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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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You should sit them down and break it gently to them that your pregnant best of luck Rosemarie :)
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Does he like me?
So.... I have a crush on this guy, and I am not sure if he likes me back. It is a little hard to tell. People tell me it s because of his Aspergers. That doesn t bother me at all, if anything it makes like him more. I have spent hours researching and trying to find ways to talk to him, but I am afraid because I don t want to bother him or anything.
I met him last year, and we were hanging out with someone friends. When he first saw me, he stared at me and wouldn t look away from me. He helped me carry things and even leaned on me ( I am 5 0" and he is 6 3") he was very close to me and didnt mind being like that.
Another time he hung out with our mutual friends, they played around and said we should go into a closet (we were in school) and he grabbed me and kinda play pulled me toward the closet and was laughing.
There were a few moments like that and he had even said he was interested in dating me. But that was a few months ago.
I saw him again in school and kinda developed feelings for him. He doesn t talk to me and seems to purposely avoid me. If this means he doesnt like me, I wish I could take a hint...
My friends told him to hug me, and he did, which was surprising since he HATES being touched...
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Maybe he is afraid to get close to you or he may just want to be friends.
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I just don't like people!
I've read that a lot of people say or feel this way when they've had a lot of bad experiences, been bullied etc.
But this is not the case for me. I haven't been bullied and my experiences were never really that "bad". (I haven't been hurt etc.) I just feel like people bore me and I just can't find anyone who I actually like or sympathise with. Everyone is so pretictable and socializing just drains me because I can't stand to listen to daily boring conversations about meaningless things. The only person I can stand to be around is my boyfriend. But that's only because we can sit in a room together, enjoying eachothers company, without having to make conversation all the time. And when we do talk, I feel like he understands me. The fact that I have no friends doesn't depress me. I am happy being by myself. I do get invited to parties sometimes, but I decline because I feel like it's way too much work, since I don't enjoy myself around other humans. But recently I've actually started disliking people who try to make contact with me. There is one person in university, who was being quite nice to me. It was okay at first and we actually hung out a little, but after a while it got annoying and I started hating him for no reason. Now he keeps looking at me and it makes me think things like "Who does he think he is, what makes him think that he can look at me?". Same with an acquaintance who lives further away. We chat on facebook sometimes and I am fine with that. But now he keeps calling me and tells me that he wants to visit me soon (We've seen eachother in person many times, so he's not a stranger on the internet), and I just get super angry at that. No, I am not afraid of being close with someone and I am also not afraid of loss. There just isn't anyone, who I WANT to be close with because I can't relate to them and they just annoy me. I also don't feel empathy towards humans. Sometimes I even chuckle or think things like "ha-ha!", when something bad happens.
I wouldn't hurt anyone on purpose, but I don't care if people do get hurt.
I feel a lot of empathy towards animals though, so I doubt that I am a psychopath or anything like that. I love animals, I feel joy whenever I am around my cats. I don't expect anything from them, I'm just happy when they're there. And I don't need them to follow commands, so me liking animals has nothing to do with the fact that they don't talk back and listen to everything I say. (Which they don't, because they're cats) I even like that they have a mind of their own and only cuddle with me when they WANT to and not because they worship me.
I just feel so drained from being around people every day and having to make conversation (which I don't even do a lot). Whenever I get home from classes, I just sleep for 1-3 hours, because I'm really really tired.
I am not a sad or depressed person, when I can be by myself, I do things that I enjoy and it makes me happy.
I don't even want to change that I'd rather be alone, I just need some help on how to deal with NOT being alone. How can I get rid of the hatred towards people who show an interest in me? And how can being around them be less draining? Has anyone ever felt the same?
English isn't my first language, so I'm sorry for any mistakes. (link)
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Hey I have had the same problem it's normal at times because I can only talk to a few friends and my boyfriend about how I feel so I can relate.
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Well I'm in gr7 and the gr11s really don't like me because I used to like a guy in there class. But that was 3 years ago!! Anyway the one girl in there class does modeling with me and she's my role model and I don't think she hates me but the rest do. Next year they initiate us and they all talked about how they going to get me and they will make me suffer and they keep saying I'm a slut and they always skeef me its 3 girls. The one girl(micaela) I dated her brother. I'm really upset tho,don't want to go to school,and I've been crying myself to sleep :( oh and they don't say it to me they say it to other people. I'm a virgin btw. (link)
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Yes sweetie that is bulling you shouldnt have to put up with them.
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ok so me and Girl#1 have been best friends since 4th grade and we were fine till I me and girl#2 me and girl#2 got really close and I guess girl#1 got jealous or something so in 7th grade girl#1 started saying things about girl#2 like 'why do you like girl#2' girl#2 is so weird' why are you friends with girl#2' and much more then I said 'I don't care if girl#2 is weird she's my friend' then a couple of months later girl #1 stopped talking to me then my English teacher put me in a group which included two of my friends girl#1 and her friend so as I'm doing my work I see girl#1 writing stuff in a sticky note/ post-it and her friend said 'but I don't know who you're talking bout' then girl#1 wrote something down and her friend looked at me. so my question is why would she tell everybody our business but when someone comes up and ask me 'Why don't you talk to girl#1 anymore' I say 'we just drifted apart because we only have one class together' I didn't lie we really do only have one class together so why would she do that ?? (link)
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Maybe girl #1 though she was your bestie got mad at you and though you liked your other friend better and is trying to replace her so she started spreading nasty rumors.
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i like in chicago illinois & i was wondering where i can go to meet guys... that AREN'T pervs
im a senior in high school (17, female) (link)
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Well online dating is a great place to start, cafes, and diners or school.
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I don't know what i done to deserve anything of this, but i never knew how hard a break up can tear someone apart and destroy their whole system inside. It's been nearly 4 months we ended and i find it so hard to sink it in that the last kiss we ever had was gonna be the last kiss ever.. It's painful to understand whats going on in my life. I feel like i've changed so much during these months, i feel like he changed me inside and out, i try so hard to keep my mind busy and yet i don't know what else to do. I don't even think i could be in another relationship for a very long time, i try hide what i feel from everyone and i feel that iv lost those who are the closest to me by my actions, i keep pushing them away.
I feel like an idiot, like I actually wrote to him saying il be here for him and he ignored me.
I never thought love could hurt this bad, and its sad cause its the first relationship that i ever took serious ...
please try and understand me..
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Hey sweetie how are you i hope everything is ok. U will find love if he hurt u thats not right
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Or psychology and social work?
Or sociology and social work?
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Both are good careers.
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I'm confused as to what to do. I feel like my boyfriend is lying tj me but have no hard evidence he is. For example when we got together, he was talking about how his grandmother left him her condo when she passed away. But yesterday texted me saying that his aunt is kicking him out of the condo. Which of course made me ask that if the condo was left to him how she could kick him out. He basically said she left him the condo but pays the rent to his aunt and since he's struggling financially because his employer cut his hours and he hasn't been working hes almost 2 months behind on rent so she told him he needs to move out. Another example, his hours were cut because business is slow, which is understandable. He asked for hours(supposedly) and was told he wasn't given hours that week because he had a few negative responses on the service surveys. A week later he claimed he talked to them and they said he got the best responses about his service, and was guaranteed hours the next week. He also said he talked to his boss, and was promoted and given a raise and he would have hours last week. Again he didn't work, until tonight. I asked him yesterday what hours he would have next week and he said he was working today, but not sure he hadn't gotten his schedule yet and he'd have it today. So I asked again today and now he's saying he hasn't gotten his schedule yet. It always seems as though he talks in circles and says one thing then later on contradicts what he said previously. Now I'm left to wonder if he's lying, if I can trust him and if I should break up with him(and yes I've discussed all these things with him multiple times and he blows it off or changes the subject) (link)
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Am sure whatever brach he is in should pay for his college education and he is making excuses not break up with you. 2. He probably is lying to you
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wasn't exactly sure what category to put this in.
my boyfriend's sister is constantly staying over our home. every now and then, there'll be a length of time where she might not come over for a whole week, or even sometimes two weeks but it's really she comes over one day a week (always stays the night) into half of the next day cause then she has to work, or it turns into a couple days either in a row or sporadic throughout the week.
my issue is, i have (never been vocalized cause it would just not be a good idea, all hell would unleash) issues with her and i have issues with the fact that both she and my boyfriend never ask if it's ok if she comes over. not that she even ASKS my boyfriend, i've been with them when we're all sitting together and she just outright says,"oh, i'm staying over tomorrow. and i have to wednesday. and saturday." (she works late hours sometimes at her job and cannot get a bus home. which i might understand if she ASKED but i feel she could also tell her job she cannot work that late, she probably took those hours assuming that it'd be ok that she could just crash at our house.)
so during this time she's in our house, i'm not comfortable to do what i want to do. i feel i HAVE to entertain, when i'm never in the mood to. then my boyfriend sits on the computer (we don't own a television so that's all we have to do in our home really, i either read or do a craft or we go outside and do something) so i'm forced to sit there and hang out with his sister, while THEY are the ones that want her there, not i. it puts me in a terrible mood when i'm out doing something and i go on the internet on my phone and see her trying to make plans with people around the area i live in (cause i know that means she's still there after i've left my house) and especially "late night plans" cause i know that means she's going to be staying the night.
my boyfriend never tells her no, sometimes he doesn't even say "ok" to her, he'll just keep doing whatever he's doing and i guess his silence is supposed to mean "yes". neither of them look at me whenever she makes these claims like i have to be asked as well if it's alright. she never asks if we're busy or if i may have something to do. he even at one point told her she could basically live with us...in our small one bedroom apartment. the only time he even asked me if this was ok, was whenever he already told her she COULD. but when he did, i did explain to him as nice as i could that i didn't want to be living with ANYONE right now seeing as we just moved out of homes with our friends where we lived with 8 other people, i liked this privacy we had. yet still after explaining this, he'll tell her she can stay over and the offer's still out there. it's like i don't live there, even though i originally put the deposit down on the rent cause my boyfriend (he DID have the money) got his money stolen from him, i pretty much go and pay the bills (he gives me the money but he always forgets to go pay them so i have to) and 98% of everything in that apartment is mine, i've been working very hard to decorate and furnish this place and make it feel like a home and now i have i barely want to decorate the only other room in the house because that's where she constantly crashes. i've never been thanked for having her over, she never does dishes or anything as a small favor for being there, i clean up after her cigarette ashes and empty bottles of soda she leaves sitting around, i have a couple of her shoes and clothes still there that she's left weeks ago. she even was telling me today how she wished we had a television so she could watch movies whenever she sleeps in the other room, so now i don't even want to own a television anymore, that just gives her more incentive to hang out. he also still tries to cuddle with me and kiss, etc., sometimes whenever she's RIGHT in the next room! that doesn't exactly put me in the mood and then whenever we sometimes have started kissing and cuddling, (we have the bathroom in our bedroom so she has to come into our room to go) she'll just come right into the bedroom with no knocking and then i get all embarassed. HOW COULD WE ALL LIVE TOGETHER?
sorry for this rant, but i'm at my wits end. it's been going on like this the entire time we've been living in this apartment and now i have to worry about all the apartments after that. i just don't know if there's a way to word things so that i get my point across but nobody gets truly offended - i know when it comes to families and girlfriends and issues it's never a good thing. it's getting to the point where i literally just come home, sit around in silence and then go to bed and sleep in till i have to work just so i don't have to be forced to hang out with her and then hope by the time i come home from work she's gone.
i've tried to look on forums and things for any type of advice and everyone says to tell them specific times that they're welcome to say,"oh it's been great having you but i have to get to bed, i have to work in the morning." but that's not going to work, she would just say ok and bye to me and just continue sitting there and then go to bed when my boyfriend decides to go to bed.
just UGHAGHGHGHSDI, what would anybody else do or say in this situation? (link)
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She cant stay with ya'll unless she pays rent ya'll live in a one bedroom apartment.
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I've had a HUMONGOUS crush on this guy for 3-4 years. We dated off and on a year ago. He now has the big crush on this girl Claudia and he has been recently dating a few girls to get Claudia jealous. It has worked. I really wanna go out with this guy but I don't want to be used. I want him to like for who I really am. Last year we dated and he seemed to get really attached but... I dumped him because things got really busy and complicated. I wanna get back with him now. Help? (link)
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I wouldn't date this guy am sorry he sounds like a jerk.
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i dnt want to live .... i wanna die.. as i always wanted to be what i thought and as per that i put more effort bt still i can't achive d opportunity 4 wat i've been waiting along...... i thnk god has
forgotten to write happiness n success ,in my life.
i was in a chronic depression from couple of weeks.. bt i thnk now its d end.. i wanna die.. i jus wanna leave this place, universe.... i jus wana die.. may b u all think that its a selfish or a coward.... bt i thnk its d best way .... to say gud bye to all ur problems!!!!
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Honey you have so much to live for, cheer up don't cry and be depressed all the time do something fun like paint or pottery, archery would be good too. Go enjoy life to the fullest :) Sincerely, Rosemarie Xoxoxo
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My periods normally run about 40 days apart, but i noticed that i haven't had a period since mid july. I have had unprotected sex several times since then. Also, in the past week, i have had some symptoms, extremely sore breasts and swollen nipples, heartburn, bad cramping, metallic taste, to name a few. Worse than regular pms. So i took a test, the first appeared negative but when i looked at it again after about an hour it had a dark positive line. I took 2 more, one looks like it has a very faint positive and the third looks to be negative.
Im just so confused, can it be possible to get a positive and a negative after? Or have symptoms before a positive test?
Anything helps, thank you! (link)
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The only positive way to tell if your pregnant is if you have a blood test done.
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Okay so I'm starting eighth grade and I just got my schedual and everything. I'm yes nerous of the new school year but, who isn't? I'm excited too! But, the problem is I have barley any of my friends with me in some of my classes (I asked on facebook and very few replys) And I asked my friends who were on and they said no :( Nervous about that but, not really a BIG problem. The bigger issue is this girl named venny, me and here were friends I guess last year and still are (I think) but, she posted something saying "say it to my face" blah blah blah. Not to me but, to everyone.So I commented very nice and all some thing I don't like about her. Not specifics but you know just I don't like how she shows her body and I don't think she's christian and stuff. She comes back with all this crap about how she never liked me and called me a jealous bissh (bitch) So I told her ON HER STATUS how I don't like this and that and said how I hated she lost her virginty last year. so everyone knows now. THEN she goes messaging me in private threatening me about cyberbulling WHICH I said in defence she cursed at me first so they can't really do anything. So after a while of bickering back and forth I went to bed. Next day she asks if we wanna be friends so Im like whatever devising a secret plan about how I will take all of her secrets and tell the school. lolol jk. But, not close at least. BUT, at orientation she walked past me and didn't say anything and I just couldn't shake the feeling that she really didn't wanna be friends or changed her mind. TOTALLY fine with that! but, shes quite popular (in a way) and I don't know. she's gettoh unlike me, and she fights other girls. I don't want her to be in any of my classes either. I just don't know like how to deal with her. I guess avoiding is fine. But, I want to have a drama free year as I have to audition for this school I want to go to in highschool and I need to have good grades this year for them to make the final decisions. Thanks for reading! (link)
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It sounds like at one time you both were good friends but she become popular and now she hates everyone including you. my advice from experience is try to avoid her and dont provoke her Thats not good .
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Hi!!I'd like to know how to trust someone you love again when you have realized that they keep on lying to you. THANKS (link)
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They wont change its their job. To lie
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I am a 24/F that has a fulfilling life with great family & friends, will have my degree soon and also work. I recently started dating a great guy. The problem is, I don't know how to navigate this. He's more of a "go with the flow" and as much as I would love to be that way, I'm a planner & sort of uptight. Thinking about it though, I'm not sure I'd even have the time/energy for a full-time boyfriend. It's getting intense since we are both very sexually attracted to each other. This excites me, but also scares me. I want him to respect me, but I'm also a realist & don't necessarily need to be in love to have sex. My body, mind & heart are at war here. I'm worried if I take it to the next level, he'll have everything he wants - a girl that he can have fun & have sex with no strings attached. Then again, I'll have that too! What should I do here? (link)
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It sounds like u are not the kind girl
that doesn't live for the moment you have everything but you to understand love is not just fun and games it happens to people everyday.
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My great grandma is 95 yrs old. she has been in the hospital numerous times in the past few months for breaking her hip & neck. She fractured her neck and its well now, she has a sore on her foot that won't go away, first the doctor said just leave a sock on it and let it get will, then they said it was gangrene then it isn't. She can't walk because her foot. She doesn't talk to anyone and she barely eats. I think she feels lonely or depressed about her health problems? Idk, we try to talk to her and she doesn't talk, sometimes we try to get her to eat and she doesn;t eat. She just lays down, not saying anything & sleeping or slouched staring into space. She doesn't want to get up and she's always cold even though it's literally 105 degrees outside and its not cold inside. She doesn't like for them to change her diaper, feed her or anything. Her doctor told my aunt that my great grandmother had gangrene, but then we took her to te hospital and they said that she didn't have it, she just had a blockage in her foot. She has bad nutrition from refusing to eat, so they said that they can do anything or cut her leg off because it will kill her faster. My great granddmother didn't start having these problems with her leg until she went to the hospital and the doctors there never treated her for her leg pain, they didn't care if she ate either. She is in the hospice now, they don't give her any blood pressure medicine or any medicine she needs. They don't feed her or care if she eats. She's always dirty (they treated her this way in the hospitals too). yesterday when we went to see her, she wouldn't wake up for ANYTHING. We talked to her in her ear & tried to wake her, we wiped her face and the doctors even moved her, but she wouldn't wake up, she was sleeping heavy and snoring. My family & I believe that the nurses are giving her medicine to knock her out all day, so she won't cry about pain in her leg from the blockage or anything. She doesn't even drink water or urinate that much. Are the nurses at the hospital & hospice doing the right thing for her? Are they just trying to kill her faster? (link)
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Most nurses dont take care of their elderly patients and most places arent run right.
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I already asked for some help on this before and this I Wat it said:I hav a friend and she is just so annoying sometime. First it was copying me, she takes my ideas from OUR blog and uses it on her own blog and now everytime I tell her I like something she all of a sudden likes it or she goes to the store and gets it ( which sucks cause I don't hav the money to get it). And ever since she moved into this big house I feel like she thinks she all rich an that she can get anything she wanted and stuff. I just hate it and everytime I try to tell her at church she never shows up cause her parents r having problems. And I don't want to tell her over the phone because thats not a good way to talk about this and wen ever I try to give her a hint she's like I'm Srry and that all she says. And I can't plan a day with her because she has to go to her brothers football practice all week every week. And I don't have any way to get in contact with her. And plus she has something wrong with her neck so I don't want her to be stressing cause she has so much going on like her parents, football practice, her neck, school, and then once I tell her she's gonna be tired and I still want to b her friend but I don't kno what else I can do to keep our friendship and tell her how I feel.
And someone did answer me and they said to tell her how I feel. So I did and she asked me to give her 5 reasons y she's annoyin and I couldn't think of more than 3 so she got mad so i txt her the story above to help her understand more and she got even madder because i but her bussiness out there so i told her tht i didnt put her name in i or anything but she still got mad at me. Then she said tht she doesn't want to tlk bout it anymore. But I really do cuz I want to try to help the friendship but she won't let me. And now she's even busier with school just starting and she still doesn't come to church and she can't txt me because she's always going places and she can't txt me from her IPod. So I can't even get intouch wit her.and even wen we get a chance to tlk she'll tlk and then as soon as I say something she doesn't like she says go to go. And plus she gives up to easily wen I tell her something and she doesn't get it the first time she'll just say forget it. She's one of my best dr friends and I don't want to lose it and it will b even harder cuz web she does come to church I hav to deal wit her. Hope this is eough info. Someone please help (link)
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It seems like she has alot to deal with maybe y'all should have a girl nite and talk things out.
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Ok I'm 17 f and I was hanging with my two friends that are girls. My boyfriend was also there but he said I was weird because I act different with my friends and that he felt left out. My boyfriend wanted to give me a hug and kiss but I didn't let him get to lovey dovey because my friends would of felt left out. I was to bussy trying to make my two friends feel less weird by totally not being lovey dovey with my boyfriend and I guess I ignored him in a way, even though I didn't want to. Should I invite my friends when I hang with my boyfriend? Or keep inviting my friends but this time not ignore him and kiss and hug in front of my friends? I'm very akward person so sometimes I don't know what to do..
Thanks for reading!!(:
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It seems like u feel insecure around your friends when you are with them and your boyfriend.
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Molly/ 13
Im a freshman in high school and this junior guy named Michael has been sexually harassing me. When he sees me he would grab at me and he would make disgusting remarks. Today i was leaving class and he pulled me into the bathroom and pushed me against the wall and put his hands down my panties. I tried screaming but he covered my mouth. I dont know what to do about him I'm to scared to go to school and I dont want him to hurt me for telling. Please help me.
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The first answer i will give u is molly there ways to protect you from this abuse the police, your parents, and the principal at your school i hope this helps you. The second answer is hold your head up and be strong.
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