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i'm not sure how to word this properly. i'm 23/f and my entire life i've been curious as to whether or not i am as smart as someone my age should be. i don't feel like i'm quick witted and i never did well in school. i'm not sure how well i retain knowledge because i smoke weed, also. of course no one around me can answer this honestly because of fear that my feelings will get hurt. but i want to know. so i guess my question is what tests can i take or what can i do to find out this information? (link)
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I am in the exact same boat as you. Terrible in school, also smoke weed, etc. I've come to the conclusion that nothing really catches my interest long enough to want to learn about it or have an interest in it. But I don't think that means we are dumb. Just takes a lot to catch our interest. As far as tests I would recommend possibly an add/adhd test. This sometimes is a symptom of what you're feeling. There are intelligence tests you can take as well but in my opinion, tests don't amount to anything the human brain is actually capable of. A test should not be the deciding factor or "smartness".
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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You're a virgin as far as sex goes vaginally. If you feel compelled to tell him the other stuff go for it
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I think you all suck major balls. I've been trying to find a painless way to kill myself for the past 2 hours. If someone wants to kill themselves then they probably have a very good reason for it so why don't you fuckers just give some fucking answers instead of the FAKE bullshit like "your too young to die" or "You have so much to live for" or "think about how your hurting your loved ones" in most cases what the hell makes you think we HAVE loved ones??? I'm so fucking sick of seeing those bullshit answers and i'm not even the person asking it on the fucking forms. If you can't answer the question then don't say anything at all! for me, as i'm sure it is for most, it is NOT for attention. It's to die PAINLESSLY. We don't give a fuck about how wonderful YOU think life is. The worst one i've seen yet is someone who has an illness and is in pain 24/7. no one could even help that poor soul end it. FUCK you all for not helping. FUCK YOU. go die. You are the reason for suicide. You are all stupid. I hate you. FUCK YOU ALL. You are NOT showing compassion you are being fucking HEARTLESS. (link)
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How would you expect someone to tell you a painless way to die? Whatever they tried, they're dead and can't live to speak about it obviously.
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I wanted to ask why is it that a guy that likes you all of a sudden startes to ignore you more like avoid.Its cuz this guy liked me and we were cool wit each other then it got weird.Can you give me advice. (link)
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Here is what I have learned based on many experiences: if a guy drops you/ignores you out of the blue, he's typically not interested. Don't waste your time sweetie, find someone who is willing to use their time to hang out with you and talk to you instead of wasting your time waiting on someone who won't. Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I are both in our early twenties, and I am looking for a great gift for him. The two of us have been together for almost two years, and this is the first year that I am getting anything for this specific day. Usually I get him really cool sports-related gifts, since that, Magic: The Gathering, and World of Warcraft are his main interests; for example for his birthday last July I purchased him Yankee tickets and we saw them play on Labor Day... he absolutely loved it.
I am extremely nervous right now since all I got J (my boyfriend) a white-and-pink teddy bear for Valentines Day, so far. The main reason is because I wanted to see my man's reaction when he saw that his girlfriend got him a very girly teddy bear, since I know that he has higher expectations from me... it is meant to be a gag gift. I was thinking of something sexy, like condoms – since he always says that he wants to use them and we never do... the two of us cannot afford a baby right now. But at the same time, I do not want for J to be like, “So first of all, she got me a girly teddy bear... now she buys me condoms... and what's this, a coupon book?” (I really like that idea for him, since as a young couple we are both highly sexual.)
Either way, I would really like to get my boyfriend a very hot and naughty gift. When I was looking at cosmopolitans list of sexy gifts, one of the suggestions was a panty-gram. I would really like to do something like that... but I keep thinking, women's underwear (even if there is a naughty message from me inside) and a pink and white teddy bear – what is he going to think? In my opinion, my J is very masculine and I just want to make him laugh... I do not want to make him feel insecure about my opinion of him.
Another issue is that I do not have much money, I am a college student and the only income that I have right now is from work study (and peer mentoring, which I will not have many hours for this semester). What are some suggestions for me to make up for the pink and white teddy bear gag gift?
While I sincerely do appreciate everyone's advice, I would really like it if a man between the ages of 21-30 responded to this question. (link)
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You could buy some sexy lingerie, give him a strip tease/ lap dance, anything that will tease him. Only thing you would have to pay for is lingerie but you can find something sexy online for cheap. He will love it!
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Okay so I have had a thing with this guy for about 4 months now and he just recently asked me out. We are an official couple and all now but Valentine's day is next week and I don't know what to get him!! I was thinking like a basket full of chocolates with a card? Also, I know he likes music so I can get him an itunes giftcard with it too? Idk what is too much or too little at this point?
He was gonna get me something for christmas but he said its "really nice" and wants to give it to me later in the future so it might be now! ahhh Idk what to do! Help :S (link)
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you could get him an itunes gift card like you mentioned or you could get concert tickets for a band he likes (depending on your price range). The concert would be a fun date for yall too!
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I just asked you about my stuck relationship, but my problem is I don't know how to break it down, when the time will be right or anything. I'm not good with break ups. I've always done it over the phone or via text. Kinda sad, but I can't face the reality of seeing someone's emotions nor reactions to it all. I just don't want to be stuck. How do you break up with someone who is in love with you but your feelings aren't mutual?? (link)
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There is no good way to break up with a person especially when they are into you more than you are into them. Avoid the cliche lines like "its not you its me" "we're better off as friends" etc. So not drag it out because that will make it harder. Just straight up tell him, I am not happy and I owe it to my son and myself to find what makes me happy. You are both going to feel so shitty but just remember that is a temporary feeling and it is the first step to leaving this unhappy relationship.
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So I'm not exactly sure where to begin. I'm a mother and 21 years old. I moved to a new state and met this guy I quickly fell in love with. Our relationship was everything I wanted it to be. Until I fou.d out I was pregnant. I dug deep to find out things I didn't know about my sons father. Our relationship was based on lies. My sons father left our relationship when he found out I was pregnant with our son. I tried to get him to be a family with me and our unborn son but he chose drugs over us, and a different girl. desperate for love I began seeking a new happiness to get him out of my mind. 3 months later I met this guy, whom was 26 at the time. He took me in and my unborn son. He chose to be there for me when I had absolutely nobody. He is the sweetest guy. And he actually has stuck by my side through it all. It seemed like we needed each other, I helped him move forward in life and he gave me the financial support and love I was seeking. The only thing is, after being together for over a year, my son being 10 months old and him being his father figure I have found myself truly unhappy. I've been in love before and this love isn't the same. I feel uncomfortable around him when it comes to kissing or anything farther. He has never romantically kissed me, its always been a peck. I am constantly picking up after him, reminding him to shower or brush his teeth and practically raising him. I'm not in love. I love him more like a friend. The problem is he has been there for me through so much, but I don't want my son to grow up seeing me unhappy. I'm constantly considering all sorts of "what ifs" and trying to find a way to be happy again. But I have no way out. I feel like he would love everything if I left....his family, home, so much more. I'm not good with break ups and he won't leave me. I've tried leaving before but he cried, begged me to stay so I did. I feel trapped now. I have a son so its hard to take risks because his life revolves around my decisions. I'm scared. To hurt anyone in my life and I don't know what the first step needs to be to being happy and finding love again...or just taking a step away from love. Please help me. I don't know where else to turn. (link)
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If there is anything i have learned about relationships, love, or life in general, it is to define your own happiness. Obviously you can not rely on this guy for your happiness. As amazing as he has treated your son and you, it is best to do what you will feel happy with in the end. This guy obviously cares a great deal but do him a favor and move out so he has the chance at a real relationship, too. It will not be easy but in the end both of you will realize it was done for a reason. It may seem selfish but I strongly encourage you to make yourself happy first. Your son will realize the change immediately and thank you in the end. He is going to see you smiling and remember that as he grows up instead of coming to you later and asking "mom why did you stay with someone you weren't happy with?". You are the relationship example your son will see throughout life so you owe it to him and yourself to find happiness and love again. It's so scary to move on but in the end, it will be worth it. I genuinely wish you the best. Please let me know what happens and if there is anything I can do to help.
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It's me and my girlfriend's 1 year anniversary coming up and I'm wanting to give her a booklet with 365 reasons for why I love her. I have the reasons written down on random bits of scrap paper and I was wondering if anyone knew where I could find a booklet made for this purpose? A blank booklet made for '365 reasons I love about you' or something like that? I just can't find one! Our anniversary is on the 21st (I know I know end of the world and all that) so a quick response would be amazing! Thank you! (link)
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that is the cutest idea, shes gonna love that!
check out this site, you create your own book and upload everything online and then they print it/bind it for you. You can design it how you want to. The website is blurb.com
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My boyfriend and I are 18 years old and we've been together for 2 years. I'm pretty certain we're in love.
Here's the problem: is it bad that I get jealous over the fact he masturbates to porn?
I know it's normal; I just can't help it. I don't masturbate (I just don't feel the need to) so the fact he looks at other girls bothers me sometimes. We have had huge arguments and disagreements over this in the past, initiated by me of course, where he has tried to constantly reassure me that every time he watches those videos, he thinks of him and I doing what they're doing.
I know he's attracted to me, I know he loves me, and we're generally doing very well.
He has been masturbating to porn during our whole relationship together. Before I found out how often (and got VERY upset), he masturbated once a day. I found out over a year into our relationship. I was (and still am) very hurt that he kept it a secret from me for that long.
I'm currently away at college during the week and I come home on weekends. I told him I was showering so I'll be right back in a text and he responded playfully saying, "Oh, touch yourself to me. ;)"
I got pretty mad at that point. I said, "Why should I touch myself to YOU, when you don't touch yourself to ME?"
He had nothing to say except "oh."
I hate feeling less than good enough. His "imagination isn't creative enough" so that's why he watches porn. He's been doing it for YEARS, that it's become a habit. We have made videos together in the past to fix this jealousy, but he ruined his phone with the memory card in it and we haven't had a chance to make anything since. (It's hard because we're rarely alone when we're together long enough to do so.)
It's not fair that "he's just a guy" is an excuse. It's not fair that boys can just get away with it and watch all the trashy, unrealistic porn that they want. I don't want him looking at someone else.
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you should watch it with him, maybe change your opinion a little bit on it. i am all for a good porn scene if it spices things up a little bit. So instead of complaining about it, learn to use it to your advantage.
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I'm 19 and a female. ok so every friday nights my best friend wants to hang out with me she's a girl too. And I have a boyfriend as well and they don't get along at all for a lot of reasons so they don't talk.
It seems like every friday they always plan to hang out with me the same time and it really sucks because I can't choose who I want to be with. Sometimes I hang out with them both or just one of them on fridays. It becomes a big disaster in the past because they want to hang out with me. Sometimes I hang with my best friend and I tell my boyfriend and he gets mad because he wanted to be with me but then he goes and does his own thing. If I tell my best friend I'm with my boyfriend she will get mad and do her own thing.
It's just really stressful because sometimes I lie to them and hang out with my boyfriend for a couple hours then go hang out with my best friend. And sometimes it's the other way around. I try to treat them the same. I just don't know what to do anymore. Because they always want to hang out with me fridays. I need help on what to do. Because there's been a lot of arguments with my best friend and boyfriend whenever they want to hang with me and I have to say no I'm hanging out with (best/ or boyfriend). I just want them to be happy. I hate turning them down. Fridays are so dramatic for me please help! (link)
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I am just going to be blunt here. Take it from someone who has been chosen second to a boy, by her best friend. Do not be a shitty friend. Boys will come and go, a friendship (if it is a real one) will last. Do not let a boy ruin your friendship. Stop lying to your friend. Switch off Friday's. Hang out one weekend with your friend, and the next with the boyfriend. I promise in the end, your friend will be there for you always.
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I like phones that slide sideways with a full horizontal keyboard. Unlimited EVERYTHING, nothing fancy looking, just a messaging phone. It can't be ugly though! I like blue phones.
What would be the best plan for me if I want something that is less than $100/month and companies that have messaging phones.
MAYBE: Touchscreen with a keyboard, can take pictures & videos with it, and the internet looks good when you go on it.
Thank you to everyone who answers! (link)
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I have found the best deal to be with t-mobile through wal-mart. Wal-Mart has a plan along with t-mobile that my brother and I are currently on where we pay $70 a month for the two of us ($45 for a single person). We get unlimited talk/minutes and unlimited text messaging. There is internet but you have to but these webpack cards which vary from $5-$25 depending how many MB of internet you want to use. So over all you would pay around $45-$60(if you want webpacks) a month. Not a bad deal! As for the phones, they want you to use theirs but if you go into he store and just buy the sim card instead of the phone you can use whichever t-mobile phone you like. We are using the iphone with our plan.
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i NEED to get rid of a cold sore FAST! i have one day so please answer this asap! i have an interview that it needs to be gone for. i don't have time to go to the doctor and get "speacial cold sore cream" i tried abreva for like a week but it didn't work. i think it showed up because i was stressed. i i tried campho-phenique, aftershave, and now neosporin. any advice? im 14 if that's in any case important? haha thanks! (link)
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I have been getting cold sores/ fever blisters since I was 2 or 3 years old- I am now 20 and have tried tonnnns of treatments and home remedies to get rid of those awful things. If you have a few bucks, stop by cvs or wallgreens or rite aid and pick up some vitamins called Lysine. Take at least 4 of those every day this will also help prevent them in the future. This treatment sounds kinda gross but it truly helps, take a cotton ball and pour some nail polish remover on it and then press it agaisnt the cold sore. It's going to sting and burn a little but it dries up the cold sore quickly. For an over night remedy, apply toothpaste on it before you go to sleep. Hope this helped!
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Where are good places to meet nice wholesome friendly guys besides school..cuz all the guys at my school like the sluts (link)
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I'm not trying to be the bearer of bad news but honestly, guys like sluts no matter where you meet them. They are just attracted to them because they flaunt themselves and what not. Just remember, you can't turn a ho into a house wife ha. But there are the select group of guys that actually like a girl for her emotional standings rather then physical attributions. I wish you luck girl.
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M/18 is there any other ways or techniques i can use while masterbating without having to buy a fleshlight or anything? (link)
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get a girl to do it for you
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I'm a 13 year old girl and I have a secret e-mail address I keep from my parents. I secretly posted an anonymous online ad on a SAFE website and got a reply. The ad was advertising that I would play piano for weddings. The reply (sent to my secret e-mail address since it was linked to the ad) asked me to play for them, and I would really like to. I want to ask my parents for permission but they would ask how I got the reply, etc. and I need to keep the e-mail address secret.
Please help soon- I will need to play this Sunday!
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forward the e-mail to your account that your parents know about.
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Why do guys always seem to cheat? I just don't understand it. You give them everything they could possibly want and then you find them flirting with other women and junk. What am I doing wrong? It's like nobody can be faithful anymore (link)
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Ever read "He's Just Not That Into You"? I suggest you read it. It gives great insight as to why men cheat.
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Hi,
I am a 17f. Theres this guy I met and have known for several months. He is 18 and he is the absolute sweetest guy ever, which is why I like him. We have hung out a few nights and cuddled a little. The problem is, I know he has another girl that he feels strongly for. He told me about her and hes told me he loves me, but its not the same love that he has for this other girl. Then he tells me later that he just loves me. He also said he wants to kiss me to see if theres 'a spark', I didnt think that would be right so I didnt let him. I dont want to get closer to him, expecially knowing he has another girl. Everyone thinks we are dating and I keep telling them NO WE ARE NOT. I think I really like him, Im just unsure. I think hes unsure as well. He makes me feel like I have never felt before, but I can't help but think that he will end up ditching me or I might find someone better.. you know? I told him we should just be friends..deep inside I want it to be more;I am sure he does too but..yeah. I have never dated before, cuz all the other guys I know are losers and just want sex. I want it to be right. I am not the kind of girl that dates just anybody for the hell of it. Please tell me what you think, Just be friends or.. ? (link)
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i'm going to be blunt. it's not worth it. why do people date? to find the one they're going to spend the rest of their lives with. Chances are, you two aren't getting married. He is not unsure, he has made his feelings clear to you that he loves the other girl. Stick with just being friends. You may really like him but you're 17. i promise you will have plenty more guys. this is just one of many. good luck.
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Hey!
Well, this guy I like he's awesome, cute, funny, caring and i think he could be the one. He also likes me. He makes me feel like.. I'm perfect,like an angel. I finally feel better about myself now that i met him.(I had a lot of guy trouble) Now i feel like he's the one. Right now we are like.."friends with benefits", i asked him out and he said "Can't we just stay best friends". Than after that that he said i don't know. I told him that he can think about it, and i mentioned we can be friends wit benefits..we are pratically already are. ha ha. He said he really wants me, but i don't understand why he doesn't want to date me? I think it's because some jealous girls started, a rumor about him and his last girl friend about him dating someone on My space. He wasn't that was before we even met. He was really hurt. :/ Now..that he met maybe he's to scared to date me because that rumor might seem true. This guys the sweetest guy i have ever met. Do you think we can eventually become more than friends with benfits?
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I recently read that book "he's just not that into you" because i've been in the same situation as you a few times and wanted a guy's point of view. there is a part in the book where it says if a guy wants to be with you, he will do what it takes to make that happen. however, there is also a part in the book saying that a guy would rather do something torturous to himself then tell a girl that he really isn't that into her. he may say the things you wanna hear but its because of the benefits part. i wish this stuff weren't true cause believe me girl ive fallen hard for guys like this. best thing to do is drop him, or at least the benefits part.
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my boyfriend is expelled from school. Hes now on probation too. Hes still smoking pot and i cant get him to stop. I sound hypocritical because i do it too but im not kicked out of school and in a bunch of shit. How can i convince him to stop while hes on probation? Hes ALWAYS around it and i cant do anything about that because he lives with people who do it and are okay with it. (link)
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I have been in your boat several times. You won't get them to stop. and when they say they do, they don't. Then that brings in a whole bunch of problems because he will start lying to you and going behind your back...
He can still pass his drug tests for probation though. My 2 guy friends are on probation and smoke at least 4 or 5 times a week and have no problem passing. they just drink lots of water a few days before to clean out their systems. hasn't failed.. yet. but good luck to him
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