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I am a 24/F that has a fulfilling life with great family & friends, will have my degree soon and also work. I recently started dating a great guy. The problem is, I don't know how to navigate this. He's more of a "go with the flow" and as much as I would love to be that way, I'm a planner & sort of uptight. Thinking about it though, I'm not sure I'd even have the time/energy for a full-time boyfriend. It's getting intense since we are both very sexually attracted to each other. This excites me, but also scares me. I want him to respect me, but I'm also a realist & don't necessarily need to be in love to have sex. My body, mind & heart are at war here. I'm worried if I take it to the next level, he'll have everything he wants - a girl that he can have fun & have sex with no strings attached. Then again, I'll have that too! What should I do here? (link)
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I say go for it! What do you have to lose? If its meant to be, it will be. Stop getting yourself so worked up about it.
Maybe him being so "laid" back will help you to relax. Plan to do something on a day, if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. If you like each other enough, you will find time. This is an exciting time in your life, so soak it up.
Also, don't be "clingy", all that does it push guys away. I would wait at least a few months before having sex. If he likes you/loves you, then we will wait.
Remember, take life as it comes. If it doesn't work out, move on. There are plenty of "right" men out there in the world!
Good luck!
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Hi, 20/f; My fiance is 20/m.
We have been together for two years; and we have been living together under my parents roof for one year. Things have been great. We are both in college, and we both work fulltime. I work at a daycare, and he works at a factory making stoves and other appliances.
Well, my parents made a deal that he could live with us for 6 months, to give him enough time to save up money and wait for a low-income apartment to open up. One apartment opened up, but he wasn't able to reserve it because of issue with a co-signer(no credit on his half). So my parents told him there was no rush in him getting out;
Well Thursday, we got a call from the low income apartments and the lady said a two bedroom apartment is available and my fiance is first on the waiting list.
We were excited; after it set in, I begin to stress. I'm terrified we won't make it finicially. My grandmother told me if I moved in with him, that she would disown me; I feel like I am almost 21 years old, I should be able to make decisions for myself, and not have to worry about someone hating me and never talking to me again.
My parents told us to pass on the apartment and stay longer so we can save up more money, and my fiance can buy him a new car, (his has done nothing but give him problems)
So there isn't any rush of us to get out, unless we truly want our own privacy and space.
I guess what I'm looking for is a little word of advice? What should I do about my disapproving family? My father is fine with it, along with my mother; its just my aunts, granmother, ects.
What are some items you need to move into a first apartment (things most people forget about?)
Do you think its wise to go ahead and buy certain items slowly, so when we are ready for an apartment, we have everything we need, and aren't stressing on how we are going to come up with money AFTER moving in and paying bills?? Or do you think thats a terrible idea?
Any useful hints you can give, would be appreciated. I don't wanna have these jitters of being without my parents forever; guess I don't like growing up, haha.
BTW-These apartments are 600ft from my parents house; I feel like I'm scared of failure, because no one believes my boyfriend and I can make it? (link)
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If its going well with living with your parents, then why move out. You both are young, working, and full time college students. I would finish school first. This will allow you both to qualify for jobs that will financial support you two.
I'm not saying you won't make it, but you are both very young. You have a good thing going right now. As long as your parents and you both are happy living with one another, then why ruin a good thing.
I am 24 years old and had a similar experience. I would save money, by a car, put money away for a wedding and save for a house.
Contact me if you need further advice!
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