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i'm the worst girlfriend ever.
i've been with my current boyfriend for 8 months. i love him, there's no doubt in that.
my ex boyfriend, i was with him for a short while, but he was my first serious boyfriend. i got over him last year. but recently, we've become better friends. and because of that, i've been having dreams about him and i, alone, kissing, etc.
and i think that's because last year when we broke up, he never gave me complete reason why. he just shut the door on me. we didn't talk for 8 months last year.
in my dreams, i'm just kissing him, showing him who i am, i'm the same girl he fell for. but i'm never in a relationship with him in my dreams or when i think about it.
could this be because i needed closure?
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This could be anything from you needing closure to a simple fantasy. There is nothing wrong with you dreaming about him as long as you don't make that dream a reality. It seems like you want closure whether its a dream or not and since you are friends I think you should ask him the reason. You can be light about the situation that way he doesn't feel he is being put on the spot. As long as you aren't thinking about cheating on your boyfriend and the only time you think about him is when your dreaming than it's not a serious issue. Just try to think good thoughts about your boy before you sleep and hopefully your boyfriend will be the one you kiss in your dreams.
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You may have some unresolved feelings for your ex. If you have a boyfriend than you should be happy with him and not thinking about your ex...As we dream about things not only what we want but what we think about. If you are dreaming of being passionate with your exboyfriend then clearly you have not fully forgotten about him yet alone got over him. A year is a long time to not be with someone, 8 months is a long time to be with someone. Your exboyfriend was the past, However concidering he was your first serious boyfriend then you will always have the memories but it is not good to dwell on those memories if you are with someone eles. You may acknowledge the fact that you are no longer with your ex but the question is are you excepting it?
Realize what you have now, If it is a wonderful thing then let it continue to be wonderful by apprechiating the fact that you two are together and forget about the ex boyfriend.
ADDED ON: By having contact with your ex boyfriend you are allowing yourself to think about him and you prolong the pain. Honestly, In most cases having contact with an ex only puts your current relationship in jeopardy.
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yes it could be i actually had the same problem only we dated for a year and a half and randomly said it wasnt working and then i was dating a guy for 8 months and i to actually started dreaming about the other guy and i actually ended up getting back with him and im still with him for almost another year lol. but i felt every day that i need closure to why he broke up with me, i felt like it wasn't far and everything. so maybe you should ask him since your talking just casually be like so what ever happened with us? tell him your just wondering because he wasn't clear trust me you will feel so much better if he tells you.
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