Member Since: May 15, 2019
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Is it normal to see something (a post etc.) about a tv show or something that doesn’t have any affect on your life what so ever and feel you chest and throat tighten for a second? I get this a lot when and I was just wondering if it’s normal or not? Is not always something online. Sometimes it just happens randomly. Sometimes it’s sudden but sometimes I can feel it coming and recently I was at a party and the music was loud and everyone was talking and I got really overwhelmed and I could feel it starting to happen so I sat down and tried to focus on breathing but then people kept talking to me and popping balloons and it was like zoned out but more extreme. I was faintly aware of what has happening around me but I couldn’t get myself to snap back to reality and then suddenly I couldn’t breathe at all. The only way I can get out of it when it’s that bad is by counting patters and stuff. I’m a teenager and I know a lot of people say they have anxiety and depression and stuff so I was wondering if it’s normal or if I actually have anxiety or something. (link)
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I think you should ask a doctor.
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Hello, I am from the Philippines. Since childhood I know everyone around me just see me as a weak and a low profile person. They just don't say it because it could hurt me. How to make people know that I am not someone like that? (link)
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Be confident.
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He has been rapping me and letting his friends have sex with me and now he wants me to have sex with a Great Dane dog (link)
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Leave him. He is abusing you. Report him.
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My story is actually pretty long but ill try to keep it short. I met this guy about two years ago, he wasn't my type but he seemed very nice so I gave him a chance. As the relationship developed I noticed his flaws such as anger issues - being rude and disrespectful. I myself have an attitude but its only when he starts. He's the type of person to make me believe that everything is me, he always tells me that its me me me and sometimes I believe it. Half of my family doesn't like him, my parents like him but thats because they don't know anything, The relationship has gotten to a point where its toxic, not only does he disrespect me but he has put his hands on me MANY times. he has broken many of my phones, my glasses, has pulled my hair, choked me, punched my head. God there is so much. HES UNEMPLOYED and I've been mining him for the past 10 months. Im paying his phone bill, his gym membereship, I give him money to get home, buy him food, ETC. this is getting out of control. WE don't even have sex anymore, he not affectionate and everytime I want to tell him how feel we end up fighting.he has seen me at my worst crying and begging for him not to leave and to just hug me and he has refused in the past. Im very upset and depressed sometimes feel like I'm going crazy. I miss the man I fell involve with. although he's done so much to me I still feel like he's a good person and I have hope in him, and I feel bad because I feel like deep down he is a good person. he just has really bad anger issues and a fucked up childhood but that just may be me justifying what he does. I need help, advice, now. I know the right thing to do is leave but I just don't know how. (link)
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Get away from him. I know it’s scary and you might still love him, but he is dangerous. The best thing to do is get support and leave him. Turn to your friends and family for help.
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CW: rape
Two weeks ago now, I engaged in sexual interactions with my boyfriend. I told him that I didn’t want anything to happen to me down there, because at the time I was uncomfortable with it, and also I had just had a UTI and I really didn’t want to inflame it, but that I would go down on him. He was angry that I wouldn’t let him, and even though I persisted he was still sexual, and made advances… I escaped to the bathroom and showered so I would be able to get away. When I got back, he was still really sexual and took the towel away.
I felt wrong about it, but I knew from experience that if I said no, he’d get angry and I’d end up paying for it. I’m a victim of rape myself, and sometimes I can’t have sex or do sexual things, but he told me I need to at least try to feel the mood, instead of just giving up before, which is completely fair. I tend to decide early on that I’m not okay instead of trying it first. So I tried and while it was uncomfortable, I knew that I could. I engaged in oral sex with him and he put his legs up, which is usually his cue that he wants anal play. I asked him if I could, and he said yes. I performed anal cunnilingus, and he came really quickly, and mentioned it and said it was great. Afterwards he had a counseling session to go to almost immediately after, so I stayed in my room while he left. I felt really good that I had made him get there so quickly (usually it takes twenty minutes, this time was more like 8 which is rare). I masturbated because I was proud of myself, and then met up with him after his session. He asked how my time since he last saw me had been, and I told him that I had orgasmed thinking about it…he blew up and was really angry. He felt used, like I had just used his body for my own pleasure, and said that he had thought that he would get to go down on me and he regretted it now because he didn’t. I felt really horrible. He had to go to class after that, and even though I know it’s wrong to do, I thought to myself that no, I get to have the right to my orgasms, and it’s okay for me to say no especially if it’s because of pain. When I told him that, he told me that I had sexually assaulted him because he wasn’t getting what he thought he signed up for, getting to go down on me, and I apologized over and over again. I must not have been clear enough. I wish I could be better, but this week is the anniversary of one of my rapes, and I just can’t be sexual. I know I should just try, but I can’t.
Things… haven’t been going well. I opened up to a friend about some things, and they said a lot of the relationship was controlling and bad for me, so I started bringing up conversations about breaking up, with that event as part of it. But today, he told me that I raped him. He told me that he didn’t want any of it, that he felt pressured to say yes to it and like he couldn’t say no. I didn’t know at the time. I didn’t know, I swear I didn’t. He revealed to me today that he had shook his head no at one point. I didn’t see it, but that doesn’t excuse it. I feel so horrible, and I apologized so much even though apologizing doesn’t cover it. I never thought I would be a rapist, I never thought I could become one of the monsters who have affected my life so much over the years. I have nightmares every night, I have PTSD and major depression and anxiety from it, and I can’t believe I could have done this to someone else.
How do I turn myself in? I never pressed charges against any of my rapists, but now I regret that. I know I’m a monster and that I need to be held accountable. Is it possible for me to file a report on myself? Accidental rape isn’t a thing, you can’t accidentally rape someone. Maybe the worst part is that even though I know what it’s like to be a survivor, I have wonders about whether he’s lying and manipulating me so I don’t leave him, which is horrible of me and I know it. I’m coming to this forum because I don’t have anyone else to talk to, I wasn’t allowed to talk to my friends and now they’ve drifted apart. How do I fix this? I’m desperately in need of advice, I can’t believe I did this, but I need help from someone, even if it’s a stranger. Please, help me. How do I make things right?
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You are not a rapist. If anything he forced you. You are a victim and he is manipulating you. Leave him. You will only get hurt in this relationship. Your body is not his.
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