him! touch him and say he is silly and get really close. When y'all are alone get your faces really close to each other and stare into his eyes and I am positive someone will lean in for a kiss, and then take it from there! Keep kissing him and then make out, etc. But no, do not just grab his penis.

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