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body, mind & heart are at war
I am a 24/F that has a fulfilling life with great family & friends, will have my degree soon and also work. I recently started dating a great guy. The problem is, I don't know how to navigate this. He's more of a "go with the flow" and as much as I would love to be that way, I'm a planner & sort of uptight. Thinking about it though, I'm not sure I'd even have the time/energy for a full-time boyfriend. It's getting intense since we are both very sexually attracted to each other. This excites me, but also scares me. I want him to respect me, but I'm also a realist & don't necessarily need to be in love to have sex. My body, mind & heart are at war here. I'm worried if I take it to the next level, he'll have everything he wants - a girl that he can have fun & have sex with no strings attached. Then again, I'll have that too! What should I do here?
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I say go for it! What do you have to lose? If its meant to be, it will be. Stop getting yourself so worked up about it.
Maybe him being so "laid" back will help you to relax. Plan to do something on a day, if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. If you like each other enough, you will find time. This is an exciting time in your life, so soak it up.
Also, don't be "clingy", all that does it push guys away. I would wait at least a few months before having sex. If he likes you/loves you, then we will wait.
Remember, take life as it comes. If it doesn't work out, move on. There are plenty of "right" men out there in the world!
Good luck!
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It sounds like u are not the kind girl
that doesn't live for the moment you have everything but you to understand love is not just fun and games it happens to people everyday.
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First off. When you say you don't have energy or time for a full time boyfriend.. get real! This is not a job! This is a life partner. Just because you have a boyfriend does not mean that you will be doing it as a job. You should be with sommeone because you like them. Not because it's a job. Don't give it to him right away., and respect comes with time. not right away. If you want to be with him you should be with himm.
No strings attached is for people that have no feelings. that don't like eachother but want the sex.
Sounds like you like this guy but you are scared to let someone in. I know what that's like, It can be scary. But If you don't let them in. you may be missing out on a great thing. And if you let them in, you may find something great and amazing.
~Jasmine*
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