Member Since: May 14, 2019 Answers: 8 Last Update: April 16, 2020 Visitors: 1064
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Hi I don’t know so much about my desire to be under 90 lbs for the remainder of my life and I’m concerned I might be anorexic or worse and wanted to seek your advice on what could I possibly be facing. (link)
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Sorry for the late reply! It's actually kind of funny, I've been through something similar, and so it's kind of crazy that you picked me to help you! When I was in my early teen years, I got really self-conscious about my weight and I honestly wanted to be the lightest girl out of my friend group. I never got my issue diagnosed, but I'm honestly doing a lot better now. I don't know exactly what it is that you're facing, but I strongly encourage you to consult your doctor about this! It can seem scary, but you just need to remember that doctors have had thousands of patients before you, and they aren't going to judge you. I'm sorry if I couldn't answer this correctly, but I really hope you get better!
Thanks!
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Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much. (link)
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I'm not too good with this stuff, but my best guess would be that you're gender fluid. When someone is gender fluid, they don't have an assigned gender, it changes almost everyday. Some days they feel masculine and some days they feel feminine. I know some people that are gender fluid, and every day they simply tell those around them if they want to be referred to as a he, she or they,each day. Sorry if this answer was really bad, I've never answered a question like this haha. Good luck, and you can reach out to me if you have any further questions!
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Hello, I'm from Panama. I need to know if I'm overreacting or not, so here it goes: After a very long time using braces, I took them off on April and it was one of the best moments in my life because my teeth/smile have always been one of my biggest insecurities. After that I really gained a lot of confidence in myself and my self esteem went up...
The problem starts last week after going to a party with some friends from college; I took a lot of pics with them and when I woke up the next day, I wasn't expecting to find them all in the group chat with my high school friends, ALL of them completely SHOCKED over the fact that I took my braces off... Which would be totally ok if we hadn't met each other's back in May, June and July...So what does that mean? Do my friends even notice me at all? Do they really care about me? How could it be they didn't notice that while meeting in person? Should I be offended? (link)
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Okay, first of all, I've dealt with this before. When I got my braces off, I send my friends text after text with no reply. They didn't even notice I had gotten my braces off for weeks. I know how it feels to be ignored, so if you need someone to talk to, I'm here for you. This could just be a coincidence. A lot of friends I have just don't notice small details, so that could be the case with you. If you have mentioned that you got your braces off to them before, then this isn't the case. They could just be very forgetful, or it could be more complicated, which is more likely. I say you should give them a few more chances. It could just be an honest mistake, so wait and find out. If similar things happen, then you might want to consider finding new friends. You're in a stage in your life where you need good friends that will always have your back, and the friends you have now don't sound like that kind of friend.
Good luck!
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At school, I have a group of friends who sit at lunch together. One girl, I'll call her Sara, is really into anime. She wears mostly anime t-shirts, has a MHA backpack, the whole sha-bang. As a joke, we like to poke fun at her and her choice of clothing: things like. "Didn't you wear that shirt yesterday?" or, "Do you have any regular shirts in your closet?" Of course, we are aware that she is comfortable with this and she does not take it personally. Around 2 months ago, this other girl, I'll call her C, comes to our lunch table because 'all of her other friends left her.' Now, this girl isn't the best: her friends left her for a reason. But we said, sure, why not? Come join us. Big mistake. She has a ginormous ego and takes our jokes way too far. Whenever we try to poke fun at her like we used to, she'll crack jokes like; "This is why your mom doesn't f***ing love you!" This wouldn't be a big deal, but Sara has an abusive relationship with her mother that we've constantly made C aware of. One day, C calls Sara a fat*** and steals her lunch to eat it in front of her face. I decided enough is enough, and we tried to kick her out of the table. She threatened to cut herself if we did. I have a really rough past with this girl, so I said, "Okay, go do what you want, I don't care, you probably just want attention anyways." But since everyone else at the table only started going to the school district one or two years ago, they got worried and decided to give her another shot. I give her the silent treatment, as does most of us, but she still continues to take jokes too far and only cares about herself. What should I do to handle this situation? (link)
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Ok, I admit, I'm not the best at answering questions, but I'll try my best. I think that since Sara is actually your friend you should stand up for her, and try to make your friends understand why they should too. If C keeps doing this, you might want to explain to her why this isn't okay, and tell her that this is her last chance and if she keeps doing this she can't sit by you anymore. If she keeps doing this despite your warning, you should tell her that she should leave. If your friends feel bad about it, explain how C's "jokes" make Sara feel. If they are true friends to Sara, they'll do what's best for her.
Hope that helped!
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Is it normal to see something (a post etc.) about a tv show or something that doesn’t have any affect on your life what so ever and feel you chest and throat tighten for a second? I get this a lot when and I was just wondering if it’s normal or not? Is not always something online. Sometimes it just happens randomly. Sometimes it’s sudden but sometimes I can feel it coming and recently I was at a party and the music was loud and everyone was talking and I got really overwhelmed and I could feel it starting to happen so I sat down and tried to focus on breathing but then people kept talking to me and popping balloons and it was like zoned out but more extreme. I was faintly aware of what has happening around me but I couldn’t get myself to snap back to reality and then suddenly I couldn’t breathe at all. The only way I can get out of it when it’s that bad is by counting patters and stuff. I’m a teenager and I know a lot of people say they have anxiety and depression and stuff so I was wondering if it’s normal or if I actually have anxiety or something. (link)
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TV is actually a high stress thing to do, so you might actually have anxiety. You should probably consult a medical professional, but I think you might have it. Muscle tightening and feeling overwhelmed are symptoms of anxiety and stress as well. As for dealing with Anxiety, you should try avoiding caffeine and alcohol and maybe try buying some essential oils or maybe writing. Meditating is also helpful because anxiety and panic attacks are caused by overthinking. Good luck. Hope this helped. Maybe consult a consular or talk to someone about it.
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What do you do when someone tells you this boy likes you and you don’t really know if he does and it would be awkward if you just went up to the guy and said. “ hey do you like me”
I am 13 years old and in 7th grade (link)
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Ohh girl I feel you. According to WikiHow, it's best NOT to do that, but you could subtly flirt with him. You could smile at him more, brush his shoulder while passing him, or just start talking to him more. If he asks you if you like someone, you could play the old, "Yeah, you" trick and if he rejects you just say, "No I meant Yeah I do like someone, how about you?" Good luck. I'm in the same situation.
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Hi I have a anxiety ridden situation to deal with. My younger brother has recently started playing soccer and he wants me to go to his games and practices. The fact is though, one of his teammates is the brother of a girl who about 4 yrs ago when I was 17 who I ended up getting into a high school drama induced argument with over something stupid eventually lead to a scuffle where in the end she ended up getting the best of me & beat me up pretty bad.. I'm worried about going to his games and seeing her there and eventually somehow he finds out that she beat me up. He looks up to me a lot and will wonder why I don't go to any games. Plus I'm worried about what he'll think of me if he finds out that the sister of one of his teammates beat up his big brother?
Am I over thinking this and making to big a deal out of it? I keep wondering if he'll think less of me now especially since he'll probably have a million questions about it. I worry about him being ashamed especially if I have to admit to still being afraid of her. Or is there a chance that it's not as big a deal these days and he won't think much of it? Thank for any suggestions. (link)
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I think it's best to leave this all in the past. Take this as an opportunity to show that girl that you're a better person and that the fight didn't affect you in the long run. I think you should be brave, but also try to explain to your brother what vaguely happened. Everyone if afraid of something, and if he looks down on you for being afraid, he's the one that's wrong. You don't have to go to every game, but in the long run, who cares about some stupid little fight? Who's going to remember that in 30 years? Well, good luck. Hope it helped.
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Hello, I am from the Philippines. Since childhood I know everyone around me just see me as a weak and a low profile person. They just don't say it because it could hurt me. How to make people know that I am not someone like that? (link)
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I've felt like that before. I thinks it's best to just slowly become more outgoing and try to be yourself. It might take some time, but once you're comfortable, try to try something new, like a sport or a hobby. You could work on yourself physically, like I do interval running (Run a little, walk a little), which isn't hard but helps build muscle. You could also open up to some friends about how you feel and try to make people understand that that isn't you. Good luck. I hope this was helpful.
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