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Were you teasing with that whole prophet thing or do you mean it?

Oh no, I meant it. Some of the greatest prophets had vivid amazing dreams! Look it up.

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I have very vivide dreams where I can feel everything is this normal?

No, honey, that's BEAUTIFUL! Watch out, you might just be a prophet!

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I'm a grade 10 student, and my favourite class is art. Art is the one class I go to whenever I can (except for when I'm sick) and it's the class I try my hardest in. Except, it seems like it's the class I'm doing the worst in. I'm not good in academics, at all, and art is really the thing I want to be, but I just seem to suck at it. Whenever I'm working on a project, I always try to make it better, and I end up screwing it up real bad. It just seems that everything I like to do, or am interested in, I'm horrible in. But the stuff I'm not interested in, I'm mediocre. I just don't know what to do. I just feel like dropped out of high school--it's SO frustrating!

You sound just like me!! My favorite class is art, too. It's also the class that I try my hardest in. You're probably a perfectionist, like me. We try so hard to make things better they come out worse, right? And just the other day I was telling my boyfriend that I wanted to quit school. Heh, I'm probably not the best person to be giving you advice...

Well, what we have to do is stop!! LET GO!! Lately I've been experimenting with new media, and it sorta works. Try it! Try new things. Even if it comes out like crap, just keep on trying. Eventually you'll have control of that medium and your skills will be off the roof!! And also, gather up some good friends abd you all try together to keep each other up! And try no to worry about perfection! It will bite your ass!!

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15f- I like this guy (still). We went out for like two weeks in January then he broke up with methe day after V day! he and I were hanging out the Thursday. We did some stuff. I did it because I don’t want to loose him though. well he said he still likes me. And "he wants to be with me" I don’t know what that means. I don’t know what to do! I like him! he told me he hasn’t been with any other girl since he met me. I don’t know to believe that! he hasn’t talked to me most of this week and every time I do talk to him he’s like I’m busy or I’m grounded! he always tells me he loves me on the phone... and the other day he looked me in the eyes and said it! He told me last night and when I said I love you too he’s like no you don’t...? I don’t know what to think. He told me last night that he had to go to church at 6 this morning. And he said he’s getting grounded from his truck and phone. I don’t know what to think there either! But I had a panic attack the other night. It was because of him. because of texts he’s been sending to a girl He called her baby and asked if she was single. He told me later that she had a boy friend and she’s only a friend. Okay, well he called when I was flipping out (panic attack) I was crying. So I left my house in therain to think about him and what I should do. And he was like baby I don’t want to get off the phone with you until your okay! He sent me like 100 text messages and said I’m so worried about you baby and I love you so much! I’m not sure what to believe. I like him so much. I think I’m getting to the point were I like him so much I hate him. If u know what I mean! I wrote something in his column telling him I like him a lot (said a lot about 150 times. at the end I was like 'but I don’t have a chance anymore'. he responded "yea u do” I don’t know if that was to the fact that I like him (like him being sarcastic about), Or if it was him saying I have another chance. I’m not sure what to do! I like him so much! What should I do about him?! Please answer this with your most honest answer PLEASE! I need help with this guy... thanks...

Guys are so simple to figure out. It's we GIRLS that complicate the situation!! Ok, so this guy most likely does like you, but is holding on to you for safety (if I'm wrong, let me know). He probably talks to a few other girls that way, but since he knows for sure that you like him, he's not too worried about that. That's what the whole "when I said I love you too he’s like no you don’t...?" thing is about. And something tells me he's truthful about being grounded, maybe it's because he's making too many phone calls or late-night drives or something.

But if this goes on for too long you've got to let him know, girl! As much as you like him, you have to think of YOU first. It seems like this guys is tearing you up! Does he know what he's doing to you? Let him KNOW!!

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Hi, Advicenators. Normally I make up my own mind, but I need a little help. If you're going to be sarcastic or rude, don't bother.
Gender: female
Grade: Eighth
I have a problem with my Sunday School teacher. You see, I honestly believe that I have more Biblical knowledge than her. I know that sounds conceited.. but it just seems like it! Yesterday (Easter Sunday) our "lesson" was on miracles. This is what the conversation was like:
Teacher:Who can preform miracles?
Teacher:Only Jesus can preform miracles! No one else can!
Me:*raises hand*
Teacher:yes?
Me:But Jesus isn't the only one who can preform miracles.. Paul, Elija, Elisha, the Devil, the Twelve Disciples.. they all preformed miracles..
Teacher:No, no, no. That's not what I said..
Me:You said "Only Jesus can preform miracles".
Teacher:Anyway, girls, as you see.. blah, blah, blah.
At this time, I'm feeling pretty screwed over since she just blew me off. All of that conversation is an exact quote. This was the third time that I was able to correct her (and the third time I got blown off) yesterday alone! It happens every Sunday.. she doesn't know the lesson, she doesn't know what she's talking about.. It makes me mad!
I know that I am much, much more mature Spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and in my knowledge of the Bible and Christ.. (not trying to sound conceited..) but the lessons are never fufilling! I could gather more from my eight-year old sister's Sunday School lesson. Get this: I was the only girl in my class of seventh and eighth grade girls that knew what the Rapture was! Oh my gosh! How dumb?!
So, I was considering talking to my youth pastor about this. I'm naturally shy, and I don't like to put myself in that position.. but this is so annoying.. and a waste of my Sunday morning! So.. do you think I should speak to my youth pastor about this?
PS - I don't really get along with my teacher, I'm nice to her... but we don't get along. :\
PPS - Sorry it's so long! Thanks in advance..

Maybe it's not just the fact that you know more than her. Maybe it's a "superiority complex" or something. She's a teacher, therefore one must assume that she knows more than her students. And whenever she is challenged, she either ignores it or fights back (if she ignores it, she's too afraid to loose the battle...). Trust me, this probably won't be the only time that you're in this scenario. YOU as a person have to pick your own battles, even if you KNOW that you're right. Knowing things and being smart is great, but knowing when to bite your tounge is even better. In conclusion, yes, talk to your youth pastor, but only ONCE. If it doesn't work, then hold your tounge. Practice the faith alone or just help your peers (because maybe they feel the same way...)

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how this work actually?

Like this: *sticks up middle finger and waves it in your face* heh! But yeah... what are you talking about?

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Okay, well i am 13 years old, and of course i'm a girl. i go out with this boy who is 16 years old, but we really do like each other. it may sound weird ; 3 year difference, but we really do care about each other. He changed my " havent made out yet " thing, cuz now we have like so many times. We care alot about each other, but him and his friend think that i should do more stuff with him. like fingering and all that. i mean i want to, but i dont want to have sex yet and shit. and im kinda scared and all to give him like a blow job and all. they also want me to smoke weed with them . IDK. and then my friends hate the fact that i go out with him, but i really do like him. what should i do ? thanks =]

You're with him cuz you love him, right? OR at least care about him, right? Do what YOU feel is right to show him that you care. That doesn't meaning sucking him off and blazin with him, though. Do what's in YOUR compfort level (i.e if kissing is as far as you wanna go then stay there, dont be pressured into doing that other shyt...)

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(btw, we're 15, hes almost 16)ok well my bf and i have been going out for 14 months and recently his mom went to arazona to live and he moved in with his dad. lets call him..."Bob". ok so bob's dad doesnt like me very much. and we've had a long-distance relationship pretty much. and i never really got to see bob. well now his dad says that we're getting too serious and now he can only sleep over for one night ever OTHER weekend. like this wasnt hard enough. now i'll bairly get to see him. i used to cut too and bob is the only reason i stopped. now if his dad takes him away from me...i wont be able to handle things much anymore and i'll start doing it again. i really dont want to. but its just to much. so bob's dad is going to call my parents and talk about it (my parents were together since they were 15&16) but bob's dad is really stubborn. i dont know what to do. i really love "bob" and we really want to be together. i really dont want to lose him...but i dont know what to do...

Yeah, sometimes parents suck (but not always...). DO what you feel is best. Personally, I used to cut. But I didn't see it as a bad thing. It made ME feel good (I don't know if it makes you feel good...) Don't let his dad fuck up what you've got going for you. Explain to your mom and dad about your situation. They should understand...
Of that doesn't work, you and your boyfriend should stay friends (or at least tell his dad that you're just friends... ;) )

Best of luck to you! :)
~Laish

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ok. i dont really know how to deal with this whole situation.
I like this guy..but i dont wanna even say anything to him b/c i have been there before with him. He would be really childish and rub it in my face later if hes not "into me" then. hes really sweet and ALL the other stuff. but i know later on (months ahead) he will just use it against me. hes the -Flirt with everyone- type. Does anyone have ANY ideas to get anything out of him

He sound like an indecisive guy. Does he like you? Ask yourself why you put yourself through this...
Good luck!
~Laish

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Ok.. so it goes like this. I like this guy but my best frin likes him & see the guy is new & he hasnt known me all my life like the other dudes at school and lets say that I've made "changes" over the years (physically & personality wise). I have many more frinz than I did when I was like.. lil but enough about that. Ok.. this guy. Anyways.. see I like him alot & he has became 1 of my best frinz since school started and I've only known him 4 like 4 months but I like him lots & I kinda already know that he MIGHT sorta like me but I dont wanna say anything to him cuz I dont want our frinship 2 change! HELP!!

Yah...how strong do you feel about him? If you feel really really REALLY strong about him, then go for it! Don't deny urself feelings you cant control! Go for it girl!

Hope you bagg him!
~Laish

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ok well ive been going out with this guy for a while..(im 15 and hes 17). weve talked about sex and we both really want to do it. any advice on how to prepare or anything else? thank you!

Personally, I think that anytime is the right time. You feel it in your mind and in your gut (and obviouly in your genital area).

My advise to you is as follows: get losta losta condoms. Either at your school or at the doctors or at the drug store. And a good place to do it

Have fun...
~Laish

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ok i have this friend... and she and used to have looads of fun together and she was someone i could act silly with ya know? but on halloween i asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said she couldnt because she had to "pass out candy" then later i found out that AFTER i asked her, her other friend asked her to hang out and she said yes... hmm a little suspicious? so i got over that but then last tuesday (the tuesday b4 thanxgiving) i asked her if she wanted to go see a movie on wednesday at like 2:30ish.. and she said that her dad couldnt take us or pick us up and neither could her mom... so i was like ok whatever i didnt really care.. but then the next day (wednesday) she said she was going bowling at 2:30! so i was lke well how are you getting there? and shes like oo my dads taking me and then my moms bringing me home at 4... whats up with that??? yea i forgave her once (is that correct grammar?) and now she ditches me again?? i dont think so... what should i do? is she a real friend?? and dont say "well try talking to her" because i tried that and she made up all these stupid excuses... i mean i want to be her friend but not if she treats me like this... any suggestions?
-help!

Yeah...

Um. That doesn't sound like a friend to me. Maybe she wants space...Do you hang out w/ her 24/7? If not, then she's no friend. She drifting away.

It sux to loose a friend. Try and keep this one strong.
~Laish

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