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Lying boyfriend
I'm confused as to what to do. I feel like my boyfriend is lying tj me but have no hard evidence he is. For example when we got together, he was talking about how his grandmother left him her condo when she passed away. But yesterday texted me saying that his aunt is kicking him out of the condo. Which of course made me ask that if the condo was left to him how she could kick him out. He basically said she left him the condo but pays the rent to his aunt and since he's struggling financially because his employer cut his hours and he hasn't been working hes almost 2 months behind on rent so she told him he needs to move out. Another example, his hours were cut because business is slow, which is understandable. He asked for hours(supposedly) and was told he wasn't given hours that week because he had a few negative responses on the service surveys. A week later he claimed he talked to them and they said he got the best responses about his service, and was guaranteed hours the next week. He also said he talked to his boss, and was promoted and given a raise and he would have hours last week. Again he didn't work, until tonight. I asked him yesterday what hours he would have next week and he said he was working today, but not sure he hadn't gotten his schedule yet and he'd have it today. So I asked again today and now he's saying he hasn't gotten his schedule yet. It always seems as though he talks in circles and says one thing then later on contradicts what he said previously. Now I'm left to wonder if he's lying, if I can trust him and if I should break up with him(and yes I've discussed all these things with him multiple times and he blows it off or changes the subject)
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It seems like maybe he's embarrassed about where he's at in his life right now. Guys can be really sensitive about that sort of thing. If he's feeling like crap and feeling like he's unsuccessful, he might be exaggerating and telling small lies to try to make himself feel better and make you proud. If this is the case, obviously it's the wrong way to go about it. He's making a big mistake by lying to you even if it is only because he's feeling down on himself and he does it to feel better. No matter what the reason, it has to stop, but it's good to consider that maybe he's not an intentional liar and an evil person. People have reasons for lying. There aren't many good reasons for lying, but some are more sympathetic than others. You should sit down with him and talk to him about all of these things. Tell him how you're feeling and try to figure out what's going on with him. Point out the inconsistencies. Ask him what's wrong. He needs to come up with a better way to deal with his problems than lying to you or feeding you confusing stories. Try to get things worked out. If he won't sit down and talk to you, that's cold. Drop him without thinking twice. If he's so insensitive to your feelings that he refuses to talk to you, he doesn't care enough about you for you to allow him to be with you. Don't make excuses for him and don't let him get away with blowing you off. You're worth more than how he's treating you. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you can get all of this sorted out!
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Am sure whatever brach he is in should pay for his college education and he is making excuses not break up with you. 2. He probably is lying to you
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