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I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
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I'm so sorry. However you need to stop being so hard on yourself. I believe things happen for a reason. People come in and out of your life for a reason. Take this time to take care of you.
So because everyone else is getting married and having kids that means you need to do the same? I suggest working on self care and taking care of you. I recommend listening to Mel Robbins and Gabrielle Bernstein. It's time to turn the page and start a new chapter.
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I live in a house with an 85-year-old who had cancer surgery in March and a 64-year-old mother, a brother in his 30's and a small child. I have been very careful to wear a mask and gloves and obey for the past 5 months every health stipulation to do with Covid-19.
Not to get political because the disease is not a political thing but in the U.S. they've rushed things in some states and the president hasn't helped by denying the existance of it at first and not trusting the experts like Fauci.
One of the things that has led to surge of cases is reopening bars, night clubs and virtually every other business you can think of in some areas. Doing so has resulted in spike of cases and some deaths.
Meanwhile, I live in Canada where they've closed the border and until recently you couldn't even gather with more than 5 people at a time. What has happened here is that there's 4 stages of reopening. We just entered Stage 3 which allows nearly all attractions, movie theaters and bars to reopen.
I have ZERO interest in bars, nightclubs, performance venues, indoor restaurant dining or any establishment that could be a breading ground for the disease.
I would just like to go downtown to the aquarium or even to the park, a museum or anything having been holed up here for 5 months with the same people.
My mother refuses to let me go anywhere but Wal-Mart or the corner store and always asks me where I'm going or if I want to kill my father and everyone else in the house by dragging Covid-19 in. It's an enormous guilt trip and I would like to have my freedom back. I get that she's paranoid and the reason for it and that she thinks things will end up like America. We've taken months to reach where we are and health experts have got us here.
I'm not trying to be selfish but I think if health experts have required businesses and attractions to submit a proposal for opening and are adhering to strict rules that it's not an issue to visit these places if you have a mask, gloves and are being bloody careful.
The only indoor venue I would want to go to that is iffy is a movie theater but not until I knew nobody who went to one here became ill. They have limited occupancy to 50 people per screen and blocked off seats and entire sections in the theaters and it's all reserved. You have to wear mask and gloves the entire time you are there.
I'm hoping you will have ideas on what I can do to get her to see that while nothing is 100% safe that this is as good as it gets and public health can shut businesses down for non-compliance with rules.
She also doesn't want me to go to parks for exercise or large ones downtown with a zoo or take public transit anywhere. I can understand the transit part but being outdoors is important.
I'm more concerned for my own mental health than anything else because these are the only 5 people I have interacted with other than my aunt for months and have been holed up in my room otherwise. I need to get out of this place.
Before Covid-19 I was going to theater, comedy clubs, major attractions and movies. It was incredibly difficult for me when that ceased and I had to find other outlets and things to do from home. You can't stay sheltered in one place for too long. (link)
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's a tough place to be especially with all the misinformation going around. I would say as long as you are being careful than go out to where it's safe. I always make sure I'm wearing a mask and gloves if I'm at the store. I even have hand sanitizer everywhere I go. It's important to remember that your mental health is important consider maybe talking to a therapist. And as for fun try this website Better Off Inside it's got trivia every Tuesday and Friday. It's a lot of fun. Hopefully 2021 will be different!
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My best friend got a boyfriend and has ditched me and it feels crap. What do I do ? (link)
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I’ve been there and I agree it sucks. I’ve also been the one in the relationship where I spent all my time with my significant other. If it’s a new relationship this is normal and can be considered the ‘honeymoon’ phase.
Have you tried talking to her? If so, then there’s only so much you can do. You can’t push someone to be friends with you. Give it some time and she might start coming around again. Good luck!
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A while back I started getting really close to a guy (being a girl myself). We became best friends pretty quickly and I felt a strong connection to him. After months of friendship he confessed to me about having a crush on me and possibly even being in love with me. However, I’ve had a boyfriend for over a year and still am very happy with him, so I naturally turned him down. At first we seemed to be able to stay good friends but he has now told me that he feels like he is dependent on me and knowing that I cannot be his really upsets him. I obviously understand that he needs his distance from me to get over his feelings and move on but I haven’t stopped crying since he told me he needed space. I feel like our friendship is over because I have no idea how many tedts would be inappropriate and what I can and cannot talk about. I’m heartbroken at this loss of the best friend that i’ve ever had and don’t know how to act towards him and how to make sure both of us wre happy.. (link)
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I was in a situation similar to this. It's tough because you don't want to see him hurt but at the same time you can't give him what he wants: you. You probably don't want to hear this but you need to let him go. Give him some time to think about it and you never know as time pasts he may come back around. I can only imagine that every time he's around you it reminds him that he can't be with you. And I imagine you're upset because of the friendship ending. I suggest giving him some time and space for now.
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At school, I have a group of friends who sit at lunch together. One girl, I'll call her Sara, is really into anime. She wears mostly anime t-shirts, has a MHA backpack, the whole sha-bang. As a joke, we like to poke fun at her and her choice of clothing: things like. "Didn't you wear that shirt yesterday?" or, "Do you have any regular shirts in your closet?" Of course, we are aware that she is comfortable with this and she does not take it personally. Around 2 months ago, this other girl, I'll call her C, comes to our lunch table because 'all of her other friends left her.' Now, this girl isn't the best: her friends left her for a reason. But we said, sure, why not? Come join us. Big mistake. She has a ginormous ego and takes our jokes way too far. Whenever we try to poke fun at her like we used to, she'll crack jokes like; "This is why your mom doesn't f***ing love you!" This wouldn't be a big deal, but Sara has an abusive relationship with her mother that we've constantly made C aware of. One day, C calls Sara a fat*** and steals her lunch to eat it in front of her face. I decided enough is enough, and we tried to kick her out of the table. She threatened to cut herself if we did. I have a really rough past with this girl, so I said, "Okay, go do what you want, I don't care, you probably just want attention anyways." But since everyone else at the table only started going to the school district one or two years ago, they got worried and decided to give her another shot. I give her the silent treatment, as does most of us, but she still continues to take jokes too far and only cares about herself. What should I do to handle this situation? (link)
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Yeah C needs to find another table to sit at. I'm all for joking around but to call someone a name is wrong. You were right for speaking up and you should continue to do so. If she continues to do so than everyone at that table needs to take a stand and say stop. If it doesn't stop than she can't have lunch with you girls anymore. And if she threatens to hurt herself again get a teacher or adult involved and let them know whats she's doing.
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So apparently this guy that I like had a crush on me in the past (and might still? It was recent), but another girl is super forward about her crush on him, like leaning her head on him and stuff, etc. He usually looks pretty awkward but is still good friends with her. Him and I only recently finally started talking and texting each other. She's much more bold than me... it seems like he might be starting to like her. What do i do?? I used to be pretty cold (in order to hide I liked him), and recently started opening up a bit, and he is starting conversations and stuff now a lot more since then. But she is a lot closer to him and I don't know if he still likes/can like me again. Any tips on what to do? :') (link)
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Ask him! Whats the worse he could say? No?
You won't know until you ask. And just because this girl is outspoken does not mean a thing. He might be flirting with her to make you jealous..but the best way to find out is to talk with him.
Good luck!
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I've applied to dozens of jobs and even called to see if companies are hiring or to check on some applications. They all say to just apply online and wait for a response. I'm in school to be a patient care technician. I have my phlebotomy and EKG certifications. I'm trying to get some experience in phlebotomy or EKG but I have no luck. I've applied everywhere (link)
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Does your school have a career center? Maybe see if they do. They might have an internship or a connection at a local hospital. You can also try asking your professors for advise too. Maybe they have a connection at a hospital.
Good luck!
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While at a retreat,I share a suite with 3 other teens and other freshmen high schoolers everyone else was in the lobby including them while I was the only one to stay behind to go back to the suite I went in the bathroom when first walked in she went in her room and got on the phone with her mother I heard remnants of the conversation such as something about feeling someway probably such as “bad for” someone overhead then two other girls followed bursting into the room as if frantic one which I shared a suite with the other stayed across the hall, I came out of the bathroom asking what happened which they both said in unison nothing so I went back in the bathroom the one who didn’t stay in our suite left while the other two went back into the others room. I used the bathroom and came back out then plopped back down on the chair from which I could hear the ongoing conversation and heard “they think she’s weird because she has insomnia” or something like that I know they were talking about me because I was the only person to bring medication, which I told them them the previous day was not for insomnia but because I just couldn’t fall asleep I know what insomnia is and I wasn’t diagnosed with it I was only prescribed medicine. They later returned to check on me but after hearing what they said I returned to my room as if I was in there the whole time and didn’t overhear I opened the door and they jumped as if scared and ran away, they returned twice more asking if I was okay and what I was doing I responded as if clueless and told them I was going to bed. Are these fake friends? (link)
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They don't sound like people you want as friends. If their gossiping behind your back what else could they being saying? I would just be friendly with them but don't tell them any secrets or have any deep conversations. Keep your distance from them!
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Should i break up my 7 year marriage?
My husband is a gambler and we are aleays broke
I recently met a man who is a widower and livling
with his sister i like him but I think it is too soon for him to move in,
Please help
I am 53 Gentlemen in question are 63
Thank you (link)
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Have you tried fixing it? Have you gone to counseling? Has your husband gotten help?
I understand you maybe aggravated with the situation. I suggest trying to fix it first before moving on to another relationship. And even if you've tried fixing it why not give yourself a break and be single for a little. Why rush into this other relationship?
Good luck!
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okay so I like this dude named lucifer. We dont have any classes together or anything and when we text i always hit him up and today was like the first time we talked in person I just walked up to him and was like what class do u have next and he said computers why and i said oh i was just wondering. And im stuck should i stop hitting him up and wait for him to hit me up? should i just forget him and move on? i just really need help. (link)
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Why don't you just ask him if he wants to hang out? What's the worst he could say? No? If you really like this guy you don't want to regret not taking a chance and asking him. Maybe he feels the same way. Whatever happens will happen. Good Luck!
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When I finally get to the point that I feel like I am ready to socialize with people who may or may not be sober, I face this question, “Do I want to go to happy hour?” Anticipating the changes I will face after leaving recovery rehabs. (link)
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You don't have to go to bars to meet people. There are plenty of other things you can do. Join a club or maybe a meetup if there is some in your area. Do you have a sponsor? Maybe talk to them when you feel like going to happy hour.
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So there’s this job that would be perfect for me, that requires two qualifications,I’m not qualified for it yet but by the time the job starts (May) I would be qualified for it because it’s something I’m going to learn at school so if you were in my shoes would you still apply or just find a another job? (link)
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Go for it!
Don't let the qualifications stop you. Let them know how interested you are about the job. Good luck!
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I have to take this class but there's only 3 students enrolled so far. It has been postponed but this class is a requirement for me to take. What if they never get more students enrolled? (link)
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I would check with your advisor. Maybe there is an option to take it online at another school or maybe it's offered in a different semester. The best bet is to check with your advisor.
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My boyfriend wants me to introduce myself to his mother while his in Dubai. I have no idea what and how. Advice please. (link)
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I don't agree! It's your boyfriend's job to introduce you to his mother. Once he gets back from Dubai he can plan something where you and his mom can meet.
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Have had this friend name Robert that has been through high school with me all the way and has stuck by my side through my highest and lowest points and has prevented many incidents where I could have been in serious trouble and he clearly stated to me and others that he never gave up on me or left because he believes in me and knows that I have potential and both of us are seniors in our school's band program. Some stuff happened yesterday and I got him called into a room with a school staff member and we talked through my concerns and he clearly stated to me that he wasn't mad at me and that I he and I were still friends and there was never a time when we weren't friends but he asked me bluntly with no exceptions what he could to to keep anything from happening wrong between us again and I just don't know how I can keep things going strong for the rest of our senior year. (link)
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It sounds like you're putting way to much pressure on the friendship. Just be. I know it sounds odd to say that but it's true. You can be there for one another you don't need to make out this massive plan. Just relax and know that he has your back and you have his. You on the other hand need to stay out of trouble whatever that may be. Good Luck!
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I am a 27 year old female and their is this guy that I like that goes to the college I go to and he is 40 years old. I wanted to know if it's a bad idea for me to ask for his number? Would it make me look desperate? Should I just sit and wait around for him to ask me? Is he to old for me? (link)
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This is really something you have to decide. You have to weigh the pros and cons. One of the pros being that it's nice to be in a relationship and it's nice to have companionship. One of the cons being that he is a lot older. Now that's not bad but it's definitely something to think about. He might have already been through marriage or has kids. Or maybe he doesn't want kids. I feel like at the age of 27 you still want to experience things. I feel like 40 year olds have been there done that. Again it's up to you and how you feel.
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16/f grade 10 im from south africa
So i dated this guy and i still liked him and then be told me he still likes me. Then the next day he wouldnt speak to me and this went on for 2 weeks of him ignoring me. Then the one day at school i found out from a friend that he likes my best friend and then my best friend told me she doesnt like him back. I gave her a lot of chances to tell me if she does like him and said if something happens between them she must promise to tell me. A week after this they started dating but she didnt tell me. She told me a few days after because she found out that i saw messages between them. She is sleeping at his house right now.
She knew that i like him and promised hes like a brother to her. I dont know what to do because i go back to school in two days and im scared to see them together and im just really hurt (link)
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It sounds like your friend isn't really your friend at all. I don't blame you for being upset. As hard as it is I would forget your friend and your ex. Meet new people and find a different crowd to hang out with. Your "friend" is obviously not someone that you can trust if she is going behind your back and not letting you know what's going on. Not only that but dating a friend's ex is not right. Don't let this get you down. Good luck!
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im girl 17, im in 3rd year in high school... i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush that i like him, in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him bc , i felt really relieved after i told him...two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels , during school (we didnt study , we just played games etc), i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him, he repeated it 5 more times :D :D, he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him... then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)...and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church , ..and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and he told not to act nervous before him,
if he´s my classmate should i continue to be friend with him ? , should i ignore him when the new school year starts, or should i talk to him like we used to ?,
THE MAIN QUESTION: he asked the whole class if we want to spend some days on his family´s cabin, i like the post on fb he wrote about it, but i dont know if i should go, wouldnt it be awkward? i didnt say goodbye to him on last day of school, i just ignored him, but i met him yesteday and we briefly said hello to each other ...so should i go or not ?? please help me :)
i thought he liked me:/..thats why i told him..if i knew i would never told him...now i guess i ruined my friendship with him..
i also didnt say anything about rejection to my family or my friends..im just kinda ashamed..my one cousin and my best friend know that i like him but they dont know i got rejected :/
PS: he doesnt want to be priest or something like that he is just little bit more religious (link)
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It's up to you! From the conversation that you had with him it sounds like he was flattered but doesn't want a relationship right now. It's up to you of whether you want to go or not. It will only be awkward if you make it awkward.
In high school I had a crush on one of my friends. I was embarrassed and didn't want to say anything. When I did I felt awful but he assured me that he was flattered but didn't feel the same way. We became friends after that...yeah it was weird but I got over him and started dating someone else.
It's totally up to you and how you feel with it. You have to feel comfortable but you also have to respect his wishes. Good luck!
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So I like this guy (he's a junior, I'm a freshman) but I don't know how to talk to him :(
School is over... he knows me, like he knows that I exist, we talk VERY briefly before, but he doesn't remember. I don't know hwo to talk to him... I have him on Instagram & Facebook... but it's weird to just message someone you don't know out of the blue.
What should I do? I don't wanna seem weird or creepy. Please help. (link)
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Why don't you message him? Or maybe comment on his photos or something? Do you have a mutual friend? Maybe you guys could have a group outing and find out more about him. Does he have any interest on social media? (His favorite movie, tv show, book, etc). Maybe comment on something that he likes...maybe you like it to. Common interests are always great conversation starters. I would reach out to friends and maybe people who know him. I met my husband through a friend and we've been together for 9 years :) Good luck!
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In school I hung out with this girl, we were best friends. She really likes Marvel and all that superhero stuff, and I know nearly nothing about it. She was talking to this other girl in my class and they found out that they both love Marvel. My friend stopped talking to me and spent all her time with the other girl. I'll try to talk to her but she either flat out ignores me, or tells me to shut up. It really hurts, and I have no idea what to do. I do have other friends, but she was my best friend, and I really miss her. (link)
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Why would you want to be friends with someone who ignores you or tells you to shut up?
You deserve better than that! No friend should ever treat you less even if you don't have a common interest. There was obviously something that made you guys friends what ever that may be. I would talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. I would also mention how it hurts your feelings and how you miss her. If she disregards you or doesn't acknowledge your feelings leave her be. I know it will be hard but you can't make someone be your friend but you should never let someone treat you badly I don't care who it is. Know your worth and hang out with your other friends! Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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