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School Troubles/Drama
At school, I have a group of friends who sit at lunch together. One girl, I'll call her Sara, is really into anime. She wears mostly anime t-shirts, has a MHA backpack, the whole sha-bang. As a joke, we like to poke fun at her and her choice of clothing: things like. "Didn't you wear that shirt yesterday?" or, "Do you have any regular shirts in your closet?" Of course, we are aware that she is comfortable with this and she does not take it personally. Around 2 months ago, this other girl, I'll call her C, comes to our lunch table because 'all of her other friends left her.' Now, this girl isn't the best: her friends left her for a reason. But we said, sure, why not? Come join us. Big mistake. She has a ginormous ego and takes our jokes way too far. Whenever we try to poke fun at her like we used to, she'll crack jokes like; "This is why your mom doesn't f***ing love you!" This wouldn't be a big deal, but Sara has an abusive relationship with her mother that we've constantly made C aware of. One day, C calls Sara a fat*** and steals her lunch to eat it in front of her face. I decided enough is enough, and we tried to kick her out of the table. She threatened to cut herself if we did. I have a really rough past with this girl, so I said, "Okay, go do what you want, I don't care, you probably just want attention anyways." But since everyone else at the table only started going to the school district one or two years ago, they got worried and decided to give her another shot. I give her the silent treatment, as does most of us, but she still continues to take jokes too far and only cares about herself. What should I do to handle this situation?
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Yeah C needs to find another table to sit at. I'm all for joking around but to call someone a name is wrong. You were right for speaking up and you should continue to do so. If she continues to do so than everyone at that table needs to take a stand and say stop. If it doesn't stop than she can't have lunch with you girls anymore. And if she threatens to hurt herself again get a teacher or adult involved and let them know whats she's doing.
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This kind of stuff needs to stop just as you said this is bulling she is already going through enough she wears what she can instead of mistreating her try helping b come a friend let her know that you can be a friend. The girl with the ego so high let it go before things get really, really too far
Suppose she decides to kill herself because of rude insults alot of people don't have money but they still attend school get good grades, and do become someone. Don't follow the leader, follow your mind. Two wrongs don't make a right.
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Ok, I admit, I'm not the best at answering questions, but I'll try my best. I think that since Sara is actually your friend you should stand up for her, and try to make your friends understand why they should too. If C keeps doing this, you might want to explain to her why this isn't okay, and tell her that this is her last chance and if she keeps doing this she can't sit by you anymore. If she keeps doing this despite your warning, you should tell her that she should leave. If your friends feel bad about it, explain how C's "jokes" make Sara feel. If they are true friends to Sara, they'll do what's best for her.
Hope that helped!
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