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why would my 'friend' tell our buisness
ok so me and Girl#1 have been best friends since 4th grade and we were fine till I me and girl#2 me and girl#2 got really close and I guess girl#1 got jealous or something so in 7th grade girl#1 started saying things about girl#2 like 'why do you like girl#2' girl#2 is so weird' why are you friends with girl#2' and much more then I said 'I don't care if girl#2 is weird she's my friend' then a couple of months later girl #1 stopped talking to me then my English teacher put me in a group which included two of my friends girl#1 and her friend so as I'm doing my work I see girl#1 writing stuff in a sticky note/ post-it and her friend said 'but I don't know who you're talking bout' then girl#1 wrote something down and her friend looked at me. so my question is why would she tell everybody our business but when someone comes up and ask me 'Why don't you talk to girl#1 anymore' I say 'we just drifted apart because we only have one class together' I didn't lie we really do only have one class together so why would she do that ??
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well some times when friends "drift apart" one of the friends gets really depressed or mad and ask their other freinds to help them feel less alone trust me the like ecxact thing happened to me at least twice
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maybe she feels like you like girl#2 more then her and its hurting her feelings and in stead of handling it shes causing more of a problem :/?
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When girl # 1 says "girl # 2 is weird" she is putting you in an impossible position; if you defend girl # 2, girl # 1 gets an attitude, but if you don't defend girl # 2, girl # 1 knows people can talk shit about your friends and you'll allow it...it's a lose/lose situation for you. Girl # 1 is being jealous and insecure, and you should not feed into it. If she talks negatively about girl # 2, you should defend Girl # 2 and say "and if girl # 2 said bad things about you I would tell her the same thing." This way girl # 1 knows you are a worthwhile friend, no matter what. You are incorrect, however, in being upset over girl # 1's explanation to her friend. You cannot dictate or determine how she defines your relationship, or how she explains it to others. Maybe she is embarrassed and felt the need to over-explain, or maybe she planned the whole thing carefully, hoping you would see her explanation...never underestimate the manipulations of teenage girls; they are pretty ruthless and cunning planners. The only answer for you is to stick up for girl # 2 just as girl # 1 would want/expect you to if someone was talking trash about her
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Looks like girl #1 is probably jealous. She may have good reason to be! She must still be pretty upset & if you are in a class group with her you could probably find the time to talk to her a little if you wanted to. If you want to stay friends, and you CAN stay friends, even if you have limited time to spend with each other, you need to make an effort to talk to her & at least try to be polite.
I wouldn't take it bad that she talked about the situation with another friend. If she just didn't care it wouldn't have bothered her enough to have mentioned it. She probably should have talked to YOU about it, but sometimes if friends drift apart that's hard to do. I mean she has no idea weather or not you might still want to be friends.
Do make an effort to talk to her. She was your friend for a long time.
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Maybe girl #1 though she was your bestie got mad at you and though you liked your other friend better and is trying to replace her so she started spreading nasty rumors.
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