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Q: Me and my boyfriend had anal sex and it slipped into my vagina. Can u get an infection from it?

if there was poop on his dick, yes

Q: are vaginas supposed to look wrinkly ?

hahaha, no

Q: its my husbands and i anniversary but i think ima get my period how do i avoid getting my period?

get pregnant?

Q: does size really matter

if they know how to use it then no! [;

Q: I want to have a baby with my wife...
What do I do, I'm a virgin and I'm scared!

if you don't know the answer to this, DEFINITELY DO NOT REPRODUCE! thanks.

Q: Should i masturbate since my boyfriend is at work and im bored?

go for it!
nothing wrong with that, he probably does the same when your not there.

Q: My boyfriend and I had an agreement that he would be allowed to put it in my butt if I was allowed to insert a toy into his... Well, he held up his end of the bargain... AND LIKED IT.

Is he gay?

ha, not necessarily theres some weird spot in a guys ass that if touched is like touching a girls clitoris. If it turns into a regular thing, if it was my boyfriend.. i would start to question it as well.

Q: What is the best and fastest way to get pregnant

find a dick?

Q: 15/f

he's 18 in a month, i just turned 15. i went to his house and we were fooling around. he never forced anything on me so when i suddenly yelled no and wait and he did it anyway i...well it hurt...and then i went numb. afterwards i couldn't walk and my voice was shaking and my entire body trembling. i tried getting away but somehow my legs gave out. then he realized what he did and apologized over and over again. i said it was ok....he wants to meet next saturday. after he did it my entire body was trembling and i was breathing so hard i couldn't cry. i was just.....idk. i know it was my fault for not being more assertive. but i didn't expect him to. he knew i didn't want to and apologized afterwards saying he was sorry for forcing me. it was all my fucking fault and i don't know what to do now. we were safe. but he wants to meet this saturday and i know nothing good can come of it and he'll just do it again. it's fucked up, but even though i feel traumatized...i'm tempted to go back. what's wrong with me? i know i don't want it so why is my body telling me to? i'm not a masochist. what's wrong with me? i should be weary of my abuser yet i'm drawn to go back. am i just fucked up? help me please. i don't know what to do.

okay, well i don't think this is a rape situation at all.. i mean you do have the right to say no.. but you really should have said it so HE knew it not quietly. People can't read minds there NOT EDWARD CULLEN. If you felt you weren't ready.. try shutting your legs. I don't think you have the right to call this rape.. it was just not your time to have sex.. you weren't ready and it happened so of course your going to freak out BUT IT WAS NOT RAPE. Try talking with friends or a councilor or something but if you go around saying you were raped.. your only going to get this guy in trouble.. for something he didn't do.. try reversing the situation.. if you want to be with him then you know just tell him you don't think you were ready for sex and you just want to take it slow and just hang out, so you had a bad first experience maybe his penis was to big for you or something maybe that's why you went numb.

just try talking to other people about there first sex expiernce for everyone, like you it goes bad.

goodluckk

Q: 18/f
so my boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months. Our relationship has been really great and I love him so much.... But I seem to have lost interest. I never feel like having sex anymore and find my self feeling jealous of single people. What's wrong with me, or is it just something I'll get over.

sounds like, you still love him but you either need a break, or maybe you should stay single and try and keep him as a close friend.

Q: i've been with my current boyfriend for 8 months. i love him, there's no doubt in that.

my ex boyfriend, i was with him for a short while, but he was my first serious boyfriend. i got over him last year. but recently, we've become better friends. and because of that, i've been having dreams about him and i, alone, kissing, etc.

and i think that's because last year when we broke up, he never gave me complete reason why. he just shut the door on me. we didn't talk for 8 months last year.

in my dreams, i'm just kissing him, showing him who i am, i'm the same girl he fell for. but i'm never in a relationship with him in my dreams or when i think about it.

could this be because i needed closure?

yes it could be i actually had the same problem only we dated for a year and a half and randomly said it wasnt working and then i was dating a guy for 8 months and i to actually started dreaming about the other guy and i actually ended up getting back with him and im still with him for almost another year lol. but i felt every day that i need closure to why he broke up with me, i felt like it wasn't far and everything. so maybe you should ask him since your talking just casually be like so what ever happened with us? tell him your just wondering because he wasn't clear trust me you will feel so much better if he tells you.

Q: i've always wondered if getting a brazillian wax and like bikini waxes and stuff was weird? Haha, like they're all up in your business and what if you have discharge and stuff, is it me or does anyone find that getting these types of waxes is a bit personal? lol

i do, i wanted to try it but then i thought about it more and i changed my mind mostly because it was a guy doing it and i thought he would be staring at me to much lol, but yes i think its weird to!

Q: Okay, I'm pregnant so I can't get a real job right now, and plus I'm only 15. But I really need some money. I've tried cashcrate, and all those pay for survey things, and same with helium with writing, but it's all so tedious, and requires no skill.
I can't sell things on ebay or etsy, and all of the people I've babysat have grown up :(
So is there anything that I can do for money, without having to go put up posters and stuff like that. Like a place on the computer that you can actually have skill to do, or something like that?

preferrably online but I could probably go somewhere and work for a little bit, but my schedule is all messed up so it's harder to work away from home.

I know I sound picky but I've been through so many scams, and things where all I do is click a bunch of ads for .25

Thank you

just because your pregnant doesnt mean you cant get a job.. try places like walmart or Kmart or check small local shops for any work at all even if its sweeping my friend who was 16 and pregnant got a job at a kmart and before that she worked at Macdonald's im not sure were you live but you might have to be 16 to do those things otherwise your stuck with the little jobs that you were doing you could try asking family members or anyone you know to babysit,pet sit or house keeping like cleaning.. i dont know how far along you are but if your not to far you can do cleaning like vacuming, making beds, dishes, like a house keeper, i did that when i was 14 and it worked i did make flyers but most of the stuff came from my mom spreading the word.

goodluck, sorry if i wasnt helpful

Q: I am getting a new puppy in aprox. 6 weeks. Which will seam like forever to me. But in the mean time I am trying to get everything ready for her! FOr example we are building out own dog house, and painting it and everything. Also I want to learn how to teach her tricks like sit and roll over and jump, and beg, those sorts of things!

How do you teach a dog all the manner type behaviors like sit, come here, beg, etc. Do you know any tips or websites!

Also do you have any ideas on how to teach a dog to play sports like catch, frisby and my favorite soccer?

Teach a dog to sit:

first buy a treat the dog likes, probably milkbones and brake them in a few pieces, get the puppy ones.

next make sure the dog is aware you have the treat, say the command "Sit" firmly don't scare the dog though and after you say sit, push the dogs behind down gently into the sit position and give him one of the pieces of treat ( make sure there small) keep repeating this over and over again and eventually they will get it, ive trained countless dogs to sit with this. You can use this technique with the rest of the commands like laydown give me your paw ext..

the sports thing, start off witch just fetch and use the technique every time the dog brings it back give them a treat or try and take the ball from them and then give them a treat, and repeate this and eventually the dog will want to let go of the ball

Q: Around a year ago, I took a class called the JROTC. basically in that class we dont do nothing , our class just chill and talk for the rest or the period. And i been noticing that a boy liked me in that class named Felix. But i didnt wanted to go out with him at the time because he was a freshmen and i was a sophmore. So i just ignored him and stuff.One day in class for some reason the teacher started switching seats and i end up sitting next to Felix. Felix was soo sweet and nice to me i could help it i started liking him. So when he both got a little bit close to each other the class was already saying that we were going out and we weren't we was just talking. So on Valentines Day, Felix told me that he really loved me and that he promised me that we would get married and i was soo shocked because i also had the same feelings as he did. So we started hold hands in the hallway and he would always kiss me everytime he took me to class.It was really sweet.He would give me butterflies everytime i see him. The next day, something bad happend to Felix, my principle and the secerity guard found weed in Felix's pockets and they locked him up fot 4 weeks. When i found this out i was shocked. The whole time tha t he was locked up people kept on going up to me saying different stories about what happened that day. What really happened was that his cousin told Felix to hold hold the bag of weed until lunch time and Felix refused by his cousin told him again to hold it for him until lunch starts na d just took it and put it in his pockets. As Felix was walking to the bathroom, Im guessing that the secerity guard smelled the weed that in his pocket and thought that, that was his and it wasnt. But anyways when Felix got out of Juvie, he couldnt go back to school because of problem that happen so his mom though that Felix should go to New York to live. When Felix told me that i was crushed. I kept on asking him " how is our relationship is going to work if your all the way in new york and im in massachusetts.?" He just told me that he still going to keep that promise that he told me about us getting marry and kids together. We started talking hours in the phone everydaym when he left. Ever since he left, i wanted to remain single until Felix comes back and that was next year, over the summer. Now Felix and I are in our final years of high school( Seniors ) and we still be talking. Basically we been talking for 2 years and we havent gone out yet. We also talk alot thru myspace and as i see his comment... THERE ALL GIRLS! Calling him cutie and babez and commenting his pics calling him sexy and stuff. Im just thinking he just playing on me or im i going overboard.? I want to ask about that but i dont want him to think that im jealous or something. What should i do?

okay, first you need to ask felix what he wants to do, if he wants to be friends, or take it farther.. it sounds like you want to make it work, but the distance is a problem you need to decide if its to much of a problem and go from there, you were only a sophomore when he told you he wanted to marry you and have kids? chances are you were only 15 or 16.. you have your WHOLE life ahead of you, you don't have to settle on this one guy in my opinion you should date around your senior year and find out if felix really is the guy for you, and he should do the same.. if he hasn't already and if you decided that he is the one for you then tell him that, tell him you want to be with him in a relationship. If you guys arn't in a relationship.. and hes talking to other girls its hard because you can't really say anything you can tell him that it upsets you.. but you can't really tell him to stop. its up to you do.. just do what ever your heart is telling you to do, don't let someone else make this decision for you guys.

Q: i'm 18 years old and i'm a virgin. i've been seeing this guy for a while and we have done everything except sex. i have done everything except sex with other guys before too, but now i want to actually go further. the only thing is that i'm sure sure if he knows im a virgin or not and i think that is something he should know. i just don't know how to bring up that topic without it being awkward. do you have any ideas of how to bring it up to him? i don't want to just blurt it out ya know? thanks!

if you have done everything but sex with this guy you should feel comfortable with just saying it.. just casually be like i have a random question, are you a virgin? and if he says no just be like oh, i am.. or something like that hes going to like the fact that your a virgin.. trust me guys are turned on by that kind of thing.. he'll like it. dont be embarrassed or anything.. like i said hes going to like it. and if you can't say that to him then your not ready to have sex with him, sorry if this wasn't what you wanted to hear, but its the truth.

Q: i'm thinking about majoring in physical therapy..i jobshadowed a physical therapist for people and dogs and i really liked what she did. however im absolutely in LOVE with puppies so i want to work with them, not so much dogs though, just puppies...is there any career i can do that works with only puppies and humans? and whats it calledd? thanks :)

i know someone who takes puppies mostly german shepherds and keeps them until they are about a year old and trains them basic commands like sit, stay, heel.. and then they get taken to the police dog academe to learn the harder things and eventually became some sort of police dog. You could also do that for, blind, deaf seeing dogs train them until there about a year old and then they get special training to become someones ears or eyes. thats popular wear i live.. you can do something like that or maybe work at a pet shop? usually they handle puppies.

hope i helped!

Q: I am pretty early in my pregnancy still, I guess, but was thinking I should probably start buying things for the baby. I just don't know where to start! What do I buy first for the baby? It's, of course, my first and we aren't going to find out it's gender until the baby is born :D

Should I get newborn clothes or diapers or a crib or should I wait until it's closer to my delivery date? Should I buy the expensive, necessary things right now? I just want to be prepared, that's all.

well your going to get things at your baby shower if your having one, most likely a lot of clothing if your going to have a baby shower you should do what my friend did, in your invitations say that whoever brings diapers will get there name put in a drawing for (any store, pizza place, ice cream place ext....) and just buy a small gift certificate for somewhere its worth it my friend is still using only the diapers she got from the baby shower and her baby boy is 5 months old almost 6.

i would wait to buy the expensive things, who knows your mother or someone might buy you a stroller or something, so you don't want to have doubles i would wait until like 6 months in or even 7 to start buying the crib and stuff. i would start off small with clothes and maybe stuff to decorate the room like if theres a theme stuff to go along with it.. do whatever you want though

Q: there is this boy that i really like at my schooland he knows i like him due to my friends telling him but i dont really mind tbh it was just a crush at first but now i dont just fancy him i love him but i am scared to tell him how i feel incase he just laughes at me and when i speek to him on msn he never replys what should i do ??

13/f

don't just come out and say I LOVE YOU, your going to come off as obsessive.. you need to give him space tell him YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM, MORE THAN A FRIEND. then.. as hard as it is leave it alone stop talking to him for a few days let him take it all in.. this is something YOU need to tell him not your friends. Give him room and let him make his mind up what he wants, you said he doesn't replay to you? he might already think your obsessive so you know just don't talk to him for a couple days.

Then after a few days try talking to him and ask what he thinks about you having stronger feelings for him. If he says i only see you as a friend you NEED to except that. leave him alone for awhile and then try talking to him again as a friend, not as a lover.

Chances are you think your in love but in fact, when you get a little older your not going to even remember this guy, it happens to all of us including me i remember when i always said i loved this guy when i was 13 and i look back now and just laugh because you really will find out what love really is. there are plenty of guys out there if this one doesn't like you back so don't stress it! you'll find someone sooner than you probably think.

good luck! (sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear)

Q: ok so. back in october me and my friend charlie were walkin back from ffa (future farmers of america) and we were joking around and we said i had a penis pump in my truck. it's not true like i said we were "joking" and now gay people like to spread it around school. ruining my life. and people keep sayin stuff about it. and it's not true. i' ignored it for a long time. but now it's getting on my nerves. what do i do???

one up them, pretend like it doesn't bother once people see you don't care they will just stop, its a stupid thing to stat drama over, tell the other people to grow up and it was a joke and they obviously need to get a life if thats what there spreading rumors about. so just act like it doesn't bother you, keep ignoring it and then just tell them off if it continues thats what i would do