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Should I go out with a chubby boy?
I'm a 13 year old girl, and the boy is 14 years old. I've dated him before and he was really really sweet but he is on the chubby side, I usually don't date chubby boys. My friends said that he was talking about how he was going to ask me out this Friday but idk. I don't want to hurt his feelings because he's like the big brother I've never had. Should I go out with him?
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I think if you have alot of things to think about . Firstly is that fact he's chubby a real problem fir you. If don't think he's attractive then don't go out with him it wouldnt be fair. Seciny if you don't want to ruin your friendship then don't either. But if u think he us attractive and you do like him and you do think if things went wrong your friendship could hold uo then go for it!!!!! Good luck :)
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I'm not going to judge you for refusing to date someone because of appearance - it isn't a good thing to do, but we can't help who we find attractive and unattractive.
That being said, is it that you're attracted to him but have a rule against chubby boys, or that you don't really like chubby boys? If he's not your type, then he's not your type. But if you like him and you're just worried about being judged, I would tell you to go ahead and date him. Who cares what people think? You're only 13. Everyone will get over it eventually.
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You are juding him?
If you go around with the attitude that he isn't good enough because he is on the heavy side then sweetie you are going to have a hell of a time finding someone when you are a bit older.
Just to put it out there, dating someone is not about how they look. You have the wrong idea here.
Dating is about finding someone that makes you happy. Their personality and whether they are right for you. No, it is not about who finds the 'model' body. If this boy is nice too you and you enjoy talking too him then what is the problem?
If your friends make comments about someones weight and how you should not date the person then maybe these are not real true 'friends'. This boy has feelings just like you and everyone else has, he is a person. Turning someone down could be missing something great and you will never know if you turn down everyone that isn't Justin Beiber. Don't judge people...
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First off, it is extremely rude that you are judging him based on his size. He is not an item in your games, he is a real person with feelings and he doesn't deserve to be judged based on his looks, just like every one else.
If you like him then date him, if you don't like him then don't.
If you don't want to go out with him then don't but be gentle about it and try not to hurt his feelings.
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So here's what I think. I think you should do what ever your heart tells you. If you actually truly like him then say yes, bu if you don't then say I don't think it would really be a good idea for us to date again. Or if you're worried about losing him as a friend then say something like I don't want to lose you as a friend and I think dating right now would ruin our friendship. With things like this just sit down and relax and think about all the different things that could happen. I hope I helped!!
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