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ok so me and Girl#1 have been best friends since 4th grade and we were fine till I me and girl#2 me and girl#2 got really close and I guess girl#1 got jealous or something so in 7th grade girl#1 started saying things about girl#2 like 'why do you like girl#2' girl#2 is so weird' why are you friends with girl#2' and much more then I said 'I don't care if girl#2 is weird she's my friend' then a couple of months later girl #1 stopped talking to me then my English teacher put me in a group which included two of my friends girl#1 and her friend so as I'm doing my work I see girl#1 writing stuff in a sticky note/ post-it and her friend said 'but I don't know who you're talking bout' then girl#1 wrote something down and her friend looked at me. so my question is why would she tell everybody our business but when someone comes up and ask me 'Why don't you talk to girl#1 anymore' I say 'we just drifted apart because we only have one class together' I didn't lie we really do only have one class together so why would she do that ??
When girl # 1 says "girl # 2 is weird" she is putting you in an impossible position; if you defend girl # 2, girl # 1 gets an attitude, but if you don't defend girl # 2, girl # 1 knows people can talk shit about your friends and you'll allow it...it's a lose/lose situation for you. Girl # 1 is being jealous and insecure, and you should not feed into it. If she talks negatively about girl # 2, you should defend Girl # 2 and say "and if girl # 2 said bad things about you I would tell her the same thing." This way girl # 1 knows you are a worthwhile friend, no matter what. You are incorrect, however, in being upset over girl # 1's explanation to her friend. You cannot dictate or determine how she defines your relationship, or how she explains it to others. Maybe she is embarrassed and felt the need to over-explain, or maybe she planned the whole thing carefully, hoping you would see her explanation...never underestimate the manipulations of teenage girls; they are pretty ruthless and cunning planners. The only answer for you is to stick up for girl # 2 just as girl # 1 would want/expect you to if someone was talking trash about her
ok lets just keep it brief... I am 18 and my brother is 19/20. whenever we are around eachother it gets akward, i get wet and i have seen him have an errection over me. :/ he has tried foreplay with me but i refused. we both want sex with eachother really bad,what should I do???
You may not want to hear this, but if your brother is having sexual thoughts toward you, it is not you he wants, but the taboo act of having sex with his sister. He is 19/20...erections just kind of happen all the time, and if he is looking for sex in the household, chances are he is having a difficult time finding it out of the household...you taking care of his "need" will only hinder him from having a healthy relationship in the future. Also, you should consider that if he does have a relationship in the future, he may feel the need to reveal his history. Do not be certain he would definitely never tell a soul...chances are he will, to at least one other person. You should ask yourself why you are having these taboo sexual urges...do you feel abandoned by a lover and are now turning toward a man you know will always be around? Are you rebelling against something? Are you feeling depressed and seeking to self-sabotage? Has something sad happened to your brother, and now you have misguided urges to comfort him? Sexual games between siblings is not uncommon, though it usually ends around puberty. It is probably more common than not that siblings fantasize or at least consider sex with one another, but usually that is where it ends. It is fine to daydream and fantasize, but to bring it from fantasy to reality will be disastrous. Consider the long run, and not just a moment of instant gratification. You should NOT encourage your brother in any way.
Hi im 15 and mostly talk to a group of 3 girls every night on facebook..our conversations are quite short lived becus it will usually be 'wat u doing?' then they ask me and i might ask them something about school..im always the one who keeps the conversations going but am also boring them with the same questions! Does anyone have any advice on conversation.i also really like one of them but i think i am boring her is there any way of flirting without telling her how i feel until i think she feels the same:) all help appreciated
The best way to impress anyone is to let them know you are listening to them. So, if one of the girls once mentioned a sick aunt, ask, "hey, how is your aunt doing?" Also, people don't tend to open up any more than the individual they are dealing with; meaning if you want to learn someone's opinion, you have to give yours first. There are so many interesting things around the world...did you know Martin Luther King Jr.'s first name was actually Michael, but he changed it to Martin? You need to find something that's important to you...say the prevention of cruelty to animals (15 year old girls love that), and learn enough about it to have an intelligent conversation. And don't forget all important rule # 1: Be yourself!
My daughter thinks I expect her to be perfect in everything. I don't mean to convey this message. I just want her to do her best and maybe this is seen as wanting her to be perfect. Everytime I try to help her with something or give her advice, I receive a big backlash from her. Again, she tells me I am not her coach or I want her to be perfect. I am just trying to be a helpful mom. Any suggestions?
You need to wait until your daughter asks for advice before you give it. There are things you will not allow, that is non-negotiable. With anything else, all you can do is lead by example. Unsolicited advice sounds a lot like criticism because it is criticism. Give it time, one day, your daughter will totally understand, but for now, try to find three compliments for every criticism, if you must offer a commentary.
hello am from Jamaica,i have been married for 7years and icant get along with my husband i thought he was a caring person but he is so selfish i had a successful business going beore i met him and all he did was borrow my money and at the end o the month he didnt make enough to pay me back cause hes into sales,now i lost my busines and i feel such resenment towards him he never wants to admit hes the reason i lost my business now we r stil in a rented house and can hardley pay the bills and i have to go to work and do everything aat home even if hes home all day he only talk about what he want to do to improve his life but nothing gets done each time i tried to talk with him about my insecurities it turnes out in a big argument cause hes saying that he is the best man i ever had i cant go on like this anymore i have lost even my selfesteem and i have two sons to take care of please help me i dont see any future with this man as he wont do anything to improve our way of living.
One thing is for sure...you can find happiness with a man who makes you happy...whether your husband or someone else. First, you must find a way to let go of the resentment you have towards your husband, because a marriage will not work with it. You are probably resentful because he has never given you a real apology. The root problem is what you must work on, which is...you feel your husband thinks you should be grateful to be his wife, and he acts as if that which is important to you is insignificant.
Now consider this...
Is your husband an outright liar and dishonest person?
If the answer to this question is "yes," you must prepare that this marriage will not last forever. This doesn't mean you need to jump out of the house right now....but prepare for your future.
If the answer is "no," write your feelings down. Edit what you have written until you would be comfortable reading it in to your husband and another person who knows you both. Give the paper to your husband. Try not to say anything you will want to take back.
Hi,
I'm very poor. I use to have a car. Now I have no vehicle. I live in a house that I don't want to be in. I have food and internet so I guess it's not too bad. However, I suffered a lot throughout my years from being poor. I missed opportunities. I could easily get a job but I have no transportation. I was enrolled into college twice but I couldn't make the first payment. I only have $100 in cash. What can I do with this low financial problem? I'm in a deep hole, I can't find a way out. [20-F]
first, you need to know about fafsa. This will help you pay for Community College, probably all costs, books, and a little check to help out with expenses...maybe even enough for a car.
http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/
The only way out of poverty is education, but it's harder to become educated when you are poor. Where there's a will, there's a way...
Hello,
I've been told one or twice that I 'take myself too seriously'. I've heard this expression before (of course), but I've never used it. It's something that seems easy to identify in others, but not ones self?
I also heard it once in a debate between a priest, and a former leader of the secular society? The priest laughed and said "you take yourself too seriously, that's why your members voted you out". Everyone was laughing, and I just didn't get it, so I sat there.
So what does it mean it you take yourself too seriously?
Thank you, in advance.
It means life is fun, too, and you forget that sometimes.
So I'm not a bad kid. I'm a 15 year old girl. I'm a good student, I got all A's last year and I do not smoke, drink, or do drugs and no sexual contact. I work hard in school and horse riding. I try hard to please my parents. My parents did hit me and spank me with a belt when I was younger. I'm not bad to my parents, sometimes I may talk flippant however the meanest thing I've said to them is that they are annoying. They get mad at me and offended by the smallest silliest things. They hit me and insult me, and I have lost a lot of respect for them. I cannot take it anymore and I've started cutting as of late. I honestly never thought I would I thought that it was stupid and pointless but I guess now it somewhat helps as stupid as that sounds. I have contemplated suicide a lot. I'm so depressed and alone and I have no one to talk to. I don't know what to do but my realtionship with my parents really sucks and there's not much to do to make it better and I don't like living this way.
What you describe could be normal teenage angst, gone terribly awry, or it could be something more serious. Either way, summer is approaching, and soon you wont have school to give you some time out of the house...summer can be the most stressful time.
As hard as this sounds, you must find an adult, either in your school or in your family, that you can trust. It is hard to trust, but you must be strong enough to do it. You need to talk to that person.
Start off by confiding that you have lost a lot of respect for your parents, and that they hit you. It is difficult for us, on the other end of cyberspace, to know if your family is suffering with some real dysfunction, where an adult who is closer will be able to pick up on cues we cannot.
My husband bought his mom a perfume bottle last Mother's Day and it came along with a free tote. He gave his mother the perfume, and I got the tote!!! I checked online and figure it out that the tote was free!!! I asked him about it and he said he thought about me and gave me the tote! What should I do now? He didn't even look for a present for me but giving me that free tote from his mother's present!!!
Comparing yourself to mom will never lead to good. It is the sign of a jealous person, who will slowly but surely kill her own relationship.
But, assuming you would have balked at the free tote had it come under any circumstance, I would ease up unless you are willing to forever open your father's day presents to your husband under similar comparison.
There this guy at work that i like. We dont work for the same company were just in the same building so i think it would be ok if we dated. Ive seen him sometimes looking at me with a blank expression. Sometimes he will nod at me or say hi in a quiet voice. Then there are sometimes when he completely ignores me or when I look at him he looks away. Im confused. Does he like me? What else could I do to show my interest without coming on too strong?
His actions are confusing you; one day he's ignoring you, the next he's staring at you. If he's interested in you, your actions are probably just as confusing to him. Be consistent, day after day, with simply acknowledging his presence. If he's interested, he'll make the next move.
I am 16/F nd my bf is 18/M
Frnds the thing is I luv hm alott nd I guess he 2 bt as evry relationship has 2 face sme concequences v r also d prob is I am in 12 as my board exams nd he is doing his engineering he gve 1 yr bt he's saying dat he has gonna got drop fr 1st yr coz of many kt's. So he says dat v get apart nd den aft 5 to 6 yrs whn he vil get settel nd start his career he vil again patchup bt I guess I am afarid dat shd all d thngs b ri8 aft 5 to 6yrs nd d most imp thng vil he cme back? So frnds pls help mee wht shd I do whts d ri8 decision?
Plssssssss let me knw ur precious advice coz I m depressed alotttt...
Thankyou.
I would love to answer this question, but I'm afraid I can't read it.
im a 15 year old boy and im having relationship issues with my 17 year old girlfriend of three months. we love each other and we have a really strong connection, but i can barely control myself around her. we are Christians and we know that sex before marriage is wrong and we've been trying to control our urges, but she has alot more self control than i do. once we start making out, i'm always ready to take it to the next level and try to get in her pants, but i promised her i wouldn't do anything and i just cant help it. i love her and since she's a senior and this will be our only year together, i don't want our relationship to end before it has to. we are on the brink of breaking up because of me and i cant loose her. how can i control my sexual urges better?!?!?!?!?!??!?!!?!?!??
First, it's not entirely your fault that your body is reacting in a very natural way. Unfortunately, nature has not caught up to societal norms, and when you're 15 you feel all the same urges and cravings that married adults do. There is no way to stop your physiology, but there is something you can do...Try to put yourself in her shoes...If the two of you have agreed to not have sex, it makes her feel as if you respect her and love her completely, but if everytime you get horny you start pressuring her, it makes her feel as if all you have promised, all she believes your relationship is about, has just been a smoke screen to get into her pants. It makes her feel disrespected. One of the reasons she loves you is because of the morals you share, but you chip away at that every time you suddenly switch gears and try to go against those morals. She has to worry that any time you get an itch in your pants you'll do anything with the nearest girl...after all, you're acting like you can't control yourself. It's not the way your body reacts, it's the way you react. Nobody can blame you for getting all worked up, but that doesn't mean you have to make her feel badly about it. She is kissing you and showing you love, and in her mind, you are cheapening it. Pretty soon she will be scared to even kiss you because a nice thing like a kiss will turn into a bad thing like you pestering her.
My bf is coming over tomarrow and just a while ago he asked me if we could have sex i was gonna hang up but then i startled and said yes! He got happy and said he loves me and wont try to hurt me then he said he was coming over tomarrow! should i trust him ? Should i have sex with him? Im a 13 yr old girl and my bf is 16...and plz no hurtful words i just need advice! :3 thnxs
I don't want to sound too dramatic, but you only get to experience your first time once. I'm not a prude saying you should wait until you're married, but you should at least wait until you feel more comfortable. This guy is 16, so it's probably not his first time...it just won't mean as much to him as it does to you. Since it will be your first time, not his, it should be all about you, but he's kind of making it all about him. He knows you really don't want to do it, but that doesn't matter. He's thinking more about what he wants. I know alot about relationships and boys and I can promise you one thing...having sex just to keep a guy will never work-ever. You end up feeling used and he ends up talking alot of crap about you to cover up for the fact he was a jerk. You think your relationship is confusing now? Wait until after you have sex! Then you'll need reassurance and he will call it clingy...immature. Trust me, it is so much better to stand up for yourself and tell him you're not ready. You will be able to tell alot by his reaction. If he really cares about you he will be understanding and reassuring, and if he doesn't care he will pester you and try to change your mind. Honestly, sex changes everything, not only in this relationship, but every relationship. Other guys down the line will expect you to have sex because you already have...If you have sex tomorrow you will wish you didn't.
I can never go to the toilet, I can only go after alcohol , I have bad stomach acke all the time , full of gas , and my stomach feels like its tensing.on a night my stomach bloats to a size I look at leaste sik months pregnant, and carnt even breath out. My weight up and down I have a under active thyroid , I'm only 22 .it make me feel down .. After 4-7 days I start sicking my food up , find it hard to keep bit portions down ,, I each healthy and drink plenty of water ,
This only started 4 yrs ago after having a child however has got considerabley worse .. However when I go it not a strain it normal ..
Your intestines can stretch. If you go to a doctor, they will probably stick a whole bunch of stuff in your butt. Why don't you try regulating yourself, like maybe before you go to bed on Friday and Wednesday night, take a laxitive? I know a person who went through the issue you are speaking of, and he had to take laxitives for a while, but eventually (I think it was a couple of months) he got on a pretty regular schedule. When he took the laxitives at around 6 PM, he would go to the bathroom at about 6 AM, and he did not usually have diarria during the day. (sometimes he did, though, so for the first week, maybe start it off when you don't have something important the next day.)
Hello,
i am a 17 year old female and i have a problem i need to try and deal with.. somehow. I dont like the way my vagina looks at all. My labia is almost an inch long and i find it sickening, none of my friends are this way and people make fun of them all the time becasue apperently were "loose" but ive been this way since i was 7. How can men possibly like this? if i were a man.. i wouldn't.
First, and this is the honest truth; the size of your labia has nothing to do with how tight or loose the inside of your vagina is, and any guy who has ever been inside of a vagina knows this.
Second, in my experience (and I was an exotic dancer for more than ten years, so I would know), I have rarely met a girl who was happy with the way her vagina looked. I know this doesn't make you feel any better about yours, but at least you know almost everyone feels this way. You are a straight woman, and therefore vaginas are not appealing to you-the less the better as far as you're concerned, but guys definately do not feel that way.
Thirdly, and most important--men love labias!! It's really true. If anything, they dislike the girls who have little labias. Why? Because labias show you are a grown woman, where vaginas with little labias, or no labias very often turn guys off because they look child-like. No normal guy wants to be reminded of their four year old little sister when they're getting ready to have sex. To men, the more vagina the better! (of course, within reason...nobody's attracted to big ol' sloppy ones, but inch-long labias hardly qualify as sloppy.) The term guys use for labias like yours (and I'm sorry for being crass, but it's true) is "roast beef." What guy do you know who doesn't like roast beef? To you, your vagina looks out of control terrible, but to them, it looks oh-so appealing. When a man imagines sex with a woman with big labias, he is not, for one second, thinking about a loose vagina, he is thinking about how her labia acts as a kind of extra sex toy that gently caresses the part of his penis that is either just coming out, or just going into the vagina. In fact, you will find that sometimes your labia actually makes your vagina tighter and harder to get into unless they are well-moistened.
You know what's best about labias? They give you privacy! You may think those girls with small labias look so great, but try checking them out when they are spread eagle...seriously, you can see all up in there. Before sex, it's kind of embarrassing that someone can see inside, but after sex....whew! There's a wide open vagina right there...practically echoing! When a guy has just pulled his penis out he gets a good look at an excited vagina that is still kind of open and stretched out from sex. Thanks to your labia, you're not going to give them a view of your tonsils.
Most of the time when you look at your vagina it is when you are just getting out of the shower. Your labia lips are very much like men's balls, in the fact that heat makes them expand, so when you see them, they are at their most expanded from the hot shower.
I hope this helps, because seriously, guys really, really, really like labias. I have a labia that is the same size as yours, and I'm very grateful for it.
In the last six years my mother remarried. He's from Sudan. In my opinion he's a crap husband; he's never there, he makes no effort to be a good husband or a step dad and I dont particularly like him. I think she married a dead beat. But thats okay. Its her choice, not mine.
They have two young children. It's the eldest I'm most concerned about. He lacks discipline. He messes around, takes tantrums and doest eat his meals. My step dad will often shout at him or smack him, and while i don't approve of such outdated parenting techniques, it's not against the law to smack your kid.
Today I visited for dinner and as usual he was messing around at the table. My brother spat out his food apparently and my step dad just snapped. He started shouting and slapped him in the face - though not a huge adult slap - and grabbed his cheek and started twisting it. All the while my brother is screaming and crying in both pain and fear. My mum came through from the kitchen and he grabbed my brother by the arm and took him to his room and shut him in. I shouted at my mother that i'd call social services and my sister shouted at him, saying he went too far.
For the next few hours my brother kept calling my step dad a 'bad guy'.I've seen my step dad before really nipping him for no reason, pushing him, smacking him too hard etc.
Before I left my step dad apologised to my brother, hugged him and told him he loved him. My brother is not introverted, he doesnt show any signs of fear from my step dad unless he's angry and is generally outgoing, if a little shy. He doesnt have the behaviour of an abused child and loves his dad it seems.
Im at a loss. I am heart broken and livid that my brother was so afraid of his father and I've seen my step dad act inappropriately towards my brother before, just not as bad as this.
My sister has since texted me telling me my mother told him that if he does it again he's out the door but im still concerned.
Does this constitute of physical child abuse? Should I go to social services because of it? I have no idea what to do. My father dismisses it as a cultural thing; he was regularly beaten with bamboo as a disciplinary action by his father (though his father was a drunk and they lived in poverty in hong kong). As does my step mother dismiss it. But they werent there and they didnt see the fear. Perhaps my step dad is parenting the only way he knows?
First, I would like to commend you because I can see you are not flying off the handle, or making wild accusations. You are being very reasonable, trying to see both sides, and your heart and mind are in the right place...what's best for the children in the family. If you feel the need to go to social services, I would urge you to follow your gut.
That being said; from what you have described I do not think social services will find a basis for abuse or neglect, and if your parents suspect you are the one who called, it may alienate you from the family and leave your younger siblings without your support.
If I were you, at this point, I would look for other ways to encourage your stepfather to learn new forms of discipline and bond with his children on a different level. Boyscouts, the YMCA, or some other program that the two can do together, perhaps. It seems like your stepfather's heart is in the right place, but old patterns are extremely hard to break, and he just may need to learn new discipline tools. Another thing I would try is speaking to him alone about it during a calm moment. The reason I say "alone" is because (a) if it is only the two of you in the conversation, you will have his undivided attention (b) your mom may get defensive and it will be a case of two against you, and (3) he won't get embarrassed or defensive because someone else is listening. If you don't feel as if you can have a reasonable give-and-take conversation with this man, write your feelings in a letter. Voice your opinion, remembering to temper it with compliments on the things he does with the kids that you do like, and be gentle with the insults. yOu might want to do some research on the negative effects of spanking vs. other forms of punishment, etc.
But, like I said before, you seem like an incredibly reasonable person, and you know this situation better than anyone else. Go with your gut.
So i'm 14 and i have a boyfriend of 4 months now. we've made out, hes seen and touched my boobs. yesterday, we were curious as to how OTHER things feel. so i like stroked his penis and we dry humped with clothes on... we didn't wanna do it because we're horny little teens, maybe a little but it was mostly because of curiosity.I WILL NEVER DO A blowjob AND I AM CONTENT ON SEX AFTER MARRIAGE. we agreed these things will never happen again. what we normally do is just hold hands and kiss :) but i feel guilty about my actions yesterday. am i a slut?
You are definately NOT a slut. You are a person who has high moral standards when it comes to sex, so how can you be anything close to a slut? I think waiting for sex is a very wise decision...the only thing...sometimes young people start off touching eachother with no plans on having sex, and the next thing you know, they are caught up in the moment and having intercourse. You should not feel guilty about yesterday, just make it a learning experience that curiousity is not a good enough reason to fool around.
So, my boyfriend suffers from a lot of different things. We've been together a year and live together, and he suffers from depression which has gotten worse, and he has been escaping into other things, gaming and internet porn.
I called him on it, the other night, quite intensely and told him to stop hurting him and us and me. That he was acting like an addict and dragging me down with him.
Then, suddenly (this is a guy who was planning to propose to me) he says "I dont want to spend the rest of my life with you." And goes on to tell me that he "loves me but isnt in love with me anymore" that "he waited for a spark but hes not sure there ever was one" that "what we have is great but he wants mindblowing".
I tried to reason with him, asked him to work with me for a few months, to see a couples therapist, he says the only reason he'd do that is for a friendship, that no romantic relationship could come out of this. That if this was being said it must be final.
This is a guy who also gets very depressed at night and frequently says things that he dosent mean, or takes back later.
I was very confused, because what he was saying made no sense with the span of our relationship - always loving me very much, very passionate, all those things.
He then changes it to taking a few days to go to his parents.
In the am, he went to go do the chores he had for the day, while I was a devestated wreck.
Comes back, says he meant none of it, that he loves me more than the earth itself, that hes crazy about me and so passionate and that he wants me forever, wants to marry me and have children.
He's prone to dark mood swings, but this is ridiculous.
I threatened to break up with him, and he started having an anxiety attack and talking about how much he loved me and needed me.
Have you seen this before? I can't understand this at all.
Very often, a person who is down and depressed because of chemicals in their brain cannot attach a logical explanation to their feelings, so they blame it on the person closest to them. They reason you are keeping them from expressing themself or being themself, which is making them unhappy. This is something that goes back and forth in their head all the time...when they think about it logically, they know you're not the problem, but at the moment, it seems like it's all your fault. Having a relationship with a person who is depressed is sooooo depressing. I'm not being a wise-ass, either. It can really bring you down. You wonder, "jeez, if he really loves me like he says he does, why is he so miserable? Why can't he see how lucky he is?" (a great Cheryl Crow song, "If It Makes You Happy" is one you might be able to relate to.)
Another hard thing about relationships with depressed people--sometimes you end up losing yourself in their problems. So what are you supposed to do now, not say anything when he looks at internet porn because it might upset him? What about your feelings; are you allowed to express them, or is it always a bad time for him? Don't forget to think about yourself, too.
im 15 almost 16 and im not planning on having sex anytime soon but i was wondering if i should shave down there if i do, i mean i already do moslty but when i do it itches and is prickly and stuff, what do most girls do. any suggestions?
thanks!(:
Christina :)
Usually the place that gets itchy and razor burn on me is the sides--the part that peeks out of my bathing suit bottom. With those, you have to shave with the hair, not against. Also, try not to itch, that's what gives you the bumps. Make sure you are in the shower, and your skin is properly softened and wet. After you dry, put deoderant on the area you shaved, because it has an ingredient that helps prevent you from getting razor burn under your arms. The first time is always the worst, but the more you shave, the more your skin gets used to it.
hi i am 14 and my boyfriend wants to finger me, he told me we will stay together if i let him but am i the right age or do i just say no ?
I am sorry I didn't see this question before. I don't know what you decided to do, but one thing I can tell you for future reference; anytime a guy tells you he will stay with you if you do something, he is lying. First, someone just can't make those kind of promises because they can't predict what will happen or how they will feel in the future. Alot of times, guys like the "chase," and once they catch what they want, they move on to another chase.
Another thing....there is no "right age." It's something you feel within yourself. I had sex for the first time when I was fifteen, and I would say now that I felt it was too early and I wish I had waited. The funny thing is, the second guy I had sex with was a really great person, and I was only sixteen. I remember that we were together for about six months, and I really wished he would have been my first, and I was mad at myself for wasting my virginity on someone who I thought I liked at the time, but ended up realizing he wasn't worth it. I guess this is my long-winded way of saying that if I were you, I would not even consider having sex with someone I didn't date for at least six months. Then, even if the two of you don't end up getting married and being together forever, at least you shared lots of good times and moments, and you really got to know eachother.
As far as foreplay...I would put a time limit on that, too. Maybe you could make a deal with yourself that you won't do anything below the waist until you are with him for at least two months. I know it is kind of hard to follow through with because you will worry that he won't be interested in staying with you when other girls are going farther sooner, but I promise you that allowing him to touch your body will not make him stay with you. It will only make it harder for you when you do break up. Sometimes it's hard because you are at the age where you are getting tingly feelings and you want to fool around because it feels good. This is why you have to learn your own body and how to touch yourself. All people masturbate; first, for a woman it cleans her vagina (when you have an orgasm, your muscles contract, and your vagina pushes fluid down and out, cleaning as it goes), and second, you have to get to know your own body before you can really share it with anyone else. Whatever happens, though, love yourself and treat your body as a beautiful, precious gift.