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Can friends with benefits become something more?
Hey!
Well, this guy I like he's awesome, cute, funny, caring and i think he could be the one. He also likes me. He makes me feel like.. I'm perfect,like an angel. I finally feel better about myself now that i met him.(I had a lot of guy trouble) Now i feel like he's the one. Right now we are like.."friends with benefits", i asked him out and he said "Can't we just stay best friends". Than after that that he said i don't know. I told him that he can think about it, and i mentioned we can be friends wit benefits..we are pratically already are. ha ha. He said he really wants me, but i don't understand why he doesn't want to date me? I think it's because some jealous girls started, a rumor about him and his last girl friend about him dating someone on My space. He wasn't that was before we even met. He was really hurt. :/ Now..that he met maybe he's to scared to date me because that rumor might seem true. This guys the sweetest guy i have ever met. Do you think we can eventually become more than friends with benfits?
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I doubt it will go the way you want it to, and this set up you have is not good for your mental or emotional health. you're going to get your heart broken. he's most likely into the sex, nothing else. if he really wanted you as a PERSON or a GF than he would take you as that, not caring about anyone else or what they may say or think.
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Chailey
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I doubt it.
Friends with benefits doesn't work either, and you're an example.
You cannot have sex with someone without becoming attached to them emotionally. He isn't into you, and pressuring him to become more and giving him an ultimatum will make things awkward.
I would stop this whole situation because it's getting out of hand.
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I recently read that book "he's just not that into you" because i've been in the same situation as you a few times and wanted a guy's point of view. there is a part in the book where it says if a guy wants to be with you, he will do what it takes to make that happen. however, there is also a part in the book saying that a guy would rather do something torturous to himself then tell a girl that he really isn't that into her. he may say the things you wanna hear but its because of the benefits part. i wish this stuff weren't true cause believe me girl ive fallen hard for guys like this. best thing to do is drop him, or at least the benefits part.
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Of course you can! And probably will. Maybe you should try asking him that same question. Tell him how much you like him and care about him, tell him you respect that he isn't ready to date you, let him know you understand that he's worried. But just ask him if he's ever going to be willing to try to be more than just friends with benefits with you. This should help some. Remember just take things slow, he'll eventually realize and come to his senses.
Hope this helps
-Victoradvice
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If you start out being friends with benefits, that is likely all you will ever be. Guys will rarely turn down free sex, even if they don't want to date the girl.
My advice is if he doesn't want to be your boyfriend, do not do the benefits. He'll be using you & you him. Good way to end a friendship.
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