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ok, so i got my braces off this summer, would this somehow make me more capable of getting a better boyfriend? can anyone tell me how getting them off changes there experiences with people and such?

(15/f)

It depends on the guy. Some guys find braces non-attractive, others dont care. As for me, when I got mine off, I seemed to get more compliments & some guys (not all) but some tended to pay more attation to me, weather it was the fact of me getting my braces off or myself just noticing them talking to me, haha. Braces didn't give me a life change or anything, getting them off just gave me more confidence. Which you will get more confidence too I'm sure, and with that, you'll get more attation, because guys fine confidence attractive. So congrats on the braces off & have fun :)

on facebook can someone who sent you a message tell whether you read it or not?

No, not unless you reply.

what r all the bases. 1,2,3...

Me & my friends know it as :

1st = french kissing
2nd = anything hand related ex. fingering/handjob
3rd = anything oral

Everyones ideas are different.. hope this helped a little.

So my summer's almost over and school's about to begin again. The problem is, I've stayed up soo late I have trouble going to sleep early or falling asleep! How can I go to sleep earlier, and how can I fall asleep faster? When I go to sleep it could take 30 min+++ for me to fall asleep so does anyone have any tips? Also, for school I'd wake up around 5:45 am or later (school starts at 7:10) and sometimes if I'm reading something or watching a clip or short movie in class, sometimes I'd kinda almost fall asleep and I'm really tired and it's hard to keep my eyes open! :| How can I prevent this or what can I do if that's happening to me? (Yes I know I have to sleep early so please say something else xP)

I have the same problem. I get on a summer sleeping time & it's hard to go back to school time. My trick ? Take one night & stay up 24 hours (sounds silly), but don't take a nap or "rest". By the time 9 pm rolls around you'll be sleepy & just set your alarm to wake you up so you don't over sleep again. If you keep up with the pattern going to sleep early & waking up early too, by the time school starts you'll be fine :) With the falling asleep in class, I do the same. It usually happens when I'm bored with whats going on weather you're really tired or not. If you feel yourself starting to dose switch your body around, doodle on your paper just keep yourself enjoyed & the movie or reading time will be over before you know it. Hope this helps :)

no matter how hard i try i just can't seem to get over my ex boyfriend. its been about a month n a half since we broke up. and i love/loved him with everything. i tried dating other ppl, but nothing works :( any suggestions on how to move on?

15/f

Getting over an ex boyfriend can be hard, heck no one said it would be easy. Try keeping your mind on other things (that don't remind you of him). Try reading or watching movies, things to take your thought away from him. You could hang out with your friends, just go get out & just try to have fun. You might even try talking to him less. Over time, you'll start to get over him. A month isn't a long time for someone you had strong feelings for, so don't feel bad if you have trouble getting over him.. you will soon enough. Good luck :)

when you have sex for the first time, unprotected sex, is there a chance you can get pregnant???

Yes !!! It can be your first or your 10th time having sex and you can still get pregnant.

i love birds but i cant stop eating chicken b/c it tastes so good. is that bad? to eat your favorite animal? i know theres like species of bird but i like birds in general but still..

Don't sweat. Alot of people have birds for pets & yet still get chicken. It's fine, no need to feel bad about it.

what is the sexiest thing a girl can wear without looking REALLY slutty?

I ask a guy friend & he said "low cut shirts & tight jeans" but remember evey guy is different.

would it be weird/unlikely if a 15 year old, almost 16(10th grade) dated a 13 year old(8th)?

No. Age is just a number :) If you like him & he likes you.. then there's nothing weird about it.

why are people always like "oh you shouldnt have sex you're too young, wait for marriage." just because one person believes you should wait til marriage doesnt mean everyone else does and has to abide by that. people shouldnt be judged on what age they want to have sex at. it is THEIR opinion. and if they regret it, at least they learned from it. everyone makes mistakes. it is their OWN lives and people shouldnt tell them how to live or what to do.
i know I HATE when people tell me what to do.
i can make my own decisions.

I agree. It shouldnt matter what age someone has sex as long as they knew they were ready & they knew the risks. Sex is a respect thing. Just because you have sex at a young age doesn't mean you dont respect yourself. It bothers me too when people judge basied on age of sex. If you regret it, lean from it like you said. A mistake is a mistake no one is perfect. So basicly, I don't think you're taking this to seariously.. I agree.

Okay!!!
i'm sick of it!!
i mean... no offense BUT what's up with all these 14 and 15 year old girls thinking they are so old enough to have sex, like it's a casual thing.
I'm going to be 15 next week, and sex NEVER came in my mind to me, and I would never have it before i turned at least 20
yea... i know call me a holy person or crap... but seriously!! why are people doing it SO young...
They are still kids
I was reading all these questions about sex... and they are from like 14 and 15 year olds
THAT'S RIDICULOUS
i'm not trying to lecture or anything now here's my serious question....

I am getting to know guys now, and gonna be dating them....... now i'm kind of afraid that they'll all want sex and pressure me into it..
I'm not like that... i'm saving it
And the one thing i'm worried about is that if i don't give it... he'll take it from me

I mean, i don't care if i have to break up or lose them just bc they want sex... i just don't want to be taken advantaged of... y'know?

Help?

Thx for reading.... sorry it's sooo long

No offense to you, but I dissagree with what you say. You don't know how those girls thing or what situation they were in or even how they felt about the person they had sex with. Yeah 14 & 15 is young but you have no right to judge someone on their actions. It's great you're saving yourself and that you won't let yourself get taken advantage of but some girls are not like you. To me, if they understand what they are doing and they will still have respect for themselves after they have sex then let them. It's their body their life their choice. Don't say something is ridiculous, when you don't know their side of the story.
Now for your searious question. When you start getting to know the guys and you start getting a sense of their personality you might be able to judge if they would do something like that or not. (Some guys are hard to read). If things are getting searoius with a guy, tell him that if he's looking to have a sexual relationship with you at the level then he needs to think twice. He needs to decided if you're worth hanging around with if you're not going to have sex. If he doesn't like that idea and tries to talk you into it, walk away. You don't need him. No guy is worth forgetting your morals. If he doesn't respect you.. dump him, you'll find someone who does :)

ok i like this boy and he likes me to he told that to my face and then said to me that he didnt want to go out with me because he thinks ima going to get as fat as my sister but im not and my sister aint even that big so some one help me and please dont tell me to forget him theres other fish in the sea because i cant forget him its like hes part of me now and i cant get away from him i see him every where i go and i cant avoid him so please some one help me before i go crazy!!!!!!:[

You are 13 years old and hes 15 & worried you will become "fat" ? First off he isnt looking for a girl friend, hes looking for arm candy.. someone he can flaunt in front of his guy friends. Yeah yeah, you don't want me to tell you this but still.. you dont need him. If he can't except you (no matter if you become "chubby" in the future) then you don't need him. You need to find yourself someone who will like you for you and not your weight. You need to tell him that he needs to like you & all of you now & in the future, and if he can't execpt that.. then move on find someone who does. His mistake not yours. If that happens just tell yourself how much better you are then him, and how one day your going to find someone who likes you for u & not your weight & how dumb he will look & feel for not being a nice guy & for only looking for arm candy.

does doubling up on condoms [using two at a time...instead of just one] create a bigger chance of preventing pregnancy??

NO. Doubleing up on condoms is one of the WORST things you could do. The two condoms rub together & cause friction, which makes the condoms break faster. NEVER NEVER NEVER double up.

Is it normal to have not have started your period at 15?

Yes, your fine :) Don't sweat, you'll get it sooner or later.

your boyfriend is hot.

I know.. good thing he's mine :)

--- EDIT ---

Thanks, you're a sweetone :)

so my boyfriend fingered me & he never put his hand down his pants before he did it. & i gave him head. is there any chance i could be pregnant?

Don't sweat, your fine. Just remeber next time, ladys first.. or wash his hands ;)

ok.14/f. so i have a question about high school dances. i'm going to be a fresman and i'm kinda confused about the big dances. like winter formal and all of those. so, i know that only juniors and seniors can only go to prom, unless you're like a fresman or sohphmore and you have a date whos a junior or senior. but what about winter formal and all the other big dances like that? can you go at any age, with any aged person? or is it like prom?? i know like just regular dances you can go whatever age, but i would just like to know. thanks!!

There's alot of highschool dances. (I'm baseing my answer off my highschool). There is Homecomming thats for any grade, and you can invite anyone of any age or school, you just have to fill out a paper with permission. Winter formal which has the same rules as homecomming. Sophmore pin, which is for sophmores. Junior ring, which is for Juniors, and then last is Prom which is for seniors but if a underclassmen is invited they can go, but they have to invited by a senior. (With the sophmore pin & junior ring, im not sure if the same rule prom. Where if an underclassmen is invited by someone of the grade level they can go). Hope this helped some..

i see people with these baby-pink looking gameboy thingies but i dunno what they are exactly. they could be texting on some kind of phone. it looks like a rectangular piece connected to another rectangular piece? uh

Nintendo DS, its a personal handheld game system.

Does anyone know who is asking this question but me , or is the info who i am private? Thanks :D

Level 2 mods & up can see who asking, but other then that.. its private :)

Me and my friend are trying to find a job but we don't know how to start and i'm very shy so i don't know how to ask if they are hiring.Please help me

I'm pretty sure you're to young for a job, try baby sitting. Make flyers/posters and put then up around your house, at your local food store, or hand them out at church or a sporting event.

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