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Grrr
Okay!!!
i'm sick of it!!
i mean... no offense BUT what's up with all these 14 and 15 year old girls thinking they are so old enough to have sex, like it's a casual thing.
I'm going to be 15 next week, and sex NEVER came in my mind to me, and I would never have it before i turned at least 20
yea... i know call me a holy person or crap... but seriously!! why are people doing it SO young...
They are still kids
I was reading all these questions about sex... and they are from like 14 and 15 year olds
THAT'S RIDICULOUS
i'm not trying to lecture or anything now here's my serious question....
I am getting to know guys now, and gonna be dating them....... now i'm kind of afraid that they'll all want sex and pressure me into it..
I'm not like that... i'm saving it
And the one thing i'm worried about is that if i don't give it... he'll take it from me
I mean, i don't care if i have to break up or lose them just bc they want sex... i just don't want to be taken advantaged of... y'know?
Help?
Thx for reading.... sorry it's sooo long
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sweety your very sensible well don't ever ever let guys pressure you but most guys consider your feelings towards sex too do what you want but its great your realising that sex at a young age isn't too good so date guys kiss whatever but don't ever do something your pressured into or regret the next day but i really need to say to you well done!
Agony K
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I agree with the previous answer - you don't actually have all the information on situations where girls lose their virginity, so its not really very fair of you to judge them purely on their age.
For example, surely it would be more right morally if, say, a 14 or 15 year old girl, lost her virginity to her long-term boyfriend in a loving and caring relationship, than if a 20 year old lost their virginity on a one night stand?
I think that 14 or 15 is quite young, but at the end of the day, age is merely a number and it is only one of many variables in a situation. I would be more appalled if a person were to lose their virginity to someone they have been with for only a few weeks, or who isn't mature enough to prepare for the consequences to be honest.
But for your serious question - if a guy asks for sex, or foreplay or ANYTHING that you're not comfortable with, just say no. If he's a good guy, then he'll respect your decision and wait for you. If he pressures you more, just dump him.
And for a guy to forcefully take your viginity if you said you didn't want sex would have to be pretty awful, so do you really think you'll be dating anyone who is capable of that anyway??
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No offense to you, but I dissagree with what you say. You don't know how those girls thing or what situation they were in or even how they felt about the person they had sex with. Yeah 14 & 15 is young but you have no right to judge someone on their actions. It's great you're saving yourself and that you won't let yourself get taken advantage of but some girls are not like you. To me, if they understand what they are doing and they will still have respect for themselves after they have sex then let them. It's their body their life their choice. Don't say something is ridiculous, when you don't know their side of the story.
Now for your searious question. When you start getting to know the guys and you start getting a sense of their personality you might be able to judge if they would do something like that or not. (Some guys are hard to read). If things are getting searoius with a guy, tell him that if he's looking to have a sexual relationship with you at the level then he needs to think twice. He needs to decided if you're worth hanging around with if you're not going to have sex. If he doesn't like that idea and tries to talk you into it, walk away. You don't need him. No guy is worth forgetting your morals. If he doesn't respect you.. dump him, you'll find someone who does :)
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I know exactly how you feel! It's incredibly annoying. The worst part is, they don't have a clue what they're doing. They have to ask how/where to get a condom, where to have it, what to do after, and a bunch of other questions that if you were really ready, you wouldn't have to ask. At 13, I never thought about having sex anytime soon, or really a boyfriend for that matter.
Not every guy only wants sex. Maybe try talking to them earlier in the relationship about it. Most of the time, you can kind of tell who would and who wouldn't. But, not all.
Just try not to get mixed in with the wrong crowd. If they pressure you into it, just leave, then and there. Don't worry too much about being taken advantage of, because you don't want trust issues to ruin your relationship.
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yeah i feel the same way...
i mean ...uh ew!
and theyre totally young
and guys like that just arent worth your time...
well i know it was much ... i mean im only 13 .. lol ... but hope i could help :)
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You're right, some girls don't understand that sex is actually a big deal, they don't stop to think about what they're really doing or how they'll feel about it in a year. Sex isn't and shouldn't be a casual thing, and I doubt any 14 or 15 year old is emotionally ready even if they might be physically so. Most of these girls will find someone they love someday and regret just giving away their virginity to a guy they thought they loved.
In high school you need to focus on school, not chance getting pregnant. School is hard enough and sex will just make it harder. You're right to wait, and if a guy pushes you to have sex when you've told him you aren't ready, then you don't need him. If you want a boyfriend then find someone who'll respect you and your choices.
As long as you don't hang out with the wrong crowd and don't stay in a relationship with a guy who pressures you into having sex, then you won't get taken advantage of. And wait until you're older and in love to have sex, these girls think they're in love after going out for a week. Then two weeks later they break up with their boyfriend.
You can't just take back your virginity.
I'm proud of you.
::Jasmine: 15/F
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i think most people end up losing their virginity so early just because it's socially acceptable. there are a few cases where two kids our age can be in love, though. i mean, i believe it. i guess it just depends on what you think love is.
and not all guys just want sex. a lot of guys are okay and all they want out of the relationship is to feel wanted and loved, which you can have without having sex. people who don't realize this are completely ridiculous.
just don't date complete dicks with really horrible reputations. i mean, reputations aren't everything or anything, but i mean, they aren't just nothing.
hm, i hope that helped a little bit.
good luck [:
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A lot of guys are just out for sex. That's just how boys' hormones work- especially at that age. all i can tell you is find a good guy that will respect your morals and values and most importantly, you. you need to lay down the law before you get serious too. tell him what you aren't willing to do and if he doesn't respect that, the screw him you don't need him.
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okay well hopefully you can tell early on in the relationship if the guy pressures you into having sex, i was pressured at the begging of a relationship and i thankfully got out of it in the beginning.
but anyways i have to say im 15/f and im not a virgin and im proud of who i lost it to i love the guy to death and ive been with him for along time and it just felt right, i wasnt pressured we just agreed and these days with all the sex and stuff were exposed to we just do it at a younger age than generations before us, i dont think its wrong at all its a natural thing.
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I agree. I'm 15, and sex is the farthest thing from my mind. Not to sound like a total geek, but I'm focusing on school =]
I personally, am saving myself, but the girls on here who are our ages and do choose to have sex, kind of just make me feel bad for them.
But it's their choice, their bodies, let them do what makes them happy, I guess?
As for the guys that pressure you, they aren't worth it. Honestly, the one that deserves you, is the one who respects you. Just wait it out, and find a guy who won't pressure you, it'll be soo worth it ion the end!
And Kudos to you for being like me! I'm glad to know there are some pure girls like myself out there =D
-Laura. (15-f)
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heyy well i totally understan dwhat you mean. im 15 myself and still a virgin and proud to be one. most of my frioends arent and it is ridiculous wen you think about it. they think theyre in love for like the first 2 weeks or w.e and have sex. thats really stupid.
anwyay about your question belive it or not not all guys want sex some would tell you "ill wait as long as you need" those are the guys you should stick to not the ones that tell you theyll break up with you if you dont have sex with them.
i dotn understand if your saying youre afraid to be raped by a guy? like him to force you to have sex? if thats what your askign well i say you should know the guy before you go out with them like dont jsut say yes to a guy you dont know becuase that guy might force you to have sex with him. go out with a guy youre sure wont. you cant go wrong there.
and i hoped i helped! and thats good that im not the only one who still believs virginity is precious. this is what i always say to myself "if you give it up you CANT get it back"
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