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So untill around last christmas i had this boyfriend... lets call him B. ok well i knew that B liked me and i wasnt really sure how i felt about him, so i dumped him..now this summer, i really miss him.. and i dont know he dosnt seem like he wants to talk to me , everytime i im him hes always like hey.. and hes soo boring..
i want the old B bak..
soo how can i get him to like me again
and how do i tell him i like him ??
hey, first of all you can never get anyone to like you. it has to come naturally. also forceing someone to like you is the perfect recipe for disaster. if you werent sure how he felt about you and you two were going out, thats a problem. communication is one of the most important things in a good solid relationship. once you get used to not communicating wiht someone, its hard to fix. you should just try to put all the old feelings away, and look for someone new. he seems to have moved on, and you should too. rekindleing the flame works sometimes, other times it donest. this time, i dont think that it will. if you really feel like you need to try it, then go ahead. but id advise you not to because you would have to come on strong to get him to start talking to you again because as of now hes not interested in you. coming on strong is usually a turn off.
Ok my BF and I have been going out for almost 3 months. We went out before for about 1 1/2 months, and the whole time, I always feel so shy and self concious around him. What can I do to boost my confidence?
Shy Lady
hey, alright well its totally important to be comfortable around your boyfriend. signs of not being comfortable show that your not ready for a boyfriend or that the boyfriend that you choose isnt right for you. give it another month or so and see what happens. if you start to realize that you would probably feel more comfortable around other guys, thats a problem. you should end it then, and explore other guys. but dont blow it, first reliatonships are always akward, so thats expected. but if you juts cant seem to work it out, then you end it.
how think and long are guys penis's usually?
hey, everyones is different. its not the answer your hoping for, but its the truth.
okay so i really like this guy n he likes me too, but ive never had a bf so its really wierd and like now im afraid to....also i like dont know what to do like when his arms around me, n i dont know how to makeout, someones pleaseeeee helpp
hey, oh god. alright well first off, theres no right or wrong way to makeout. i promise you that once you start making out with him, it will just come to you and you will just go with the flow. having your first boyfriend will always be akward, just like all the other firsts in life. when he puts his arm around you, just cuddle with him =]. be cute.
Well My Ex Boyfriend Passed Away At Age 17 He Meant The World To Me I Neva Got To Tell Him How I Felt That I Loved Him..But When He Died He Took My Heart With Him Do You Think Ill Find Love Again He Is All I Think About So I MEan I Dont Know I Cry Over Him Everyday..
hey, im sorry for your loss. crying is the normal reaction to someone passing away that you care a lot about. theres no real way to tell if you will ever find love again. some people do and some dont. for example, my grandmothers husband passed away, and she never remarried. then theres other people that remarry within the next year. i guess it really depends on how much you really did love the person and how well you learn to accept the fact that there really truly gone and know that they would want you to move on and be happy.
its long, but keep on reading its interesting, and if you have any heart, or are really good at giving advice, read the whole thing, and respond. PLEASE!
Ok, I like this guy, I'll call him Brian. We have known each other for almost a year, and three months of those, we were involved. We were each other's first relationships, but he ended it, because we were just acting like friends, so we might as well stay that way. Well, its about six months since we broke up, and I still like him, and I think he likes me too. We talk on the phone basically every day for no less than an hour and a half up to three hours. Well, we are just friends, but last week we had this long conversation where we were just asking each other questions. And we took it too far, to the point where i asked him if he would ever rekindle old relationships, referring very well to his only one: with me. He doesnt kno that I officially still like him. Well anyway, it came out that some other girl has caught his attention. hearing this I froze up...even though my guy best friend talked to Brian, and brian told him, that he would rekindle old relationships, and that he does like me...the only thing is that he doesnt want to make the same mistakes again and hurt each other in another relationship (brian doenst take chances), so he didnt want to go there with me again. So, I called him up , trying to be the mature person and told him, that iwas sorry for taking the question game too far, and that I just wanted to be his good friend and that I hope him and the other girl work out. So, he got the idea that I didnt like him and that i basically put the seal on what could have been us by being just 'friends. the only reason why i did that is becuase i didnt want to get hurt, so i backed off when i heard he was interested in another girl. Turns out, he doesnt officialy really like her yet, he just wants to get to know her, so basically i had a chance, if i would have fought for him; but like him, i dont really take chances, and i gave up,because i wanst sure if he would reject me by telling me he just wanted to be freinds, which is why i beat him to it. So in like three days, i went from the girl who could potentially be with brian to the girl that happens to be his really good friend and is helping him get the other girl. KNowing very well that should be me. I should also mention the fact that when my best freind was talking to brian, he asked brian if he was just talking to the other girl to get over me, and he said 'no comment'. And we still talk the same amount of time, because he says he really likes talking to me, but last night, i basically helped him plan a date with the other girl; i would rather be the friend that he can talk to about the other girl, then be the girl who doesnt know the details on his love life. I put his potential happiness in front of mine, instead of fighting and trying to succeed with him. And i dont want to officially become that 'buddy old pal'. cuz it sounds immature, but i know we are meant to be together, we just click, and i hope u know what that feels like. Brian took the safe way out, by not going there with me again, and i accommadated him. And i dont know if I should try fighting for him again, or what? I need advice and major opinions on the situation. iwant to know what i could have done better, and what i should do now. I am going over his house tomorrow, so i wanted to tell him whats really good then, but that would mean i would have to eat all of those fluffy just friends words i gave him a few days ago. sometimes i feel that he has to explore other girls to really know if we are meant to be, so he wouldnt have any 'what ifs' or regrets. HELP PLEASE!!!
hey, alright well first of all your being very mature by putting his happiness in front of your own. that shows that your ready for a mature relationship. also always remember this quote: "mature love is wanting the other person to be happy no matter what; immature love is wanting the other person to be happy when there only with you". my ppinion on this is that you should let him explore other girls. when you hangout with him, confess to him that all that you said the other day was bull. let him know how you really feel. basically tell him what you just told us. its going to be hard, no doubts about it, but the only way to have a real chance with this guy is by telling him every bit of exactly how you feel. good luck.
ok so i went to a youth group thing on wednesday and there was this guy there.and whenever i think about him i get butterflies in my stomach and i dont even know why because i don't like him or anything. hes my age and hes not really cute but he is funny.we didnt really talk at all nothing but" who is that?" while we were playing a game kinda like man hunt in the dark.but this is what we did.
-me and my friend were playing ping pong, but then his friend wanted to play so it was us against his friend so then he played.and i was like all hyper from soda(i had a lot) so i was acting like a 5th grader.and i like took the pingpong paddle and put it iinfront of my face while i was tlking 2 my friend, so thenhe did the same thing 2 his friend.
-so then like 10 ppl were playing in the gym, and my brother hits me w/ a tennis ball so i run and get both tennis balls and throw them at him, not really hard but playfully.but it looked like it was hard,so then this kid goes "ok you threw them at him, go pick them up" and i go"no" and just walk away. and i was acted so stupid!!! like if someone did those things i would thnk the were so immature and weird. and whats weird is that i like his friend more then i like him.so why do you think i get butterflies when i think about him and how can i make them go away? oh and ill be in his class next year, if that helps idk how it will but w/e.
sorry if its long. i will rate. thanks in advanced. = ]
hey, you probably think you like his friend better than him because his friend is proabbly better looking, but not as funny. you definately like that kid. some people have a weird way of flirting and i guess your one of those people. you flirt kiddish, which could be a turnoff sometimes. tone it down a bit, then you should be fine.
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alright well.. im about 5'1 and im really curvy. i have a flat stomach and an ass so i get alot of attention from guys. well also my cup size is a D and theyre very perky. guys r always maken comments to me about them and guys always wanna see them.. the problem is... i have an inch and 1/2 space between the 2 of them and i have a huge circle around my nipple. its embarassing and im considering plastic surgey.. but my question is.. will that turn guys off? pls help.. thanks so much
hey, well all girls boobs are different. some are close together and some are far apart. if there a good size, than im sure the guy wont mind because they will be too concentrated on the size of them. i highly would recommend not getting plastic surgery. its stupid. thats how god wanted you. also you sound like a highschool girl, thats too young to alter your body.
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ok so is it true that guys like it when they have to chase a girl.. n work for it? if that makes any sense
hey, well it depends what the guy is looking for. if he wants a serious relationship and has true feelings for you, making him chase you for a while will become annoying and he will loose interest. for the first few days, its fine tho. if its just a hookup, making his chase you can be okay for most of the hooking up. no guy likes to get a girl easily right away.
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i know this is really stupied but how do you make out?
hey, yeah it does sound really stupid. anyways, there is no wrong or right way to makeout. it just comes naturally, i promise. your at least an average kisser no matter what, unless your all slobery. there are cute little things that you could do during the makeout session tho. like play with his hair. also play around with where you place your hands. try placeing them on his shoulder or back.
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I wanna loose weight, but I don't do many active things. Does meditation and yoga help loose weight? I'm a 13/f and I weight 119. I wanna loose 20 pounds. Yea, i know that's a lot of pounds to loose. I skip breakfast(I don't believe in eating breakfast), I stretch every day, I'm cutting down on the calories I eat. Is there anything I can do to loose weight in a spiritual type way? I'm kinda spiritual so... Plz help, any advice will do!
hey, you only weigh 119 pounds. im sure you dont have to loose 20 pounds. matter of fact, that would probably be unhealthy. at 5`0 your perfect weight is 100 pounds. everytime you go up in height, you add 5 pounds. so like 5`1 would be 105 and 5`2 would be 110. my doctor told me this last physical. compare yourself to it and see if you need to loose weight.
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16, Female
my eyes look different to me. They seem to have a slightly green tinge(I have Brown eyes) and the pupils have really shrunk. and they've bene like this for a bit. has anyone ever heard of eyes changing like this?
and it's not jsut in my ehad, because my friends have noticed it too.
hey, peoples eye just change sometimes. when i was born i had blue eyes. i keep those blue eyes until i was 5, then they changed to brown.
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ok well last start at the start new year friend holds party the girl i really like and every1 at the party knows i like her is there we kissed it was good but then the next day talking to friends i hear that my suposevly best friend had gone through with her after i had kissed her i was to angry as we were all pretty much drunk so it was annoying but it was ok but when i went to ask him about it he was like nothing happened untill he finally aplogies to me so i kind of forgiven him and we got back on with our lives. well after that me and the "girl" we like kiss like every party and that. so last week people were asking why i didnt ask her out so i had decide to do it tomorrow ( were going to the pictures together ) so we were at party on tuesday and like had alot to drink and we kissed again as per usual and my best friend was kissing her friend so it was all good untill i went away to shops to get midnight snack with a couple of friends and when we got back it had quiet down abit so we stayed for a couple of hours then left. well tlking to a friend who was at party and he was saying u hear about my best friend and the "girl" and i was like no he was well they supposely did it when we went to the shops. so know i no i dnt no what to do. ave decide not to ask her out and just try and totally forget about her but what about my friend do i confront him and find out his side or what please i need some advice thanks
hey, alright well both of them arent being good friends to you at all. that girl knows that you two are best friends im sure, and obviosuly she just doesnt care. those types of girls like hooking up better than relationships and im pretty sure that if you asked her out, she would cheat on you, maybe even with your best friend. as for your best friend, hes a man whore. he knows that it upset you the last time that they even kissed (never mind had sex). now i know that we dont know if its true yet, but im pretty sure that if its not, that something as little as kissing at least happened between them. so all in all, your friend is a hoe. he will keep stealing your girls/hookups. as for that girl, she will end up with a disease one day.
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so i need to know what to do for my hair so that i can look better than my bfs ex lol. my hair is like, a poofy dark blonde, and i need to know if i should straiten it, scrunch it, or straiten it then scrunch it??? i have to get it damn so that i can scrunch it but wouldn't that take out the straiteningness??
hey, well think back and think about when your crush was more flirty with you. how was your hair? however you did it that night, do it like that again because obviously he thought that you looked cute.
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okay so my boyfriend's bday is coming up in a couple of weeks. he recently bought his first polo from aeropostale and he decided he really likes it. so i think i should get him another one from a designer store, such as lacoste or ralph lauren. however, since he is a teenager (16)and wears a small in polos, i dont know if i would be safe getting him one at a store like that since its for men. should i get the same size or maybe go to extra small? thanks
hey, no dont get him the extra small. definately go for the small. as for stores to buy them in, try hollister, american eagle, or abercrombie. those namebrands always look hot on a guy.
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i have the wet 2 straight hair straighenter and it's wearing out. the metal part is rusting, i think it's from using it while my hair was wet. well that's what it was meant for. but anyway, i need a new straightener. i have easy hair to work with and it takes me 30 minutes to do my hair with the wet 2 straight hair straightener. but i need a new straightener. please give me good ones that will do my hair in even less time but a reasonable price to buy. & the straightener has to be ceramic! thanks!
hey, i had that one before as well. yes, i didnt understand why a straightener that you could supposdely use while your hair was wet to turn rusty either. anyways, go to bed bath & beyond. thats where i got my newest one. its brown and its big. it also has some pink on it to. there are a lot of other good ones at bed bath & beyond as well. also sally beauty might supply you with a good one too, but it will be way more expensive than bed bath & beyond, and its honestly not worth it. you can get a straightener the same quality for cheaper at bed bath & beyond.
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I just bought Clairol Natural Instincts. Well I have light/medium brown hair, and I bought Rosewood 30 (Dark Auburn Brown). Has anyone used this? Would it look good? Is the product good? Thanks!- I have light skin and hazel eyes.
hey, well i dont know if that color is good or if that color will look good on you, but i used that namebrand. it worked really great! the color i used was black tho. they give you this condtioner to use every 6 weeks to keep the color looking shiny. also in the direction they reccommend using pantene (whatever color hair you are dying it) in your case brunette expressions shampoo & condotioner. except once a week you use that stuff that they gave you. also i got the permanent type, not semi permanent.
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idk if this is in the right catergory but oh well
alright well im thirteen: in the beginning of the school year i was outgoing fun perky and always happy and now im always just blahh &the exact opposite:
did i just change? am im going to be like this forever? whatsss happeninggg :(
i need tips getting through this too: pleasee
thank you in advance!
hey, thats normal. teenage girls go through it all the time and most of the time its exagerated. still, it happens to the best of it. your insecure and you dont know what you want. it seems like everyone has fun without you and is turning your back on you. it will pass through. good luck.
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I've been friends with this guy Brandon for two years. I honestly love him, I mean we haven't just been friends we've been going out and sometimes things stop us but this time nothing is getting in the way. My mom doesn't like him at all, she doesn't know that we ever dated. I love him and I know I'm too young (16) to be making the decision of who I want to be with for the rest of my life but I know I love him. Last night I told him that I can't be with him anymore because my parents don't want me to marry out of my religion (I'm a muslim and he's Christian.) He was crying and so was I. I want to be with him more then anything but my dad said if I marry him he's going to leave my mom and I love my mom and don't want her to be alone because I'm being a selfish snob. I don't know how I can make them understand that he means absoluely everything to me. Any suggestions on what I should do?
hey, well why do you HAVE to get married RIGHT NOW? you guys are only 16, why not wait until your 18? those two years might help you out in the long run, because than you can explain to your parents that you really love this guy and it would be a good time for them to try to learn to like him. explain to them that he isnt going anywhere for a long time (if you stay together for two years that will help back up what you said). if your rushing the marriage by getting married at 16 because your afraid that if you dont he will move on, thats unhealthy. dont tell your parents that your planning on getting married at 18 and your just waiting it out 2 years to make them like him.
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Okay so I always seem to be the ONLY person making plans out of all of my friends. But the thing is, everytime I make a plan, no one even bothers to remember it or are ALWAYS too busy to hang out with me or sometimes don't even bother to show up. EVeryone just acts so flaky all the time. Idk what I'm doing wrong; when I do get a chance to hang out with these people, we have a great time. So why should I be the only one ever taking action and making plans, and being disappointed when they all can't time out of their "busy" lives to just hang out for one day during the summer?
hey, well have you ever thought that they could be making plans without you? sad to think about, but what if? how close are you to them? if you have known them for a long time and are usually faithful loyal friends, ask them why there acting like that point blank. good luck.
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