My boyfriend got a phone number from a chick. I found the number and confronted him. He says they only talked on the phone and never spent any time with her. When I called her she stated the same. Was he cheating by getting her number and calling her?
Well, I would say that it\'s not cheating based on what you\'ve said BUT that is kind of disrespectful since he\'s already in a relationship. Just tell him how you feel and hopefully he doesn\'t do that anymore.
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Female / 17
My boyfriend and I tried to have sex a few days ago. ( I'm a virgin, he is not.) He couldn't get it fully in because I couldn't stand the pain. What could help me to stand the pain?
There is nothing that you can do other than to relax as much as possible and bear with the pain. I'm sorry!
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Im 11 im dating a 14 year old am i old enough to have sex with him if so can i get pregnant cuz he says he wants to have a family with me rite now
Hello there.
First let me say you're 11 years old. You should focus on school, playing outside, and being with friends not sex and creating a family. The both of you are really young, way too young to have kids since y'all are just kids yourself. Please put the thought of children far out of your mind. You may think that it's sweet that he wants to be with you and become a family, but y'all can wait. If he loves you, he'll wait. Also, once that baby gets here it'll be here and there will be no turning back it won't be just about you and him anymore y'all will have a baby to raise. It's even stressful for adults I don't think y'all are ready for a baby. It's cute but it's real and it'll change your whole life. I hope this helps you
-A.B
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Well basically there is this guy at my skl and he's asked my best friend a couple of times if I would give him head,or a hand job ,so after skl my friend deliberately planned for us all to play dirty dares( basically 21 dares but the dares are sexual) and she sort of kept bringing up that this boy wanted me to wank him off, to sort of force us into it anyways so he got all shy coz he thinks his dick is too small etc. But he says he wants to do it and I sort of want to but he has a girl friend in another school and he wants me do it in the park? If I did do in the woods in the park and he has a girl friend would this make me a slut? And did I mention I'm only 13 and so is he we only just got into yr 9 , any tips on hand jobs?
First off, dear, there are so many other things that you could be doing at 13. This shouldn't be one of them! But I will say, no it does not make you a slut because you decide to fulfill this guy's wish. If you want the honest truth, all 3 of you are wrong because he has a girlfriend, you are aware that he has a girlfriend, and if your friend knew he had a girlfriend she shouldn't have set this up. Put yourself in her shoes, would you like it if your boyfriend got a hand job from another girl at his school just because you weren't around? If it doesn't bother you, well then alright but if it does disturb you just a little bit or a lot then you shouldn't do it. It's not fair to her and it's not right. You should respect their relationship, but it is not all your fault because first HE should respect his own relationship; if he and his girlfriend are on bad terms and they're about to break well then I have nothing to say other than give them a chance to break up first but if he's just cheating just to cheat.. and you're helping him cheat then the both of you are to blame and you should kind of feel used (just saying). Sorry, that you probably didn't want to hear this but it's the truth. Best of luck to you :)
-A.B
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Me and my boyfriend is thinking of having sex and im kinda scared cuz I've seen his penis before.im just soo scared. He's 15 im 13
Never get into anything that you're not completely ready for. You're only 13 so you don't have to rush due to peer pressure or because you think it'll be fun. I say you guys should have a heart-to-heart talk before you indulge into the world of sexual experiences. It can have a huge effect on you, definitely make sure it's what the two of you want to do.
Best of luck
-A.B
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very much in love and committed to each other. We've discussed marriage openly and comfortably on several occasions. I can't tell you how happy I feel about becoming his wife and building a family with him someday!
We are both Freshman in college and we go to different schools now. Our relationship has been put to the test this semester because this is our first time not being together every day (like we were in high school!)
In high school, I would go through stages where I would develop a crush on someone other than him on more than one occasion. (Is that terrible?) I NEVER acted on my feelings and remained loyal to my boyfriend. Eventually the romantic feelings would go away. I would always bounce back temporarily too of course when I was hanging out with my boyfriend.
This time is different. Now, I think about my manager even while I'm with my boyfriend. We flirt at work and while we text. Once I got a hug and I thought my heart was going to leap right out of my throat! It's not my actions but my feelings that are making me feel guilty, like I'm cheating on my boyfriend! I will check the schedule to see if we are working together and if we are, I will spend more time on my hair or makeup than usual...
I think about him all day and before I go to sleep at night. I cannot tell you what it is about him. I find myself so attracted to him suddenly and we've been working together for awhile now.. He does not have the easiest life (crush). No car, house and no ambition really. I picked him up and brought him to church once hoping the Lord would speak to his heart and he would get help. Is this pity?
I want to be a friend to him, truly. I just think about kissing him too.
I am praying to God that these will go away - I don't want to do something stupid like act on them and hurt my boyfriend. I could never see myself in a long-term relationship with my manager anyway, so why am I entertaining the idea of being with him?
I'm telling myself that I just care a lot about him (which I do, genuinely) and that the romantic feelings will subside. Now I am tormenting myself with questions like, "Is this really what you want?" or "Do you want to be tied down?" This is scaring me! I've considered maybe I am falling out of love.
I want to stay good friends with my manager but I don't want to lead him on or feel guilty for liking him too much. Am I changing? Is what I want in life changing? I don't wanna fall out of love. I hope this is normal like everyone says.
First, let me say that this is normal. Very normal! You can be deeply in love with someone and be attracted to someone else. You can't help your feelings. I will say, be very careful that you do not take it overboard and act on your feelings one day! I would actually advise you to stop flirting with anyone other than your boyfriend period because flirting does indeed lead to other feelings, but that is not my place. Stay true to your boyfriend, remember how much you love him, and what has kept y'all together all this time. Do not sacrifice it for someone whom you cannot see yourself with in the future. It may be fun now but the consequences are severe. Now, don't feel bad because this happens to everyone. It's apart of your imagination which is why you entertain the idea, you may not mean any harm by it but you simply cannot help your thoughts. We're human! As for questioning things; doubt is also natural, especially for relationships, especially for girls. It's just something we do. However, catch yourself and remind yourself that there is nothing to worry about and that everything will work out fine. I don't think you are falling out of love but only you will know for sure. Like I said, not flirting with your manager will definitely help the situation. I hope this helps you :) best of luck to you and your boyfriend!
-A.B
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what the heck'is' A boner??
It is an erection. Most often called when a guy gets "hard"
Hope this helps you :)
-A.B.
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ok im 17/f
i like two guys but i need to narrow it down to one, cause i cant lead them both on. i have no idea so im looking for your opinions.
max: he is 19. At uni, works. Not the best of looking but really nice with a good sense of humor, really smart and is a challenge (which i like), he rides a motor bike which is a bonus but down side is he is VERY religious and we have very different views on the topic, generally leads to a massive debate or fight.
Mitch: 18, works. really good looking, very caring and he is a good listener, always telling me he misses me and always asking to see me again. down side we dont have alot in common, he doesnt get my sense of humor and sometimes i think its an act.
so im stuck, there both great guys! how do i know which one to choose? and how do i let the other one know i cant be more than friends?
Hi!
First let me say it's always tough picking and choosing between guys. So, I feel for you. I personally think the better choice seems to be Mitch, because he's caring and he LISTENS to you and he seems to want to spend time with you, guys have other things that they can do with their time so if he's willing to spend time with you out of plenty of other things then he probably does like you. Not to mention he's good looking which is a plus! You say you think it's an act sometimes, doubt is natural especially for girls, and we need to be told things for confirmation so ask him how he feels about you. He doesn't get your sense of humor..maybe the more time he spends around you he'll get used to it and the not much in common.. well they say opposites attract but I don't really know if that's true. Sorry! The other guy, Max, the religious differences can be tolerated. You can both respect each other's views and not boost about your own religion. At least, he is religious though. Sad to say, I cannot choose for you. You've still got to make this hard decision on your own just take in consideration the pros and cons of both. A LIST WOULD ACTUALLY HELP!! And if they come out even, which should be unlikely, well you can either choose neither or you can pick whomever you have the most chemistry with.
The other hard part! How to let the other one down gently. Hmm.. You can use the famous line "it's not you, it's me" whatever that means. Or you can take a better approach and meet with the other guy face-to-face and tell him that you just don't think he's right for you but that you would really like for him to continue to be your friend; or put that in your own words. Hope this helps you out :)
-A.B
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If my boyfriend asked me out I say yes but then 3 days later it is like I don't even exist He aint talking to me any more and he is chatting with the boys what should I do ?
Communication is one of the most essential skills to have in a relationship or trust me, it will not last. If you want to continue being his girlfriend you need to have a talk with him. Tell him that you feel ignored and try to work on it. I hope this helps.
-A.B
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19/F/Bi
I moved into my flat at university a week ago, and it didn't take long for awkward feelings to arise. I really fancy one of my male flatmates, let's call him H. When we first met we instantly clicked and got on really well, but for some reason that went away quickly and now we're not very comfortable around each other. I think it's possible this has something to do with the fact that he's very extroverted whilst I'm very introverted.
To make matters worse, I'm also somewhat attracted to one of my female flatmates, N. And N and H have gotten very close and appear more than just friendly to me. They act like they're just friends - and H is actually interested in another girl on campus - but then they'll do things like hold hands in the back of taxis and tell each other they love each other. It seems like it's only a matter of time before something happens between them. I'm just finding it really difficult to watch and to be around them all the time, and yet I want to have some kind of friendship with them.
I think my feelings for H wouldn't be such a big deal were he simply a friend I saw every now and then, but because I live with him, they're intensifying and seem to get stronger each day. I feel like we'd get on very well if given the chance, but as it is, he seems pretty much indifferent to me, and I'm terribly awkward around him.
It seems crazy that all this has happened in the space of a week, but I guess things develop quickly in this kind of environment. I just don't know what to do. Part of me wants to try and pursue H, but a) I don't want to fuck things up with someone I'm going to be living with for a year, and b) I don't even know how I'd go about it. I've been coming to terms with my sexuality for a couple of years, and for a long time I thought I was gay so I started giving off an 'I'm-not-interested' vibe to guys, and I can't stop doing it - so now on the odd occasion that I am interested in a guy, I'm probably still giving that vibe off.
I just really, really like him, and it means I spend a whole lot of time feeling jealous and awkward and upset. And it's starting to get in the way of my being friends with him because I don't know how to act around him.
How would you suggest I deal with this?
Hello.
Well, first off I'm sorry that this has happened to you. It's really awful to have mixed emotions about someone. In response to your question, I think you should try to get over your flatmate. For 1) Like you said, you guys will be living together for a year and it'll be more than awkward if you guys date and then it doesn't work out so well. For 2) He sounds like he might be a "player/a flirt" and I'm not saying that he is, but that's what it sounds like to me. He is holding hands with 'N' in the backseat of a taxi and telling her he loves her, yet in the beginning the two of you had hit it off, and then you say he's ALSO interested in somebody else on campus. It seems like he can't make up his mind! You might feel jealous and upset now because you have feelings for him and you want to be with him but that would probably not be best for you anyway. I think you should get over him and try to find someone that you can click with instead of making things more increasingly awkward for you and your flatmate. However, overtime the 3 of you; 'N', 'H', and yourself can probably all become good friends.
Hope this helps!
-A.B
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hi dear!!am 20 years old female(India). one boy loves me sincerely.even i do..he is so much possessive.. he will not let me to talk with any other boys because of his possessiveness..but sometimes i hate him because of this attitude because i will not be able to talk to any other boys even though i think they are my good friend.... he always cares for my proper dressings..always he warns me to dress up neatly..i assure you i always dress up neatly..sometimes without my knowledge my shawl can move aside.. but he never forgive me for that.. always he scolds me in public that i wanted to adjust my shawl..even he has bet me once in our bus-stop before all because of this shawl matter.. i was so much hurt when i asked for the reason crying he said i bet you because your shawl was not proper and so happy that i have full rites to beat you since you are my wife like that he said...also if i put mobile in silent mode then if he is not able to contact me he will get more tension and scolds me like a hell... all these silly matters hurts me a lot.. but still he loves me he cares for me like heaven..he is in true love with me... whenever he scolds me i feel like hating him and i feel like i lost my life totally..Even though i think to leave him my heart is not allowing me..am suffering to see him lonely..because he has no friends in college...what should i do???is this kind of love important??always it ends up with a fight whenever i think to be happy with him... i cant lead a good life..he is the person who can do anything for me.he is my family friend too..am the girl always wanted to be happy..always i should feel free..i hate anyone who comple me to do something..but in this love am happening to sacrifice many things..if i change my character and sacrifice all the things for my guy,wil i be able to be happy?? if i decide to leave him,there will be no one for me who cares for me but at the same time i wanted to be happy..what should i do??please help and advice me....
Hello.
I must start off saying that as much as you may have heard the saying, "Love hurts" it is NOT true. Love should never hurt and if he's beating you I don't understand what kind of love that is. If he truly loved you, he would not beat you over a shawl and he would not embarrass you in public. Possessive people usually have some sort of an insecurity about themselves, I'm going to guess that you are very pretty and he fears that he will lose you to another, so he instills fear into you so that you will be too afraid to leave him. You say you don't want to see him lonely because you love him yet you want to be happy. You sound scared, not happy. You have to remember to put yourself first, do what is best for YOU first or you can do no one else any good! You have to remove yourself from this abusive, love-hate relationship because it sounds like you love him but he does not love you back. He may say that he does and he's sorry and he'll never do it again but I can assure you that he will! If he'll hit you once he'll do it again the next time he is mad. Please gather your things and divorce him because I'm sure someone MUCH better is waiting to love you properly the way you deserve to be loved. Never settle for less. I hope that you will take this advice and that it helps. You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. It is not too late!
-A.B
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I have yellow discharge. What does that mean?
Off-white, yellowish discharge generally means you have some sort of a vaginal infection. If it itches, burns, or has an unpleasant odor, more than likely you have a yeast infection. No worries! It's not the end of the world, you can go to your doctor and get a confirmed answer. Thankfully, you can clear it up in about 3-7 days if you use Monistat, which you can purchase at Wal-Mart. I hope this helps!
-A.B
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so i've liked this guy for 4 straight years. and he's known that. i've never had a full on conversation with him. he now has a girlfriend and whenever he's with her and i come around he will kiss her in front of me, or tell her she's beautiful and that he loves her. oh, and he will say it loud enough for me to hear. before he has a this girlfriend he would look at me constantly and it seemed like he would always want to get my attention. he still does that now, but not as much. Do you think he's trying to make me jealous? is he trying to see what my reaction is? cause honestly though i'm not jealous.
Yes, I think he's trying to make you a little jealous or just being a boy! He might be trying to get a rise out of you, in hopes that you will move on. I say forget about him and find someone of your own.
Hope this helps you
-A.B
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so last night me and my sister got into a little argument about her moving back to IL wit my mom myself and little brother. so i kept begging her to come up here because once i grauate h.s she wants me to move wit her and i was telln her that i cant just up and leave my family. i became very mad and told her like all she do is want to be distant from her fsmily she left us once when she 13 now that my dad died she came back just for the funeral which i think is wrong like if your family is going through tough times why would you leave again i feel like she just run to avoid stuff so i told her that and now shes mad i havent spoke to her since yesterday i dnt feel like wat i said was wrong but im hurtn idk what to do should i apologize or not
You should ONLY apologize for making her angry. Do not apologize for saying how you feel. Maybe you guys could sit down and talk it out. She is your sister, make up don't hold grudges.
Hope all works out
-A.B
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So me and this guy were friends for 3 years. And I never like liked him. Until lats friday. I rally like him. So he asked me out* he gave me hugs like 10 times a day. I just want to know if I should like kiss him on the cheek or something??* thX!!! 14/F
You said you really like him and he asked you out meaning he likes you too. You should definitely give him a kiss on the cheek, and as time progresses maybe even on the lips. :)
I hope your relationship works out
-A.B
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I've known this boy since we where little but when we grew up we lost touch. And last year I had a friend tell him that I like him and since then he has been staring at me. I wonder if he likes me or not. Im a girl and I,m 13.
Usually younger guys tend to stare or become "starstruck" by something fascinating. I am saying that you fascinate him meaning that yes, he probably does like you.
Hope this helps you :)
-A.B
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Hey Everyone! My best friend was dating this guy...
He ended up cheating on her and she told me "I'm going to commit suicide. I'm done."
When she said that, I just wanted to beat that boy with a hammer.
Anyways, he really hurt her and i'm scared she'll commit suicide. I really don't know what to do. She hasn't smiled at all today after this happened (I wasn't there when this happened because I had to talk with my math teacher). What do I do?! If she goes down, I go down with her.
Suicide NEVER solves anything. It only leaves the hurt and mental anguish to rest upon those that care for you. Tell her that time heals all wounds and that even though she hurts now she'll smile again! Try to cheer her up. Make her feel comfortable and allow her to open up to you. Tell her that love will come again and that he's not the only guy on the planet, someone will come along and appreciate what he is missing out on. Just make her feel good about herself :)
Hope this helps you
-A.B
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I am feeling so lonely , all of my friends are boring and they ignore me for no reason .. i just need to make new friends .....but i just cant find
I'm sorry that you feel lonely. Loneliness is an awful feeling for anyone. There are always opportunities to meet new people and make friends though. You can switch groups at school and try to talk to different people. Maybe someone you've always wanted to talk to, someone that looks interesting, or someone in your class.
I hope this helps you
-A.B
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I'm 16 and female. The guy I like is 17 and my brother's friend and he's always staring at me and sometime's I hear him tell my brother that I'm 'really hot' or something like that. He also talks to me a lot when he's over and we flirt occasionally. The only reason I think he might not like me is because a few days ago was our homecoming and he went with someone else. He did come up to me during the dance though while his date was in the bathroom and we hugged :). Does it seem like he likes me? And if it does, should I make a move?
I definitely think he's interested in you. He may have chosen to go to homecoming with someone else because he didn't think you'd go with him or maybe she asked him first but he did come over and hug you. That means he acknowledged you, he's not a jerk and just shrugged you off which is great! Maybe you should just give him a little time to open up to you more, drop subtle hints that you're interested in him too. If things start to look better, make a move... Or wait for him to make one first. However, I think he likes you:)
Hope this helps you out!
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