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I ignored my boyfriend?
Ok I'm 17 f and I was hanging with my two friends that are girls. My boyfriend was also there but he said I was weird because I act different with my friends and that he felt left out. My boyfriend wanted to give me a hug and kiss but I didn't let him get to lovey dovey because my friends would of felt left out. I was to bussy trying to make my two friends feel less weird by totally not being lovey dovey with my boyfriend and I guess I ignored him in a way, even though I didn't want to. Should I invite my friends when I hang with my boyfriend? Or keep inviting my friends but this time not ignore him and kiss and hug in front of my friends? I'm very akward person so sometimes I don't know what to do..
Thanks for reading!!(:
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It seems like u feel insecure around your friends when you are with them and your boyfriend.
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I think you need to balance your love life and your friendships. you can't ignore one for the other as its not fair to either. Invite your boyfriend out (but not ALL the time, have your girl time as well) and when he's out with you do the more subtle things, hold his hand, sit on his lap if there's not many seats, sit close to him if there is, but keep involving everyone in the conversation.
Be thankful your friends accept him as well, it gets much worse when friends hate the boyfriend, so keep it balanced, have private time with both of them and keep them both involved in your life. It's a bit tricky at first, but once you find the balance everything fits together perfectly :)
goodluck x
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In my opinion there does need to be a true balance. If your friends are single, (maybe even some that are newly single), the last thing your girl friends would want is to have that shoved in their face.
Nothing is more awkward than when you are right in the middle of laughing or talking about something and your friend starts groping her boyfriend or vice versa. It's a tiny bit rude, and somewhat weird.
In my opinion try to include your boyfriend in on the conversations you guys have to make him feel more a part of what is going on.
Then, try to find those moments when your friends aren't completely focused on you to share a sweet stare/smile and maybe a hand/leg touch or short hug/kiss.
It's a happy medium.
When I was 15/16 it was like I had to be all over the guy I was dating and he had to be all over me, but as I'm going into my mid-twenties (close to 23 now) I don't really think about it much.
When I'm in a relationship or dating a guy it's almost like an understanding.
If your boyfriend was hanging out with his buds would he really have his tongue shoved down your throat the whole time and being all sweet cuddly (I'm over exaggerating), or would he want to talk about sports, cars, music, or whatever interest he may have with his guy friends?
Every person is different, but again, I'd say to just find the little subtle ways to show affection with the looks, soft touches, and including EVERYONE into whatever conversations are going on instead of making either party feel left out or uncomfortable. I hope this helps a little. :)
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Hey,
I'm 17 to and was in your situation 2 years ago exactly-and it cost me the relationship.
I'm guessing you're like me-you think things over way to much.Don't! Seriously enjoy the moment whatever happens and you'll act more natural and things will flow better.
In terms of the friends/boyfriend thing it can be hard to keep a balance. If its a new relationship (1 year or under) I'd say to focus more on the boyfriend. Let him hug you or whatever, because he's you're boyfriend-he's there for you and you alone so the least you can do is appriciate the poor guy!
If you're friends were proper friends they'd understand and if not thats their problem. But yeh from past experience definatly overcome any embarrasment or anxiety and focus on him over friends if you don't want to end the relationship.
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Was very interesting reading about your situation I don't know what to call you cause you forgot to leave your name but I can tell you this you have to find the balance between the two make your man feel loved unconditionally but love your friends too find something you can all do together and the best person you can be in this world is yourself so be more confident and just have fun while you with the people you love. With love. Jesse XOXOXXX
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