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my question is about communication in marriage
hello am from Jamaica,i have been married for 7years and icant get along with my husband i thought he was a caring person but he is so selfish i had a successful business going beore i met him and all he did was borrow my money and at the end o the month he didnt make enough to pay me back cause hes into sales,now i lost my busines and i feel such resenment towards him he never wants to admit hes the reason i lost my business now we r stil in a rented house and can hardley pay the bills and i have to go to work and do everything aat home even if hes home all day he only talk about what he want to do to improve his life but nothing gets done each time i tried to talk with him about my insecurities it turnes out in a big argument cause hes saying that he is the best man i ever had i cant go on like this anymore i have lost even my selfesteem and i have two sons to take care of please help me i dont see any future with this man as he wont do anything to improve our way of living.
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One thing is for sure...you can find happiness with a man who makes you happy...whether your husband or someone else. First, you must find a way to let go of the resentment you have towards your husband, because a marriage will not work with it. You are probably resentful because he has never given you a real apology. The root problem is what you must work on, which is...you feel your husband thinks you should be grateful to be his wife, and he acts as if that which is important to you is insignificant.
Now consider this...
Is your husband an outright liar and dishonest person?
If the answer to this question is "yes," you must prepare that this marriage will not last forever. This doesn't mean you need to jump out of the house right now....but prepare for your future.
If the answer is "no," write your feelings down. Edit what you have written until you would be comfortable reading it in to your husband and another person who knows you both. Give the paper to your husband. Try not to say anything you will want to take back.
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you've been in it for seven years. Your right he's selfish a man isn't perfect he will mess up but if he's doing you this way its time to leave the biggest investment was your marriage. You've tried talkin a marriage isn't great but if he is not helping you its time to go you love him but evidently he doesn't love you back he's you husband he's supposed to make you feel good build you up when your down sometimes he may forget but this is everyday he says he's the best? Yes he's the best at showing you that you deserve better
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