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We've been together so long, is it time to let go?
im 20 and he is 22. we have known each other for 6 years and dated on and off. we have been together now for almost a year. we live together now. as of lately though im not "lovey-dovey" i usually don't wanna cuddle or have sex or even kiss. what does this mean? i do love him, but maybe we aren't meant to be. i want to talk to him about this but im afraid he will get upset. what should i do?
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I have this same situation with a guy, we are both 20. We have known each other since middle school and we have officially been together for a few years. Recently I just started feeling distant, I was attracted to him but I didn't want to kiss him or have sex anymore with him. At first I started calling him my best friend, to see if he would get the hint; he didn't. I kept avoiding his kisses and everything and eventually he got frustrated and asked why. It was really hard but I told him the truth, and I felt so much better. I was just tired of being with the same guy for so long, and trust me, he wants to know. We had planned to get married and be together forever, I thought he was the one! But now I feel so much better because I know it wasn't right in the end. The best decision is to tell the truth, explain exactly how you feel. I know it's hard to accept but I feel so much better now. It may even be that y'all just need some time apart, maybe moving out for a few months would make you miss him more and then everything would be better again! I suggest trying to distance yourself so you don't make any bad decisions and regret it later. Tell him how you feel!
Good luck.
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Sounds like you may of fallin out of love.
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Are you on any new medication that may have sexual side-effects such as lower libido or no desire? Are you depressed or have any other mental health issue? That could destroy desire as well.
Maybe you just are bored of the same routine and need to tell him and figure out ways to spice it up. At any rate you need to tell him that you love him and it isn't his fault but you both need to figure out why the desire for intimacy suddenly isn't there.
Tell him you feel upset and it's not him and want to investigate medical and other reasons together. If you really love someone and have had a 6 year bond it's important to try and keep it intact and look at all the reasons for the problem rather than bail on this without trying to fix it.
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