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i really like him <3
there is this boy that i really like at my schooland he knows i like him due to my friends telling him but i dont really mind tbh it was just a crush at first but now i dont just fancy him i love him but i am scared to tell him how i feel incase he just laughes at me and when i speek to him on msn he never replys what should i do ??
13/f
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Maybe before you confess your feelings to him, you should start hanging out and talking to him a little bit more. If he doesnt IM you back then maybe he doesnt feel like he knows you enough to talk to yor, or there could be a lot of other reasons.
Start talkin to him, maybe hang out a few times, and then ask him how he feels about you. Then if he likes you, you can take it from there.
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I am going to tell you a couple things you might not want to hear, but the truth is the truth, there's no two ways about it.
First, you don't love him, you just can't stop thinking about him. What does he dream about? What issues are important to him? What is the name of his favorite uncle? How does he get along with his parents? If you can anwer all of these questions than I have underestimated you, but if you can't, you just really like him alot.
You had a crush on him and then your friends told him and all of a sudden your feelings got stronger. That's because we always want what we can't have. Once you knew that he knew that you liked him and he didn't give you the response you were hoping for you started to put him up on this pedistal.
Here's the good news-he doesn't respond to your MSN. You may think that's bad news, but his lack of response means he's not a player.
I don't think he will laugh at you if you tell him you like him, but he might get uncomfortable.
Obviously, the cyber approach isn't his style, and neither is the old send your friend to let him know you like him trick.
It sounds like this boy isn't really interested, but you already know that. So telling him your interested isn't going to accomplish anything. He knows your interested. Telling him you love him is only going to freak him out.
The best thing for you to do is to get the whole "love" thing out of your head and start off with friendship. Get to know the answers to those questions I asked you earlier. Who knows what the future holds, but you are never going to have a successful relationship with any boy until you get to know him first.
Remember, boys around your age are so different from girls. They are so much less mature, so don't come on strong. The best thing you could do to get close to him is find out something the two of you have in common, and then have an intelligent conversation about it. The quickest way to get him thinking about you is to let him see that you are cool to talk to, and smart too.
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don't just come out and say I LOVE YOU, your going to come off as obsessive.. you need to give him space tell him YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM, MORE THAN A FRIEND. then.. as hard as it is leave it alone stop talking to him for a few days let him take it all in.. this is something YOU need to tell him not your friends. Give him room and let him make his mind up what he wants, you said he doesn't replay to you? he might already think your obsessive so you know just don't talk to him for a couple days.
Then after a few days try talking to him and ask what he thinks about you having stronger feelings for him. If he says i only see you as a friend you NEED to except that. leave him alone for awhile and then try talking to him again as a friend, not as a lover.
Chances are you think your in love but in fact, when you get a little older your not going to even remember this guy, it happens to all of us including me i remember when i always said i loved this guy when i was 13 and i look back now and just laugh because you really will find out what love really is. there are plenty of guys out there if this one doesn't like you back so don't stress it! you'll find someone sooner than you probably think.
good luck! (sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear)
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