Was making average 500 a week at an aerospace co. Covid hit and we slowly ran out of work. June 12 I began receiving $600 per wk aid+$349 from ca edd. Total $1826 every 2 wks. Now extra $600 is gone, might become 3 or $400 if new relief bill is passed. Now my old job is asking me to go back. Making $500 - gas and lunch leaves me about $380 a wk. Im married wife is working from home but will probably lose job due to company downsizing. Have a 9 and 3 yr old. We are currently living with her parents because they needed the extra $ and they have a big 4 bdrm house. My daily routine is making breakfast for everyone, watch my girls play with them but mostly im helping father in law with projects around the house. Most of which I pay for or at least help pay for. New kitchen sink & faucet, new stove and microwave, painting, new mower and weed eater and a ton of small stuff in between. So do I go back to make less money or continue helping in laws and spending time with kids
Hey there unemployment is temporary, If you are know making less due to the cut and are complete with the way things are with your family situation then you have to decide do you really want to go back, what will happen when your unemployment runs out. Helping out with projects, cooking is great but where will your funds continue to come from If you don't return to work. It seems as though you and your family are doing well and happy. The thing is you are on unemployment which is not a long term payment.Returning to work for less pay will be difficult but will it be enough to get by if you do decide to take it. Maybe you can try looking to work from home. But talk wit your wife to get her opinion on the situation and decide together.What ever make you,and the family happy I sure know that you are home the kids are very happy. include them if they are old enough to listen and understand see what they have to say.But in the end the decision is yours.
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I'm an 18 year old girl from the UK- but I don't wear makeup or anything, I don't drink, I rarely ever wear dresses, and I don't do anything to my eyebrows either- so I kind of feel left out when conversations about makeup, fashion or partying comes up.
My friends find it really strange- they're like 'how can you be confident enough not to wear makeup?'- but it's nothing to do with confidence why I don't wear it, it's just something that's never appealed to me. I'm not a very confident person full stop, I'm very shy- so it annoys me when people confuse the two.
And they've also all, since becoming 18, transformed into massive extroverts who drink regularly- whilst they were previously very introverted like myself, and I don't know why they've suddenly changed. 18 is the legal drinking age in the United Kingdom, but they're too much of party animals for my liking these days- do you think I should stop hanging around with them? They often wonder how I can have fun at parties without drinking, and I just find that a sad mindset and am kind of sad to see that they've changed so much.
Hey young lady you are still young and have your youth don't change that by transforming yourself into something you son't feel comfortable about then don't do it. Don't drink leave that to the ones who want to. Drinking bring the body down and as you get older wearing makeup, you need it in the future. beauty is skin deep. don't change for anyone but yourself. If your friends can accept that then they are not your true friends. If wearing makeup and occasional drinking makes you feel good. Lady go for it.
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My 18 Year old sister at this point wants me to hate her she constantly leaves the house everyday to do stupid shit, she says she’s going to the store but is really going to other people’s house to smoke or other stuff that idk. She walks out with a mask but takes it off once she’s outside, she doesn’t believe that corona virus is real and is being an ignorant fuck, me and my mom have to see her ass still since her college campus isn’t letting anyone on yet until a few months, I was counting down to this month in hopes that she could leave but now that she can’t I have trouble bearing with her being around me, especially with her putting our health at stake everyday over idiotic shit. What is there to do about this? She’s not a great listener so telling her anything wouldn’t be effective honestly.
You know what they say, a Hard head makes a soft Ass. at this point there is nothing that you can do. The fact that you keep telling her that what she can and cannot do is upsetting your sister more. The truth hurts. She know about the virus but don't want to follow the rules, but when it it home she will see. Let her do what she does but let it be know that until she uses the masks and sanitizes she need to stay away. she need to watching the news more especially about the college students that have the virus that don't want to wear a mask. You don't want to make yourself sick trying to prove a point.
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I am a 31 year old female a friend I are wanting to have sex we are not dating we are friends with benefits. I had my tubes tied when I was 30 years old which has been a year ago. He is just worried I could still in some way get pregnant even though I had my tubes tied a year ago. The reason I had my tubes tuned was because I have some learning disabilities and didn't think I would be a good parent. Could someone please tell me is there any possibility I could still get pregnant and what my options are to keep it from happening if we have sex ? We are planning on doing this Saturday help
Hi it's very rare that your tubes will come untied you need to consult your doctor for any concerns I have had mines tied for thirty three years and they are still tied. I didn't think about it. so have sex, have fun no worries.enjoy your life. the possibility of getting pregnant is slim to none.
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I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
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Hello, I am truly sorry that you are going through so much and your man has ditched you just before the marriage after three years. Let me tell that life don't stop there you are better that life goes on I hope that you tears have stop. I want to share something with you that an elderly lady once told me to do. I want you to try it too. First tell God the kind of man you want. write this Information in a letter describing the type of man you want be care of what you put in this letter of the type of man you are seeking you just might get it and not be happy. after you write this letter address it to yourself mail it. and when it come back DO not open put it a safe place. Remember that GOD sits high but looks low everyday. and if you need a friend please let me know I will be there for you and be a friend someone you can talk to share your feelings to.
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Hi I don’t know so much about my desire to be under 90 lbs for the remainder of my life and I’m concerned I might be anorexic or worse and wanted to seek your advice on what could I possibly be facing.
hello you could be heading for Danger. 90 pounds is very low see you doctor it's ok to be small but dont kill yourself trying to be skinny. who are you trying to impress. If you feel that you dont look good please talk with your Doctor for medical advise. anorexic is very dangerous at any age. by tslking with your Dr. they will give you great advise on this issue. please keep me inform on your situation.
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I live in a house with an 85-year-old who had cancer surgery in March and a 64-year-old mother, a brother in his 30's and a small child. I have been very careful to wear a mask and gloves and obey for the past 5 months every health stipulation to do with Covid-19.
Not to get political because the disease is not a political thing but in the U.S. they've rushed things in some states and the president hasn't helped by denying the existance of it at first and not trusting the experts like Fauci.
One of the things that has led to surge of cases is reopening bars, night clubs and virtually every other business you can think of in some areas. Doing so has resulted in spike of cases and some deaths.
Meanwhile, I live in Canada where they've closed the border and until recently you couldn't even gather with more than 5 people at a time. What has happened here is that there's 4 stages of reopening. We just entered Stage 3 which allows nearly all attractions, movie theaters and bars to reopen.
I have ZERO interest in bars, nightclubs, performance venues, indoor restaurant dining or any establishment that could be a breading ground for the disease.
I would just like to go downtown to the aquarium or even to the park, a museum or anything having been holed up here for 5 months with the same people.
My mother refuses to let me go anywhere but Wal-Mart or the corner store and always asks me where I'm going or if I want to kill my father and everyone else in the house by dragging Covid-19 in. It's an enormous guilt trip and I would like to have my freedom back. I get that she's paranoid and the reason for it and that she thinks things will end up like America. We've taken months to reach where we are and health experts have got us here.
I'm not trying to be selfish but I think if health experts have required businesses and attractions to submit a proposal for opening and are adhering to strict rules that it's not an issue to visit these places if you have a mask, gloves and are being bloody careful.
The only indoor venue I would want to go to that is iffy is a movie theater but not until I knew nobody who went to one here became ill. They have limited occupancy to 50 people per screen and blocked off seats and entire sections in the theaters and it's all reserved. You have to wear mask and gloves the entire time you are there.
I'm hoping you will have ideas on what I can do to get her to see that while nothing is 100% safe that this is as good as it gets and public health can shut businesses down for non-compliance with rules.
She also doesn't want me to go to parks for exercise or large ones downtown with a zoo or take public transit anywhere. I can understand the transit part but being outdoors is important.
I'm more concerned for my own mental health than anything else because these are the only 5 people I have interacted with other than my aunt for months and have been holed up in my room otherwise. I need to get out of this place.
Before Covid-19 I was going to theater, comedy clubs, major attractions and movies. It was incredibly difficult for me when that ceased and I had to find other outlets and things to do from home. You can't stay sheltered in one place for too long.
Hi after reading your story, I feel you, you do need to get need to get out. you family are afraid for their health because of their ages. you will become stair-crazy. Covid19 is serious but you cant completely shelter yourself from that you do have a life outside of that you are doing everything right. you parents must understand that life still go on.get out enjoy yourself you know what to do to be safe. they will just have understand that you cant be sheltered because of this. they need to get out as well go for a short walk with their masses. then they will see that you cant hide from the covid19. do you.
you need it.
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I’m 30 years old and with a guy almost for a year and a half, whose really a good guy with all the qualities that every girl ever wants, he treats me right, thoughtful, caring and wants my best, but i have my doubts not because of him, because of my ex that I’ve dated almost 5 months but still didn’t have the closure, because we parted in a terms that i didn’t understand a thing why we broke up, what were the reasons i still have alot of questions in my mind that keep eating me alive... it’s been 4 years we broke up and didn’t see each other since then, so recently i have this thought that i should talk to him to have the closure and move on with my life, but another thought is coming to me that i should just keep it in the past but im not getting that right.. so what should i do?? Should i talk to him even he’s engaged now,, he tried to contact me last month but because my boyfriend was near me i had to not return his call ..
Hi to answer your question it been 4 years and you ex is engage to be married I think that you should move own don't cause any problems in your own relationship the fact that he called and you didn't answer because you man was there you should have it could have been the closure that you need it this is still eating at you then call him let him know that you are happy that he is getting married even if you don't mean it. don't ruin your own relationship for nothing if you ex can move on so can you. If it really bothering you then call him so you can get the closure you need and want.
Good Luck
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My friend has been depressed ever since she was dumped,how do I cheer her up?
Hello it wonderful that you are there for your friend you know love hurts in so many ways the best thing you can do is just be there for your friend don't agree on anything just let them circumvent listen, hug, and continue to be a good friend. do things that will get their minds off of he one who dumped her she will need you more just because you are there. do let her know to not let nothing and no one steal her glory they are rejoicing the see that she is hurting.
Be Happy not Sad
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I am a 30 year old female and I live at home my mom and stepdad . I live at home because I have some disabilities. I just dentures and the place I went to did not do them right. My stepdad has took me 3 times already and refuses to take me again. The dentures are to big for mouthy. I can't even wear them . I don't drive due to anxiety. He yelled at me when I asked me to take me again. My mom can't take me due to an illness where she uses a wheelchair. I don't know where to turn. I even suggedted going on the medical van by myself because they take you to all appointments for free if you have Medicare but my mom said no to that. Is there anything else I can do to get these things fixed. I have been going around with no teeth.
Hello after reading this you need to make the decision on your own to go get your Dentures corrected if your parents are unable to or don't want to then don't tell them get your teeth anyway possible is there other family members willing to take you its hard going places without any teeth you already have a disability you don't need any more stares than you already get or you can ask friends I know there is someone who will be willing to take you if not the use transportation that's what they are there for.
I hope every thing work out for you
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I’m an 19 year old female dating a 21 year old male. For the sake of the site, we can refer to him as T. T and i have been together for 8 months. He treats me perfectly but become extremely uncomfortable in situations that have to do with his phone. He hides his phone at night from me and refuses to show me. I know this is bad but i’ve found his phone and looked through it while he was sleeping and didn’t find much. He constantly is reassuring me how much he loves me but he always gets so uncomfortable, secretive, protective etc if i ever bring up his phone. The only thing i found on his phone was brief snapchat’s of him asking for photos from a female who lives out of the city. When i somewhat hinted towards it he denied it. when i checked his phone he had deleted her off snapchat. He also has a really good friend (we’ll call her C) who he’s been best friends with for years. They message everyday and always try to make plans to hang out. I found out recently that they’ve had a sexual past. I know this is all over the place but i don’t know exactly what to ask. am i worried for no reason? and how should i bring up the things in his phone without telling him i went through it? is it bad to go through s/o phone?
Hello I think that sometimes it is bad to go through his phone you just may find something you don't want to see or read. if he is keeping his phone from you then there is a reason yes talk to him let him know that you did go through his phone and how you feel ask him if there is really something he don't want you to know or see. if he gets irate then ill start to worry if the love between the two of you is really real then don't push buttons that will cause confusions if he is hiding something you do have the right to know just don't go overboard Talk that the best you can ask for. If he is hiding anything about lady C you do need to know that's just what it is he shouldn't be so secretive hiding things from you. Remember what is done in the dark will come to the light be Patience.
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Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much.
Hey after reading your story it does feel like there is something going own.you must trust yourself and go with how you feel everyone gets confused from time to time. Which ever way you feel the most comfortable with then that's the way you should be don't mistreat yourself you just have to be real with yourself. Be happy either way it's your life and no one has to like it but you.
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At school, I have a group of friends who sit at lunch together. One girl, I'll call her Sara, is really into anime. She wears mostly anime t-shirts, has a MHA backpack, the whole sha-bang. As a joke, we like to poke fun at her and her choice of clothing: things like. "Didn't you wear that shirt yesterday?" or, "Do you have any regular shirts in your closet?" Of course, we are aware that she is comfortable with this and she does not take it personally. Around 2 months ago, this other girl, I'll call her C, comes to our lunch table because 'all of her other friends left her.' Now, this girl isn't the best: her friends left her for a reason. But we said, sure, why not? Come join us. Big mistake. She has a ginormous ego and takes our jokes way too far. Whenever we try to poke fun at her like we used to, she'll crack jokes like; "This is why your mom doesn't f***ing love you!" This wouldn't be a big deal, but Sara has an abusive relationship with her mother that we've constantly made C aware of. One day, C calls Sara a fat*** and steals her lunch to eat it in front of her face. I decided enough is enough, and we tried to kick her out of the table. She threatened to cut herself if we did. I have a really rough past with this girl, so I said, "Okay, go do what you want, I don't care, you probably just want attention anyways." But since everyone else at the table only started going to the school district one or two years ago, they got worried and decided to give her another shot. I give her the silent treatment, as does most of us, but she still continues to take jokes too far and only cares about herself. What should I do to handle this situation?
This kind of stuff needs to stop just as you said this is bulling she is already going through enough she wears what she can instead of mistreating her try helping b come a friend let her know that you can be a friend. The girl with the ego so high let it go before things get really, really too far
Suppose she decides to kill herself because of rude insults alot of people don't have money but they still attend school get good grades, and do become someone. Don't follow the leader, follow your mind. Two wrongs don't make a right.
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So....Its alot so my mom has been ill my whole life and when I was little, I saw her as my hero that she could do no wrong and my world revoled around her..I would have a gut feeling about some of her actions... but I couldnt possiablely go against her because she was always right...So as Im getting older I'm starting to realize the things she use to do would influence me... She hates my dad when I was little she would talk about him about an hour and make him like this evil man and things including my grandmother, who had taking care of her when my mother was extremely ill. My grandmother made her food and cleaned did a lot...My mom would talk behind her back since my grandmother has dementia and says the neighnbor are doing meth and things.. which keep in mind she cant. I love my mother and have come into terms that I cant change her; I can't make her happy or a postive person... It hurts to even say these things but I'm becoming my own person I'm growing up things need to change..She probhits me from spending time with my father... she doesent give me an explanation. but I know she is scared... but people change, grow...My father is sucessfully and happy with his life and our relationship has gotten so much better. and I feel like my mom doesn't like that..she still thinks on the past has her past mindset....Its sad honsetly... she tells me how I hurt her feelings and how hard she works to make me happy and things just because I say I want to go to my dad's house since its a bit calmer over there. I feel bad, that I just want to get away from her I truly do sometimes because I wind up getting in her negativity. she says she isnt negative she being reallistic that she says that I wont be able to move out because of rent... making feel horriable that If i dont even try I will be stuck in this place with her foever. What do I do? how will I be able to live on my own? not let her affect me so much? Be my own person?
Well the first thing is that your mother don't want to let you go and be alone. You are your own woman now. It's hard to let go she talks about your father because she didn't not want you to love him, to be close to him because of what they went through, so she thinks that since she hates him so much. Your grandma did a lot when she was I'll and she don't appreciate it her lost
You make your own decisions it you want to live alone then do it
Get to know your father your mother is going to continue to be negative that was her life with your father negativity never prosper. Enjoy life do all the things you want keep up with your grandma two wrongs don't make a right.
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So apparently this guy that I like had a crush on me in the past (and might still? It was recent), but another girl is super forward about her crush on him, like leaning her head on him and stuff, etc. He usually looks pretty awkward but is still good friends with her. Him and I only recently finally started talking and texting each other. She's much more bold than me... it seems like he might be starting to like her. What do i do?? I used to be pretty cold (in order to hide I liked him), and recently started opening up a bit, and he is starting conversations and stuff now a lot more since then. But she is a lot closer to him and I don't know if he still likes/can like me again. Any tips on what to do? :')
First of all stop being shy you may be giving up a great man if you want him to notice you then tell him how would he now how you feel if you don't tell him besides little justures. Trust yourself give it a shot
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I'd like to stop using OTC medicines. I'd like a recommendation for a book that has great reviews and since I'm new to this any advice is greatly appreciated.
It all depends on what you are looking for. you can always go online and look for the type of book you are looking for to get your mind off OTC.
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I was in the poultry department today and the nice looking guy behind the counter asked me what was I cooking, I said fried fish, spaghetti, mac n cheese and peach cobbler and he said oh that sounds good, and he said ill bring the wine...I just lol....was he making a move and my silly but was too silly to see that....
Could be just a joke don't take it seriously, you know it is we speak just to see a smile. know what if he meant it what would your answer be. are you Interested if not leave well enough alone.
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Should i break off my marraige of 7 years
My husband has a gambling problem and we are aleays broke
I met another man 2 months ago i love him but he is living with his sistet
I dont know if he loves me of is just looking for a place to stay
Im confused
Please help
you must decide what is right for you and your felling. If you are truly unhappy after 7 years and is continuing to be broke things you must decide on what is best for you. if you are really tied, fed-up, lost the love you once shared then something has to change. Why should either one of you be unhappy. a lot of people stay together for years and still not happy.
If he has a problem with gambling he need to get help I am sure there are more ways you can spend money other than gambling. He need to stop or get help not for you but for himself. even though there is another man now and you love him. hey, you want to be happy too It do not matter where he live, the question is he willing to give you the things you want and need, do he feel the same way as you. living with someone else should not stop the love. But ask him how do he really feel about you, ask yourself if he is truly the one and not there just for sex. ask he is there to stay to be there for you unconditionally. but remember don't give up the good for the bad: everyone has habits. some good, Some Bad!!!!
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26/f
Please read this thoroughly before responding.
I have been in a three-year relationship that has not been working for longer than a year. I struggled with being in a rut in the relationship and spoke to my boyfriend about it. By the time he was willing to change, my feelings were no longer the same. But because we live together, I stayed in the relationship for another year.
I got a new job and it does not pay AS NEARLY as I used to, I am struggling living where I am now. Living in a place with someone who I no longer love is not ideal, either. But I love my new job and I am back in graduate school. So, I need time, space, and money to do what I need to do.
I have two choices:
1) Move back home and save money. Pros are I can be closer with my sister (since she lives at home), be back at my favorite yoga studio, and I can save money. The Cons? I will be back with my domineering parents (my mom is extremely negative and it drains my mentality). Overall, it is a stressful environment and it is also a 30-minute, NOT in traffic drive, to my work and back.
2) Get a roommate. I would not be saving more than I am now, but at least I'm not in a negative household or living with someone I no longer love.
I told my boyfriend that I needed to save money and thought about getting a roommate. He did not understand why I would do that and told me he can lower my part of rent. He said it only makes sense that I would move back home so I wouldn't have to pay for anything. So I told him I was moving back home.
I can't be helped but be tempted/want to stay because our apartment is 10 minutes away from my work, he helps out with my pets, we never argue (I just don't want to be with him anymore), we travel together all the time, and my apartment is my safe-haven. But knowing myself, I don't want to be stuck in another relationship for ANOTHER year due to comfort and fear.
Yes, part of it is because I need to save money, but really I just can't be there anymore.
So here are my two questions:
1) What do you think I should do? Should I get a roommate or move back home?
2) What do you think my exit strategy should be when it comes to wanting to end a relationship (it's not a bad relationship)?
It hard to leave someone that you been with for so long but, you have to be happy and the fact that your boyfriend do not want to change that's his lost. It's like this: once the love is going it's gone. Tell him how you feel that you want more and that you cant live like this again, you can do bad by yourself. continue to work, finished school and make your mark if if he cant be with you too the very end then whats the reason he is there.
the saying is if it's meant for you, you will get back together. If you love a person you can love them enough to let go and be Happy.
Dont make yourself unhappy you have plenty of time to find that special one.
Good Luck
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