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I need advice: I am feeling so lonely
I am feeling so lonely , all of my friends are boring and they ignore me for no reason .. i just need to make new friends .....but i just cant find
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I'm sorry that you feel lonely. Loneliness is an awful feeling for anyone. There are always opportunities to meet new people and make friends though. You can switch groups at school and try to talk to different people. Maybe someone you've always wanted to talk to, someone that looks interesting, or someone in your class.
I hope this helps you
-A.B
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Anyone could find friends. Classrooms are one of the highest ranks of how many people find their friends. Don't be afraid to ask them if you could hang out with them. Everyone deserves a friend. And if your friends are ignoring you, don't bother even caring about them.
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AdviseMistress is right in the advice she has given. I will expand upon it as it is very much the same advised I give when asked this question.
I came up with the method I am about to explain to you when I was much younger. My family moved around a lot and I developed this way of finding and making friends as I needed too out of necessity. I didn't know it then but I do now that the reason this works is that the key to making friends is having something in common. When your the new kid on the block this is a big help. You may not be the new kid on the block but having something in common with someone is still the great icebreaker to forming a new friendship.
Sit down with pen and paper and make a list of all the things you enjoy doing. Include sports, religious activity, hobbies,camping, hiking, any particular classes you may enjoy and even things like cooking and baking. I happen to now enjoy cooking and have made a lot of friends through the exchange of recipes, both male and female friends.
Once you have your list together number them in order of there most interest or popularity to you. Then sit down with the school newspaper and your local weekly news paper and look for clubs and activities for your age group for your top 5 to 10 interests.
Once you have a few clubs or activities of interest attend a few meetings and participate in some activities. Most clubs will allow you to participate in several meetings before asking you to join to make sure you and the club are a good fit. These clubs and activities are things you have knowledge and interests in. Something you can hold a knowledgeable conversation in or ask people to help you learn more about the subject or activity. This is the foundation of a budding friendship as you get to know someone a friendship can be built.
Having something in common with someone is key in any relationship. Be it friendship or romance. As the saying goes beauty is only skin deep. One day you actually have to speak to one another and if their is nothing in common to speak about the friendship or romance whithers and dies.
I know what I am suggesting sounds strange. I also know it works and have made this recommendation hundreds of time here to others. No one has written back to say it didn'two and it has worked for me. It will work for you. Like anything else we do friendships take effort. My advice is the beginning of the effort.
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Well maybe find a group to join or get into something you like to do (sports, dance, arts, etc). By doing something you like to do with others you can connect faster because you have something in common. Maybe find a club to join. Be active and I'm sure you'll find some other friends to hang out with. Good luck!
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